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December 2015



 

 

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Welcome to the December issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!  

Hello!  We are glad you have found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal! 

Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth.  We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones.  We have many affiliate groups available throughout the country.  There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter.  Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website, www.helpingparentsheal.info.    

Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time.  You are not alone.


-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.

Uplifting Books

Angels Three-The Karen Perry Story
One Woman Finds Here Way Back From the Ultimate Loss

Written by Karen Perry 11-11-15
 
Here it is November again…the hardest month of the year for me.  The reminders are everywhere that Thanksgiving is right around the corner.  I can smell it in the air, see it in the stores, and I feel the deepest pain in my heart. 
 
November 23rd, 2011 :
Thanksgiving eve [zero hour]. 
Superstition Mountain – Apache Junction, AZ
 
It was a cool, crisp, dark moonless night.  Suddenly a large explosion, atop the majestic Superstition Mountain illuminates the sky for miles.  The impact is captured on a home security cam. Hundreds of people witness it. 
 
911 Call: (Actual transcription)
6:34 pm
 
“911 What is your location?”
 A plane just crashed into the Superstition Mountains…just at the top.
“Ah OK a PLANE did?”
Yeah a PLANE did!  It flewit was flying over us, we were watching it fly over us and it just burst into flames. It, it’s just…..The mountain is on FIRE!
“Okay.”
Up at the top though
“Ok the Superstition Mountain right?”
YES!  
“THE MOUNTAIN IS ON FIRE?”
The mountain is on fire, up at the top, yes it is. 
“Okay.”
They didn’t see the peak they were flying blind. [background oh my God] Oh my God! “Okay, do you know, ok so you were watching?”
 Yeah, we live up here and it’s, it’s, do you know where Flat Iron is?  And ah Shiprock?  It’s right up by Shiprock it looks like they didn’t know Shiprock was there. 
“Hold on…just a second for me. [Pause] Okay, we have multiple calls on it sir, we are sending help there.”
 
That Wednesday morning started out like any other day.  I got my kids ready for school.  My daughter Morgan 9, and son Logan 8, had half days and my son Luke 6, did not have school that day, so he stayed home with me.  I told him that he was going on an airplane ride and spending Thanksgiving in Safford with his dad. Unclothed, he jumped up and down cheerfully announcing “yay, I LOVE THANKSGIVING!”
 
Just minutes after the explosion, a rescue team was dispatched in the night,  arriving on scene by helicopter.  A roaring fire raged on, lighting up the darkness, and dangerously steep terrain made it almost impossible to find anyone.  The helicopter hovered precariously close to the Superstition Mountain, while lone rescuer jumped out of the helicopter yelling in vain at the top of his lungs.  The scene was eerie and surreal with pitch black darkness in stark contrast to fire and smoke. The loud rotor-wash of the heli, was competing with the sound of raging fire, and one man’s job to find people alive.  Desperately calling out with all of his might and risking his own life, the first man on the scene atop Superstition Mountain was sliding and falling amid the fire and slippery shale.
 
Hours later, when the fire had mostly abated, a team of National Transportation Safety Board, Federal Aviation Administration, and rescue workers arrived on the scene by helicopter.   They confirmed that the bodies of all six people who were aboard the flight were accounted for, and that there were NO SURVIVORS.  Little was left in the wreckage, and the occupants were killed instantly when the aircraft impacted the terrain at 250 mph.
 
They were only airborne for six minutes.  And then they were gone.   A twenty minute flight had ended in tragedy.
 
Russel Hardy, 31- Pilot 
Joseph Hardwick, 22 –(In the co-pilot seat and just going along for the ride)
Shawn Perry, 39 - Pilot – (In the back seat of the airplane with his 3 children)
Morgan Perry, 9  
Logan Perry, 8 
Luke Perry, 6. 
 
My name is Karen Perry.
 
The three children that perished in the accident were mine. The Superstition Mountain is visible from my back yard. My child care provider took the kids to the airport that night because I was sick.  Thankfully I did not see it happen. Pinal County Sheriff Paul Babeu had the unenviable task of notifying me at my Gold Canyon residence. 
 
I stared in disbelief at the Thanksgiving cards my boys had made me just three days earlier at church.  I looked at their backpacks and shoes scattered around the floor by my front door.   The jacket that I told Logan to take because it was cold outside was still sitting on the shoe rack.  They were just here, I just said “goodbye” to them a couple of hours ago!   Logan almost got out that night without saying goodbye.  I told him to get back in the house and give me a hug and kiss, and made him promise to be good for his dad.
 
The months that followed are a blur and were so traumatic I remember very little.   Friends were watching me around the clock.  I was dazed, confused, and could barely move….. it felt as though cement had been poured all over my body.  I began seeing a psychiatrist who put me on medications for depression and anxiety.   I sought out additional help in the form of grief counseling.  I prayed continuously. I read the Autopsy reports, cause of death,  “BLUNT FORCE TRAUMA.” Now all I have left of my children are my memories and three small black boxes of ashes. Three months after their death, I lost our house.
 
Morgan, Logan, and Luke I think about you every single day and I will never forget you or the life we once had. My sweet little Morgan, every single night when I tucked you into bed I would ask if you were my little angel.  You always told me “yes”……… now I know that you really are!   No more seizures in heaven sweet child.  I can still hear you singing “when I see your face, there’s not a thing that I would change, because you’re amazing, just the way you are.”  Morgan you endured so much pain and displayed so much strength in your short time on this earth.  I love you forever and will never forget the lessons you taught me.  Bye, bye butterfly.
 
About a week before the accident we were in the car stopped at a light.  My son Logan reached over to hold my hand. “Mother, if I die next week does that mean you will still be my mother?”  Stunned at his question I told him “of course Logan, I will always be your mother.”   My dear son, Logi Bear, what an amazing eight years we had together!  I would not have missed it for anything.  You little man, were the love of my life and I will never forget you.  I’ll bet the movies, popcorn, and “snack” in heaven are pretty cool.
 
Luke every morning you would look outside the window and tell me “today is a beautiful day Mommy!”  It would instantly turn the craziest morning into a thing of beauty. My sweet little man, I blow a hundred kisses to you each day in the clouds that you loved so much.  I will always remember your big brown eyes, your sweet smile, and beautiful, pure innocent heart of gold.
 
Rest in peace my sweet angels.
 
And with that I would like to point out that my faith and trust in God is stronger than ever. 
 
“It’s natural to get mired in the sadness, the fear, the horror, the upset, and everything else that you can imagine.” ~Ashley Davis-Bush~  Grief Counselor & author of “Transcending Loss.”
 
I have no idea why I was left behind.  Only that my children taught me so much about life and that my life is not over…I am supposed to do more work here on earth. The memories that I shared with my children live within me forever. God had entrusted me as a mother to these three beautiful babies. But dealing with special needs children, my marriage toppled leaving me a single mom.  So many times I would ask God “why me?  I am not equipped to deal with this.”
 
I am commercial a pilot and worked flying air ambulance with my children’s father.  We flew many times back and forth over the Superstition Mountain, at night.  The Mountain is practically in my back yard.  My two life dreams, flying and having a family collided into a million pieces…… in one single instant. And I was never a hiker…but since the accident I have hiked the treacherous Superstition mountain eight times and I am planning another hike on the anniversary this year.
 
As anyone who has lost a child knows, I want my children to be remembered.  Critically acclaimed author Landon J. Napoleon beautifully captures the essence of my life with my children and their father, in our just released book Angels Three:  The Karen Perry Story. What I want you to know is that this book does not focus on the tragedy that occurred that fateful night.  Yes, there is tragedy and it is real. But I am hopeful that my story inspires you.
 
And you know what?  I am thankful.  How do I feel thankful in all that has happened?  I am thankful to God for my life, I am thankful to have had these amazing little people in my life who have taught me so much.  I am thankful for the outpouring of love, compassion, and human kindness that I never knew existed.  Beyond that, what can we all be thankful for?   We can be thankful for fresh air, sunshine, for the people in our lives, for the things that we love, for being able to see, to hear, to feel.   All things that God has made possible for us.
 
ANGELS THREE:  The Karen Perry Story, available now on Amazon.com, ibook, and Barnes and Noble.  
 
Please visit my website 
www.3wingsoflife.org for more information about the book and the non-profit organization I started called 3 Wings of Life.  Reviews for the book are on the site.  See clips from Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday Series “In Deep Shift, with Jonas Elrod.”  Click “About Us” then “Media.”
 
In this very personal journey called life, I wish you all of God’s peace, love, and grace and of course a Happy Thanksgiving!
 

-Karen Perry      

Karen is a member of Helping Parents Heal, a friend and an inspiration.  I hope that you will have a chance to read her book. -Elizabeth Boisson 

The Helping Parents Heal website lists many good books about grief that have been read and recommended by other bereaved parents.  Please click this 
link to view the different books.  Also, please email your own favorite healing book so that we can possibly add it to the list.  The address is:  boissonelizabeth@gmail.com.         

The All Souls Procession in Tucson, Arizona - November 8th
Photo by Kris Dodge

The All Souls Procession with Ben's Bells

We were fortunate to walk in the All Souls Procession in Tucson with Ben's Bells and the Tucson High Steel Drum Band.  This event began in 1990 and it is now one of the most important, inclusive and authentic public ceremonies in North America.  Over 120,000 people participated in 2014.  This breathtaking event celebrates the lives of our loved ones and allows individuals to grieve in an artistic, creative and beautiful manner.  The procession begins at 6:30 pm and winds around two scenic miles in downtown Tucson.  It finishes at the Mercado and there is a breath-taking grand finale.  The energy at the procession is positive and compassionate and everyone there shares the pain of having a loved one transition.  My daughter Alix joined me for the procession.  Here are her thoughts:

It was amazing to walk with so many people who felt the same grief and hole in their hearts.  It seemed as though everyone was sending out their loving energy to encompass all of downtown Tucson and that the people who attended were encircled in a loving embrace. As if all the broken hearts had come together to form one enormous, healthy, beating heart.  It truly felt magical; as if we were walking through different dimensions where the dead and the living, painted in skull face, came together as one.

I feel grateful to have attended with Janice Crowder-Torrez, our Tucson affiliate leader and thank Jeannette Maré and the other wonderful souls at Ben's Bells for allowing us to be a part of this special event.  

Please visit www.allsoulsprocession.org to learn more, and visit www.bensbells.org to learn more about Jeannette Maré and her kindness project, dedicated to her beautiful son Ben. 

Jeannette Maré and the wonderful Ben's Bells staff with the Tucson Steel Drum Band

Medium Jack Mario

November 19th Meeting of Helping Parents Heal - Scottsdale/Phoenix
With Medium Jack Mario

Hi, my name is Jack Mario and I am an evidential medium who as been communicating with Spirit World since I was a child. I started doing one-to-one sittings when I was in junior high school because of friends realizing my connection to Spirit World was genuine. It started as friends from school wanting to know who was around them, after going to their parents with information the parents had to validate, parents became intrigued. After that it moved into parents and other relatives of theirs that sought me out for a connection to their loved ones. I even read for a couple of my high school teachers. After roughly 4 years I did my first professional sitting, 3 weeks out of high school. I did the college things for a couple years, worked a full-time and part-time job, and around age 21 moved into focusing full-time on my work as an evidential medium. Along with one-to-one and group sittings, I lecture about mediumship, psychic awareness, self-empowerment, and intuition.

Jack is talented and compassionate.  If you are in the area, we hope to see you at the meeting!  We will be doing a drawing so that he can give away a free one-on-one reading to one of the parents who attend.  To learn more about Jack, please visit www.JackMario.com.  You can RSVP for this event here. We hope to see you there!  We kindly request a 'love donation' of $5 per person that is split equally between Jack and Unity of Phoenix.  -Elizabeth Boisson

Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson at Unity of Phoenix!

Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson at the October 22nd Meeting of Helping Parents Heal - Scottsdale Phoenix with some of the Parents who participated.   

Thank you, Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson, aka Big Love, for a wonderful, healing evening of Yoga at Unity with Helping Parents Heal. Big Love is a certified Yoga instructor and a Prayer Chaplain at Unity of Phoenix.  We appreciate the time he took to come and help us learn breathing and relaxation techniques to heal grief. Plus the Guided Meditation was wonderful! 


-Wow! Just what I needed Thaddeus and Elizabeth! Thank you to All my beloved friends and new friends in this group for your heartfelt sharing. XOXO - Laurie Savoie

-I loved the meeting tonight. So good to hear the stories behind the faces and to learn about Our Kids. Thx for the yoga, I won't be wearing a dress again lol. It was so relaxing and peaceful nonetheless. - Maggie Copus

 

Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
December 2015

by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A.  The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad.  At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience.  You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again.  That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
 
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers.  Links at lower left of www.soulproof.com home page.
 
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering. http://www.soulproof.com/shop/  If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge.  Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others. 


Q: I just don't know how I'm going to make it through this month. Saturday is our son's birthday and our first one without him. November 24th will be his 1st anniversary in heaven. I have not had a dream of him, felt him, and no messages at all.  He must be mad at me because I asked him to leave our home two days before he was killed. His dad and I are just heartbroken. We miss him so much and so do his daughters who are 7 and 11. - Paula
 
A: I’m sorry for your heartache, Paula.  I know it is very tough.  I’m not going to lie to you . . . the first set of anniversaries are tough.  I’ve never worked with bereaved parents who said otherwise.  They do, however, get easier as the years go by. How you make it through this and every month is one moment at a time, leaning on others, prayer, and crying.  Read Foundational Article #6 for more information about how to do that. 

It’s crucial for you to remember that anger is a lower energy emotion that souls drop when they arrive in spirit world/heaven.  He is not mad at you because he has a cosmic view now.  He is hoping that you will let go of lower energy emotions such as guilt and hopelessness.  Doing so increases the chances that you be able to detect his presence and contacts.  To learn more about that, read article #16. Please let us know how it’s going and stay in touch.  Life and love are eternal, Mark
 
Q: I am struggling tonight.  Holidays are around the corner and my heart hurts very deeply. I miss my baby so much. The next few months are going to be painful. - Hanne
 

A: You are right, Hanne.  The holidays are tough.  It’s human nature to strongly associate special times with loved ones.  And when your loved ones have graduated from earth-school, it feels like a giant hole. 
 
The upside to that is that the soul of your departed loved one is very near, especially around the holidays.  Read article #3 as well as the ones I recommended for Paula.  Serving others in some way—staffing a Salvation Army donation kettle or serving holiday meals to those in need—is another recommendation.  This helps convert pain and sadness into peace and joy as you honor your child’s life by helping others. 
 
Q: October 30th was a year since I lost my son to diabetes.  I said that I was going to be strong and keep my head up, but it seems like I have no control over my own mind.  All I can think about is what I was doing this time last year and what I said to him.  Every minute is replaying over and over in my head and it is literally making me nauseous. I miss him so much. - Mary
 
A: As you can see from the other letters, Mary, you are not alone on this one.  It’s important to take action steps before this affects your health and your other relationships. I recommend three things:

1. Wear a rubber band around your wrist.  Whenever you find yourself obsessively replaying details from the past, pull it back slightly so it lightly snaps your wrist.  That will momentarily break the pattern of feeling no control over your thoughts.
 
2. Then immediately reach for a higher feeling thought such as gratitude for the good times you had together and wonderful memories.  Or, if that feels too sad, make a positive affirmation such as “I’m going to be strong for myself, my loved ones, and my son!”  Read the “LET” formula in article #6/key #20 for more details. 
 
3. Get a nutritional checkup to ensure that your brain and hormonal organs have the key nutrients they need to function normally.  A deficiency of calming minerals and/or essential fatty acids, for example, can create feelings of lack of control.  See article #6/key #11 to learn more about this safe, affordable, natural, and effective approach. 

Let us know if you’re not better in 60 day, please.  Love and light (is all that really exists), Mark
 
Q: This is my second Halloween without my precious Josh. Thanksgiving would have been his birthday. I'm so broken tonight. Will this pain ever end? - Reta
 
A: Join the crowd, Reta.  Will that pain ever end?  It depends on your future thoughts, words, and deeds.  Even though they still have some sadness and miss their child, some parents describe feeling completely healed after a number of years.  Others describe a lessening each year so it feels like a silver dollar-sized hole in the heart versus a Grand Canyon-sized one. 
 
Article #14 teaches a number of keys to remember when you feel so broken.  Be sure to reach out to others and lean on them.  Then, when you’re doing better, you can pay it forward and help others.  Join a Helping Parents Heal group or, if there’s not one in your area, help start one.  We walk new leaders through it.  It’s a simple and powerful way to transmute your pain into meaning.  Please let us know how you are doing.  You’re not alone in this journey and you will get through it.  Peace, Mark

Q: Today was our son’s sixth anniversary since transitioning from this world.  I was raised in a religion that focused a lot on guilt and shame.  I haven’t been perfect, but who is?  Sometimes I wonder if God punished me by taking my son and making my life so sad.  Would a loving God work this way?  - Sandy
 
A: Thank you for asking these critical questions, Sandy.  I fault some organized religions for doing such a poor job that people even consider this possibility.  You were a parent.  Would you have punished your son so horribly for anything he did?  Of course not!  How can we imagine, then, that an all-loving and all-knowing Creator would do such a thing? 
 
Many people were brought up in religions that focused on fear and control versus love and service.  Then when a crisis occurs—such as the death of a child—they lose their clarity and wonder if maybe those fearful teachings were right.  Trust your inner heart and release any concerns about God punishing you or vengefully taking your son.  The intelligence, energy, and love that created and sustains all life doesn’t operate that way. 
 
To learn more about this vital subject, see articles # 11 and 15. Parents go through enough when a child dies.  They shouldn’t have to suffer even more due to absurd teachings about a wrathful and punishing God.  Chew on all this for a while and let us know if you have any follow-up questions.  Love and light, Mark
 
Q: Our children who die at a young age are evolved souls.  I get that.  But I also believe that we parents who chose these painful situations are also older souls.  How can I remember that when it gets so sad?  - Sandi

A: Great question, Sandi, and a wonderful way to close this Q & A on a high note!  You’re right . . . bereaved parents are more likely to be intermediate or advanced souls.  They understand that great pain creates the potential for growth and service.  They also have so much love that they agreed to play the role of parents for souls who didn’t have to be on Earth very long.  While planning this on a soul level, they knew they would feel immense pain and sadness, but they agreed anyway. 
 
How can you remember all this more deeply?  That, my friend, is one of the most important questions a human can ask! Going through tough times can help you remember who you are and Who walks beside/within you always. Recalling that great news while on Earth, even a little bit, helps you be a brighter light always and in all ways.  Article #1 shares some evidence that life is forever.  Article #2 lists the great news that accompanies knowing #1. Post it where you will see it often. 
 
Centering practices are also a powerful way to remember the big picture.  Article #10/key #5 about Awareness lists some ways to do this.  Thanks again for asking such a high level question.  Blessings, Mark


Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.  

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges.  
Email Mark at mark@soulproof.com to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions

-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and an Affiliate Leader of our Columbus, Ohio HPH Group and our Sarasota, Florida HPH Group.

Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson

Ernie and Kristine 

By Honoring Our Children, We Make a Difference


Even in my former state of oblivion - the endless and often mindless pursuit of salary and title - I knew something significant.  I knew that our son, Quinton, was a special soul.  His gentleness, his sweetness, his goodness; the list goes on and on. 

I remember sitting in a conference at Marshdale Elementary with Quinton’s teacher and counselors as we discussed his struggles with reading.  They wanted to put him in an ILP program because he was behind and I told them, “that is fine and good, but if you damage his soul in any way, there will be hell to pay.”

I remember that before Quinton transitioned, he wanted to play football.  He was so interested that we went to some practices.  I watched the coaches, totally missing the good ones as I focused on those who were in it for their own egos-the strutting, arrogant coaches with their sunglasses and whistles.   I knew that if Quinton had to play for one of those coaches and if one negative word was said to damage my son’s psyche, I would damage them.  I was not going to allow this to happen, period.

And then Quinton transitioned to pure energy.  The old souls in my life, those who have known me for years, known me better than I knew myself, told me, “Ernie, you have to coach football!” How did they know, when I didn’t?

As a coach, I am less about the points scored and more about something else.  I am about the life lessons, being able to face adversity and to learn from it in some way.  When my players are struggling, either individually or collectively, I let them know that it is okay.  I share my family’s adversity, the passing of Quinton, and I introduce him to them.   I let them know that he is the reason that I now stand before them – they are now all my sons.

I coach to be able to look young people in the eyes, to see their pain and to face it. To be able to walk up to them and ask, “Are you okay?”  To reassure them that it will all work out.  And finally to experience the exchange of energy between us when they realize that at that moment they are like a son to me and that someone cares!  Someone cares deeply, all because of Quinton. 

After a tough loss this past fall, the players were distraught.  Many were crying, and others were despondent because they had given it their all.  The setting allowed me to explain my belief that there is always something to learn by going through adversity. 

A few weeks ago, my wife Kristine sat next to a woman in the stands who told her that her son was on the football team. He had just learned that his injury would prevent him from ever playing football again, and he told his Mom about the encouraging message he had received from ‘Coach Jackson.'   Hearing this later made my day.

It is good to know that we are making a difference.  And we invite each of you to know that you can also make a difference.  Yes, it sucks that your son or daughter has transitioned, and they are with us spiritually instead of physically.  However, while we are all still here in the physical world, let’s make a difference. Let’s share our wisdom, our love and our newfound perspective with someone who can benefit from it.  And by helping others, we will help ourselves.

And this is a blessing, for them as well as for us!

-Ernie and Kristine Jackson

-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton.  His two books,"Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.

Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.

Affiliate Updates

Sedona, Arizona

Tiffany Araura Rose, the affiliate leader of Helping Parents Heal - Sedona, will be participating in an upcoming event at Unity called God Talks.  It will be a similar format as Ted talks, and will be video recorded and available on the Internet. Tiffany will be one of the speakers and will be telling the story about finding God after the passing of her husband and her daughter.  Please check back to learn more about the talks!  Tiffany will be holding the December meeting of Helping Parents Heal on the 8th from 7-9 at Unity of Sedona.  Please click here to RSVP.     

Dallas, Texas
Tracy Houston Venters with Guest Speakers Steve and PJ Spur


Dallas Update – The Cowboy Psychic

We recently held our fifth meeting for our HPH group in the Dallas area. The group is really coming together and we have been blessed to have some great speakers the last few months.
This picture was taken after our meeting this month which featured Steve Spur (“the Cowboy Psychic”) and his wife PJ who works with past life regressions, Reiki, angels and guides and more. Steve provided some great validations and PJ was able to pass on messages from angels to several of the people Steve  validated for after the meeting. Unfortunately we ran out of time and not everyone got a connection, but the majority of our group members did.

Steve started out by explaining his own path. He had been an atheist, bartender, bouncer and cowboy before an accident in which he sustained a head injury. As he recovered from his head injury he began to start to see and hear things. He didn’t tell anyone for many years, fearing he would be “locked up as a crazy”. Eventually he began to realize his gifts and the fact that they could be used to help people.

His validations were indeed helpful, to the point, and often drew laughs. Like when he told one parent her daughter said that although her brother liked to work on his own car he wasn’t really that good and should spring for a mechanic. Or when he told another parent who had gotten a tattoo along with his daughter that although she told everyone it didn’t hurt (he said it did) she had nearly bit through her lip. Or another told her mom she needed to vacuum the car out once in a while (all of these things readily verified by the parents!)
It is so comforting to know our kids are still with us and that their personalities don’t really change much. They hang out with other loved ones and pets that have also crossed, play their favorite musical instruments, go on trips with us (if even just a trip to the grocery store), and most of all want us to be happy. We received messages such as “wear your jewelry again, go shopping, don’t put off that vacation” – and from my own daughter: “mom, you need to listen to some more upbeat music”.

In December we will be using our meeting time for a holiday gathering  where we can spend more time getting to know each other. This will be potluck style, where parents are encouraged to bring their child’s favorite holiday dish. We will also have a candle lighting and talk about ways we can honor our kids over the holidays.

If you are in the Dallas area I hope you can join us. We have a local website for more information where you can also sign up for event reminders
www.hphdallas.com. Please click here to RSVP.  We hope to see you there!


-Tracy Houston Venters

Columbus, Ohio

Bereaved parent Rick Colby talked about his journey from devastation to happiness over the last eight years after his daughter Lauren died.  He described the range of emotions over the years and how he is truly balanced now—a place he never thought he would reach.  He also beautifully described Lauren being an advanced soul and comforting others while in the hospital before she died.  A big thank you to Rick and our Buckeye group!  
 
Sarasota, Florida

We had a very soulful meeting that was particularly energized by Sandy and Sandi, whose son Nick passed on six years ago on the date of our meeting.  They asked everyone to remember that, just as children who pass on are usually evolved souls, so are parents who agree to participate in such a painful but important scenario. We discussed important topics such as “God did not take your child” and “God is not punishing you for something you did or didn’t do.”  Great job, Florida crew!  

-Dr. Mark Pitstick, Affiliate Leader of our Columbus and our Sarasota Affiliate Groups

Upcoming Speakers for Phoenix/Scottsdale Affiliate
Medium Jack Mario, LeAnn Hull, Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, Dr. Raymond Petras, Psychic Medium Renee Richards

Sheri’s Corner-

Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast

Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast

 

Now I a two-fold vision see…

May God us keep

From single vision and Newton’s sleep.


-William Blake

 

Sir Isaac Newton, who was a mathematician and a physicist was considered to be one of the greatest scientists in history, however, in my opinion, he made a mess of things.

 

I say this because Newton divided the world into 2 separate entities, the “inside” world and the “outside” world, which in itself is fine, however Newton made an enormous mistake by claiming that only the “outside” world was real!

 

Science then believed that they only had to study the “outside” world, to take it apart and put it back together in order to eventually understand everything.

EVERYTHING!

 

Consciousness was left out of the picture. It could not be measured, it could not be weighed, and so it was not considered real. 

 

"200 years ago, when the modern science world-view was still in it’s youth, the poet William Blake came up with a name for the refusal on the part of the scientific community to see and acknowledge the spiritual side of the world. He called that refusal, and the philosophy that arose with it, Single Vision."


-Eben Alexander MD

 

I believe we have all been well indoctrinated into this single vision perspective, which certainly does not help us, as bereaved parents. It is my belief that we must open up our vision everyday and see the bigger picture, so that we can all say:  “Now I a two-fold vision see.”
 

-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
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Stories of Validation -

Natasha Parmar and her son Jaymon
Jaymon Parmar

Pennies from Heaven


Legend has it that when you find a penny it is a sign sent from an angel as a reminder that they are still around. A sort of copper colored telegram from heaven that pleasantly interrupts your day as you stumble across one in an unexpected place.

Now, I wouldn't call myself a skeptic but I am certainly cautious when it comes to believing in signs. I guess its because the loss I suffered is so great that it would break me in two if the sign was proven to be a fraud.

I cannot, however, reason away the fact that my son has been sending me pennies since he passed away almost three years ago. I have found so many of them and in such unusual ways that the truth easily dispels the myth and I am assured that Jaymon is in fact still around.

We started finding pennies soon after Jaymon passed in February of 2013. Almost every load of laundry would produce a freshly cleaned penny, the vacuum is constantly jingling until it reluctantly spits out its copper prize. There just always seems to be a penny left in places where it simply wasn't before. My life is like an ATM but the only currency is pennies and usually Canadian ones.

We have lived in Arizona since 2009 but are originally from Vancouver, Canada. Jaymon was a very outspokenly proud Canadian, so much so that we had a Canadian flag cremated with him.

Last April we were in Paris - it was one stop in a four month journey through Europe with our three daughters. It was Easter Sunday and we had just tossed the key to a lock with Jaymon's name on it into the River Seine. I remember that the day was full of signs, we were thinking of him more than usual that day and everywhere we turned there would be a reminder of him. At the end of the day, as we were piling our strollers, bags and exhausted selves into the cab, my daughter spotted two pennies on the floor of the car. Under closer expection we saw that one was from 1996, the year he was born and the other was from 2013, the year he died. Both pennies were Canadian.

There is no way to explain it. I know with as much certainty as I know my own name that Jaymon is sending us pennies from heaven. Thank-you son..each penny you send me makes my world a richer place.

-Written by Jaymon's Mom, Natasha 
 

Kim Camacho and her son Austin
Kim's Last Picture of Beautiful Austin

Psychic Medium Renee Richards Connects with Austin

I have been to several mediums, most of whom have successfully connected with my son Austin (AJ) who passed away on 7/20/2009. But, Renee's reading was so precise.  The most accurate reading I have ever had! The details she gave me where phenomenal. Throughout the 1 hour reading she never played the guessing game (which some mediums tend to do). She was spot on! She knew names as well.  I have never had a reading where the Medium got every single name correct!  I mean my ex husbands name is Ino.  She said Austin is telling me his name is I and then a No?  I - No she says!  Yes, his name is Ino!!!  I was shocked!!!  

She even mentioned two names that I had no clue who they were but they were connected to my mother Catherine.  Yes, she even said my moms name Catherine!  Later on my mother confirmed who these two souls were.  Renee knew things like I ride motorcycles.  I am from California.  I am a Capricorn.  I am in my late 40's.  I should not buy another motorcycle.  She even described Austin's accident (on a quad in Mexico).  She described what Austin was doing.  She described how she can hear me screaming his name.  She saw him turn around and look at me.  She described what happened next. :-(  She knew my daughters name is Allison.  My son's name is AJ with incredible blue eyes.  I can go on and on!  

Renee's gift is so precious.  I am beyond excited for Renee to bring forth other angels at our meeting in March.  


-Written by Austin's Mom, Kim Camacho

Psychic Medium Renee Richards will be bringing through validations for parents at our March 24th Meeting in Phoenix./Scottsdale.  Please click here to RSVP.  

Validations through Butterflies
Estrella Alvarez Tinch and Her Son, Bert Moya


Bert loved the outdoors, whether fishing, hiking, or just visiting the shooting range, he was always very much at home in nature. Shortly after he transitioned, I asked that he showed me signs that he was still with me. I was very specific when I asked that he show me a yellow butterfly. What are the chances of that same color butterfly appearing? Then one day, as I was waiting for my grandson and daughter-in-law to meet me at our home for lunch, I looked out the window and there it was . . . A beautiful large yellow butterfly going from plant to plant in my courtyard. What was so significant about this? It was February and one of the coldest months we’ve experienced here.

Since then, cardinals have visited my window, feathers have appeared along the way, coins everywhere, tapping on my window, and now he has returned as one of m
y guides. He helps me find things that I have misplaced. All I have to do is ask for help and they appear. Bert used to have a very keen eye for detail so it is very appropriate that he would be the one to be in charge of the "Lost and Found" department in our home. It’s an absolute joy to know that he’s still with me. Every night I feel a little "tickle" on my right cheek - the same cheek he kissed a few weeks before he transitioned. I believe he kisses me goodnight every night.


-Written by Bert's Mom, Estrella 
7 Things I’ve Learned Since the Loss of My Child
by Angela Miller

Child loss is a loss like no other. One often misunderstood by many. If you love a bereaved parent or know someone who does, remember that even his or her “good” days are harder than you could ever imagine. Compassion and love, not advice, are what’s needed. If you’d like an inside look into why the loss of a child is a grief that lasts a lifetime, here is what I’ve learned in my seven years of trekking through the unimaginable.

1). Love never dies.
There will never come a day, hour, minute or second I stop loving or thinking about my son. Just as parents of living children unconditionally love their children always and forever, so do bereaved parents. I want to say and hear his name just the same as non-bereaved parents do. I want to speak about my deceased child as normally and naturally as you speak of your living ones.

I love my child just as much as you love yours– the only difference is mine lives in heaven and talking about about him is unfortunately quite taboo in our culture. I hope to change that. Our culture isn’t so great about hearing about children gone too soon, but that doesn’t stop me from saying my son’s name and sharing his love and light everywhere I go. Just because it might make you uncomfortable, doesn’t make him matter any less. My son’s life was cut irreversibly short, but his love lives on forever. And ever.

2). Bereaved parents share an unspeakable bond.
In my seven years navigating the world as a bereaved parent, I am continually struck by the power of the bond between bereaved parents. Strangers become kindreds in mere seconds– a look, a glance, a knowing of the heart connects us, even if we’ve never met before. No matter our circumstances, who we are, or how different we are, there is no greater bond than the connection between parents who understand the agony of enduring the death of a child. It’s a pain we suffer for a lifetime, and unfortunately only those who have walked the path of child loss understand the depth and breadth of both the pain and the love we carry.

3). I will grieve for a lifetime.
Period. The end. There is no “moving on,” or “getting over it.” There is no bow, no fix, no solution to my heartache. There is no end to the ways I will grieve and for how long I will grieve. There is no glue for my broken heart, no exilir for my pain, no going back in time. For as long as I breathe, I will grieve and ache and love my son with all my heart and soul. There will never come a time when I won’t think about who my son would be, what he would look like, and how he would be woven perfectly into the tapestry of my family. I wish people could understand that grief lasts forever because love lasts forever; that the loss of a child is not one finite event, it is a continuous loss that unfolds minute by minute over the course of a lifetime. Every missed birthday, holiday, milestone; should-be back-to-school years and graduations; weddings that will never be, grandchildren that should have been but will never be born– an entire generation of people are irrevocably altered forever.
This is why grief lasts forever. The ripple effect lasts forever. The bleeding never stops.

4). It’s a club I can never leave, but is full of the most shining souls I’ve ever known.
This crappy club called child loss is a club I never wanted to join, and one I can never leave, yet is filled with some of the best people I’ve ever known. And yet we all wish we could jump ship– that we could have met another way– any other way but this. Alas, these shining souls are the most beautiful, compassionate, grounded, loving, movers, shakers and healers I have ever had the honor of knowing. They are life-changers, game-changers, relentless survivors and thrivers. Warrior moms and dads who redefine the word brave.
Every day loss parents move mountains in honor of their children gone too soon. They start movements, change laws, spearhead crusades of tireless activism. Why? In the hope that even just one parent could be spared from joining the club. If you’ve ever wondered who some of the greatest world changers are, hang out with a few bereaved parents and watch how they live, see what they do in a day, a week, a lifetime. Watch how they alchemize their grief into a force to be reckoned with, watch how they turn tragedy into transformation, loss into legacy.
Love is the most powerful force on earth, and the love between a bereaved parent and his/her child is a lifeforce to behold. Get to know a bereaved parent. You’ll be thankful you did.

5). The empty chair/room/space never becomes less empty.
Empty chair, empty room, empty space in every family picture. Empty, vacant, forever gone. Empty spaces that should be full, everywhere we go. There is and will always be a missing space in our lives, our families, a forever-hole-in-our-hearts. Time does not make the space less empty. Neither do platitudes, clichés or well-wishes for us to “move on,” or “stop dwelling,” from well-intentioned friends or family. Nothing does. No matter how you look at it, empty is still empty. Missing is still missing. The problem is nothing can fill it. Minute after minute, hour after hour, day after day, month after month, year after heartbreaking year the empty space remains. No matter how much time has passed. The empty space of our missing child(ren) lasts a lifetime. And so we rightfully miss them forever. Help us by holding the space of that truth for us.

6). No matter how long it’s been, holidays never become easier without my son.
Never, ever. Have you ever wondered why every holiday season is like torture for a bereaved parent? Even if it’s been 5, 10, or 25 years later? It’s because they really, truly are horrific. Imagine if you had to live every holiday without one or more of your precious children. Imagine how that might feel for you. It would be easier to lose an arm, a leg or two– anything— than to live without your flesh and blood, without the beat of your heart. Almost anything would be easier than living without one of more of your precious children. That is why holidays are always and forever hard for bereaved parents. Don’t wonder why or even try to understand. Know you don’t have to understand in order to be a supportive presence. Consider supporting and loving some bereaved parents this holiday season. It will be the best gift you could ever give them.

7). Because I know deep sorrow, I also know unspeakable joy.
Though I will grieve the death of my son forever and then some, it does not mean my life is lacking happiness and joy. Quite the contrary, in fact. It is not either/or, it’s both/and. Grief and joy can and do coexist. My life is more rich now. I live from a deeper place. I love deeper still. Because I grieve, I also know a joy like no other. The joy I experience now is far deeper and more intense than the joy I experienced before my loss. Such is the alchemy of grief.

Because I’ve clawed my way from the depths of unimaginable pain, suffering and sorrow, again and again– when the joy comes, however and whenever it does– it is a joy that reverberates through every pore of my skin and every bone in my body. I feel all of it, deeply. I embrace and thank every blessed morsel of it. My life now is more rich and vibrant and full, not despite my loss, but because of it. In grief there are gifts, sometimes many. These gifts don’t in any way make it all “worth” it, but I am grateful beyond words for each and every gift that comes my way. I bow my head to each one and say thank you, thank you, thank you. Because there is nothing– and I mean absolutely nothing– I take for granted. Living life in this way gives me greater joy than I’ve ever known possible.

I have my son to thank for that. Being his mom is the best gift I’ve ever been given.
Even death can’t take that away.

-Angela Miller

Please visit Angela's website, 
www.abedformyheart.com.  

Thanks to our Hilton Head Affiliate Leader, Irene Vouvalides, for letting us know about this article and this website!  

Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? 

We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at boissonelizabeth@gmail.com (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.) 

Also, if you have not yet done so, please send me your child's full name, Birthday and Angel Date so that I can add him or her to our list of children on our Facebook Site. We pay tribute to our children on their special dates with a favorite photo and a description of their lives.  Please send all information to Elizabeth at boissonelizabeth@gmail.com


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Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix Scottsdale AZ with guest speaker Medium Jack Mario, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson-November 19th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - Pensacola, FL hosted by Kristen Brown-Sanders, December 1st. Please RSVP here.Helping Parents Heal - Ottawa, Canada.  Please contact Patti May pattimay@rogers.com for the next meeting time and place.
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Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head/Bluffton, SC-hosted by Irene Vouvalides December 13th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Tucson, AZ with Janice Crowder Torrez, December 13th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Sedona, AZ hosted by Tiffany Rose on December 8th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Sarasota with Dr. Mark Pitstick, December 9th.  Please RSVP here.  
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Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with guest speaker LeAnn Hull, founder of Andy Hull 's Sunshine Foundation, December 10th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale AZ, January 28th with guest speaker Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Dr. Raymond Petras, February 25th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Psychic Medium Renee Richards, March 24th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - NYC, hosted by  Sheri Perl Migdol, December 5th.   Please click here to RSVP.  
New Group!  Helping Parents Heal - Cape Coral, FL hosted by Lori Fina-Jennings.  Please email Lori for more information at lafj1@hotmail.com or call: 614-563-8539  

Affliate Groups and their leaders (by alphabetical order)

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL
email: 
helpingparentsheal@yahoo.com  

Elizabeth Boisson-Phoenix, AZ
email: evboisson@yahoo.com


Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL
email: 
kristensanders@mcshi.com  

NEW GROUP - Lancy Carr - Washington DC
email: lncycrr@yahoo.com


Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA
email: 
nancycougar@gmail.com 

NEW GROUP - Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ
email: jcrowdertorrez@gmail.com 

NEW GROUP
- Beth D'Angelo-Kona Side of Big Island, HI
email: beth.growhope@gmail.com


NEW GROUP - Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL
email: 
lafj1@hotmail.com 


Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota
email: 
sheryl.hill@me.com  

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC
email: 
JALAJMD@gmail.com  


NEW GROUP - Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho
email:  paigewlee@gmail.com


NEW GROUP - Lavaughn Margraff-Columbus, OH
email: lavaughnm@hotmail.com


Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario
email: 
pattimay@rogers.com  


Maria Pe - San Diego
email: maria.i.pe@hotmail.com 

Glenda Pearson - Mishawaka IN
email: glendia456@aol.com

Sheri Perl-New York, NY
email: sheriperl@gmail.com  

NEW GROUP - Dr. Mark Pitstick - Columbus, OH and Sarasota, FL
email:  mark@soulproof.com


NEW GROUP - Tiffany Rose - Sedona, AZ
email: tiffanyrose1827@gmail.com 


NEW GROUP  - Tracy Venters - Dallas, TX
email: tracy.venters@gmail.com, website: www.hphdallas.com 


Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ
email: 
cvolpe68@gmail.com  


NEW GROUP - Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC
email: ivouvalides@aol.com 


You can read the bios and see photos of each of the affiliate leaders at our website:  www.helpingparentsheal.info.  

Please contact Elizabeth Boisson (boissonelizabeth@gmail.com) if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.

Board Members: 

Elizabeth Boisson Co-F0under/ boissonelizabeth@gmail.com
Mark Ireland Co-Founder/ irelandmarks@yahoo.com
Doryce Norwood / dnorwood@circlek.com
Ernie Jackson / stonejak4@hotmail.com
Dr. Mark Pitstick / mark@soulproof.com


Treasurer: Celia Cheves-Edwards / cdedwards@cox.net
Secretary: Laurie Savoie / laurie6385@gmail.com

Mission Statement of Helping Parents Heal:

Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices. 

-Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal


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