Welcome to the August issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!
Hello! We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth. We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones. We have many new affiliate groups that are now available throughout the country. There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter. Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website, www.helpingparentsheal.info.
Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.
Phoenix/Scottsdale August 25th Meeting with Jamie Clark
Psychic Medium Jamie Clark
I am so honored to be able to present to the Whole Family of Helping Parents Heal. Our loved ones are but a thought away from us and are always open to make a connection with you. One of my goals in doing what I do, is to bring closure to the old connection and a whole New beginning to the New one. Our loved ones want to connect with us, like we want to connect with them, and making your own connection is THE BIGGEST GIFT that you can give them and ourselves. As we learn to live with them in this new connection, you will begin to live life, rather than survive it. When we are surviving life, we tend to come from the bottom of the Heart and Soul, and when we are Living, we come from the FULLNESS of the Heart and Soul. So, let your Love shine and your Souls connect, because... it's truly all about LOVE!!!
-Jamie Clark (Please RSVP for this meeting here and learn more about Jamie here)
San Francisco Event July 19th - Golden Gate Spiritualist Church
Mark Ireland and Tina Powers
Mark Ireland is the co-founder of Helping Parents Heal and the author of several uplifting, informative books including 'Soul Shift-Finding Where the Dead Go" and 'Messages From the Afterlife". Tina Powers, a former news anchorwoman, is the author of 'Reporting from the Other Side" and a gifted psychic medium who has graciously donated her time to our group. They will be speaking in San Francisco at the Golden Gate Spiritualist Church on Sunday, July 19th. Please stop by if you are in the area! You can click this link to learn more.
Also, be sure to read Mark's article, 'Moving Past Grief', in this month's issue.
Ben's Bells New Phoenix Studio-BE KIND!
A special meeting of Helping Parents Heal Phoenix/Scottsdale at the new Ben's Bells studio, 417 E Roosevelt Street, Phoenix. Thank you, Jeannette and Christy, for a wonderful afternoon! Please learn more about how you can help this worthy nonprofit at www.bensbells.org.
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A. I recommend that you first read the foundational articles that form a basis for my answers. Links to those articles are located at the bottom of my website home page www.soulproof.com under Soul Proof Articles and also under Healing Articles by Dr. Pitstick.
Q: My only child transitioned six years ago at age 22. We were very close and I helped him fight his addiction as much as I could. Since he transitioned, I have received so many love signs from him and that has helped tremendously. After his death, my mom let me know that I was an awful mother and my son must have wanted to get away from me. I do not want to have anything to do with my family anymore because they are so negative and have abandoned me. Why am I in the same family as these people that I have felt unconnected to since childhood? Is there a spiritual way to look at the situation? – Jennifer
A: First of all, Jennifer, pat yourself on the back for being quite evolved as evidenced by your term “transitioned” and asking about a spiritual perspective. I also love your term “love signs” and am glad you have received so many from your son.
Your question “Is there a spiritual way to look at the situation?” is one of the most important ones we can ever ask. And the answer is always ‘yes!’ One of the most common reasons why we, as souls, choose to come to a place like Earth is to experience contrast.
Being around your unsupportive and more conventional family members is a great way to show you how you don’t want to be. They are likely dear soulmates—we each have about 25 to 30—who are purposely playing “the bad guys” so you can grow and serve others more. Can you imagine how much they, on a soul level, really love and support you?
Let that perspective heal and enlighten you so that you can continue to be a bright light in our world. And, who knows, perhaps—with this greater view of how wonderfully life is set up—you may find your family relationships improving. Let me know how it’s going! God bless, Mark
Q: I feel like everybody has a life but me, as if I'm standing still and have been for 6 years. I had a life until I moved one year before my son died, but now I don't. Losing my husband 4 years before that makes it all the worse. I want my life back because I hate this one. If I hadn't made my son move with me (he rebelled against it), he might still be alive today. So I feel partly to blame for his death. This is tearing me apart slowly. – Cheryl
A: Wow, you just might win the “toughest of the tough” award this week, Cheryl. Your husband, your son, and you feel partly responsible . . . that’s a lot. Certainly no one would blame you if you stayed stuck for the rest of your earth-experience. But you’re reaching out and sound ready to get your life back. Other parents have come through similar difficulties and had a breakthrough, not a breakdown. So let’s see where to start!
First, are you a member of a Helping Parents Heal group? I highly recommend that or a similar group and open-minded/love-centered church. You don’t have to work through this alone and there are lots of people who are glad to help.
Next, I suggest that you read articles that help you know, without a doubt, that death is not a ‘good-bye’ but, rather, a ‘see you later.’ This should relieve some of the pain as you more deeply realize you will see your son again. I’d start with these three (see how to access them at top of this column)
1. Clinical and Scientific Evidence That Life Is Never-Ending
2. When a Child Dies: 9 Messages for Their Loved Ones
3. Holistic Information for Bereaved Families
Article #3 is especially important for you. Just simple steps such as taking a brisk walk and improving your diet can help move you into an upward instead of a downward spiral.
Finally, the guilt isn’t helping at all and it is, as you say, tearing you up. If you figure out how to go back in time and change things, please let me know. We can’t do that so it’s much better to release the “I should have, would have, could have” beating yourself up habit. You can start with two simple steps: whenever you find yourself revisiting the painful past, mentally shout “STOP” and immediately affirm or pray, “I am living in the present moment and getting my life back again!” (As time passes, change what you say to fit what you’re working on.)
Let’s start with that. Please contact me in a few months and let me know how it’s going. Then we’ll look at what next steps to take. Blessings, Mark
Q: My boy passed in January and two weeks later, I had a dream of him. Since then, every night, I go to bed hoping and praying to dream of him again. When I wake up in the morning, my heart is pounding thinking about him, but I feel disappointed about another night without a dream. Why am I having a hard time with this? – Toni
A: This is one of the most common questions I receive, Toni. As evidenced by your pounding heart, you are anxious about the process. Anxiety, fear, and depression are three of the lowest energy emotions that make contact with those on “the other side” more difficult. Here are twelve keys to enhance your after-death contacts and be more peaceful about the process.
- To decrease fear and worry, learn the documented evidence that you will, without a doubt, see them when you pass on
- Know that it’s possible to relate with them right now
- Ask/pray/affirm that you will have contact with them
- Get on their higher/finer energy wavelength via meditation, time in nature, prayer, service to others, fine-tuning your body/mind and being grateful
- Be aware of subtle communications, electronic aberrations, and mysterious occurrences. Realize their contact may not necessarily be what you expect
- Talk to them as if they are present . . . because they probably are
- Ask them questions aloud or silently and listen with your head and heart
- Realize that it’s not easy to communicate from one dimension to another. Can you easily and clearly contact those in other realms? I can’t. So don’t put pressure on them or yourself about it.
- Hold a favorite object of theirs to enhance a connection
- Relax and don’t worry about when or if contact occurs
- Give thanks when any kind of communication does happen
- Understand that the universe is vast and leave room for the “X” factor. There’s much we still don’t know about every aspect of life including that phase after physical death. Who doesn’t like a great mystery?
Play with these steps—don’t make it worrisome work—for awhile and let me know how it’s going. Have gratitude for the one dream you did have. Love, appreciation, and peace are three of the highest energy emotions and those, in turn, can foster other many blessings. Best wishes, Mark
Q: Yesterday at work, a lady came in for her hair and started talking about her son’s girlfriend who committed suicide. The more she talked, the more my energy left; I had to run to the back and cry. Later, I told her, “I know your hurt.” I miss my baby girl every day. I go to work to escape from thinking. I cry myself to sleep and wake up crying. This is never ending. I know I need to keep moving, but I've lost my energy and I feel weak. – Frances
A: Oh my, another very tough one. You must be a very brave soul, Frances. If your child ended his or her own life, please read: “When a Loved One Dies by Suicide: What You Must Know.” By the way, my website is under construction and the new title for that article will be “When Loved Ones End Their Earth-Experience.” That’s a much more accurate term for what really happens. Life cannot be ended, but this earth-experience can be.
It’s good that you are aware of energy-draining circumstances. Until you are well again, you will want to shield yourself and minimize such situations.
As for the excessive crying, you definitely should be evaluated with Nutrition Response Testing. Many women have post-pregnancy nutritional deficiencies that are worsened by the extreme shock when a child transitions. The brain is the most sensitive organ in the body to nutritional deficiencies and the following symptoms often occur: depression, excess crying, anxiety, panic attacks, and insomnia. The 7 Keys to Optimally Fine-Tune Your Body/Mind article discusses this Safe, Affordable, Natural, and Effective (SANE) way to get well again.
Take time for centering practices such as walking in nature, meditation, prayer, playing with animals, or whatever helps quiet your mind and nurture your soul.
And, as always, don’t try to get through this alone. Join a bereaved parents group if you haven’t already. Attend an enlightened church for support, spiritual wisdom teachings, and an opportunity to serve others in honor of your child.
Be sure to check in a few months from now so we can see what is needed next in our “bringing back the real Frances” holistic program. Love and Light, Mark
Q: When I dream of my deceased parents, the dreams are about living life the way it was with them. But when I dream of my son, I always know he is an angel and we talk about him being gone. Do you think that it's a visit and not a dream? - Patricia
A: Sounds like it to me, Patricia. Dream after-death contacts or ADCs are very common and have been documented as real by well-known experts such as Dr. Carl Jung. Dream ADCs are usually more vivid than “normal” dreams and lend a lasting peace that your departed loved one is alive and well in another realm. About 75% of bereaved parents have an ADC that lightens the grieving and kindles a new kind of relationship. Thank you for sharing your story so that others can trust their experiences as well. Peace, Mark
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—your earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. You’ll receive access to interviews with top consciousness experts and a series of free articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges—including a child dying—when you sign up for his free newsletter at www.soulproof.com. Email Mark at firstname.lastname@example.org to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions
-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and an Affiliate Leader of our Columbus, Ohio HPH Group and our Sarasota, Florida HPH Group.
Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson
Ernie and Kristine
Are you still joyous, at times anyway? Can you be goofy on occasion? How deep does that joy and goofiness go? Is there anything that stokes it, that gets the party started, so to speak?
I remember loving music, since I was a very young boy. The Temptations, Four Tops, Rolling Stones, Willie Nelson, Led Zeppelin, Beatles, Elton John and the list goes on and on and on. This continued as I grew into a young man. Music filled me with joy and helped to express my emotions, whether it be sadness or euphoria.
I’m fifty years old now, not that age matters, but I don’t have the bounce in my step that I used to. Truth be told, I was letting the world beat me down long before Quinton transitioned in order to open my eyes. Since then, I have been on the path of more enlightened thinking, but it isn’t always easy as all of you know too well. Sharing with you brings me joy and sometimes even music!
And I never know when it will grab me, but all of a sudden the music, (whatever genre) starts sounding really good; I turn it up and start dancing in the seat of Q’s truck or wherever I am. July 2nd was one of those days. I spent a lot of time on the road visiting commercial properties that I manage and previously managed, visiting with those who are touched by our journey. Turning the satellite radio to 'Classic Album Rock' it hit me and stayed all day, even into the evening.
Arriving home, I remembered and started searching for some of the songs that I heard during the day on the Internet. My groove deepened as I sat on the couch listening to those classic tunes, mostly Stevie Nicks and Tom Petty, and my new favorite, 'One Man Can Change the World' by Big Sean. Before too long I was singing (yes I know I sound absolutely awful but I was expressing joy & being alive) and grooving. Suddenly my grandson, Salvador Quinton, poked his head around the corner and came downstairs to join me. All of our kids sense energy and he was sensing mine.
The “party” continued with me bumping and grooving, being silly, with both Salvador Quinton and Santino Edgar, who soon joined us. I was being silly and jabbering away, and they were looking at me with wonder, awe or perhaps concern. “Grandpa is going crazy and it will be a short trip!”
It felt good and I endeavor to do more of it while imagining my own son, Quinton Stone Jackson, sitting next to me. Remembering the times we had. Whenever 'Radar Love' by Golden Earring would come on, I would sing at the top of lungs and groove, encouraging him to do the same as he looked at me with a bemused look – maybe wondering "What is wrong with my Dad?" ☺
Much love and many Blessings!
-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton. His two books,"Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.
Upcoming Presenters for Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale:
Jamie Clark, Dr. Mark Pitstick, Thaddeus Ferguson and Susanne Wilson
August 27th-Psychic Medium Jamie Clark - Click here to RSVP
September 24th-Dr. Mark Pitstick - Click here to RSVP
October 22nd-Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson - Click here to RSVP
January 28th - Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson - Click here to RSVP
Please note-we will not be holding a July meeting in Phoenix/Scottsdale.
Helpful, Healing Books-
Rob Schwartz and his book, 'Your Soul's Gift'
Rob Schwartz is a strong supporter of Helping Parents Heal and kindly offered his time during a teleconference for parent members on May 29th, 2013. He has written several innovative books about grief that are helpful and uplifting, especially for survivors of suicide, including "Your Soul's Plan" and "Your Soul's Gift". Here is information about these two works:
In his groundbreaking first book, Your Soul's Plan: Discovering the Real Meaning of the Life You Planned Before You Were Born, Robert Schwartz brought the idea of pre-birth planning into the mainstream. Now, his sequel Your Soul's Gift delves even deeper by exploring the pre-birth planning of such experiences as spiritual awakening, miscarriage and abortion, caregiving, adoption, suicide, and mental illness. Working with a team of gifted mediums and channels, Schwartz brings forth great love and wisdom from the other side to explain why such experiences are planned and the deep, soul-level healing they can create.
Robert has kindly offered to send a free copy of his latest book to 28 parents who have had children transition by suicide. If you are interested, please email Robert at: email@example.com. You can learn more about Robert Schwartz online at www.yoursoulsplan.com.
The Helping Parents Heal website that lists many good books about grief that have been read and recommended by other bereaved parents. Please click this link to view the different books. Also, please email your own favorite healing books so that we can possible add it to the list. The address is: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast
"Death is no more than passing from one room into another. But there's a difference for me, you know. Because in that other room I shall be able to see."
I simply love this quote because it introduces a perspective regarding death that really makes you sit up and think. It doesn’t usually occur to us that death could bring about the return of lost faculties such as sight. Just imagine the liberation of a soul trapped in a mentally defective brain and how it would feel to all of a sudden be able to think clearly!
I believe that physical life is beautiful and that it is a gift to experience being in a body, but I am beginning to believe that death is also very beautiful and that it is a gift to be a spirit free of the body. Of course, for those of us who remain on in this realm with one or more of our children passed, physical life becomes even more difficult and challenging. Rest assured, however, for physical life’s inherent impermanence will lead us to the realm of spirit, where Helen can see and where we will see the truth, that eternity is real and death is a myth!
-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
Sheri will be holding a meeting of Helping Parents Heal - NYC on August 2nd. Please RSVP here.
Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here.
Parents Who Give Back-Todd Nigro and Ellie's Way
Ellie Ruth Nigro and her Care Package
We have delivered more than eight hundred Ellie’s Way Care Packages in the past 16 months. These packages were created to provide understanding, encouragement, comfort, and hope to the grieving. This is the story of how and why we started this program.
After losing Ellie on January 20, 2012, in a tragic accident, our lives and hearts were shattered. It felt like we were thrown into a deep, dark, endless pit, all alone, with no guidance or idea how to proceed. There were many kind gestures such as a phone call from a bereaved father, many meals and cards delivered, and much more. But one act of kindness caught our attention.
We were having a difficult day about six weeks after Ellie’s death. The doorbell rang. I opened the door and saw a package on the porch. My wife and I both opened it together. We loved the contents (books, embroidered blanket, cards, etc.), but we were even more astounded that a kind soul who we didn’t know had spent the time to put this gift together for us. We felt acknowledged and cared for through this act of kindness.
I found a phone number on one of the cards and immediately called the woman that had sent the package. I found out that her brother was murdered the year before and that we were the first recipient of her love basket for the grieving.
After about a year, I met with the woman to discuss joining forces to expand this program. She did not have the time to continue the concept, but we felt it was something that was badly needed by those in the grieving community. The Ellie’s Way Care Packages program started soon after.
The Ellie's Way Care Packages contains a personalized memorial necklace, serenity stone, and key chain (all with the loved one’s photo). We also include: support group information, Growing Through Grief audio CD, booklets and articles about grief and loss, blessings coin, peace journal, and some sticky notes to “Share Some Love, Ellie’s Way!”
After sending so many as free gifts, we were overwhelmed with requests. Donations to our cause were not keeping up with the demand for our care packages. We made the decision to provide a care package at a very reasonable price. We will continue to send care packages as gifts as funds allow.
As an alternative to the physical package, we created our Free E-Care Package, a downloadable 58 page PDF. Please click here for more information. There are many helpful ideas and resources including thoughts, stories, poems, quotes, journaling ideas, and more.
We are now giving away 5 care packages. Please click this link to enter. When filling our the form, type "GIVEAWAY' in the "Message to Ellie's Way". Five recipients will be selected at random on August 1st.
Please visit Ellie's Way for many resources, and also our Ellie's Way Facebook Page.
-Written by Ellie's Dad, Todd Nigro
Mission statement of Helping Parents Heal:
Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices.
-Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal
Sending peace, love and white light to you and your beautiful children
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