March 2016

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Welcome to the March issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!  

Hello!  We are glad you have found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal! 

We have some exciting news about the upcoming National Conference of The Compassionate Friends.  Helping Parents Heal has been kindly invited by the Conference Chair, Anne Castaldo, to donate time and services during the conference.  We will be assisting with 'Healing Haven', a space that will offer massage, reiki, aromatherapy, yoga and more.  Sara Ruble ( will be coordinating volunteers, including Christine Salter who has generously offered her time to the conference as well as to our Phoenix/Scottsdale HPH group.  To learn more about the conference, please click here.  To RSVP for the March 20th meeting of HPH with Christine Salter, please click here.

Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth.  We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones.  We have many affiliate groups available throughout the country.  There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter.  Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website,    

Sending love and light to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time.  You are not alone.

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.

Roberta Grimes - Author and Afterlife Expert
Children in the Afterlife
Two experiences of light in childhood have prompted me to spend my life studying nearly two hundred years of abundant and consistent communications from people that we used to think were dead. When we combine what the dead tell us about their present lives and their environment now with some recent scientific discoveries, we arrive at a beautifully detailed picture of the death process and what comes after death that can be especially meaningful for parents whose children have transitioned. Nothing can make the loss of a child less painful. For most of us, our grief is a process to be managed; it isn’t something that we really get over. But many parents who have loved and lost find tremendous comfort in developing a better understanding of their children’s lives now.
The Death Process for Children

It is important for parents to understand that those in spirit who manage childhood transitions deeply know and love each of our children, and they take special care to make certain that children who have left their bodies are kept from being fearful. If beloved relatives have transitioned before the child, then Grandma or Aunt Jane will come to the child’s beside and playfully lure the child away; or otherwise, the deathbed greeter might be an angel, a Star Wars hero, or even a religious figure. The point is to make that moment of freedom from the body a happy time for the child.

Oftentimes, pre-adolescent children will first be given some distracting treat. Tales abound in the afterlife literature of children taken to astral fields so they can spend time playing with the lambs, or led to the door of a beautiful playhouse full of like-aged children. Perhaps a little girl might wake up in a princess castle, or a little boy in the stable of the pony that he always wanted in life. Especially if there are no familiar people there to greet the transitioning child, it is important to ensure that children newly arrived – many of whom were very sick before death – will at once feel healthy and distracted and nurtured.

Evidence suggests that infants and miscarried children, and also children who are the victims of abortion, are picked up by angelic beings and carried to the villages where they will grow to young adulthood. It is striking, and important, to realize that those who manage pre-birth deaths make no difference between discarded fetuses and those that had been wanted by their parents.
Growing Up in Heaven

Many parents find comfort in thinking that a child is “with Grandma now.” And indeed, if a familiar relative or friend has transitioned before the child, then growing up in her home seems to be seen by those who oversee this process as the best option for that child. Too often, though, there is no one really suited to doing what the dead seem to see as the most important task in their world: the rearing of children who are briefly separated from their parents.

For children who have no one close to them already living in the afterlife levels, there are beautiful group homes and villages where they grow up at their own pace – apparently this takes just a few earth-years – in an atmosphere of perfect love. These children’s homes and villages are off-limits to any but a few carefully chosen people who make of the perfect rearing of these children a beautiful and sacred joy.

Nothing can replace the love of their parents. But in the childhood areas of the afterlife levels, your children will never know pain, or fear, or any negative experience at all. They will know only love and joy. We have many recorded communications received through deep-trance mediums in the first decades of the twentieth century, when many of those who had recently died had lived rather hardscrabble lives. I recall reading one communication that was received about 1910 in which the fellow who had died complained about how much he envied those who had died as children because they had all had such happy childhoods. They could not understand all that he had gone through!  

What About Our Young-Adult Children?
No child should die before we do. The loss of a child at any age can be the cause of agonizing pain, but it is important to understand that every new arrival in the afterlife is similarly greeted and loved. Even if your child has committed crimes, or has died due to a drug overdose or a suicide, there is no judgment by a religious figure. There is no condemnation. Instead, once our older children are prepared for it, there is a life-review in which our children are helped to see how they might perhaps have acted more lovingly or have made better and more productive choices. All of our children of every age are infinitely and perfectly loved. No matter how their lives went here, they remain eternal beings who receive forever all the love and understanding and nurturance that we wish that we could give them.

No matter the age at which your child transitioned, they all are waiting there for us as beautiful young adults who have loved us and been with us throughout the balance of our lives. Oh, the hugs! The laughter! The tears of joy! Our children will have been so close to us that they will know the details of the rest of our lives, but they will have a lot to tell us about what they have been up to while we were apart. Every one of us who has recently transitioned is given a party (they seem to party a lot in heaven), and having our children with us again will make our own parties especially joyous. 

Communication Across the Dimensions
Many of those who have gone before us will attempt to send us signs of their survival, and this is especially true of our children. It is important that you be alert for signs, and if you see anything that might be a sign – even if you have some doubt – it is critical that you always say aloud, “Thank you! I see that. Please do it again!” Parents who watch for and acknowledge signs can sometimes be deluged with them.

Consulting a good spiritual medium can provide reassurance that your child is fine, but make certain that you check references! And nothing else is quite the same as actually having a conversation, so you will be glad to know that progress in being made on what Dr. Gary Schwartz of the University of Arizona at Tucson calls the Soul Phone. It seems likely that within the next few years we will have this wonderful new way to make certain that our children are happy!

Roberta Grimes is a business attorney and a frequent speaker on the afterlife. Her books include The Fun of Dying and The Fun of Staying in Touch, and her website is She welcomes questions from grieving parents.  

Roberta recently interviewed Elizabeth Boisson and Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium, for her weekly web talk radio show, Seek Reality.  The interview will be available on March 21st.  Please check here to learn more.  Please view our list of recommended spiritual mediums here.  

10 Ways to Raise Your Vibration So You Will Be Able to Connect with the Celestial Realmby Karen Noé

God and the angels are there for you and always have been. Your loved ones who have made their transition are okay and will go to any length to let you know that. So what is the reason you are not always able to feel them when they are around?

If you are really serious about connecting with the celestial realm, you must first raise your vibration so that you are more on par with the frequency of their vibration. Below are the 10 most important ways you can do just that.

1. Set the Intention Set the intention that you want to connect with them. It sounds so simple, and it really is. When you set the intention of connecting, the law of attraction will bring them to you.

2. Become More Aware Now that you have set the intention of connecting with them, make sure to pay attention to what is going on around you. Look and ask for signs from them so they can let you know they are there.

3. Practice Forgiveness Forgive those who have hurt you, and ask those you may have hurt to forgive you as well. When you hold onto anger, not only are you harming the other person, but you are also harming yourself. As the old saying states, “It’s not the snakebite that kills you; it’s the venom that’s left behind.”

4. Be Compassionate Have more compassion with everyone who crosses your path. Really love and try to help them in any way you can. Send out only positive, loving thoughts and energy. You will feel better and so will everyone else who comes in contact with you.

5. Pray and Meditate Daily Praying is talking to God and the angels. Meditating is listening to them. As in any relationship, one must listen as well as speak. Make sure to take the time to pray and meditate daily so that you’ll be in a better position to sense the celestial realm.

6. See Through the Eyes of Others After leaving your body, you will go through a “life review” where you will see how you have affected those in your path. You will be able to “see through their eyes” the impact you had upon them. The best part is that you don’t have to die to go through this process. You can go through it now, before it’s too late. Try to see through the eyes of others right here and now to create peace in your life and in the lives around you.

7. Purify Your Emotions Begin to clear any negative emotions you may be carrying around with you, which include guilt, pride, anger, fear, or jealousy. These emotions interfere with your spiritual growth and block out the special light of the angels.

8. Be Grateful Be grateful for all the blessings in your life. When you focus upon the good things in your life, even more good things will come to you. You will also be opening yourself up to a much higher vibration.

9. Eat a primarily plant based diet When you are eating a primarily plant based diet, your aura will become clearer and stronger. When you eat a lot of meat, you carry around with you the pain the animals experienced when they were slaughtered.

10. Reprogram Your Thinking The predominant type of thought you have creates a corresponding state of mind. You can create your own heaven right here on earth by consistently thinking loving, positive thoughts. Those in the celestial realm often want to help us and may become frustrated when they are not being heard. The more important the message, the more persistent they will be in finding an avenue to come through with what needs to be said.

If you are able to master the techniques above, not only will you begin to feel better physically, spiritually, and emotionally, but you will also be enhancing your ability to hear what these wonderful, heavenly beings are trying to say to you! Have a wonderful, peaceful day.

Many blessings to you!

-Karen Noé is a renowned psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and energy healer with a two-year waiting list. She is the author of Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss and Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium’s Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now. She is the founder of the Angel Quest Center in Ramsey NJ, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. You can listen to Karen on The Angel Quest Radio Show by tuning to on the first Saturday of every month at 1:05pm Eastern time. Please also visit her website.

Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
March 2016

by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A.  The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad.  At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience.  You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again.  That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers.  Links at lower left of home page.
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering.  If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge.  Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others. 

Q: Feeling heartbroken again . . . my grandson called me mama when I tucked him in. He's going to be three in April. He lost both of his parents in July of 2014 when he was only 14 months old. I miss my daughter so much that some days it almost kills me. When he calls me mama my heart hurts so bad knowing he's not going to remember them. I always tell him I love him like his mama and his mama is a special angel mama. Sorry for rambling, but no one around me seems to understand my pain and heartache.  – Cheryl

A: You’re not rambling, Cheryl.  You are now part of a group that understands.  Those who haven’t had a child pass on think that you should be over it by now.  They don’t realize that the pain and sadness never goes away totally and it can take a long time to feel like you will survive.  That’s why it’s so important to have support from Helping Parents Heal.  Bereaved family members can help each other heal by sharing their struggles and solutions with others who understand.   When a child changes worlds, it is horrible and, at the same time, it is an opening to a spiritually transformative experience (STE.)  Like near-death experiences, STEs can radically change how you look at life.  Let me explain . . . many humans are walking around half asleep.  They are busy with day-to-day events and often imbalanced with too focus on pleasure and entertainment.  That’s why so many drink in excess, take drugs, watch brainless TV shows, keep up with the latest Hollywood gossip, and so on.   A child transitioning to the next phase of forever can be a potent wake-up call.  It makes you ask important questions and be motivated to seek sensible answers.  From a human perspective, it’s terribly difficult and painful.  From a spiritual viewpoint, it’s a perfect opportunity to awaken to the big picture.  Read foundational article #13 to learn more about this.   Good evidence exists that life doesn’t unfold in cruel, chaotic ways.  Rather, much data reveals that we, as souls, choose scenarios that make sense from a broader perspective.  Your grandson may be a little guy in earth-years, but is probably an advanced soul who chose to be born into all this.  You all will see each other again and laugh about your tears when you forgot that life and love are forever.  

Q: I just got home from the hospital after having a breakdown. My step-daughter’s murder had everything to do with it. Please tell me I'm not the only parent who has had to experience a collapse like that because I feel so alone. Like I should have been able to handle this better. We don't even have an angel date for her. Just when she went missing and when they found her body in the river. Devastating. Just devastating.  – Amanda

A: I’m sorry for your immense pain, Amanda.  It’s tough enough when a child changes worlds and you’re there with her.  Your grief is understandably magnified by the way she died.  I’m glad you know about Helping Parents Heal so you can get through this.  Yes, devastating.   You are not alone in your journey to surviving this.  Read articles #7, 10, and 12 and take action steps, for example, join a heart-centered church where you can get support, help, and understanding.  Nutrition Response Testing can often address organ imbalances behind emotional crises and get to the cause of the problem.  The goal is have a breakthrough, not a breakdown, but first we have to get you more balanced.  Feel free to contact me for more information about how you can do that.  Peace, Mark  

Q: It has been over two years since Joshua has been gone. Tomorrow, an organization that honors organ donors will hold a ceremony with the families of those that have donated organs. I am trying to muster up all of my strength to not think of Joshua's precious body in parts. I am very proud of his generosity, yet I would rather think of him as a whole person, not "parts". – Ana

A: Your letter reflects how heart-breaking this feels for you, Ana.  And of course it does.  What parent wants to go that kind of ceremony?  But as we go through life, it’s important to choose the high road and sometimes that’s very difficult.  I’ll bet that you can choose pride for how he is helping others, gratitude for your time together, and joy that you will see him again some fine day By now, the ceremony is over but you will encounter other times when you are sorely tested.  When that happens, remember that it’s a moment-to-moment choice to focus on the best feeling thoughts.  Also remember to breathe and that it’s OK to cry, yell, and question.  I suggest reading article #3.   Finally, regarding your first sentence, he isn’t really gone.  It’s just that, having dropped the body, his real self is living at such a high, fine energy that many people can’t see him.  But some can, authentic mediums for example, and there’s amply proof that he is alive, well, and very near.  He doesn’t need those body parts anymore.

Q: Please help. I know a young lady who lost her infant son in January.  She's having a really hard time so I asked her to join this group but until then I don't know what to say or do. I lost my twelve-year-old son five years ago and I'm not sure how to help her. Any suggestions would be great. Thanks for letting me ramble. – Misty

A: You need to meet Cheryl who asked the first question. I’m going to call you two “the rambling gals.”  : )   Congratulations to you for helping her, Misty.  Many parents have found that serving others takes their personal healing to another level.  You are helping her more than you will ever know by just being there for her.  Listen to her and let her talk and cry.  Tell her about your pain so she knows others have been down that road.  Share the foundational articles with her.  Encourage her to go to a supportive church; many of the HPH groups meet at Unity centers because of their enlightened and love-based support.  Let us know if you have any other questions or if we can help.

Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.  

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges.  
Email Mark at to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions

-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and of Eternea

Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson

Ernie and Kristine 

The Gift of Understanding
Although our son Quinton died, he didn’t really die; he transitioned.  Since that day, we have shared that there is more ...   But this is a hard thing to understand in this day and age.  This deep understanding existed before but it is frequently lost in the world we now live in.  About two years after Quinton transitioned back to pure energy and rocked my world with the absolutely divine knowledge that death truly doesn’t exist, a young boy in our mountain community tragically took his life.

The family and community were in shock.  This twelve-year-old, straight-A student, already a scholar and an athlete, was suddenly gone.  As the details emerged we learned he had been earning less than an A in one of his classes at school and he just didn’t know how to deal with it.  Isn’t it sad that today’s world values grades, toys, gadgets and worldly pursuits over love and spiritual growth – but that is a different conversation.

Our mountain community was still supporting us on our journey of grief and enlightenment, and before too long Kristine was in contact with the mom.  I empathized with the dad’s pain, but an opportunity to connect with him never came.  I wish it had; I know how we are as men.  We suffer in silence and run from our emotional pain.

Kristine and our daughter Cheyanne attended the service while I worked.  I felt awful about being too busy to break away from my job, but I was almost an hour away from where the service was being held and the world calls – too much to do.  So often work takes precedence over spiritual growth and true fellowship.

Kristine told me that at the service most were somber, but at the same time there was something very interesting going on.  The mom seemed elated; she positively radiated as she greeted those in attendance.  When Kristine and Cheyanne were finally able to connect with her, she sincerely apologized for being giddy at her son’s funeral and she was concerned she was completely freaking people out.

Being the enlightened soul that she is, Kristine told the mom that there was nothing to apologize for. Kristine quickly discovered the reason that the twelve-year-old boy’s mom was so uplifted.  Although he had taken his life with a gun that he had found in his home, the boy had already been visiting his mom from the Other Side!  The mom shared that he had made his presence known in a multitude of ways.  She was so excited and elated that ‘there is more’ that she simply could not contain herself.  She also realized that she could share this with Quinton’s mom!

I wish that everyone in our society could know this simple truth.  Yes, death sucks, of that there is no doubt.  The cancer, the accidents, the suffering, the accidental overdoses – all of it is awful.  Having to live without our child, our sibling, our mom or dad – it sucks, but no matter how awful the transitions may be, this simple truth remains – there is no death; there is only a doorway!

And of course we all hate it when people say this without having suffered through it. This is why I testify to this truth.  Don’t get me wrong – it isn’t easy, not in the least.  Especially when I see other intact families who are joyful and happy and know what I lost out on, or when I relive Quinton’s last moments in the physical world in my mind’s eye.  But at the same time, he blesses us with visits in the most spectacular ways.

And I am still here with the profound understanding that life is eternal.  And through this understanding I look at my life and appreciate why I am still here and what I am learning.

Many Blessings, my friends

-Ernie and Kristine Jackson

-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton.  His two books,'Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at

Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.

Gentle Yoga to Heal Grief
Tuesdays from 12-1 pm in Cave Creek, AZ

Elizabeth Boisson - Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal

Hello, wonderful Parents! For those of you here in the Phoenix area, I have just completed a 200-hour Yoga Teacher Training through Yoga Breeze on Carefree Highway.  I now will be giving 10 free gentle yoga courses at the Desert Broom Library, 29710 N Cave Creek Road in Cave Creek, AZ on Tuesdays from 1 - 2 pm to complete my certification.  The remaining dates are as follows: 3/8, 3/15, 3/29, 4/5, 4/12 and 4/19.  No prior experience is necessary.  We will be connecting with our breath, opening our hearts, going through gentle physical movements and easy meditation.  Please join us if you can! Space is limited to 9 so be sure to sign up on the Desert Broom website here

Helpful, Healing Books

The Helping Parents Heal website lists many good books about grief that have been read and recommended by other bereaved parents.  Please click this 
link to view the different books.  Also, please email your own favorite healing book so that we can possibly add it to the list.  The address is:    

Affiliate Updates -

Hilton Head Helping Parents Heal - February Meeting Affiliate Leader Irene Vouvalides and Parents, February 7th

Helping Parents Heal meets monthly at the Seaquins Ballroom meeting space at 1300 Fording Island Road in Bluffton.  Irene Vouvalides will be offering a Hope & Healing After Loss Workshop with Jake Samoyedny, a registered Lily Dale Medium, April 2nd from 1-4 pm at the Hampton Inn, 29 William Pope Dr, Bluffton, SC 29909,  The price is $50 per person.  Please contact Irene for more information at 201-233-6015 or  You can RSVP for the March 6th meeting here.  

Phoenix/Scottsdale Helping Parents Heal - 

Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson at New Vision on January 28th

Our January meeting with Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium,  was amazing. Over 100 parents attended her helpful and uplifting talk at New Vision. Susanne taught us how to program dream visits with our children and brought through validations from many different children for their parents who attended.  Although seating was tight, it was so nice to see everyone there. Thank you, Susanne, for your continued commitment to helping parents heal, and thank you parents for attending!  

Dr. Raymond Petras at Unity of Phoenix on February 21st 

Ray Petras and many of the parents who attended

Our February guest was Dr. Raymond Petras, who discussed 'Healing from the Inside to Connect with the Other Side'.  We then spent half of the meeting sharing validations from our children.  Thank you for joining us, Ray!  It was an uplifting meeting.  

Please join us on March 20th as we welcome Psychic Medium Christine Salter.  You can RSVP and learn more here.

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal and affiliate leader of the Phoenix/Scottsdale group.

Sheri’s Corner-

Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast

Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast

“What do I think happens when we die? I think we enter into another stage of existence or another state of consciousness that is so extraordinarily different from the reality we have here in the physical world that the language we have is not yet adequate to describe this other state of existence or consciousness. Based on what I have heard from thousands of people, we enter into a realm of joy, light, peace, and love in which we discover that the process of knowledge does not stop when we die. Instead, the process of learning and development goes on for eternity.”

Raymond Moody --- psychologist, medical doctor and author of books about life after death and near-death experiences.

When one person sees a white light, it is not unfair to assume that it may have been a hallucination, however, when thousands of people report seeing the same white light, we have to accept the possibility that there is  validity in their experience. What I love about Moody’s extensive research into Near Death Experience is that it has accumulated a tremendous amount to evidence for the presence of an afterlife. For more information on the subject I recommend Moody’s book, “Life After Life.” 

-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
Sheri will be speaking at 
Roland Comtois' 10th annual Living Beyond Loss Conference coming April 9, 2016 in Rhode Island. You can learn more by visiting his website, Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here.

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Stories of Validation -
Three Little Birds by Arie Stroup
Bodhe James Farkas and his Truck

March 4, 2013 – October 3, 2015

On March 3rd, 2016… It was only 5 months since Bodhe received his Angel Wings.  On March 4th, 2016… We celebrated his 3rd Birthday.  Bodhe had told me through my medium, Shannon Horton – that he wanted a cake, balloons, train rides, and that he even wanted to receive presents to celebrate his 3rd Birthday.  He said that he wanted people to give him presents, so that his Mommy and Daddy can then give them to kids his age here on earth – to help Mommy and Daddy celebrate and heal on his birthday. 

Bodhe never ceases to amaze me, always thinking of others.  He is the greatest gift in my life, he still is, and my gratitude for him is infinite.  Immediately, right after his passing, I was receiving many obvious validations that he was near.  I had a “direct” connection with him.  These many validations are beautiful, comforting, and at times - even funny… because he is still showing Mommy his true playful spirit.  With this very tragic loss, many blessings and miracles appear… from the signs we get, the new people we meet, and discovering our deepened faith and inner strength that we thought we never had.

The morning of his last day on earth, we did our usual rituals, waking up and letting the doggies outside.  Except this time, Bodhe stuck his arms straight out to each side, started running around the backyard and said “Mommy! I’m a Bird! Let’s be Birds Mommy! …Let’s Fly and be Birds!”  So, we both had our arms out to the sides, circling each other, giggling… Being Birds… Flying!  I felt so free and I felt surrounded by immense love, and this memory is forever treasured in my heart.  Bodhe loved everything outdoors… the minute we’d step outside, he would usually say “We’re Outside!”, and I would reply “Yes, we are!”  There is so much beauty within the simplest moments in life, so pure and innocent. 

When Aaron and I were seeking the perfect place for Bodhe’s “Celebration of Life” services… I saw a big grassy area at one of the locations.  I asked Aaron to follow me to the grassy area to participate in something fun to honor our son.  As Aaron followed, I shared my “Flying Birds” story about my last morning together with Bodhe.  And then… Mommy and Daddy began to run around the big grassy area, with our arms straight out… Flying like Birds!  Again, these were a few more moments - where I felt free and I felt surrounded by immense love.  I know that Bodhe was there with us, watching our great love for him pour out in the form of “Two Birds”.  

The next day, we found the perfect place to hold Bodhe’s services.  I felt and knew that during the entire search, Bodhe was with us - guiding us to a place that made him Happy.  It was a beautiful place and a great relief after such a relentless search, which no parent ever imagines doing in their lifetime.  When Aaron and I decided to choose this location, we walked out of our meeting and proceeded down a long outside corridor.  I felt so pleased to find the perfect place to celebrate Bodhe, that I instantly starting running down the corridor, with my arms straight out to the sides, saying “Come on Daddy! Let’s be Birds… Let’s run and be Birds!”  Aaron joined in, and once again – Mommy and Daddy were being birds, and I felt that Bodhe was with us as well. 

When I got to Aaron’s truck, there was something on the ground in the space where I needed to step to get into his truck.  There was nothing on the ground when I had gotten out of his truck.  Actually, there was no one else around; in the parking lot or even walking the grounds; especially no kids in sight.  When I bent down to pick up what was before me, I lost my breath - in amazement and with deep gratitude for Bodhe.  In my hand was a little toy convertible car with Three Little Birds in it. 

I immediately showed it to Aaron and he thought that a little kid had lost his toy.  I knew different.  I told him “This is from our son… remember - he wanted the three of us to be together.  See the one, two, three… Birds.”  Bodhe had always expressed to us, and wanted “Bodhe, Mommy and Daddy” together.  I asked my medium if spirit could manifest tangible items at a moment’s notice - and she replied “Absolutely”.  There is definitely more to us, beyond what we are on this earth... our “Beautiful Essence” continues on.  We are eternal spiritual beings and our children want us to cherish and celebrate the gift that they are in our lives.     
For the rest of my time here on earth, every morning – I go outside, put my arms straight out to the sides, and start running like a bird… with Bodhe.  “Let’s be Birds Bodhe!”  He is there with me every time! 

-With Peace, Love and Light ~ Arie Stroup

My Journey by Beth D'Angelo
Sean Richardson and his Mom, Beth d'Angelo

I would not have believed you if you had told me twelve years ago that I would be looking forward to another day, to more opportunities to smile, to cry and to be in the presence of family, girlfriends, to lead fitness classes, to create positive uplifting play-lists or to write about the death of my child and living with uncertainty...

I would not have believed you if you said to me twelve years ago that I would reach out to people I don't know and introduce myself as a possibility to lead a workshop, a new venture, a presentation about surviving and thriving after loss...

I would not have believed you if you said to me, that I would hold my baby granddaughter in my heart long before she was born or hold her securely in my arms and whisper to her that no matter what life brings, it is worth every bit of everything and not to give up on hope...

No, I would not have believed you.

You see, when you have been crushed under the weight of grief and sorrow, you can't see much of anything. You can't hear the pleas of those who care about you. The moment before everything changed, you can't imagine how deep is deep; how dark is dark or how much begging you would do with the universe to let you leave this world to be with this child. Sound harsh? Does this feel uncomfortable? Do you wish another word could be used so you felt a little more at ease?

Well, welcome to the world of grief.

Early in my loss, my dark days, a well-meaning person asked me to not to use the word, "died", but instead to use the words, "passed on". We were talking about the events that led up to Sean's accident and the reports from the Colorado State Trooper and Coroner. I remember thinking how interesting he casually threw that out for me to consider as though he was offering a snack instead of holding a broken heart.  At the time, I was too stunned by the death of my son to respond to any comment, and when this was said to me, I must have been in the grief stupor - but the comment did not go unnoticed.

Today I am twelve years removed from the shock of that night. I have traveled far and deep, long and hard on this grief journey. I discovered, like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, that the power to leave the place of uncertainty was always within me. Life catapulted me onto a journey that I would not have chosen for myself. Twelve years ago, I didn't know where to look for my shattered heart.  Today, I look back and I can see that my heart was put back together one jagged piece at a time.  I was tended to by many who held me with empathy, compassion and courage.

If you had said to me twelve years ago that I was going to look forward to another day with hope and purpose, I would not have believed you.

My journey continues, but now with hope, courage and purpose.

-Written by Sean's Mom, Beth d'Angelo
Beth is our newest affiliate leader of Helping Parents Heal on the Big Island of Hawaii

Sean (19) with his brothers, Jovani (3) and Chris (21) in one of his last pictures before his accident
Happy To Be of Service 
Wendy Schackley and her son Joel

A meaningful validation from Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson

My son Joel died of suicide January 14, 2014 and I have felt his presence while I have had to move forward in my life. Since Joel died, I feel an urgency to make a difference in the reintegration of service men and women back into society. You see, my son Joel was in the army and he served overseas in both Iraq and Afghanistan.  When he came back, he died because there was not a good reintegration program. He was and is a good son. Joel was a husband, a father, a brother and also a friend. Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson brought through Joel the night she gave readings at the meeting of Helping Parents Heal and I would like to share this experience with you. Joel wants you all to know that you can hear your children if you just listen!
Joel came through to Susanne holding up an army uniform and I immediately recognized him. Susanne said that she felt very emotional as she said that Joel pointed to Capital Hill and she had seen the White House and the Senate in her meditation before the parent meeting. This showed that Joel was communicating before we all arrived. Joel also told Susanne that he had gone through a spirit rehab to forgive himself that was unlike anything we have here on earth. He told us that he was “Happy to be of Service” and that he and I, his mom, were on a Mission Together! Joel said he working with me, getting people to sign on the dotted line, and I know that he does! He said that I even call it my mission! Joel also told me NEVER GIVE UP! I must admit that before I came to this meeting, I had felt very close to giving up!
After Joel died I wanted to make a difference and to honor my son, so I started a nonprofit called ‘The Ripple Effect - Helping Veterans and Families Heal’.  It has not been easy; I journal every day and talk to my son. He and the others give me the inspiration and guidance to move forward.
Susanne said that Joel was on the other side with a group of guys who had passed the same way he did. They were all good young people who did not want to take lives. Joel said he survived the war but after he came back, the real war started. He also said that the military never diagnosed him and that he was very glad he does not have to live that way anymore.
The other young people who were with him said they did not want their lives to be a waste and that they were grateful that I was not going to allow that to happen! Susanne said that I was everybody's favorite mom on the other side and they were giving me boxes of candy! (ha) They said that if they could still be here they would all be in my kitchen!  Joel ended by explaining that by the end of the year or the beginning of next year, things would start to expand.
I pray every day to have the courage and the strength to keep going with our nonprofit to honor my son and the others who died for our country. I know he is with me, helping me do this, because Susanne confirmed that we are on a Mission Together. Please remember to LISTEN to your kids. Thanks for reading and God Bless you all!

-Written by Joel's Mom, Wendy Shackley 

Julie's Validation
Julie with her bracelet and Monarch butterfly wings

I am always looking for signs and have found a few since my daughter Julie's passing 12-13-13. A couple of weeks after she crossed through the veil, I was walking around the high school grounds and noticed a butterfly wing. It was just one but it was beautiful so I picked it up. Then I found the other one from this beautiful Monarch butterfly that shouldn't have been around in December. I wondered if this was a "sign" that people were telling me about. A few steps later something black caught my eye. I looked on the ground and found what looked like a rubber bracelet. I picked it up and it had the word LOVE looking right at me. I knew in that moment my daughter was trying to get me to recognize this as a sign from her. There were three words on the bracelet and I could have picked it up upside down so there were 6 possible ways to see it but I picked it up with the word LOVE right there for me to see. I immediately began crying and rushed home to tell my grandchildren, her children, about it.  Thankfully they also believed it was from her.

-Written by Julie's Mom, Lynn Harper
Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? 

We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.) 

Also, if you have not yet done so, please send me your child's full name, Birthday and Angel Date so that I can add him or her to our list of children on our Facebook Site. We pay tribute to our children on their special dates with a favorite photo and a description of their lives.  Please send all information to Elizabeth at

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Upcoming Meetings of Helping Parents Heal
Helping Parents Heal - Pensacola, FL hosted by Kristen Brown-Sanders, April 6th. Please RSVP here.
NEW GROUP Helping Parents Heal - Hawaii hosted by Beth D'Angelo, April 23rd.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Ottawa, Canada.  Please contact Patti May for the next meeting time and place.
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Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head hosted by Irene Vouvalides March 6th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Tucson, AZ with Janice Crowder Torrez, NEW LOCATION!  March 24th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Sarasota with Sandi and Sandy Crea - March 9th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas, TX with PJ Spur, hosted by Tracy Venters, March 8. Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Psychic Medium Christine Salter, March 20th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Psychic Medium Shannon Horton, April 17th.  Please RSVP here.  
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Affliate Groups and their leaders (by alphabetical order)

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL

Elizabeth Boisson-Phoenix, AZ

Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL

Lancy Carr - Washington DC

Rick Colby - Columbus, OH

Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA

Sandi and Sandy Crea – Sarasota, FL

Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ

- Beth D'Angelo-Kona Side of Big Island, HI

Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL

Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC

Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho

Lavaughn Margraff-Columbus, OH

Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario

Maria Pe - San Diego

Glenda Pearson - Mishawaka IN

Sheri Perl-New York, NY

Tiffany Rose - Sedona, AZ

Tracy Venters - Dallas, TX
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Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ

Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC

Marcia Wasielewski – Columbus OH

You can read the bios and see photos of each of the affiliate leaders at our website:  

Please contact Elizabeth Boisson ( if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.

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Mission Statement of Helping Parents Heal: Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices. -Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal

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