August 2015

Welcome to the August issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!  

Hello!  We are glad you have found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal! 

Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth.  We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones.  We have many new affiliate groups that are now available throughout the country.  There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter.  Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website,  

Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time.  You are not alone.

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.

Phoenix/Scottsdale August 25th Meeting with Jamie Clark
Psychic Medium Jamie Clark

I am so honored to be able to present to the Whole Family of Helping Parents Heal. Our loved ones are but a thought away from us and are always open to make a connection with you. One of my goals in doing what I do, is to bring closure to the old connection and a whole New beginning to the New one. Our loved ones want to connect with us, like we want to connect with them, and making your own connection is THE BIGGEST GIFT that you can give them and ourselves. As we learn to live with them in this new connection, you will begin to live life, rather than survive it. When we are surviving life, we tend to come from the bottom of the Heart and Soul, and when we are Living, we come from the FULLNESS of the Heart and Soul. So, let your Love shine and your Souls connect, because... it's truly all about LOVE!!! 

-Peace, Jamie
-Jamie Clark (Please RSVP for this meeting here and learn more about Jamie here)

San Francisco Event July 19th - Golden Gate Spiritualist Church
Mark Ireland and Tina Powers

Mark Ireland is the co-founder of Helping Parents Heal and the author of several uplifting, informative books including 'Soul Shift-Finding Where the Dead Go" and 'Messages From the Afterlife".  Tina Powers, a former news anchorwoman, is the author of 'Reporting from the Other Side" and a gifted psychic medium who has graciously donated her time to our group.  They will be speaking in San Francisco at the Golden Gate Spiritualist Church on Sunday, July 19th.  Please stop by if you are in the area!  You can click this 
link to learn more.  

Also, be sure to read Mark's article, 'Moving Past Grief', in this month's issue.

Ben's Bells New Phoenix Studio-BE KIND!

A special meeting of Helping Parents Heal Phoenix/Scottsdale at the new Ben's Bells studio, 417 E Roosevelt Street, Phoenix.  Thank you, Jeannette and Christy, for a wonderful afternoon! Please learn more about how you can help  this worthy nonprofit at

Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
August 2015

by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A.  I recommend that you first read the foundational articles that form a basis for my answers.  Links to those articles are located at the bottom of my website home page under Soul Proof Articles and also under Healing Articles by Dr. Pitstick

Q: My only child transitioned six years ago at age 22.  We were very close and I helped him fight his addiction as much as I could.  Since he transitioned, I have received so many love signs from him and that has helped tremendously.  After his death, my mom let me know that I was an awful mother and my son must have wanted to get away from me. I do not want to have anything to do with my family anymore because they are so negative and have abandoned me.  Why am I in the same family as these people that I have felt unconnected to since childhood?  Is there a spiritual way to look at the situation? – Jennifer
A: First of all, Jennifer, pat yourself on the back for being quite evolved as evidenced by your term “transitioned” and asking about a spiritual perspective.  I also love your term “love signs” and am glad you have received so many from your son. 
Your question “Is there a spiritual way to look at the situation?” is one of the most important ones we can ever ask.  And the answer is always ‘yes!’  One of the most common reasons why we, as souls, choose to come to a place like Earth is to experience contrast
Being around your unsupportive and more conventional family members is a great way to show you how you don’t want to be.  They are likely dear soulmates—we each have about 25 to 30—who are purposely playing “the bad guys” so you can grow and serve others more.  Can you imagine how much they, on a soul level, really love and support you? 
Let that perspective heal and enlighten you so that you can continue to be a bright light in our world.  And, who knows, perhaps—with this greater view of how wonderfully life is set up—you may find your family relationships improving.  Let me know how it’s going!  God bless, Mark
Q: I feel like everybody has a life but me, as if I'm standing still and have been for 6 years.  I had a life until I moved one year before my son died, but now I don't.  Losing my husband 4 years before that makes it all the worse. I want my life back because I hate this one.  If I hadn't made my son move with me (he rebelled against it), he might still be alive today.  So I feel partly to blame for his death.  This is tearing me apart slowly. – Cheryl

A: Wow, you just might win the “toughest of the tough” award this week, Cheryl.  Your husband, your son, and you feel partly responsible . . . that’s a lot.  Certainly no one would blame you if you stayed stuck for the rest of your earth-experience.  But you’re reaching out and sound ready to get your life back.  Other parents have come through similar difficulties and had a breakthrough, not a breakdown.  So let’s see where to start! 
First, are you a member of a Helping Parents Heal group?  I highly recommend that or a similar group and open-minded/love-centered church.  You don’t have to work through this alone and there are lots of people who are glad to help. 

Next, I suggest that you read articles that help you know, without a doubt, that death is not a ‘good-bye’ but, rather, a ‘see you later.’  This should relieve some of the pain as you more deeply realize you will see your son again.  I’d start with these three (see how to access them at top of this column)

1. Clinical and Scientific Evidence That Life Is Never-Ending

2. When a Child Dies: 9 Messages for Their Loved Ones
3. Holistic Information for Bereaved Families
Article #3 is especially important for you.  Just simple steps such as taking a brisk walk and improving your diet can help move you into an upward instead of a downward spiral. 

Finally, the guilt isn’t helping at all and it is, as you say, tearing you up.  If you figure out how to go back in time and change things, please let me know.  We can’t do that so it’s much better to release the “I should have, would have, could have” beating yourself up habit.  You can start with two simple steps: whenever you find yourself revisiting the painful past, mentally shout “STOP” and immediately affirm or pray, “I am living in the present moment and getting my life back again!”  (As time passes, change what you say to fit what you’re working on.) 
Let’s start with that.  Please contact me in a few months and let me know how it’s going.  Then we’ll look at what next steps to take.  Blessings, Mark

Q: My boy passed in January and two weeks later, I had a dream of him. Since then, every night, I go to bed hoping and praying to dream of him again. When I wake up in the morning, my heart is pounding thinking about him, but I feel disappointed about another night without a dream. Why am I having a hard time with this? – Toni

A: This is one of the most common questions I receive, Toni.  As evidenced by your pounding heart, you are anxious about the process.  Anxiety, fear, and depression are three of the lowest energy emotions that make contact with those on “the other side” more difficult.  Here are twelve keys to enhance your after-death contacts and be more peaceful about the process. 

  1. To decrease fear and worry, learn the documented evidence that you will, without a doubt, see them when you pass on
  2. Know that it’s possible to relate with them right now
  3. Ask/pray/affirm that you will have contact with them
  4. Get on their higher/finer energy wavelength via meditation, time in nature, prayer, service to others, fine-tuning your body/mind and being grateful
  5. Be aware of subtle communications, electronic aberrations, and mysterious occurrences.  Realize their contact may not necessarily be what you expect 
  6. Talk to them as if they are present . . . because they probably are
  7. Ask them questions aloud or silently and listen with your head and heart
  8. Realize that it’s not easy to communicate from one dimension to another.  Can you easily and clearly contact those in other realms?  I can’t.  So don’t put pressure on them or yourself about it. 
  9. Hold a favorite object of theirs to enhance a connection
  10. Relax and don’t worry about when or if contact occurs
  11. Give thanks when any kind of communication does happen
  12. Understand that the universe is vast and leave room for the “X” factor.  There’s much we still don’t know about every aspect of life including that phase after physical death.  Who doesn’t like a great mystery? 

Play with these steps—don’t make it worrisome work—for awhile and let me know how it’s going.  Have gratitude for the one dream you did have.  Love, appreciation, and peace are three of the highest energy emotions and those, in turn, can foster other many blessings.  Best wishes, Mark

Q: Yesterday at work, a lady came in for her hair and started talking about her son’s girlfriend who committed suicide. The more she talked, the more my energy left; I had to run to the back and cry.  Later, I told her, “I know your hurt.”  I miss my baby girl every day. I go to work to escape from thinking.  I cry myself to sleep and wake up crying.  This is never ending. I know I need to keep moving, but I've lost my energy and I feel weak. – Frances

A: Oh my, another very tough one.  You must be a very brave soul, Frances.  If your child ended his or her own life, please read: “When a Loved One Dies by Suicide: What You Must Know.”  By the way, my website is under construction and the new title for that article will be “When Loved Ones End Their Earth-Experience.”  That’s a much more accurate term for what really happens.  Life cannot be ended, but this earth-experience can be. 
It’s good that you are aware of energy-draining circumstances.  Until you are well again, you will want to shield yourself and minimize such situations. 
As for the excessive crying, you definitely should be evaluated with Nutrition Response Testing.  Many women have post-pregnancy nutritional deficiencies that are worsened by the extreme shock when a child transitions.  The brain is the most sensitive organ in the body to nutritional deficiencies and the following symptoms often occur: depression, excess crying, anxiety, panic attacks, and insomnia.  The 7 Keys to Optimally Fine-Tune Your Body/Mind article discusses this Safe, Affordable, Natural, and Effective (SANE) way to get well again. 
Take time for centering practices such as walking in nature, meditation, prayer, playing with animals, or whatever helps quiet your mind and nurture your soul. 

And, as always, don’t try to get through this alone.  Join a bereaved parents group if you haven’t already.  Attend an enlightened church for support, spiritual wisdom teachings, and an opportunity to serve others in honor of your child. 
Be sure to check in a few months from now so we can see what is needed next in our “bringing back the real Frances” holistic program.  Love and Light, Mark
Q: When I dream of my deceased parents, the dreams are about living life the way it was with them. But when I dream of my son, I always know he is an angel and we talk about him being gone.  Do you think that it's a visit and not a dream? - Patricia
A: Sounds like it to me, Patricia.  Dream after-death contacts or ADCs are very common and have been documented as real by well-known experts such as Dr. Carl Jung.  Dream ADCs are usually more vivid than “normal” dreams and lend a lasting peace that your departed loved one is alive and well in another realm.  About 75% of bereaved parents have an ADC that lightens the grieving and kindles a new kind of relationship.  Thank you for sharing your story so that others can trust their experiences as well.  Peace, Mark

Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice. 

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—your earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever.  You’ll receive access to interviews with top consciousness experts and a series of free articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges—including a child dying—when you sign up for his free newsletter at
www.soulproof.comEmail Mark at to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions

-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and an Affiliate Leader of our Columbus, Ohio HPH Group and our Sarasota, Florida HPH Group.

Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson

Ernie and Kristine 

Are you still joyous, at times anyway?  Can you be goofy on occasion?  How deep does that joy and goofiness go?  Is there anything that stokes it, that gets the party started, so to speak?

I remember loving music, since I was a very young boy.  The Temptations, Four Tops, Rolling Stones, Willie Nelson, Led Zeppelin, Beatles, Elton John and the list goes on and on and on. This continued as I grew into a young man.  Music filled me with joy and helped to express my emotions, whether it be sadness or euphoria.  

I’m fifty years old now, not that age matters, but I don’t have the bounce in my step that I used to.  Truth be told, I was letting the world beat me down long before Quinton transitioned in order to open my eyes.  Since then, I have been on the path of more enlightened thinking, but it isn’t always easy as all of you know too well.  Sharing with you brings me joy and sometimes even music!

And I never know when it will grab me, but all of a sudden the music, (whatever genre) starts sounding really good; I turn it up and start dancing in the seat of Q’s truck or wherever I am.  July 2nd was one of those days.  I spent a lot of time on the road visiting commercial properties that I manage and previously managed, visiting with those who are  touched by our journey.  Turning the satellite radio to 'Classic Album Rock' it hit me and stayed all day, even into the evening.

Arriving home, I remembered and started searching for some of the songs that I heard during the day on the Internet.  My groove deepened as I sat on the couch listening to those classic tunes, mostly Stevie Nicks and Tom Petty, and my new favorite, 'One Man Can Change the World' by Big Sean.  Before too long I was singing (yes I know I sound absolutely awful but I was expressing joy & being alive) and grooving.  Suddenly my grandson, Salvador Quinton, poked his head around the corner and came downstairs to join me.  All of our kids sense energy and he was sensing mine.  

The “party” continued with me bumping and grooving, being silly, with both Salvador Quinton and Santino Edgar, who soon joined us.  I was being silly and jabbering away, and they were looking at me with wonder, awe or perhaps concern.  “Grandpa is going crazy and it will be a short trip!”

It felt good and I endeavor to do more of it while imagining my own son, Quinton Stone Jackson, sitting next to me.  Remembering the times we had.  Whenever 'Radar Love' by Golden Earring would come on, I would sing at the top of lungs and groove, encouraging him to do the same as he looked at me with a bemused look – maybe wondering "What is wrong with my Dad?" ☺ 

Much love and many Blessings!

-Ernie Jackson

-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton.  His two books,"Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at

Upcoming Presenters for Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale:

Jamie Clark, Dr. Mark Pitstick, Thaddeus Ferguson and Susanne Wilson 

August 27th-Psychic Medium Jamie Clark - Click here to RSVP

September 24th-Dr. Mark Pitstick - Click
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October 22nd-Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson - Click
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January 28th - Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson - Click here to RSVP

Please note-we will not be holding a July meeting in Phoenix/Scottsdale.

Helpful, Healing Books-
Rob Schwartz and his book, 'Your Soul's Gift'

Rob Schwartz is a strong supporter of Helping Parents Heal and kindly offered his time during a teleconference for parent members on May 29th, 2013.  He has written several innovative books about grief that are helpful and uplifting, especially for survivors of suicide, including "Your Soul's Plan" and "Your Soul's Gift".  Here is information about these two works:  

In his groundbreaking first book, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born, Robert Schwartz brought the idea of pre-birth planning into the mainstream. Now, his sequel Your Soul's Gift delves even deeper by exploring the pre-birth planning of such experiences as spiritual awakening, miscarriage and abortion, caregiving, adoption, suicide, and mental illness. Working with a team of gifted mediums and channels, Schwartz brings forth great love and wisdom from the other side to explain why such experiences are planned and the deep, soul-level healing they can create. 

Robert has kindly offered to send a free copy of his latest book to 28 parents who have had children transition by suicide.  If you are interested, please email Robert at:  You can learn more about Robert Schwartz online at  

The Helping Parents Heal website that lists many good books about grief that have been read and recommended by other bereaved parents.  Please click this link to view the different books.  Also, please email your own favorite healing books so that we can possible add it to the list.  The address is:   

Sheri’s Corner-

Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast

Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast


"Death is no more than passing from one room into another. But there's a difference for me, you know. Because in that other room I shall be able to see."

Helen Keller


I simply love this quote because it introduces a perspective regarding death that really makes you sit up and think. It doesn’t usually occur to us that death could bring about the return of lost faculties such as sight. Just imagine the liberation of a soul trapped in a mentally defective brain and how it would feel to all of a sudden be able to think clearly!


I believe that physical life is beautiful and that it is a gift to experience being in a body, but I am beginning to believe that death is also very beautiful and that it is a gift to be a spirit free of the body.  Of course, for those of us who remain on in this realm with one or more of our children passed, physical life becomes even more difficult and challenging.  Rest assured, however, for physical life’s inherent impermanence will lead us to the realm of spirit, where Helen can see and where we will see the truth, that eternity is real and death is a myth! 


-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol

Sheri will be holding a meeting of Helping Parents Heal - NYC on August 2nd. Please RSVP

Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry

Parents Who Give Back-Todd Nigro and Ellie's Way

Ellie Ruth Nigro and her Care Package 

We have delivered more than eight hundred Ellie’s Way Care Packages in the past 16 months. These packages were created to provide understanding, encouragement, comfort, and hope to the grieving. This is the story of how and why we started this program.

After losing Ellie on January 20, 2012, in a tragic accident, our lives and hearts were shattered. It felt like we were thrown into a deep, dark, endless pit, all alone, with no guidance or idea how to proceed. There were many kind gestures such as a phone call from a bereaved father, many meals and cards delivered, and much more. But one act of kindness caught our attention.

We were having a difficult day about six weeks after Ellie’s death. The doorbell rang. I opened the door and saw a package on the porch. My wife and I both opened it together. We loved the contents (books, embroidered blanket, cards, etc.), but we were even more astounded that a kind soul who we didn’t know had spent the time to put this gift together for us. We felt acknowledged and cared for through this act of kindness.


I found a phone number on one of the cards and immediately called the woman that had sent the package. I found out that her brother was murdered the year before and that we were the first recipient of her love basket for the grieving.


After about a year, I met with the woman to discuss joining forces to expand this program. She did not have the time to continue the concept, but we felt it was something that was badly needed by those in the grieving community. The Ellie’s Way Care Packages program started soon after.


The Ellie's Way Care Packages contains a personalized memorial necklace, serenity stone, and key chain (all with the loved one’s photo). We also include: support group information, Growing Through Grief audio CD, booklets and articles about grief and loss, blessings coin, peace journal, and some sticky notes to “Share Some Love, Ellie’s Way!”


After sending so many as free gifts, we were overwhelmed with requests. Donations to our cause were not keeping up with the demand for our care packages. We made the decision to provide a care package at a very reasonable price. We will continue to send care packages as gifts as funds allow.


As an alternative to the physical package, we created our Free E-Care Package, a downloadable 58 page PDF. Please click here for more information. There are many helpful ideas and resources including thoughts, stories, poems, quotes, journaling ideas, and more.
We are now giving away 5 care packages. Please click this
link to enter. When filling our the form, type "GIVEAWAY' in the "Message to Ellie's Way". Five recipients will be selected at random on August 1st.


Please visit Ellie's Way for many resources, and also our Ellie's Way Facebook Page.
-Written by Ellie's Dad, Todd Nigro

Mission statement of Helping Parents Heal:

Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices. 

-Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal

Sending peace, love and white light to you and your beautiful children

Note: Information in the Helping Parents Heal newsletter is provided for the sole purpose of assisting you in finding resources (information, meetings, books, etc.) to aid in the bereavement process. This newsletter is not intended to endorse, sponsor or encourage your use of any of the information or services listed, whether from members or other individuals. Rather, our intent is simply to inform you of vast amount of resources available for your consideration. We urge you to independently research and consider the value any particular resource for yourself. Further, while we take steps to ensure accuracy of the information posted, especially relative to linked media, we accept no liability for content. Helping Parents Heal is a non-profit Corporation.

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Helpful, Healing Information

Stories of Validation -

Moving Past Grief - Mark Ireland
Brandon and Mark Ireland                                                                       
Since the passing of my youngest son, Brandon, I’ve come to recognize that bereaved parents all grieve in their own way. They also heal—or fail to heal—in their own way and time.

Unfortunately some people get trapped in grief and aren’t able to move forward to lead happy, fulfilling lives. The reason I know this is that I often receive emails reading something like this: “It’s been six years since my daughter passed and I am still devastated and feel hopeless. I’m sure you know what I mean and feel the same way.” Actually, I don’t feel the same way. I love my son Brandon with all my heart and soul, but I don’t live with a wrenching gut, a pounding head, or a sense of devastation.

So why are some bereaved parents able to move forward and lead happy lives while other people remain trapped in grief?  I am not posing this question to judge, but rather to identify the differences in how people heal from grief, hoping that some may benefit from the answers.
It’s been eleven years since Brandon passed but my wife and I were actually doing pretty well after just six months—and we were more or less “back to normal” by the end of one year. The first thing that helped us was our faith, or more accurately stated our “knowledge” that Brandon’s soul continued on in a spiritual realm with his awareness and personality intact despite the demise of his physical body. Those who have read either of my books, Soul Shift and Messages from the Afterlife are aware of the evidence presented to support what I’m saying. But to summarize, my wife and I received compelling communications from Brandon through a variety of means, including direct visitations.

I am also aware of bereaved parents who enjoyed healing validations, including compelling messages from Mediums, signs, dream visits, etc. Most of these parents displayed a great sense of joy and relief at the time this occurred and for many the experience got them over the hump. However, some parents who initially showed relief subsequently fell back into a deep dark place. For them the healing effect of the phenomena seemed to have a shelf-life and I wondered why this was.

I think there is a larger issue at work here. Some bereaved parents want life to remain exactly as it was prior to the passing of their child, struggling to accept a new and different life because they can’t let go of the old life. They may avoid all change, whether keeping their child’s room exactly as it had been or steadfastly sticking to former daily routines. They may feel that their life is in turmoil and are looking for a sense of order and control through such actions.

Parents may be afraid that their child will be forgotten—as if they had never existed. Some parents can’t envision what life could be like without their child so they don’t even go there. Others are tortured by feelings of guilt, usually over something they think they could have done differently. All of these behaviors lead to sorrow because the truth is that things have changed and will never be the same. But if the person can accept that life can be different and good they can lead a happy and productive life.

If any of the behaviors I’ve described ring a bell for you, please consider the following suggestions:

  • Take inventory of everything in your life for which you have to be grateful. Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. Prior to your child’s passing you most likely loved your spouse (if you have one), loved your other children (if you have them), loved your relatives, and loved your friends. Before your child passed you probably wouldn’t have said that you loved that child more than anyone else in your life. So cherish those who are in your life today and show them that they are important to you. Don’t ignore them because you miss the child who passed. It could have been one of them instead.
You may also have other good things in your life—a great job, an enjoyable hobby, financial resources, so show gratitude for all these things. Creation begins with thought so start by envisioning the life you want. If you focus on the possibility of joy and allow yourself to experience it, you will find joy.
  • If you are like me and you have confidence in the reality of the afterlife (whether due to your faith, your experiences, or books you’ve read) mentally accept that your child is doing well in the next realm and they want you to be happy. Trust that they are always just a thought away. Don’t stress over the thought of separation. As I once told a bereaved mom in spontaneous fashion, “Don’t look at it like he’s gone, just think of it like he’s in Australia”.
If you don’t have faith or confidence in an afterlife, but are open minded, I encourage you to read books that explain the compelling evidence. A good starting point is the recommended books list on the HPH site. The books range from touching personal accounts to empirical evidence provided through scientific research, exploring near-death-experiences, mediumship, death bed visitations, ADC’s, and more.
  • Your life will never be the same but it still can be happy and fulfilling. You just have to accept the fact that it will be different.
  • Find a way to serve others. When you help others it helps you heal.
  • Attend a Helping Parents Heal meeting if there is a group in your area. Otherwise, seek out others who have been through the same thing—especially those who have healed.
  • Find something constructive to do with your time; learn a musical instrument, a foreign language, travel, mix and mingle with people. Live life!
  • If you are harboring grief let it go. You may hold thoughts like, “if I’d only done this or that”, but the “what if’s” are of no value, so let them go. The truth is that they were going to drive that car, take that drug, go on that trip, become ill, or mix with that person no matter what you did. It is not your fault so let go of the blame. Your child does not want you to feel this way. Let it go.

I hope this article has been helpful and would be glad to respond to any questions or comments.

-Mark Ireland is the Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Brandon.  He has written two wonderful books.  Please learn more about Mark:

Lynn Hollahan and her son Devon
Devon Hollahan

Devon’s death has brought many gifts into our lives.  How can a mother say that?  I certainly didn’t think I would be saying that at the time of his death.  However, in the past 5 ½ years since Devon died, our world and belief system have been turned upside down. 

We have received many “signs” from Devon.  Apparently, according to the many mediums we have been in contact with, Devon is a strong, persistent, and yes, even funny spirit.  That’s the same personality he had when he was with us.

In the second year after Devon’s passing, our daughter had moved across the country and our house felt very lonely and sad and there were days it felt like the walls were caving in on me.  We found ourselves visiting the city and community where we lived when we were young and newly married.  It had been a time in our lives when life was easy and made sense.  We spontaneously purchased a condo in the exact neighborhood where our marriage had started 30 years prior.  We called it our “therapy house”.   It was a place I could get away whenever I needed to, even if I went there in my mind.

Shortly after we moved in the condo for our first summer there, our neighbor stopped by and said she thought Devon had come to visit her the night before.  At this point we did not know these neighbors well, so I found her story rather amusing.  She said that in the middle of the night a candlestick which had been in the same place for 5 years fell over and for some reason the first thing she thought of was Devon. 

About two weeks later, the same neighbor was on our patio, along with her husband, us, and two other couples.  She again said that she thought Devon had come back to visit, for the same thing had happened.  The candlestick had never fallen except for these two times and once again, Devon came to her mind. 

I was joking with our neighbors that Devon knew we lived in the neighborhood, but just didn’t have the correct house.  As soon as I said that, the dining room light turned on, then off again.  Nobody was in the house and there was no way for the light to turn on by itself.  “Oh”, I said.  “I guess Devon does know where we live!”. 

Our neighbors looked at us like we were a bit “off”, but have since not only embraced our story and adventure, but look forward to hearing more “Devon stories”. 

-Lynn Hollahan
Devon at the Great Wall

Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? 

We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.) 

Also, if you have not yet done so, please send me your child's full name, Birthday and Angel Date so that I can add him or her to our list of children on our Facebook Site. We pay tribute to our children on their special dates with a favorite photo and a description of their lives.  Please send all information to Elizabeth at

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Upcoming Group Meetings
Helping Parents Heal - Boise, August 16th at 3 pm at Trybe Yoga Studio in Eagle, ID hosted by Paige Lee.  Please RSVP for this meeting here.
Helping Parents Heal - Pensacola, hosted by Kristen Brown-Sanders, August 5th.  Please RSVP here.Helping Parents Heal - Ottawa.  Please contact Patti May for the next meeting time and place.
Helping Parents Heal - Fortuna CA, hosted by Nancy Courtmanche, August 3rd.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - NYC, hosted by  Sheri Perl Migdol, August 2nd.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Tucson with Janice Crowder Torrez - August 9th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Columbus hosted by Dr. Mark Pitstick, Teri Simonds Snyder & Lavaughn Margraff, August 5th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, August 27th with Psychic Medium Jamie Clark, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Silver City, NM hosted by Denise Kennedy September 2nd - Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas, TX hosted by Tracy Venters September 8th with special guest Chuck Murphy.  Please click here to RSVP.

Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Dr. Mark Pitstick, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson on September 24th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas October 13th with Graham and Shannon Maxey, hosted by Tracy Venters on October 13th.  Please RSVP here 
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson, October 22nd.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, January 28th with guest speaker Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson.  Please RSVP here.  

New Group!  Helping Parents Heal - Cape Coral, hosted by Lori Fina-Jennings.  Please email Lori for more information at or call: 614-563-8539  
New Group!  Hilton Head, SC-Irene Vouvalides Please contact Irene at for more information.  

Affliate Groups and their leaders (by alphabetical order)

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL

Elizabeth Boisson-Phoenix, AZ

Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL

NEW GROUP - Lancy Carr - Washington DC

Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA

NEW GROUP -Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ

NEW GROUP - Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL

Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota

NEW GROUP - Denise Kennedy - Silver City NM

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC

NEW GROUP - Bob Langfelder - Sarasota, FL

NEW GROUP - Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho


NEW GROUP - Lavaughn Margraff-Columbus, OH

Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario

Maria Pe - San Diego

Glenda Pearson - Mishawaka IN

Sheri Perl-New York, NY

NEW GROUP - Dr. Mark Pitstick - Columbus, OH and Sarasota, FL

Teri Simonds Snyder - Columbus OH

NEW GROUP  - Tracy Venters - Dallas, TX
email:, website: 

Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ

NEW GROUP - Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC

You can read the bios and see photos of each of the affiliate leaders at our website:  

Please contact Elizabeth Boisson ( if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.
Board Members: 

Elizabeth Boisson Co-F0under/
Mark Ireland Co-Founder/
Doryce Norwood /
Ernie Jackson /
Dr. Mark Pitstick /

Treasurer: Celia Cheves-Edwards /
Secretary: Laurie Savoie /

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