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Welcome to the March issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!
Hello! We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
We have some exciting news about the upcoming National Conference of The Compassionate Friends. Helping Parents Heal has been kindly invited by the Conference Chair, Anne Castaldo, to donate time and services during the conference. We will be assisting with 'Healing Haven', a space that will offer massage, reiki, aromatherapy, yoga and more. Sara Ruble (Sararuble320@aol.com) will be coordinating volunteers, including Christine Salter who has generously offered her time to the conference as well as to our Phoenix/Scottsdale HPH group. To learn more about the conference, please click here. To RSVP for the March 20th meeting of HPH with Christine Salter, please click here.
Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth. We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones. We have many affiliate groups available throughout the country. There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter. Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website, www.helpingparentsheal.info.
Sending love and light to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.
Roberta Grimes - Author and Afterlife Expert
Children in the Afterlife
Two experiences of light in childhood have prompted me to spend my life studying nearly two hundred years of abundant and consistent communications from people that we used to think were dead. When we combine what the dead tell us about their present lives and their environment now with some recent scientific discoveries, we arrive at a beautifully detailed picture of the death process and what comes after death that can be especially meaningful for parents whose children have transitioned. Nothing can make the loss of a child less painful. For most of us, our grief is a process to be managed; it isn’t something that we really get over. But many parents who have loved and lost find tremendous comfort in developing a better understanding of their children’s lives now.
The Death Process for Children
It is important for parents to understand that those in spirit who manage childhood transitions deeply know and love each of our children, and they take special care to make certain that children who have left their bodies are kept from being fearful. If beloved relatives have transitioned before the child, then Grandma or Aunt Jane will come to the child’s beside and playfully lure the child away; or otherwise, the deathbed greeter might be an angel, a Star Wars hero, or even a religious figure. The point is to make that moment of freedom from the body a happy time for the child.
Oftentimes, pre-adolescent children will first be given some distracting treat. Tales abound in the afterlife literature of children taken to astral fields so they can spend time playing with the lambs, or led to the door of a beautiful playhouse full of like-aged children. Perhaps a little girl might wake up in a princess castle, or a little boy in the stable of the pony that he always wanted in life. Especially if there are no familiar people there to greet the transitioning child, it is important to ensure that children newly arrived – many of whom were very sick before death – will at once feel healthy and distracted and nurtured.
Evidence suggests that infants and miscarried children, and also children who are the victims of abortion, are picked up by angelic beings and carried to the villages where they will grow to young adulthood. It is striking, and important, to realize that those who manage pre-birth deaths make no difference between discarded fetuses and those that had been wanted by their parents.
Growing Up in Heaven
Many parents find comfort in thinking that a child is “with Grandma now.” And indeed, if a familiar relative or friend has transitioned before the child, then growing up in her home seems to be seen by those who oversee this process as the best option for that child. Too often, though, there is no one really suited to doing what the dead seem to see as the most important task in their world: the rearing of children who are briefly separated from their parents.
For children who have no one close to them already living in the afterlife levels, there are beautiful group homes and villages where they grow up at their own pace – apparently this takes just a few earth-years – in an atmosphere of perfect love. These children’s homes and villages are off-limits to any but a few carefully chosen people who make of the perfect rearing of these children a beautiful and sacred joy.
Nothing can replace the love of their parents. But in the childhood areas of the afterlife levels, your children will never know pain, or fear, or any negative experience at all. They will know only love and joy. We have many recorded communications received through deep-trance mediums in the first decades of the twentieth century, when many of those who had recently died had lived rather hardscrabble lives. I recall reading one communication that was received about 1910 in which the fellow who had died complained about how much he envied those who had died as children because they had all had such happy childhoods. They could not understand all that he had gone through!
What About Our Young-Adult Children?
No child should die before we do. The loss of a child at any age can be the cause of agonizing pain, but it is important to understand that every new arrival in the afterlife is similarly greeted and loved. Even if your child has committed crimes, or has died due to a drug overdose or a suicide, there is no judgment by a religious figure. There is no condemnation. Instead, once our older children are prepared for it, there is a life-review in which our children are helped to see how they might perhaps have acted more lovingly or have made better and more productive choices. All of our children of every age are infinitely and perfectly loved. No matter how their lives went here, they remain eternal beings who receive forever all the love and understanding and nurturance that we wish that we could give them.
No matter the age at which your child transitioned, they all are waiting there for us as beautiful young adults who have loved us and been with us throughout the balance of our lives. Oh, the hugs! The laughter! The tears of joy! Our children will have been so close to us that they will know the details of the rest of our lives, but they will have a lot to tell us about what they have been up to while we were apart. Every one of us who has recently transitioned is given a party (they seem to party a lot in heaven), and having our children with us again will make our own parties especially joyous.
Communication Across the Dimensions
Many of those who have gone before us will attempt to send us signs of their survival, and this is especially true of our children. It is important that you be alert for signs, and if you see anything that might be a sign – even if you have some doubt – it is critical that you always say aloud, “Thank you! I see that. Please do it again!” Parents who watch for and acknowledge signs can sometimes be deluged with them.
Consulting a good spiritual medium can provide reassurance that your child is fine, but make certain that you check references! And nothing else is quite the same as actually having a conversation, so you will be glad to know that progress in being made on what Dr. Gary Schwartz of the University of Arizona at Tucson calls the Soul Phone. It seems likely that within the next few years we will have this wonderful new way to make certain that our children are happy!
Roberta Grimes is a business attorney and a frequent speaker on the afterlife. Her books include The Fun of Dying and The Fun of Staying in Touch, and her website is robertagrimes.com. She welcomes questions from grieving parents.
Roberta recently interviewed Elizabeth Boisson and Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium, for her weekly web talk radio show, Seek Reality. The interview will be available on March 21st. Please check here to learn more. Please view our list of recommended spiritual mediums here.
10 Ways to Raise Your Vibration So You Will Be Able to Connect with the Celestial Realmby Karen Noé
God and the angels are there for you and always have been. Your loved ones who have made their transition are okay and will go to any length to let you know that. So what is the reason you are not always able to feel them when they are around?
If you are really serious about connecting with the celestial realm, you must first raise your vibration so that you are more on par with the frequency of their vibration. Below are the 10 most important ways you can do just that.
1. Set the Intention Set the intention that you want to connect with them. It sounds so simple, and it really is. When you set the intention of connecting, the law of attraction will bring them to you.
2. Become More Aware Now that you have set the intention of connecting with them, make sure to pay attention to what is going on around you. Look and ask for signs from them so they can let you know they are there.
3. Practice Forgiveness Forgive those who have hurt you, and ask those you may have hurt to forgive you as well. When you hold onto anger, not only are you harming the other person, but you are also harming yourself. As the old saying states, “It’s not the snakebite that kills you; it’s the venom that’s left behind.”
4. Be Compassionate Have more compassion with everyone who crosses your path. Really love and try to help them in any way you can. Send out only positive, loving thoughts and energy. You will feel better and so will everyone else who comes in contact with you.
5. Pray and Meditate Daily Praying is talking to God and the angels. Meditating is listening to them. As in any relationship, one must listen as well as speak. Make sure to take the time to pray and meditate daily so that you’ll be in a better position to sense the celestial realm.
6. See Through the Eyes of Others After leaving your body, you will go through a “life review” where you will see how you have affected those in your path. You will be able to “see through their eyes” the impact you had upon them. The best part is that you don’t have to die to go through this process. You can go through it now, before it’s too late. Try to see through the eyes of others right here and now to create peace in your life and in the lives around you.
7. Purify Your Emotions Begin to clear any negative emotions you may be carrying around with you, which include guilt, pride, anger, fear, or jealousy. These emotions interfere with your spiritual growth and block out the special light of the angels.
8. Be Grateful Be grateful for all the blessings in your life. When you focus upon the good things in your life, even more good things will come to you. You will also be opening yourself up to a much higher vibration.
9. Eat a primarily plant based diet When you are eating a primarily plant based diet, your aura will become clearer and stronger. When you eat a lot of meat, you carry around with you the pain the animals experienced when they were slaughtered.
10. Reprogram Your Thinking The predominant type of thought you have creates a corresponding state of mind. You can create your own heaven right here on earth by consistently thinking loving, positive thoughts. Those in the celestial realm often want to help us and may become frustrated when they are not being heard. The more important the message, the more persistent they will be in finding an avenue to come through with what needs to be said.
If you are able to master the techniques above, not only will you begin to feel better physically, spiritually, and emotionally, but you will also be enhancing your ability to hear what these wonderful, heavenly beings are trying to say to you! Have a wonderful, peaceful day.
Many blessings to you!
-Karen Noé is a renowned psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and energy healer with a two-year waiting list. She is the author of Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss and Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium’s Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now. She is the founder of the Angel Quest Center in Ramsey NJ, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. You can listen to Karen on The Angel Quest Radio Show by tuning to www.wrcr.com on the first Saturday of every month at 1:05pm Eastern time. Please also visit her website.
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A. The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad. At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience. You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again. That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers. Links at lower left of www.soulproof.com home page.
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering. http://www.soulproof.com/shop/ If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge. Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others.
Q: Feeling heartbroken again . . . my grandson called me mama when I tucked him in. He's going to be three in April. He lost both of his parents in July of 2014 when he was only 14 months old. I miss my daughter so much that some days it almost kills me. When he calls me mama my heart hurts so bad knowing he's not going to remember them. I always tell him I love him like his mama and his mama is a special angel mama. Sorry for rambling, but no one around me seems to understand my pain and heartache. – Cheryl
A: You’re not rambling, Cheryl. You are now part of a group that understands. Those who haven’t had a child pass on think that you should be over it by now. They don’t realize that the pain and sadness never goes away totally and it can take a long time to feel like you will survive. That’s why it’s so important to have support from Helping Parents Heal. Bereaved family members can help each other heal by sharing their struggles and solutions with others who understand. When a child changes worlds, it is horrible and, at the same time, it is an opening to a spiritually transformative experience (STE.) Like near-death experiences, STEs can radically change how you look at life. Let me explain . . . many humans are walking around half asleep. They are busy with day-to-day events and often imbalanced with too focus on pleasure and entertainment. That’s why so many drink in excess, take drugs, watch brainless TV shows, keep up with the latest Hollywood gossip, and so on. A child transitioning to the next phase of forever can be a potent wake-up call. It makes you ask important questions and be motivated to seek sensible answers. From a human perspective, it’s terribly difficult and painful. From a spiritual viewpoint, it’s a perfect opportunity to awaken to the big picture. Read foundational article #13 to learn more about this. Good evidence exists that life doesn’t unfold in cruel, chaotic ways. Rather, much data reveals that we, as souls, choose scenarios that make sense from a broader perspective. Your grandson may be a little guy in earth-years, but is probably an advanced soul who chose to be born into all this. You all will see each other again and laugh about your tears when you forgot that life and love are forever.
Q: I just got home from the hospital after having a breakdown. My step-daughter’s murder had everything to do with it. Please tell me I'm not the only parent who has had to experience a collapse like that because I feel so alone. Like I should have been able to handle this better. We don't even have an angel date for her. Just when she went missing and when they found her body in the river. Devastating. Just devastating. – Amanda
A: I’m sorry for your immense pain, Amanda. It’s tough enough when a child changes worlds and you’re there with her. Your grief is understandably magnified by the way she died. I’m glad you know about Helping Parents Heal so you can get through this. Yes, devastating. You are not alone in your journey to surviving this. Read articles #7, 10, and 12 and take action steps, for example, join a heart-centered church where you can get support, help, and understanding. Nutrition Response Testing can often address organ imbalances behind emotional crises and get to the cause of the problem. The goal is have a breakthrough, not a breakdown, but first we have to get you more balanced. Feel free to contact me for more information about how you can do that. Peace, Mark
Q: It has been over two years since Joshua has been gone. Tomorrow, an organization that honors organ donors will hold a ceremony with the families of those that have donated organs. I am trying to muster up all of my strength to not think of Joshua's precious body in parts. I am very proud of his generosity, yet I would rather think of him as a whole person, not "parts". – Ana
A: Your letter reflects how heart-breaking this feels for you, Ana. And of course it does. What parent wants to go that kind of ceremony? But as we go through life, it’s important to choose the high road and sometimes that’s very difficult. I’ll bet that you can choose pride for how he is helping others, gratitude for your time together, and joy that you will see him again some fine day By now, the ceremony is over but you will encounter other times when you are sorely tested. When that happens, remember that it’s a moment-to-moment choice to focus on the best feeling thoughts. Also remember to breathe and that it’s OK to cry, yell, and question. I suggest reading article #3. Finally, regarding your first sentence, he isn’t really gone. It’s just that, having dropped the body, his real self is living at such a high, fine energy that many people can’t see him. But some can, authentic mediums for example, and there’s amply proof that he is alive, well, and very near. He doesn’t need those body parts anymore.
Q: Please help. I know a young lady who lost her infant son in January. She's having a really hard time so I asked her to join this group but until then I don't know what to say or do. I lost my twelve-year-old son five years ago and I'm not sure how to help her. Any suggestions would be great. Thanks for letting me ramble. – Misty
A: You need to meet Cheryl who asked the first question. I’m going to call you two “the rambling gals.” : ) Congratulations to you for helping her, Misty. Many parents have found that serving others takes their personal healing to another level. You are helping her more than you will ever know by just being there for her. Listen to her and let her talk and cry. Tell her about your pain so she knows others have been down that road. Share the foundational articles with her. Encourage her to go to a supportive church; many of the HPH groups meet at Unity centers because of their enlightened and love-based support. Let us know if you have any other questions or if we can help.
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges. Email Mark at email@example.com to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions
-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and of Eternea
Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson
Ernie and Kristine
The Gift of Understanding
Although our son Quinton died, he didn’t really die; he transitioned. Since that day, we have shared that there is more ... But this is a hard thing to understand in this day and age. This deep understanding existed before but it is frequently lost in the world we now live in. About two years after Quinton transitioned back to pure energy and rocked my world with the absolutely divine knowledge that death truly doesn’t exist, a young boy in our mountain community tragically took his life.
The family and community were in shock. This twelve-year-old, straight-A student, already a scholar and an athlete, was suddenly gone. As the details emerged we learned he had been earning less than an A in one of his classes at school and he just didn’t know how to deal with it. Isn’t it sad that today’s world values grades, toys, gadgets and worldly pursuits over love and spiritual growth – but that is a different conversation.
Our mountain community was still supporting us on our journey of grief and enlightenment, and before too long Kristine was in contact with the mom. I empathized with the dad’s pain, but an opportunity to connect with him never came. I wish it had; I know how we are as men. We suffer in silence and run from our emotional pain.
Kristine and our daughter Cheyanne attended the service while I worked. I felt awful about being too busy to break away from my job, but I was almost an hour away from where the service was being held and the world calls – too much to do. So often work takes precedence over spiritual growth and true fellowship.
Kristine told me that at the service most were somber, but at the same time there was something very interesting going on. The mom seemed elated; she positively radiated as she greeted those in attendance. When Kristine and Cheyanne were finally able to connect with her, she sincerely apologized for being giddy at her son’s funeral and she was concerned she was completely freaking people out.
Being the enlightened soul that she is, Kristine told the mom that there was nothing to apologize for. Kristine quickly discovered the reason that the twelve-year-old boy’s mom was so uplifted. Although he had taken his life with a gun that he had found in his home, the boy had already been visiting his mom from the Other Side! The mom shared that he had made his presence known in a multitude of ways. She was so excited and elated that ‘there is more’ that she simply could not contain herself. She also realized that she could share this with Quinton’s mom!
I wish that everyone in our society could know this simple truth. Yes, death sucks, of that there is no doubt. The cancer, the accidents, the suffering, the accidental overdoses – all of it is awful. Having to live without our child, our sibling, our mom or dad – it sucks, but no matter how awful the transitions may be, this simple truth remains – there is no death; there is only a doorway!
And of course we all hate it when people say this without having suffered through it. This is why I testify to this truth. Don’t get me wrong – it isn’t easy, not in the least. Especially when I see other intact families who are joyful and happy and know what I lost out on, or when I relive Quinton’s last moments in the physical world in my mind’s eye. But at the same time, he blesses us with visits in the most spectacular ways.
And I am still here with the profound understanding that life is eternal. And through this understanding I look at my life and appreciate why I am still here and what I am learning.
Many Blessings, my friends
-Ernie and Kristine Jackson
-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton. His two books,'Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.
Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.
Gentle Yoga to Heal Grief
Tuesdays from 12-1 pm in Cave Creek, AZ
Elizabeth Boisson - Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal
Hello, wonderful Parents! For those of you here in the Phoenix area, I have just completed a 200-hour Yoga Teacher Training through Yoga Breeze on Carefree Highway. I now will be giving 10 free gentle yoga courses at the Desert Broom Library, 29710 N Cave Creek Road in Cave Creek, AZ on Tuesdays from 1 - 2 pm to complete my certification. The remaining dates are as follows: 3/8, 3/15, 3/29, 4/5, 4/12 and 4/19. No prior experience is necessary. We will be connecting with our breath, opening our hearts, going through gentle physical movements and easy meditation. Please join us if you can! Space is limited to 9 so be sure to sign up on the Desert Broom website here.
Helpful, Healing Books
The Helping Parents Heal website lists many good books about grief that have been read and recommended by other bereaved parents. Please click this link to view the different books. Also, please email your own favorite healing book so that we can possibly add it to the list. The address is: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Affiliate Updates -
Hilton Head Helping Parents Heal - February Meeting Affiliate Leader Irene Vouvalides and Parents, February 7th
Helping Parents Heal meets monthly at the Seaquins Ballroom meeting space at 1300 Fording Island Road in Bluffton. Irene Vouvalides will be offering a Hope & Healing After Loss Workshop with Jake Samoyedny, a registered Lily Dale Medium, April 2nd from 1-4 pm at the Hampton Inn, 29 William Pope Dr, Bluffton, SC 29909, The price is $50 per person. Please contact Irene for more information at 201-233-6015 or email@example.com. You can RSVP for the March 6th meeting here.
Phoenix/Scottsdale Helping Parents Heal -
Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson at New Vision on January 28th
Our January meeting with Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium, was amazing. Over 100 parents attended her helpful and uplifting talk at New Vision. Susanne taught us how to program dream visits with our children and brought through validations from many different children for their parents who attended. Although seating was tight, it was so nice to see everyone there. Thank you, Susanne, for your continued commitment to helping parents heal, and thank you parents for attending!
Dr. Raymond Petras at Unity of Phoenix on February 21st
Ray Petras and many of the parents who attended
Our February guest was Dr. Raymond Petras, who discussed 'Healing from the Inside to Connect with the Other Side'. We then spent half of the meeting sharing validations from our children. Thank you for joining us, Ray! It was an uplifting meeting.
Please join us on March 20th as we welcome Psychic Medium Christine Salter. You can RSVP and learn more here.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal and affiliate leader of the Phoenix/Scottsdale group.
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast
“What do I think happens when we die? I think we enter into another stage of existence or another state of consciousness that is so extraordinarily different from the reality we have here in the physical world that the language we have is not yet adequate to describe this other state of existence or consciousness. Based on what I have heard from thousands of people, we enter into a realm of joy, light, peace, and love in which we discover that the process of knowledge does not stop when we die. Instead, the process of learning and development goes on for eternity.”
-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
Raymond Moody --- psychologist, medical doctor and author of books about life after death and near-death experiences.
When one person sees a white light, it is not unfair to assume that it may have been a hallucination, however, when thousands of people report seeing the same white light, we have to accept the possibility that there is validity in their experience. What I love about Moody’s extensive research into Near Death Experience is that it has accumulated a tremendous amount to evidence for the presence of an afterlife. For more information on the subject I recommend Moody’s book, “Life After Life.”
Sheri will be speaking at Roland Comtois' 10th annual Living Beyond Loss Conference coming April 9, 2016 in Rhode Island. You can learn more by visiting his website, www.rolandcomtois.net. Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here.