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Welcome to the January issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter! Hello! We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
Dr. Mark Pitstick, a board member of Helping Parents Heal and the author of many healing books, has suggested that we assemble a team of highly functioning bereaved parents who would be willing to talk with those in need. As you can imagine, we have members who email and call every day who would love to speak with parents who are further along on this journey. Please let us know if you might be interested in volunteering! Mark's email is: email@example.com and mine is: firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you have not done so, take a look at our beautiful new website: www.helpingparentsheal.org. It is a wonderful tool to share our affiliate chapters, recommended books, providers, links and videos as well as our favorite causes. There is also a new page for 'Daily Tributes' to celebrate our children's' birthdays and Angel Dates. This is a private page and the password is Everest. Please take a moment to enter your child's name, dates, information and photo. Each child will automatically appear twice a year with his or her tribute, photo and information. This is a permanent and wonderful way to remember our children!
For those of you who live in the Phoenix area, we have a wonderful upcoming meeting schedule! We have many talented speakers who have graciously agreed to give their time and energy to our group: The Carefree Medium, Susanne Wilson on December 18th and Roberta Grimes, attorney, author and afterlife expert, on January 15th. Please be sure to RSVP for these events and come early as seating is limited! Hope to see you there.
First Annual Helping Parents Heal Conference April 2018
As many of you know, Helping Parents Heal (a 501C3 corporation) plans to hold its first annual conference in Scottsdale, Arizona April 13-15th, 2018. We are thrilled about the many talented presenters who have agreed to speak as well as the 100+ parents who have already said they would join us for this joyful event. Irene Vouvalides and Tracy Venters, our Hilton Head and Dallas affiliate leaders, are hard at work coordinating the conference. Please click here to be transferred to the fundraising site.
Sending love and light to each one of you and to your beautiful children. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.
Susanne Wilson, The Carefree Medium - December 18th at Unity of Phoenix!
Susanne Wilson, Morgan Boisson and Brian Ruff
Our Helping Parents Heal affiliate group here in Phoenix Scottsdale has the great pleasure of hosting Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium, at our next group meeting on December 18th at Unity of Phoenix from 1-3 pm. Susanne has been a huge support to Helping Parents Heal and she will be bringing through validations from our children at the meeting. We always have a full house and her last meeting drew over 100 parents, so please be sure to RSVP and get to the meeting early to reserve a seat. If you are in the area, please don't miss this wonderful meeting!
The following is an excerpt from her upcoming book, "Soul Smart: The Dead Teach About Spirit Communication," which will be available on Amazon and in major bookstores in February 2017.
HIKING IN HEAVEN
Excerpt from "Soul Smart: The Dead Teach About Spirit Communication" by Susanne Wilson. In this book excerpt, two young men (in spirit) arrange for their mothers (in physical) to meet. The two young men then provide stunning evidence of their after-death friendship through two different mediums.
Communication between the living and loved ones in spirit is natural. But it is not easy! In fact, after-death communication is so challenging that both the living and the dead must learn and practice their communication techniques.
In the spirit world, whenever a child is connecting with his living family, other children cheer him on! New friendships are formed among the children, although they never met while they were alive.
Often, children (in spirit) will arrange to have their living parents meet! It makes the children happy to see their parents become friends who support each other.
Seven years ago, a delightful young man (in spirit) unexpectedly entered my life. Ultimately, he inspired his mother to co-found Helping Parents Heal with Mark Ireland. If you have not heard the amazing story of how I met Morgan and his mother, Elizabeth Boisson, then I invite you to watch the video of Elizabeth at the following link.
And it just gets better!
A few days after I met with Elizabeth, I conducted a phone reading for a lovely woman on the East Coast named Jody.
Jody’s son, Brian, was an accomplished athlete and a beloved son, brother, and friend. Before his death, Brian and his friends had planned a road trip. But Brian had a dream in which he "saw" a car accident during the road trip. He warned his friends and asked them to cancel the trip. They went anyway, without Brian who refused to go. Tragically, all four young men perished in a car accident on the road trip.
Later on, Brian ended his life while sitting in his cherished sports car, a Mustang. His family and friends were devastated.
Now Brian's mother, Jody, was having a reading with me.
Prior to Jody’s reading, the only information I had was her first name. I quickly picked up from spirit that Jody was a bereaved mother. Her son, Brian, provided several evidential details including showing me his Mustang. He introduced his friends, the young men who died in the car accident. Everyone was happy and doing well!
ENTER MORGAN BOISSON
Unexpectedly, I began picking up on another young man who was not in the car accident. Standing next to Brian, I spotted Morgan Boisson!
I told Jody that a young man named "Morgan Boisson" was standing next to her son, Brian. Jody was perplexed. She had no clue who Morgan was. (Bear in mind that Helping Parents Heal did not yet exist.)
As the reading continued, I noticed that Morgan seemed to be coaching Brian on communicating with me. Brian was quick to learn. The two young men seemed to enjoy working together.
The two young men motioned for me to look down at their feet. They were both wearing boots. I heard Brian say that he died with his boots on (which his mother then confirmed).
Then the two young men motioned for me to look at the scenery. They were standing on a hiking path, high atop a mountainside filled with wildflowers. Brian grinned from ear to ear and said, "Tell my mom we’re hiking in heaven.”
At the end of Jody's reading, we spoke about the likelihood of Morgan and Brian meeting while they were alive. The probability seemed to be zero.
After Jody's reading, I contacted Elizabeth and told her how Morgan had helped Brian with the reading. Then, Elizabeth and Jody spoke on the phone. They thought it was great that their sons met (after death). The words "hiking in heaven" were significant to Elizabeth because she had been hiking every day since Morgan passed and had felt her son’s presence each time she went. However, the fact that Morgan and Brian were hiking together really didn't mean too much to either mom. But that was about to change!
MORGAN AND BRIAN CONNECT WITH MEDIUM TINA POWERS
A few days after I conducted Jody’s phone reading (in which her son Brian was with Morgan) Elizabeth went to get a reading in Tucson with medium Tina Powers.
Prior to Elizabeth’s reading with Tina Powers, one of Elizabeth’s daughters had met with Tina. Here I would like to note that although Tina knew some limited information about Morgan’s death, TINA KNEW NOTHING ABOUT BRIAN OR HIS CONNECTION WITH MORGAN.
Now Morgan's mother, Elizabeth, was having a reading with Tina in Tucson. Tina observed that there was another young man with Morgan. Tina saw a horse-a Mustang. At first, Elizabeth didn’t understand but then she remembered that Brian transitioned in his car, which was also a Mustang. Then Tina mentioned the song ‘Amazing Grace’ and Elizabeth understood the connection. Brian had passed in his beloved Ford Mustang.
What Tina said next was astonishing. “They’re hiking in heaven.”
We mediums never know which details will have the most significance to our clients. Thus, good evidential mediums give everything we receive, carefully, without putting our own spin on it.
Tina Powers and I -- completely independently from each other -- had simply repeated the words Brian and Morgan provided, thereby providing evidence:
1. The two young men became friends after death;
2. They arranged for their mothers to meet;
3. They are thoroughly enjoying life after death.
Nearly seven years later, Elizabeth and Jody continue to keep in touch...Thanks to their amazing sons!
-Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome! I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transforming at the lower left of www.soulproof.com. Listen to the free radio shows with top experts and our answers to life’s toughest questions including why children die. The website www.drgaryschwartz.com shares scientific research indicating that the consciousness/soul does not end after physical death. www.eternea.org is an excellent source of evidence that life and love are eternal. Let me know if you need a product, but cannot afford it, and we will send you a digital copy at no charge.
I am very sorry you have experienced all the pain, sadness and other difficult emotions that occur when your child transitions to another realm. At the same time, it’s very clear that:
1. Your children are alive and well in another phase of forever.
2. They are very happy and peaceful and want you to be that way too.
3. You will see each other again and can enjoy an ongoing relationship now.
4. You can shift your grief into a spiritually transformative experience that
improves your life and that of many others.
5. You can give more meaning to your child’s passing by lovingly serving others.
Many parents have done this and you can too!
Q: How can I stay true to my spiritual belief that we are whole, perfect, and complete when I feel broken? It's been 6 months since my baby girl left this realm and this month is feeling as hard as it did the first month. This brokenness within has created a gap between my joy and suffering and I'm stuck on the wrong side. Will I ever fill this gap within me? Or will I just learn how to live with a heart that feels like the Grand Canyon? – Coral
A: Congratulations on your spiritual beliefs, Coral. You are exactly right. I love your accurate languaging such as she left this realm versus I lost my daughter. You have a HUGE advantage by knowing that life is perfect right now if we could only see the big picture. That will facilitate feeling more joy and less suffering soon.
Try to not be discouraged about the chasm you currently feel. It’s completely normal to feel the way you do. Everyone feels sad after a dear one passes on, especially after just six months. You would be inhuman if you didn’t. Yes, the gap you feel will fill in . . . day by day, and year by year. I highly recommend the newly released Holistic Breathing session to release the pain and remember #1 – 5 above.
Q: I'm noticing something that has been bothering me. All my memories of my son seem to be stored in my long-term memory. There just aren't any "fresh" memories anymore. Just another ugly realization of the truth. I want a new memory of him. – Angie
A: Thank you, Angie, for expressing so well what many parents feel. New and unexpected ripples from a child’s passing can be grim reminders that his body has died. However, since you are obviously focused on solutions, I suggest considering two different responses:
1. Renew your commitment to treasure the memories you do have. Those reminders of your time together are very precious so continue to cherish them.
2. Doing (1.) will give you more energy to read Foundational Article #9 and do the Facilitated After-Death Contact session. Those will launch a new phase of your relationship with him. He is just waiting for you to get in touch and remember more deeply that 99.999% of who and what he is still exists. Your different but very real relationship will create new memories and inspire you to apply #4 and 5 above.
Q: I really need someone to listen to me without changing the subject to make me feel better or make them feel more comfortable. To understand, to just be there without trying to fix me. I'm getting back to that dark place where nothing matters any more. – Jodie
A: Ask and you shall receive, Jodie. Your letter prompted the leaders of HPH to begin assembling a team of group leaders and high functioning bereaved parents who are willing to do just what you described. So there’s one silver lining to that cloud already. They will help you and other parents with similar needs.
You mentioned feeling like you are getting back to that place where nothing matters any more. Many bereaved parents know just what you’re talking about. Some decide to die by suicide rather than continue the torment. If you or any readers are feeling that way, PLEASE reach out to us, your doctor, minister, close family, and dear friends. You don’t have to go through this alone. You can take the high road and eventually feel more joy and peace. I suggest that you read articles #2, 6, and 12 and take action steps where needed.
Q : My son passed on four years ago. There will always be a hole in my heart, but I’ve been doing OK. Yesterday, his widow posted a FB picture with my grandchildren and her new love who was there within a few months of my son’s death. I didn’t expect her to stay single forever, but lately my grief is more about my upset with her than my son's loss. – Hyla
A: Your reaction is understandable, Hyla. As with Angie, certain unforeseen events – not having new memories or seeing his wife in a new relationship – can trigger a new wave of pain and sadness. OR, they could trigger other feelings. Only you can choose which ones you focus on. Some “higher-energy” possibilities include:
- Gratitude that she and your son had children and you have grandchildren
- Relief that she’s not alone, sad, and having to raise the children by herself
- Happiness that the children will have a good man in their lives. It takes a special person to step into the role he did.
I’m 100% sure that your son is voting for you to feel those positive emotions instead of being upset. It’s a moment-by-moment choice for you. Some people like to wear a rubber band around their wrist. Every time you have a lower-energy thought (upset), snap the band and reach for a higher-energy one such as gratitude.
To all readers, please let us know how these recommendations are working for you and what else would help. Blessings, Mark
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-four years of training and experience in hospitals, pastoral counseling settings, mental health centers, and private practice.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop facilitator. He can help you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you and although it certainly may not seem like it—your earth-experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free articles, newsletters, and radio shows with top consciousness experts. Email your toughest questions about life, death, and afterlife to him at email@example.com.
-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and of Eternea
Beyond Closure - Nancy Berns Speaks at TED Talks
Nancy Burns at TED talks in DesMoines.
Nancy Berns, a sociologist at Drake University, explains why the concept of 'closure' distorts the process of grieving. She looks at the space between grief and closure and has found that not only is closure a fabricated concept, it is doing us more harm than good.
Thank you Irene Vouvalides, for this healing video! Please click here to view.
Fellowship and Coincidences by Ernie and Kristine Jackson
Kristine and Ernie
The Healing Power of Helping Others
On the evening of December 1st I had the most amazing honor of attending a fellow bereaved parent support group meeting with Elizabeth Boisson, who was their guest speaker. What I witnessed and was part of was nothing short of exceptional!
All of us here, we know the Mission Statement of Helping Parents Heal as we share and celebrate the signs and visits from our transitioned rock-star children. (This might be a good place to mention birds, electricity, or dream visits) As Elizabeth spoke, I watched the parents of this bereavement group in attendance. To be more specific, I watched many of them begin to smile and excitedly nudge one another as Elizabeth told them of our Mission and of how our loved ones make contact.
Elizabeth noticed this as well. Then something beautiful happened, some began raising their hands and shared their experiences. My words are inadequate to tell you how special watching this was because, as Elizabeth spoke and they shared, the energy changed. I often hear of “raising our vibration” in terms of making it easier for our children to make contact. Well, it is one thing to abstractly speak those words, it is quite another to watch it happen in a group that we were told afterward had not done this previously!
I was there to watch in support of Elizabeth and to share my own energy with those in attendance. I reveled in the smiles, laughter and even tears of gratitude. Several times I had goose bumps as the energy swirled around the room from their sharing stories about their children. I really didn’t plan on speaking and was not prepared to speak because I didn’t know about the meeting prior to us meeting at HPH meeting at Carol and Tony Allen’s home earlier in the evening. However, Elizabeth asked and for any of you who know me, I was pleased to do so.
I have been talking about our Quinton and how he visited for seven and one-half years! These visits so changed me, for the better; yes I continue to miss my son profoundly, but his visits demonstrated to me that life is truly eternal. Over the years I have muted my energy because as I believe all of you have heard me before, but this evening what was shared was completely unmuted. I shared all of awe, amazement, and gratitude to what I know to be the truth. Yes, this Divine and Awful Dichotomy: my Quinton isn’t here in the flesh, but he continues on! This is such an amazing journey!
We danced energetically as our energies swirled. More raised their hands and shared their experiences, and I continued to watch as their vibrations raised; as they positively glowed, smiled, hugged and many even laughed. The meeting ended, but it continued. Elizabeth and I separately met with individuals who shared in greater detail their experiences causing even more goose bumps on my part. This is where the rubber meets the road for me.
As we all went our separate ways, there were many embraces filled with gratitude and love.
We are in service to you. Thank you for allowing us to do so.
Please read more by Ernie Jackson below:
Messenger of Hope Suzanne Giesemann at the ASCSI Conference in Scottsdale
Suzanne Giesemann, Ernie Jackson, Lynn Hollahan and Elizabeth Boisson at the ASCSI Conference in Scottsdale December 2nd.
Spirit Shines through during Suzanne Giesemann’s Presentation
After a wonderful evening of parent meetings on December 1st, the morning of December 2nd was equally incredible. As Elizabeth and I finished presenting she let me know that Evidential Medium Suzanne Giesemann would be speaking at 9:00 a.m. the next day at the Academy for Spiritual and Consciousness Studies (ASCSI) Conference. On the heels of the amazing evening we had just experienced, I knew that I was supposed to attend this conference to hear Suzanne.
I was not on this spiritual path before our son Quinton transitioned but then he led the way. As I sat in the audience at this conference, it felt like I was coming home. The group and the conversation lifted my spirit. And then Suzanne was on the stage.
As she began, I was in awe. While I fancy myself something of a speaker, Suzanne is incredible! She is an evidential Medium, so when she makes contact, she does so in a big way and she gathers amazing information! The evidence she channels that validates the connection she has made is astounding. As she spoke I vacillated between tears of love and gratitude for being in her presence to goosebumps as she shared the connections she makes.
Suzanne briefly shared her background, which is definitely not spiritual, as well as the remarkable way she was introduced to this path. She also spoke of her appreciation for her husband, who lovingly accepts and encourages her calling to help others. And then she began sharing excerpts and examples from her readings, even playing (with permission of course) actual recordings. I was in complete awe of Suzanne and her gift.
In Suzanne’s readings she often pinpoints the transitioned loved one’s name and gives an accurate description of them. The validating comments she shares demonstrate that loved ones she has channeled are sharing both actual memories as well as things that are happening with their family and friends at present.
During Suzanne’s presentation, the can lights around the perimeter of the room flickered, sometimes one at a time and then sometimes several. We all observed this light play knowing that it was significant; afterwards we learned that nobody had physically touched the light switches. Towards the end of Suzanne’s session, Dr. Gary Schwartz further amazed us by sharing information about the Soul Phone and Electronic Voice Projection, exciting new ways to communicate with our loved ones in spirit.
In closing, I want to say that as a fellow grieving parent, I feel the pain of loss and live this new normal just as you do. While I attempt to share the light and message that life is eternal, living with loss still is not easy. At the same time, because my son Quinton has shown me the way on this journey, being part of Suzanne’s talk and the ASCSI conference is a natural progression to my healing.
With prayers and love, we encourage you as you continue to heal.
-Ernie and Kristine Jackson
-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton. His two books,'Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.
Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June 2015 presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here. Please learn more about Quinton and his family here.
Affiliate Updates -
Helping Parents Heal - Tampa
Marla Grant and Amy Diehl - Suzanne Giesemann
We have seen some amazing transformations since our small group launched in May with a handful of participants. Each month brings a new experience for someone and always confirmation that Helping Parents Heal is making a difference in the lives of grieving parents. This past week we had our November meeting and the extraordinary good fortune of having Suzanne Giesemann with us, sharing her insight about the eternal nature of life and connecting us with our beloved children. As the meeting progressed, we witnessed the transformation of the dark energy surrounding parents in deep sadness, grief and hopelessness into an amazing, tangible lightness as parents received solid evidence from Suzanne that their children were near and very much alive. Even for those who didn’t receive a personal message, just witnessing the confirmation given to others was sufficient to give them hope.
Our Tampa Affiliate group on Facebook began with just a handful of participants but each month, we have been blessed to have our message of hope and empathy reach more and more people. Most gratifying is watching newly bereaved parents grow in strength and hope as they reconcile their own loss and reach out to help others. Amy and I know the journey intimately, and while we respect the uniqueness of each person’s passage through grief – sometimes complicated by severe circumstances - we feel our mission is to bear witness to the idea that losing a child does not mean the end of joy or the destruction of our lives. If we allow ourselves to enter the loss fully with all it has to teach us, we find that accompanying the inevitable sorrow is an immense amount of discovery, wonder and even joy. Our children rejoice in that and are with us every step of the way. We are grateful to Suzanne, her gem of a husband Ty, (a.k.a. Wingman) and all the inspiring guests who come to share their knowledge and light with us.
-Marla Grant, our Tampa Co-Affiliate Leader
Helping Parents Heal - Cave Creek
Some of the Parents at Carol Allen's home on December 1st
Thank you to all the wonderful people that attended the meeting at my home. I always look forward to our gatherings. It is so awesome and comforting to talk about our beautiful children. I love listening to each and everyone of you and look forward to the next one.
-Written by our Cave Creek Affiliate Leader, Carol Allen
Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head
Irene, Heidi Hanson (Grace's mom), Kayla (Carly's best childhood friend), Classroom Door with Boston College poster
Greetings from South Carolina! I hope everyone can find some peace in this holiday season, Thanksgiving is usually a difficult day for me since it was Carly's favorite holiday. This year I participated in a 5K with Grace's moms (members of our HPH group) on Hilton Head Island. This was the first year Grace was not physically present for the race, I was so happy to run for Grace and Carly. With Heidi's help I finished the race in 38 minutes and had a beer at 9 AM after the race, such fun! Switching things up at the holidays helps!
Last Wednesday morning I was scheduled to tour our local high school, some friends are getting involved in programs to help students in need. Before I left the house I asked Carly to send me a sign, just needed to feel her presence in a way that there is no question she was with me. While we were touring the school we noticed some classroom doors were decorated with pictures and memorabilia from colleges around the country.
This is a picture on the door of one of the English classrooms. Carly graduated Boston College in 2011, I think I received my sign!
Sending love to everyone! XOXO
-Written by our Hilton Head Affiliate Leader, Irene Vouvalides.
Irene has a wonderful schedule of upcoming speakers; in January 2017, Evidential Medium and Messenger of Hope Suzanne Giesemann and in May 2017 intuitive and bereaved mom and blogger Sara Ruble. Irene holds her meetings on the second Sunday of every month from 1-4 pm in the Seaquins Ballroom, 1300 Fording Island Road, Bluffton SC.
While Suzanne Giesemann is in Bluffton, she will be offering a workshop on January 7th from 9 am - 4:30 pm. You can learn more and sign up here!
Please view Irene's wonderful interview on WSAV TV about Carly's Kids and Helping Parents Heal here.
Helping Parents Heal/The Next Step - Pensacola
Sarah and Kristen Brown-Sanders
With enormous gratitude, we would like to announce that our Pensacola affiliate group leader, Kristen Brown-Sanders, will be stepping down after 7 years of helping others heal. We thank her for all that she has done and for the bright light she provides. If anyone in the Pensacola area is interested in becoming an affiliate leader, please let us know!
The Culmination of The Next Step/Helping Parents Heal
For the first two and a half years after Sarah transitioned due to a careless driver, I thought death was just the end. The pain of those days is beyond description. Even though I didn’t think things could get any worse, they did. Her father took his life. It was at that point though, that the universe seemed to conspire to bring me to the people, the places, the books that I personally required to experience what is commonly known as an awakening.
I took it and ran with it. Sarah had all along been nudging me and giving me signs. Now I had to put all of the pieces of the puzzle together. And as I did so, I decided to share what I was learning with other parents in my community. “The Next Step” was born in January of 2010. A few years later after my friend Denise Kennedy introduced me to Mark Ireland, our group linked in Helping Parents Heal.
So for the next 7 years, a small group of us met at our little local library once a month to explore many issues related to our children who now reside in their spirit form. Whatever I was “chewing on” personally, would become the next topic. Sacred Geometry, Near Death Experiences, Meditation, Muscle Testing, Crystals, Vision Boards, Healing the Inner Child, Music Messages, Raising Your Vibration, Orbs, Yoga for Grief, Pendulum, Automatic Writing…..these are a few of the fascinating things we explored together. A few times we did have a guest presenter, (a medium and someone who does psychometry), but mostly it was just us healing our broken hearts by building a new kind of relationship with our angels.
A few months ago, I felt a shift start to happen, but I didn’t quite know what or why. I no longer felt a need to explore or seek. I just wanted “to be”. Finding a topic became a chore instead of uplifting. On my meditation cushion, I realized it was time for our group to come to an end. We will celebrating the culmination of The Next Step by going to see the movie “Collateral Beauty” together on December 17, 2016.
May you find many blessings along the way of your journey.
-Love, Kristen, our Pensacola Helping Parents Heal Affiliate Leader
Helping Parents Heal - Guildford, Surrey UK
Marta's Son Steven Finn, Gallery Restaurant in Islington
Please meet us for a Pre-Xmas Dinner for Bereaved Parents at Gallery -105-106 Upper St, Islington N1 1QN.
Let's create a new tradition. Pre-Xmas dinner for bereaved parents to gain some strength for the weeks ahead. An evening of good food, friendship, understanding, warmth and compassion.
Galley is a lovely modern restaurant and bar in Islington. We are a nice group. Please confirm asap, as we need to give definite numbers and menu choices very soon. This is one seasonal 'event' I'm really looking forward to.
-Written by our Guildford, Surrey UK Affiliate Leader, Marta Arce-Dubois
Please join Marta at Gallery Restaurant in Islington at 6:30 pm on December 17th. You can RSVP and learn more here.
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas
Jessica and her Mom, Tracy Venters - Olive Garden in Addison, TX
Join me on December 13th, at 6:45 pm at Olive Garden Restaurant for a special holiday meeting of Helping Parents Heal - Dallas. December is our holiday month and time to celebrate and get to know each other better over food and beverages. We did this last year and it was a nice to get to know each other better in a more informal setting.
This year we will be meeting for dinner at the Olive Garden at 4240 Beltline Rd, Addison, TX 75001. Reservations are for 6:45pm on Tuesday, Dec 13. Inquire at hostess for Helping Parents Heal, Asta Daniels or Tracy Venters.
Special thanks to group member Asta for helping to find a place to accommodate us. I hope you will join us. In January we will resume our normal meeting schedule at Unity Dallas.
Important: Please RSVP no later than Friday, Dec 9 to me at: firstname.lastname@example.org so we can give the restaurant an accurate count.
-Tracy Venters, our affiliate leader of Helping Parents Heal - Dallas.
Helping Parents Heal - NYC!
Sheri Perl doing EVP Readings - Her son Danny
The NYC Chapter of Helping Parents Heal met in my home on December 4, 2016. It was a small, intimate meeting in which we had the time and opportunity to record a group EVP reading. I just completed auditing the reading, which I promptly emailed to the parents, and lo and behold, the children came through with clear messages for all of us. I have only been recording EVPs since April of 2016 and I must say, I am more convinced now than ever that our children are with us. I am also thoroughly convinced that, in time, many of us will be communicating with our children-in-spirit through what is being referred to as “The Soul Phone.” It may sound far-fetched to you now, but it’s going to happen. If any of you are available to come to Scottsdale AZ in September of 2017, The AREI (Afterlife Research and Education Institute) will be holding a symposium in which we will be teaching many different methods of ITC (Inter Transcommunication). All I can say is, your kids would love you to get involved. They want to be in touch as much as we do. For more information visit: afterlifeinstitute.org.
-Sheri Perl, Affiliate Leader of Helping Parents Heal - NYC
Helping Parents Heal - Cincinnati!
Shayna and her Dad, Brian Smith
Helping Parents Heal - Fifth Meeting 'Seasons'
Today is the first Sunday of the month. It’s time for the IANDS meeting and the Helping Parents Heal meeting. The Bengals are playing this afternoon. Normally, that would be a conflict for me- the IANDS meeting from 1:30 to 3:00 and the Bengals game kicking off at 1:00. But we’re 3-7-1, playing terribly and not going to the playoffs this years. So, I don’t care about the Bengals game. I’m going to go to the IANDS meeting.
The weather has been typical late fall Ohio weather this past week. IOW, I haven’t seen the sun in days. Today, it’s cold and spitting rain (at least it’s not snow). I listen to a Podcast about the seasons of life. This one hits home for me. The new revelation for me is as moderns, we have virtually eliminated seasonality and natural rhythms from our lives. Even day and night we control since the invention of the electric light. People used to get up and go to bed pretty much with the sun. In the winter, we would rise later and we would go to bed earlier. Now, we refuse to accept it’s night at 6 o'clock in the evening even though our bodies, at least my body, is saying “time to go to bed” around 8 o'clock. We can buy tomatoes year round. We can go to the grocery store at 2 o'clock in the morning, in February, and buy tomatoes. The point to this is when the inevitable seasons of life crash in on us, we are flabbergasted. “What the hell is this?” When our kids go off to college or when our company lays us off, we don’t know what just happened. I can relate to both of those particular events. I knew when Kayla was born that “one day” she would graduate high school and go off to college. But, “one day” was not today, so I just put that thought away for another day. Then “one day” came and now here I am, an empty nester. So, what seasons do I have to look forward to? I’m not going to live forever. Tywana’s not going to live forever. The vows we took acknowledging “ ‘til death do us part.”, will one day come to pass. My mother just turned 80. I’ve been lucky so far. That luck will run out.
I am guilty of holding onto seasons for too long, a recipe for pain and suffering. This is true even in the literal sense. I hate winter. I find myself saying “Just last week it was 70º.” or “Just a few weeks ago, it was light at this time in the moring/evening”. The same thing has happened every year of my 55 years on the planet, and every year it’s like it takes me by surprise. I don’t want to let go of the sun and the warmth of summer. Eventually, I have to let go. Winter always comes. And, around the time I finally accept winter is here, I get the realization that spring always follows winter. A meme with George R.R. Martin (the writer of Game of Thrones) hits my newsfeed. It’s equating Trump’s presidency with the winter forecast in the first several seasons of GoT “Winter is coming.” they would always say. Winters in GoT are many years long. This winter we know will be at least four years. But, spring, inevitably follows winter. Winter cannot hold on forever. However, today it is winter, or at least late fall. I don’t feel like going to the IANDS meeting and I’m sick of the Bengals. I decide to stay in and turn on the game. I won’t cheer. I won’t let them draw me into some false sense of hope. I watch the game and, of course, the Bengals crush the Eagles. LOL.
It’s getting dark by the time the game finishes. I make a quick dinner so that we can get to the Helping Parents Heal meeting on time. We are expecting a small turnout. In fact I wonder if anyone will show. It’s dark and drizzling. We get to the meeting ten minutes early and see one of the couples whose been attending walking it. It’s so nice of them to come because they are actually leaders in another organization. I suspect they come to serve. And, they have a long drive to get here. It turns out they are the only ones who are going to show tonight. We talk about our kids, of course. We talk about what we have been reading and watching. We talk about how we get through these days until the winter of our kids’ departures pass. We talk about the future of the group. They are leaders in a group that is not as focused on the afterlife and the continuation of life and they express they think there is a need for our group. Maybe in the spring some people from their group will join us occasionally. Tywana and I have pretty much decided no matter how few people show up, we’re going to keep this going through next summer to give it a chance.
We head back home, watch a little TV and I decide to do some reading before falling asleep. And I read this, right on time.
“If you can help just one soul to find itself, if you comfort only one mourner, if you heal only one sick person, then the whole of your earthly life has been justified. How privileged you are to be aware of the tremendous power that is around you and about you, that enfolds you, guards you, directs you and ensures that you will continue to unfold your latent divinity and the gifts which are your cherished possessions.”– from The Silver Birch Book of Questions & Answers
Winter is here, but spring is always on the way.
-Written by Brian Smith, our Co-Affiliate Leader with his wife, Tywana Smith, of HPH Cincinnati. Please read more of Brian's blog 'Beautiful Light' here. Tywana and Brian had a wonderful interview with Tara Robinson-please listen here.
Helping Parents Heal - Hawaii
Beth D'Angelo-Hawaii Affiliate Leader
Choosing to be an Affiliate Leader in Helping Parents Heal came with a lot of thought, doubt and a willingness to serve those parents who, like me, were navigating through the death of one or more of their children. There have been times when I question why am I doing this, especially when no one shows up or when I have a guest speaker and one or two people are present. I have been asking a lot of questions of myself and I recently received the answers I was looking for in another HPH meeting.
I attended the November Helping Parents Heal Online meeting. I was among forty or so attendees and was thrilled to hear from the guest speaker, Suzanne Giesemann. To say the meeting was amazing is an understatement. The exchange of information, personal stories, solutions and the reminder that there is a greater reality out there hit me exactly where I needed to be hit - right in my heart.
In the Q&A, I shared the following:
“I have been asking for strong guidance from my guides and my son. What am I supposed to be doing with my story? All of sudden, I have been having very colorful, detailed and meaningful dreams and I am remembering them. The latest one was one in which I died. I knew I had died and it was peaceful and so beautiful. I was asking people if they could see me. Those that couldn’t didn’t say anything; those that could would say, “Of course”. Then there was meeting Jimmy. He had an NDE the year before my son died. Jimmy shared with me that while he was there, he experienced where my son is; a place of incredible love, belonging and peaceful beauty. This chance meeting was both unexpected and timely.
I get confused and sometimes don’t know if it is me or if Spirit is getting my attention by the people I am being introduced to and the symbolism in my dream state.”
I asked if Suzanne how she handled her own doubts, as she was moving forward in her own seeking.
Here are my notes from her response:
When you are ramping up and working with a higher frequency, you may feel out of balance - Just go with it - You will know what your task is and you will be guided and vetted by Spirit. You are working in the area of healing. Don’t worry about what’s down the road - Let Spirit guide you moment by moment. Spirit will show you”.
My takeaway was this: I have been guided, always have, and being willing to stay open for spiritual guidance is nothing new. I am just becoming more aware of what has been calling my name and what I have been asking for. I got a dose of “holy moly”, I am doing what I have been asking for. Suzanne was giving me permission to step into this light and let it guide me. If there is any doubt out there, please reach out to another in this organization. Share your story of confidence. We are the light bearers - both the student and the mentor. My role with helping others hold their story is unfolding and it is an honor to be part of the process.
-Beth D'Angelo, our Affiliate Leader of Helping Parents Heal - Hawaii
Helping Parents Heal-Phoenix/Scottsdale!
November 20th Meeting with Special Guest Nita Lapinski
We were pleased to welcome Nita Lapinski, author of 'Habits that Heal,' who led us in a guided meditation to help us overcome fear. The meditation was helpful and uplifting. The second half of the meeting was dedicated to sharing and we were grateful to celebrate the messages that our children send to us.
Please join us on December 18th for our special Holiday meeting with Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium. We are sure to have a full house so please RSVP and arrive early to have a seat! half of the $5 love donation will be given to Unity of Phoenix and Susanne will be kindly donating her half to the first annual Helping Parents Heal conference that will be April 13-15, 2018. Hope you can attend!
Love and light to all of you and to your beautiful children!
-Elizabeth Boisson, Phoenix/Scottsdale Affiliate Leader
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
Sheri’s Corner - Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast
“The soul has been given its own ears to hear things the mind does not understand.”
I have discovered this to be true, however, not always apparent in the physical world. Few of us were taught to “listen in” or go with our feelings. We were taught to be logical, to trust the intellect above all else, but I believe that we have been blindsided into believing that we saw the entire picture! We know that animals can hear sounds that never come through to us. We are told that we only use 10% of our brains. So what’s the other 90% about?
For sure Man has an arrogance about his mental capacities, stressing them as what sets him a part from the animals. But it’s not enough to be smart. We need to balance the mind with the heart, with the soul. We have to open the eyes and ears of the soul and expand our perspectives beyond the reaches of our intellect. Then we will understand the deeper wisdom that “the mind does not understand.”
-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here.
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