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Welcome to the January issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!
Hello! We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth. We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones. We have many affiliate groups available throughout the country. There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter. Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website, www.helpingparentsheal.info.
Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.
Brandon Ireland and his father, Mark Ireland
What does it mean to be “Spiritual”?
The word “spiritual” is tossed around quite often these days and has different meanings to different people. Some individuals state they are “Spiritual, not Religious.” This typically means they no longer belong to, or were never part of a specific church or religious denomination—yet they maintain faith in “something more.”
Others see themselves as Spiritual within the context of their specific religious tradition. They may attend church regularly, participate in certain religious rites, enjoy fellowship with other parishioners, and feel a sense of connection to God.
Still others look at being Spiritual primarily as a reflection of how they interact with others. They see treating others the way they would like to be treated as the ultimate spiritual statement. Like the line from John Lennon’s song, Instant Karma goes, “Better recognize your brother—everyone you meet!”
I see all of these as valid definitions of what it means to be Spiritual, but I have another one of my own I’d like to add to the mix. From my perspective Spirituality, above all else, means that I am more than the body I currently occupy—I am more than a biological machine.
Based on my personal experiences and those of others I know and trust, with consideration for certain well-established principles in quantum mechanics, I am confident that there is a spiritual dimension beyond this physical realm. Furthermore, when this body fails, my core essence or “Spirit” will return to the spiritual realm, which is my natural home.
Why is this last perspective on what it means to be Spiritual important? Because it points to the big picture, the long term, and not just the immediate place or state we are in today. That is especially important for people mired in grief, suffering from the recent passing of a loved one, or harboring nihilistic thoughts.
This life is a short ride and someday we will ditch these bio-suits, after which time our spiritual essence will gravitate onto the next realm of experience, reuniting with loved ones who have passed. But in the meantime we have a rare gift, which is an opportunity to live life to the fullest, experience all we can, help others, and to share the love. The opportunity for new experience is one we can’t afford to pass up.
Helping Parents Heal Co-Founder and author of the books, Soul Shift and Messages from the Afterlife
Through the Eyes of a Sibling- Surviving the Passing of a Loved One
Alix Boisson and her Brother Morgan
Alix and her Mother, Elizabeth The hill of heart-shaped rocks
Yoga Teacher Training and Connecting with Morgan
I have been taking Yoga Teacher Training for the past three months. At the same time, I have been experiencing an incredible shift or transformation which I truthfully didn’t anticipate happening. Coming into the training, I was fairly attached to my gross self. I liked my ego or confidence, I liked obsessing over what was happening around me, mulling over past and future, getting caught up both in lifestyles of the rich and famous and in global affairs. I was drawn to people who had no self-awareness and no desire to grow or to help themselves or those around them. I guess that I had the mind-set that because I held my spirituality within myself, I didn’t need to surround myself with anyone who possessed spirituality or understanding. This definitely stunted my growth.
I then began YTT and we started discussing things that I have always understood at a surface level; things I wanted to study more deeply but for which I had never found the opportunity. I truly believe that my mind, body and soul were just waiting for me to get on board to kick-start a transformation. It’s as if all of the sudden all of this training resonates. I am no longer interested in anything that doesn’t benefit me; my mind no longer ponders memories that don’t serve me. I don’t find myself picking up tabloid magazines, I have made the final steps towards a diet of foods that are only beneficial and non-harmful for my body, people have even begun to tell me that I am sweeter and kinder than they had remembered. I truly believe that this program has made me aware and that it has helped me be the best me that I can…or at least moving towards it. Saying this, I am not comparing my best self to that of those around me, there is no comparison there- only a comparison with the me that I used to be.
Moreover, it is pretty cool that the major shift happened following a string of bad fortune. As if the universe wanted me to feel incredibly low so that I could understand the extent of the transformation and how wonderful I would feel being in this place, in this moment. Where nothing has really changed since before, but I can now appreciate the beauty in this awareness, right here and now.
To better explain this awareness, November 23rd was my big brother’s birthday. Mom and I went hiking to the top of Black Mountain to drop off a Morgan button. Morgan did not like hiking; he didn’t really like any physical activity at all. Not to say he wouldn’t do any activities; he loved team sports: basketball, football, track, volleyball, etc. but he loved them because they were a great time and he could joke with his friends. You would never see him alone at the gym or hiking a boring mountain. However, I think in the afterlife, he’s come to appreciate the beauty of standing at the peak of a mountain, which is rather significant considering he transitioned atop Mount Everest, the most sacred peak in the world. So hiking the mountain at the center of his last hometown seemed only right for his 27th Birthday.
Hiking up I saw Morgan a couple of times sitting on rocks as we climbed. He would play act as if he was exhausted and then crack up. This is when I most see or hear Morgan; as he tells me a joke or he is laughing at one; he really was and is an uplifting, joyful energy. Mom was struggling behind me (she hadn’t hiked in a while). I kept asking him to help her so he would run behind me and give her nudges up- I’m sure she felt this because… she made it! Woo!
So we made it to the top and we then discovered thousands of heart-shaped rocks that we have never seen before just around a corner. We have hiked Black Mountain at least a hundred times and had never seen them. This was simply the most amazing sign ever. This universe, this source, the love that emanates between each and every one of us is so strong and so present. It is impossible to ignore the signs that our life, this life, is a lesson. We are here to learn. But we don’t need to suffer.
The moment that we understand this love that enfolds our body, radiating out and connecting with the same source of love that exists between everyone around us, whether living in this physical world or beside us in the spiritual dimension, we will no longer feel alone. We will feel and become aware of that love. No one would ever suffer if they realized the love that exists for each and every one of us. And we will always have our own angels watching over us.
-Written by Morgan's Sister, Alix
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A. The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad. At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience. You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again. That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers. Links at lower left of www.soulproof.com home page.
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering. http://www.soulproof.com/shop/ If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge. Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others.
Q: Does anyone else ever feel like just running away? Like just getting in the car and driving -- no destination, no maps, no GPS? I swear, if I had the money to do it, I would take my son's urn, our little dog, and just drive! - Jennifer
A: Jennifer, you are not alone in feeling like this. Wanting to “get away from it all” is quite common for two primary reasons:
1. The desire for a change of scenery—to get away from the house or area where your child passed on. This eliminates some anchors that remind you every day that his body died. (Although the other 99.999% of his being is very alive and well.) Wanting to get away is very understandable and trips are great if you can take them. That could be as simple as staying with dear friends or family to minimize costs. This is especially smart during the “firsts” – that is, the first holidays and anniversaries after your child graduates to the next phase of forever.
2. Wanting to get away from yourself. This, of course, is much more difficult since—as meditation and awareness expert Jon Kabat Zinn teaches—wherever you go, there you are. The solution for #2 is to actually go deeper into your feelings; don’t try to escape them because you can’t. Go through your ‘dark night of the soul’ and you will come through the other side with a more peaceful state of mind. You can take “inward trips” via prayer, meditation, yoga, time in nature, and other centering practices. Try this and let us know how you are doing, please. Peace, Mark
Q: We interrupt this program to have a complete meltdown as I'm trying to move our sweet precious Bethany’s room around. Please God, help me through this. SCREAM SCREAM SCREAM SCREAM. I want to hit something . . . SCREAM SCREAM SCREAM. We now continue with this new life to adjust to. - Terry
A: Well said, Terry. Your instincts are correct – – there are profound benefits to screaming and hitting something when done in an appropriate way. Centuries ago, Native Americans knew about primal scream therapy. They would dig a hole, yell all of their pain and frustrations into it, and then fill in the hole. It's much cheaper than psychotherapy.
You can scream into a pillow and hit a couch with a wiffle ball bat. This allows you to release your pain without hurting yourself, household objects, or other people's ears. Do this daily until you no longer feel the need for it, then less often. After that, I highly recommend Transformational Breath Work or a similar breathing technique. To learn more about this powerful and time-tested approach to healing, visit http://www.soulproof.com/product/transformational-breath-work/. Let me know if you have any follow-up questions about this. Best wishes, Mark
Q: My first son/child would have been 11 months old on 11/30/15. We had our 35-week check up with our second son on Thursday. The ultrasound view of his face looked just like his angel brother. It was very hard.
I asked my husband's grandmother, who makes everyone a Christmas stocking, to make both of our son's stockings. She refused to make my angel's stocking. She never met my son since he lived only twenty days fighting for his life with defects of his heart and kidneys. I was hysterical yesterday just thinking about it. Even though my angel is not here, he will always be apart of our family. He fought the hardest battle of anyone I have ever known. So I have now decided to make his stocking. Not many will understand where I am coming from, but I know I can vent here. – Jessica
A: I can totally understand, Jessica, how seeing the ultrasound image of your new son could be difficult. There is another possible perspective however. You could feel joy that you have another son who looks like his brother and may even be the same soul coming back again in a healthier body. How does that one feel?
Regarding the Christmas stocking, I think knitting it is a good idea. As you say, grandma did not get to meet your first son and, as such, did not bond with him like you did. Focusing on the new baby also might be her attempt to divert focus from the physical death of your little guy. If having a stocking for him makes you feel better then, by all means, hang one up. At some point, you may not feel like you need that outward sign anymore since he will always be a part of your family. Let us know how it all turned out, please. Wishing you a happy as possible holidays, Mark
Q: I don't think I can make it much longer without my daughter. She was my life, my reason for living, my everything. She was only twenty years old and didn't even get to live. Why her? What did I do to deserve this? – Lisa
A: It is very difficult, isn’t Lisa? Of course you feel like you can't make it if she was your entire life. Widely acknowledged as the most difficult event in life, the death of a child shakes you to your core. Certainly, no one would blame you if you don't make it and collapse in whatever way you choose.
However, there is another path you can take, one that will better honor your daughter's life and continued presence in spirit. One of the original meanings of the word heaven meant “ever-expanding." The universe is now giving you an opportunity to expand your life. I recommend reading Foundational Articles #3 and 10 to help you through this. This and other information will help you explore how to find more purpose and joy in life.
The short answer to your question “why her?" is that she had fulfilled her reasons for being on earth. As the title of this newsletter reminds us, evolved souls don't need long earthly lives.
The answer to your second question, “What did I do to deserve this?” is “nothing bad.” You, as a soul, likely agreed to play “the mother” so your daughter’s soul could round out the cast and crew for her earthly play. Can you imagine how much love you had to enter into that agreement? And can you fathom how much more love you are developing by going through all this?
The problem is that, while on earth, most of us suffer to varying degrees with spiritual amnesia so we forget that we volunteered to be in this scenario for important reasons. We also forget that we each are part of Source Energy/God right now and always. Finally, we forget that this earthly life—long as it seems to us while on earth—is a mere blink of an eye in the span of forever.
You can get through this if that is your choice. I think it is since you are writing and asking great questions. This is a time to reach out for help from an enlightened church, service group, dear family and friends, Helping Parents Heal group and newsletter, etc. The website www.eternea.org is also an invaluable resource for learning the scientific evidence that death is just another phase of life eternal. Please let us know how it is going for you in a few months. Blessings, Mark
Q: Just had a horrible panic attack in the middle of the bookstore. I made sure to stay away from the children's section. But then I saw a yellow book cover - not even sure what the book was - but it was yellow and that was one of my daughters favorite colors. “Yayo.” Hit my knees, sobbing, struggling to breathe, the whole deal... The manager was awesome. Now I'm sitting in my car too weak and exhausted to move. It hurts SO bad and I feel like I can't keep breathing. – Rebecca
A: Wow! I can picture all of that, Rebecca, and it does sound horrible. I'm glad you're in touch with us so you can get help. “Mental" symptoms such as depression, anxiety, and panic attacks are quite common for bereaved parents. I recommend that you read Foundational Article #6, especially point 11 about NRT. This safe, affordable, natural, and effective (SANE) approach can help you get well again. Then you won't be so vulnerable to common triggers such as the color yellow.
In time, you will even be able to have fond memories and smile about all the love that you two shared. You also will more deeply remember that love never ends. You will definitely see each other again when you pass on and can do so now via after death contacts. Please write back after you tune-up your body and mind and are starting to feel some joy again. Love and light, Mark
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges. Email Mark at email@example.com to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions
-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and an Affiliate Leader of our Columbus, Ohio HPH Group and our Sarasota, Florida HPH Group.
The Afterlife Research and Education Institute
Craig Hogan, Susanne Wilson, Roberta Grimes, Victor and Wendy Zammit, Founders of the Institute
The Afterlife Research and Education Institute, Inc., was founded by a group of dedicated researchers, developers, educators, and practitioners in afterlife communication and afterlife studies to (1) bring knowledge about the afterlife and afterlife communication to humankind, (2) support efforts to develop methods of afterlife communication, (3) teach people how to communicate with their loved ones on the next planes of life, and (4) support efforts to help humankind understand and embrace the spirituality that is evolving from our understanding of the afterlife so people live in love, peace, and joy with all the world's people
The founders are Roberta Grimes, Susanne Wilson, Wendy Zammit, Victor Zammit, and Craig Hogan. The Afterlife Research and Education Institute is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. All work and all services are provided for free.
For researchers, developers, and educators, the Institute will locate and make available needed resources for research, development, and education work, especially funding for research, development, and education projects. The Institute will provide networking opportunities, meetings, and conferences so afterlife researchers, developers, and educators can benefit from one another's knowledge and findings. Finally, The Institute will disseminate information about advancements in afterlife communication methods through newsletters, journals, and books.
For non-researcher members who want to learn about the afterlife and afterlife communication, the Institute encourages people to become involved in understanding the afterlife and participating in research, development, and education to the extent they are interested. The Institute will hold conferences and workshops where people can learn afterlife communication methods and hear about new findings in afterlife studies and afterlife communications. Members will receive support for their own circles, Meetup groups, support groups, and other local discussion, learning, and spiritual growth groups. Online training and materials will be made available to support individuals and groups who want to learn about the afterlife, afterlife communication, and the new spirituality.
Members will receive the Institute's electronic publications that will describe results of the afterlife research and opportunities for any member to become involved as volunteers in research and development projects. The Institute will hold events that will give members opportunities to communicate with the researchers, developers, and educators about the cutting-edge, successful methods being used for afterlife communication and how anyone can use them.
The Institute also has a focus on helping psychotherapists, grief counselors, and others counseling people who have experienced recent deaths or imminent deaths, care for people in the process of dying, counsel people in grief, and hold support-group meetings. The researchers, developers, educators, and practitioners will help these people learn about the dying process, what will happen after the transition, what to say to people to help them, and how to help people communicate with loved ones on the other side of life.
The Institute is supporting the development of psychotherapy methods that enable clients to connect with loved ones while sitting in the psychotherapists' offices. The foremost psychotherapy procedure is 98% successful, and reduces grief by an average of 86% in a single session. The Institute has developed websites for the pioneers in this field and has published a book describing the procedure. The method is described at http://www.repair-and-reattachment.com. The psychotherapists are not part of the Institute. They do charge for their services as they normally do for psychotherapy.
Members have developed a Self-Guided Afterlife Communication procedure freely available on the Internet that teaches people how to connect with people living on the next planes of life. The goal of the training is to teach people to be able to connect at any time by entering a state of mind that is conducive to the connections. It is 86% successful, and thousands of people have learned to connect with loved ones using the procedure. The explanation of the procedure and training are at http://www.selfguided.spiritualunderstanding.org.
The Institute holds meetings and circles to help people understand the afterlife, learn afterlife communication methods, and develop mediumship abilities. One physical mediumship circle is now developing the abilities of two physical mediums. Another circle is helping people develop their mental mediumship abilities.
Members are also actively involved in research in Instrumental TransCommunication, learning how to communicate with people in the next realms of life using electronic equipment, such as digital recorders, video cameras, PC recorders, and radios. Several researchers are helping the scientists and engineers in teams on the other planes of life to establish the North American Station that will enable people in the afterlife to communicate with people still on the earth plane. Stations have already been established for people in Brazil and Europe. Practitioners there are helping people communicate with loved ones on the other planes of life, especially parents connecting with children. In 2016, the North American Station will have full capabilities to connect people with loved ones.
The Afterlife Research and Education Institute's website is http://www.afterlifeinstitute.org. During the first months of 2016, the Institute will provide free memberships to anyone who wants to receive the Institute newsletter and other publications. Anyone interested in more information is encouraged to contact Craig Hogan at firstname.lastname@example.org or by calling 800 690-4232 (309 808-2651 outside of the U.S.). - Craig Hogan
Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson
Ernie and Kristine
I am blessed to coach football at Evergreen High School in Colorado, from where I graduated in 1983. And as I have shared previously, I coach because of our son, Quinton. My fellow coaches know me well and know my journey, so in the event that a loved one transitions, I am sometimes fortunate to receive information about validations like this letter from Coach Molholm Sr.
When my sister Connie was in Denver for a knee surgery, she stayed with us for a couple of days. When she first met Jesse, our English Springer Spaniel, Jesse nibbled Aunt Connie's ear. This is Jesse's term of endearment and her way of saying ‘you are special and I love you.’ Jesse would snuggle with her Aunt Connie in bed, which was OK with Connie as she was a true dog lover. Jesse loved Aunt Connie prompting her to say, "I love this dog, Can I take her to Arizona?" We replied "No! But nice try."
A few weeks later, after being admitted to a hospital for a urinary tract Infection in Phoenix, we were stunned when my sister passed away a week later, on Sunday September 27th, 2015. Immediately, some very interesting events took place.
On Monday 9/28/15, I was having a very bad day mourning for my sister when my wife Patti joined me in the family room after dinner with our female English Springer Spaniel Jesse. All of sudden Jesse started her friendly barking and went to the door way and went into her full body friendly wiggle and went around and around as if she was greeting someone, but nobody was there. Jesse does exactly the same thing when I come home and Patti is already home-it is a wiggle of love and happiness. This is distinctly different than her deep bark with no wiggle when she sees a stranger at our door and Jesse is protecting our home. We just knew she was greeting Connie, in spirit!
On Tuesday 9/29/15, I went to Colorado Springs with Jesse to visit my Grandson Zachary, daughter Trisha and son-in-law Chris Munich and their dogs Hunter and Zeus. It was just what I needed and Jesse and I returned home in the late afternoon. I was in the office/computer room checking e-mails when all of sudden music was coming from the top of our stairs leading to the basement. At the top of the stairs was a toy we kept for our Grandson Zachary. If you move a gate/door on this older technology learning toy it would play music. The problem was, Jesse and I were in a completely different part of the house and my wife was not home yet. I lifted the toy up in the air and reset it on the floor. About 15 minutes later, the music started up again and by this time I was smiling and thinking this was pretty cool. The reason for my reaction was that I had read your first book about Quinton, Coach, and was therefore very open minded. By the way, I am reading your second book as I am writing this to you.
The next day, I went to the office/computer room after breakfast and opened the door and wow, I smelled smoke. Now nobody in our family smokes and this was not like smoke in a bar. This happened again on Thursday. The only people who smoked were my father, Ike Molholm, who passed away on the same day as my sister Connie seven years earlier, and my Mother who passed away on 9/1/2013.
On the next day, Friday, the smoke was completely gone in the office/computer room. However, in Colorado Springs, my daughter Trisha reported that after lunch with my 3 ½ year old Grandson Zachary and her husband Chris, Zach said to his Dad, "Dad there is a lady making faces at me next to you. Trisha asked Zach what the lady was doing and he said, "Making face and flapping her hands by her ears sticking her tongue out." As history would have it, this is exactly what Aunt Connie used to do to my kids Rob and Trisha. Trisha showed Zach a picture of Aunt Connie and he said that was the lady he saw and added, "That was a pretend Aunt Connie because Aunt Connie is in heaven."
Just one more thing, Coach Senior’s son Rob dreamed of his Aunt Connie. Rob described the dream to his Dad as “real” and “crystal clear”. Coach Senior shared this with me and asked my thoughts. Well I know exactly what Rob experienced as I had the same thing happen with our wonderful son Quinton. “Coach”, I told him, “let Rob know that what he experienced was that his Aunt visited him to let him know that she is okay!”
Jesse the English Springer Spaniel and Zach
-Ernie and Kristine Jackson
-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton. His two books,"Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.
Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.
Affiliate Updates -
Hilton Head Helping Parents Heal - Hope and Healing in South Carolina
Photo Rob Kaufman
Hope and Healing - David Gignilliat
A tragedy spurred Irene Vouvalides to help other parents facing the loss of a child.
For Irene Vouvalides, the death of her only child Carly turned her world upside-down.
“The natural order of what we think life is going to be has been disrupted,” said Vouvalides. “We are living the unthinkable living with the loss of a child.”
Carly Elizabeth Hughes died at 24 after a two-month battle with an aggressive form of esophageal/stomach cancer in February 2013. A Boston College graduate with a degree in education, her future path would have likely taken her toward a promising teaching career. A natural leader, she was well liked by her friends and peers. Her future was bright.
“Carly just loved life. She loved children. She was just absolutely an incredible, incredible young woman,” said Vouvalides, who moved to Moss Creek in 2014 from New Jersey. “She was just the sweetest, sweetest soul.”
Her memory lives on through Carly’s Kids, an educational foundation that assists the underfunded Holy Family Early Learning Center in Natchez, Miss. Hughes visited Holy Family on a service trip while on break during college, and saw her future there in helping children (“She came home a changed person,” Vouvalides recalled). Using life insurances proceeds, Vouvalides, her husband Tony and Hughes’ boyfriend Michael set up the foundation, which also contributes to esophageal and stomach cancer research and treatment.
Irene experimented with other support groups initially after Carly’s death, but eventually gravitated toward the inclusiveness of Helping Parents Heal, a national organization. Vouvalides contacted the organization’s founders, who agreed that the area would be an excellent location for an affiliate chapter and offered advice and support.
Carly’s story received poignant coverage in local media outlets, and many parents subsequently expressed an interest in attending a meeting. Though hopeful, Irene kept her expectations modest for the group’s first meetings in October and November.
“If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work, but it certainly seems like there are a lot of people out there who are mourning the loss of that child, and looking for that connection,” said Vouvalides.
Her expectations were exceeded.
“My husband and I thought that if we could have just one person come to the meeting, that would be great. It was amazing to see one after another after another come through the door.”
Helping Parents Heal is unique among bereavement groups in that it embraces a spiritual experience and the concept of an afterlife in a non-dogmatic way, according to its website.
“I’ve always been a very spiritual person. I knew that my love for my child had to still exist. It doesn’t go anywhere,” said Vouvalides. “I now choose to look at death differently. I see it as a walking through a door. My grief process is learning to love in separation, because Carly still exists. Just because her physical body died does not mean that the person does not exist.”
Vouvalides has found that like herself, many grieving families had moved to the Lowcountry following the death of a child. Originally from New Jersey, she’d spent her career as a dental hygienist, her husband Tony a recently retired school principal. Though they probably would have moved down here eventually, Irene says, getting a fresh start somewhere new probably sped up the process.
“It’s kind of nice to pick yourself up and go somewhere where no one knows you, and you can tell your story if you can, but you’re not looked at as ‘there’s that woman that lost her child,’” she added.
For those who may be nervous about being in a bereavement group, Vouvalides encourages prospective visitors to just take the first step, and attend.
“Some people are hesitant to come to a meeting. They think ‘I don’t know if this is for me. I don’t know if I am the kind of person that can talk in the group. I don’t know if I want anybody to know my story,’” she said. “And what I say is ‘Just come. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.”
She knows from her own experience.
“Just to be in the presence of other people experiencing the same thing is very powerful. It’s helped tremendously in my healing process, and I’d never thought I’d be in a place where I would think that I would be able to live my life without Carly,” said Vouvalides. “But I know now that I have to -- I have no choice. And I hope help other people find out that they can go on, and they can find meaning in their life again”
Helping Parents Heal meets monthly at the Seaquins Ballroom meeting space at 1300 Fording Island Road in Bluffton. For more information, please contact Irene Vouvalides at 201-233-6015 or email@example.com. The Helping Parents Heal website is atwww.helpingparentsheal.info. You can view the article by clicking this link.
Judi Hancox & Jake Samoyedny, special guests of the Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head affiliate group
Judi Hancox will be speaking on December 13th at 1:00 pm.
Judi is a licensed clinical social worker, and a holistic trauma recovery specialist. She has worked with individuals, partners, groups and families for over 25 years. She has trained with Rochelle Wright, M.S., in Repair and Reattachment Grief Therapy (Guided Afterlife Connections), and with Dr. Brian Weiss in Past Life Regression Therapy. She will talk about trauma and grief, her work with PTSD, guided afterlife connections and regression therapy. You can learn more about Judi by visiting her website, www.judithhancox.com. Also, please click here to RSVP and to learn more.
Jake Samoyedny will be speaking on January 10th at 1:00 pm.
Born a medium, he has trained with some of the best mediums alive today. Jake has also studied at the prestigious Arthur Findlay College for Psychical Studies in Stansted, England. He is a member of The Spiritualist National Union International and a member of The Lily Dale Assembly. Jake is a proud Registered Medium at Lily Dale, America’s oldest Spiritualist Community. Jake is the author of "THE COMPASSIONATE MEDIUM" published in 2014 and has his latest book set to be published in the Spring of 2016. Recently recognized by The Times Square Press as the 6th most recommended medium in the world and voted the 3rd best medium in the United States for 2015/2016. He is a member and a demonstrating medium at The Journey Within Church. Jake lives a spiritual life and has devoted himself to serving Spirit through Evidential Mediumship, bringing comfort to those searching for proof that our lives and bonds of love are everlasting. Jake resides with his two children and does readings in the suburbs north of New York City and can also be found living and serving Spirit in Lily Dale, New York during the summer months. Please visit his website, www.thecompassionatemedium.com, and click here to RSVP and to learn more.
Pensacola Helping Parents Heal Affiliate Leader Kristen Brown Sanders
It takes me a minute to figure out what is happening. “Wait, what is this?” “I didn’t type that.” “How did that get on my phone?” Then I connect the dots and realize it’s a message from spirit. A warmth spreads through me….that inner knowing that is both familiar and exhilarating. My loved ones are so near.
The day before our last meeting, a picture appeared in my cell phone camera that I had not taken. There it was, right after all of the Thanksgiving Day family pictures. Only I didn’t put it there and no one else has used my phone. After I read the text on the picture, I knew that it’s a special message from my daughter, Sarah. Thank you, Sweetheart!
Kristen's Screen Saver Validation Sarah and Kristen
It looks like one of those “Screen Saver Shot” things, only I don’t know how to do that. But apparently Sarah does! This is the 3rd message I’ve gotten over my cell phone. The first 2 were text without pictures. Before the cell phone communication began, she used the computer. Once I was typing an email when a pop up appeared. Annoyed, I was about to X out of it when I thought, “Wait, see what it is first”. It was a music file popping up…a song. And just to be sure I caught it…the song was by a group called “Tegan and Sara” (that I had never heard of). From Sarah to me <3 Part of the lyrics were this :
“You're one room right over, stressing and loving me
I know I know I know, be still my love
The same as I love you, you'll always love me too”
That is how I picture her….one room right over, if even that far.
-Written by Sarah's Proud Mom, Kirsten
Phoenix/Scottsdale-A Special Holiday Gathering of Parents
Kim Camacho and Christine Hotchkiss held their third annual Holiday Parents Gathering at Kim's home on December 6th from 11 - 1 pm and many wonderful Parents attended. Delicious food, uplifting company-it was a very nice event. If you were unable to attend, hope to see you next year!
Phoenix/Scottsdale Helping Parents Heal -
Medium Jack Mario at Unity of Phoenix - November 19th
Our November meeting drew 47 parents-a tight squeeze for the smaller room that we had moved to at Unity (our regular meeting fell on Thanksgiving). Jack did a wonderful job of bringing through validations from children in spite of the crowd. Thank you, Jack, for giving your time and energy to help us heal. Please read the two validation stories about Jack in the column on the right. You can learn more about Jack at www.jackmario.com.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal and affiliate leader of the Phoenix/Scottsdale group.
Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson-The Carefree Medium
Please join us for An Evening With The Carefree Medium on January 28th from 6:30 - 8:30 pm at Unity of Phoenix, 1500 E Greenway Parkway! Our Guest Speaker will be Susanne Wilson, Psychic Medium, Author & Spiritual Teacher. Susanne has been a strong advocate of Helping Parents Heal since our group started over 6 years ago.
Susanne will be speaking about the many ways in which our children continue to communicate directly with us. They want us to know that they are doing well, and they continue to be part of our lives. Susanne will do a live demonstration with a volunteer parent about how to make our own connection with our children in spirit. Then Susanne will provide readings at random to a few of the attendees. No one is guaranteed a reading at this event.
We kindly request a 'love donation' of $5 per person that will be split between Susanne and Unity of Phoenix ♥ Hope to see you there! Please RSVP here. You can learn more about Susanne at her website, www.carefreemedium.com.
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast
“No one is ever left comfortless unless he wishes it.”
-Frances Banks channeling through medium Helen Greaves
This short but wonderful quote comes from a book I highly recommend, “Testimony of Light” by medium Helen Greaves.
Helen was a close friend of Francis Banks, who was a dedicated nun and ardent spiritualist. The women met often to discuss their mutual interests in spiritualism. When Francis passed due to cancer, it was only natural that, after becoming acclimated on the other side, she would contact Helen and impart her fascinating experience to her.
In this book Francis recounts her own transition and then goes on to describe the experiences of others who have made the crossing. The book is eye opening and confirms my understanding that in the realm of spirit there is help, support and love. The idea that no one is left alone, that none of our children are without the support they need, is a great comfort to me and I’m sure to all of you.
-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here, and please RSVP for Sheri's January 17th meeting here.