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Welcome to the March issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter! Hello! We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
Please remember to visit our beautiful website: www.helpingparentsheal.org. It is a wonderful tool to share our affiliate chapters, recommended books, providers, links and videos as well as our favorite causes. There is also a new page for 'Daily Tributes' to celebrate our children's' birthdays and Angel Dates. This is a private page and the password is Everest. Please take a moment to enter your child's name, dates, information and photo. Each child will automatically appear twice a year with his or her tribute, photo and information. This is a permanent and wonderful way to remember our children!
For those of you in the Phoenix area, please join me as I welcome Rachel Slagle Pearson on February 19th at Unity of Phoenix from 1-3 pm. Rachel is an evidential psychic medium and a fellow bereaved parent. She is also the co-affiliate leader of our online group with Diane Romagliani. Please RSVP and learn more by clicking here.
First Annual Helping Parents Heal Conference April 13-15, 2018
Some of the many talented speakers for the first annual conference of HPH
As you know, we will hold our first annual Helping Parents Heal conference in Scottsdale, Arizona on April 13-15th, 2018. We are thrilled about the many talented presenters who have agreed to speak as well as the 100+ parents who have already said they would join us for this joyful event.
Pictured above, some of our esteemed guest speakers from left to right: Suzanne Giesemann, Susanne Wilson, Dr. Gary Schwartz, Bill Guggenheim, Dr. Mark Pitstick, Mark Ireland, Roberta Grimes, Ernie Jackson, Jake Samoyedny, Judith Hancox, David Router, Sheri Perl Migdol, Paula Stephens, Dr. Craig Hogan, Sara Ruble and Christine Salter.
Conference Coordinator Irene Vouvalides, our Hilton Head Affiliate Leader, has invited George Anderson to present at the conference and he has accepted her request. He will be speaking Friday evening and will do a full hour gallery reading connecting us with our beloved children from the other side. Mr. Anderson is the author of many bestselling books including 'Walking in the Garden of Souls' and his newest work, 'Life Between Heaven and Earth — What You Didn’t Know About the World Hereafter and How It Can Help You'. He has also earned the distinction of being the world's most scientifically tested medium. He will be available to give readings the rest of the weekend; we will soon have a link available on our website.
Please stay tuned as we finalize our list of speakers and post registration information. We have a special conference page on our website, www.helpingparentsheal.org, with a link at the bottom of each page. Please click here to donate and learn more!
Sending love and light to each one of you and to your beautiful children. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.
What We Gain Through Loss - by Evidential Medium Suzanne Giesemann
Jeff & Lynn Hollahan, Ty & Suzanne Giesemann, Elizabeth & Cyril Boisson and Irene & Tony Vouvalides
Twelve souls on a 48-foot sailboat for seven days might seem a bit crowded, but in this case, it wasn’t. The crew consisted of eight parents and our four beautiful children. Our kids needed no staterooms. They had each passed from their earthly bodies, but they were with us just the same. In fact, it was they who had planned this sailing adventure, and they went out of their way to prove it.
This most special vacation was conceived nine months earlier when my husband Ty and I were traveling through Arizona. I had been looking forward to meeting Elizabeth Boisson on our visit to Phoenix. I had learned of Elizabeth through her role as co-founder of “Helping Parents Heal.” This unique support group encourages an open discussion of the afterlife to aid bereaved parents in the healing process.
When I called to let her know we were in town, Elizabeth invited Ty and me to join her and forty others at a special ceremony to dedicate benches in memory of the Boissons’ son, Morgan, and Kyle, the son of another Helping Parents Heal couple. Ty and I marveled at the festive atmosphere as the cheerful group hiked the hilly trail among the cactus and desert scrub.
Many of those gathered had suffered the death of a child, yet they smiled and chatted easily with each other. When we reached the two benches, set atop a small mesa overlooking a narrow creek, the group gathered in a large circle. Yes, there were tears as the two couples said a few words about their children, but these were followed by a joyous cheer as each of us released a dove-shaped balloon into the air in memory of Morgan and Kyle. The biodegradable balloons drifted slowly upward like special envoys headed to Heaven.
After the return hike, we enjoyed getting to know the Boisson family and some of the other parents at a house party. There we met Jeff and Lynn Hollahan and instantly “clicked.” We cleared our schedules to meet for dinner at the Hollahan’s house later that week with Elizabeth and her husband, Cyril.
The next evening, Ty and I were driving north on the eight-lane highway southeast of Phoenix when Ty let out a shout. His outburst came not from a near accident, but from the sight of one of the balloons released at the ceremony. More like a homing pigeon than a dove, it flew directly at us, crossing our hood and soaring straight up our windshield.
No meteorologist could ever explain how the wind currents had carried Morgan’s balloon 37 miles to our exact location 25 hours after its release, but after years of serving as a medium, I can explain it in one simple sentence: The two worlds are closer than we think.
Two nights later as we traveled that same highway on our way to the Hollahan’s house, I had a little chat with my unseen helpers in spirit. They know that I would be working as a medium 24/7 if I could, so they usually cut off my connection while in social settings. This night was different. “I want to be on duty,” I said to them mentally as Ty pulled into Jeff and Lynn’s driveway. “If these two couples’ kids are around tonight, please let me sense them.”
My wish was granted shortly after toasting our new friendship with a glass of champagne. Even though I hadn’t yet seen a photo of the Boissons’ son, Morgan, I suddenly became aware of their 20-year-old son standing by Elizabeth’s left shoulder.
“Morgan is here,” I said, “and he wants me to talk about the hot air balloon.”
“Oh, my goodness!” Elizabeth exclaimed. “I just took a photo this morning of a balloon flying over our house!”
Current event reporting is my favorite kind of evidence from those in spirit. It shows they’re still very much involved in our lives. As we celebrated Morgan’s surprise visit, Lynn and Jeff Hollahan’s 22-year old son dropped in.
“Devon is here, too,” I said to Lynn, “and he’s showing me an image of corn on the cob. Are you serving corn this evening?”
“No,” she replied, “but I was going to.” She then pulled out her cell phone and showed us a photo of several large ears of corn that her son-in-law had texted her earlier in the day.
These two simple yet meaningful validations opened the door to a flurry of details from across the veil about the boys’ lives that I couldn’t have known. Later, as we adjourned to the table to enjoy the healthy meal Lynn had prepared, the boys moved with us. I continued to pass along the thoughts and images they conveyed through my consciousness.
Suddenly, I became aware of the presence of the spirit of my step-daughter, Susan. She stood at my right side and said, “What about me?” (Read more on Suzanne's website here)
Suzanne Giesemann is an author, spiritual teacher, and evidence-based medium. Please visit her website here.
Helping Parents Heal:
How a Valley mom connects with her children in the afterlife
by Kari Lake, Fox 10 News
Morgan Boisson and Susanne Wilson, the Carefree Medium
PHOENIX (KSAZ) - Hardly a month goes by that we don't cover a story of tragic death involving a child. As a mom and someone who works in news, my first thought is how difficult -- impossible -- the road ahead will be for the families suffering that loss.
One mom here in the valley has experienced that grief twice. She lost two children, 20 years apart, but says she is able to connect with them in the afterlife and believes everyone can do the same.
It's been seven years since Elizabeth Boisson last saw her son Morgan, but she still feels his presence every day.
"He's always with me."
A high school football player turned University of Arizona cheerleader, he died while on a trip to the base camp of Mt. Everest with some fellow students. No one realized how sick the altitude was making Morgan until it was too late.
"It was 9:00 a.m. and they couldn't wake him up," said Elizabeth. "They got him on the bus.. he stopped breathing."
That's when she got the devastating phone call.
"Mrs. Boisson, I really have bad news. I don't think Morgan is going to make it."
"I said, Colin, would you put the phone to Morgan's ear? I know he's undergoing CPR, but I really need to speak to him... I told Morgan we were proud of him, we loved him.. and not to be afraid."
As unimaginable as it would be to lose a child, Elizabeth has been through this before.
"I've already had a child that passed. She was two days old."
Her heart, already softened from that loss, made her surprisingly calm as she absorbed the news and as Morgan slipped away in Tibet -- something magical happened to Elizabeth thousands of miles away in Arizona.
"And I just felt him a few seconds later just hug me from the inside and it was something.. that I could not be sad with this uplifting wave of love that came over me."
She called it a visit from Morgan and says those same visits continue to this day.
"From the minute this happened, whenever I got sad, I'd feel him hugging me from the inside and making sure I could still move forward."
So Elizabeth set out to change how parents grieved by starting Helping Parents Heal, a support group to help parents connect with their deceased children.
"He told me that I was going to be starting this group and I started it a week after he passed," said Elizabeth. "I know that people can heal from having a child pass."
As Elizabeth was helping other parents heal, across town, psychic medium Susanne Wilson was looking for a work space to rent. Little did these women know their lives were about to converge.
"A friend of mine told me about a yoga studio that had a room for rent. The yoga teacher didn't know what I did," said Susanne. "I was trying to explain it. She said, 'Here, look at this photo. Tell me what you see.'"
"She gave her a picture, of a Christmas card I sent out with the three kids," said Elizabeth.
It was a photo of Morgan and his two sisters.
"She saw Morgan shouting through a megaphone on a mountain top. I'm okay. She saw a black box up to his ear and heard everything that I said. She saw a band of brothers.. his two other roommates.. his friends who stayed," said Elizabeth.
"The yoga teacher didn't know if anything I was telling her was accurate, so she wrote it all down and called Morgan's mom," said Susanna.
"Angie said you would have thought that Morgan was in the room with me when she was saying these things," said Elizabeth.
"One of the things was that one of the boys had a rock.. Susanne drew a shape of it and the boys would be bringing back the rock with them.. and Colin brought back a rock a month later, that was something she couldn't have known," said Elizabeth.
And when Susanne finally met Elizabeth, she saw what Elizabeth had been feeling.
"She said 'Morgan is standing with his sister.. does he have a sister who is just a year younger than he is?' There was no way she could have had any idea," said Elizabeth. "It was incredibly wonderful for me to be able to validate that Morgan was with me through Susanne."
The two started collaborating to help other parents make that same connection.
"Some parents get so excited about going to psychic mediums that they almost feel like it's a drug," said Elizabeth. "What she feels that's really important is that parents learn how to connect for themselves."
That's what her support group does. Helping parents find happiness and connect them with their deceased children.
"They're working just as hard as we are to connect with us and the veil is becoming very thin," said Elizabeth. "We have Morgan who is still with us. We feel him. All of us feel him. The parents that I've met, who get it, there's this light that shines through them. And you can see the light.. it comes through their kids."
Helping Parents Heal support groups are in 15 states and three countries. They help parents develop intuition, learn meditation and use other techniques to connect to their loved ones.
Please view the video of the interview here.
View the Youtube video of Susanne Wilson speaking to Helping Parents Heal December 18th, 2016:
Part 1 here and Part 2 here.
Helping Parents Heal: A 'life saver' for bereaved Lowcountry parents
by Tori Simkovic, ABC Channel 22 News
Irene Vouvalides, Helping Parents Heal - Bluffton/Hilton Head Affiliate Leader
Bluffton, S.C. —It’s a group no parent wants to have to join: a support group for those who have lost a child.
“When the worst possible thing that can happen to you has happened, it changes everything about your life,” said Irene Vouvalides.
Vouvalides lost her 24-year-old daughter Carly Hughes to esophageal gastric cancer in 2013.
“Boston College graduate, amazing, amazing young woman... I did not think I could survive my daughter’s passing,” Vouvalides said.
Then, she found the national non-profit Helping Parents Heal on Facebook.
“It was the first time I felt that, okay, there are other people out there that have been through this that are surviving, and gosh they're laughing. I could never imagine laughing again,” Vouvalides said.
She decided to form a local chapter of Helping Parents Heal in Bluffton.
“I did not want to live, and now I'm so happy to still be here on this earth. I know my work here isn't done,” Vouvalides said.
The group provides emotional and spiritual support for families. The organization has no religious affiliation, but the parents discuss the afterlife and signs they see from their children.
“One of the signs that happens all of the time is the song ‘Somewhere over the Rainbow,’” Vouvalides said.
For Heidi Hanson, the sign is the number 22: the jersey number for her 14-year-old daughter Grace Sulak who died in May.
“All day long I’m looking down and my watch says 22,” Hanson said.
Hanson says Helping Parents Heal has given her life new purpose.
“It has just shown me I can be there for someone else. I can get through this because others have gotten through this,” Hanson said.
Please view the video of the ABC Channel 22 interview here.
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome! I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transforming at the lower left of www.soulproof.com. Listen to the free radio shows with top experts and our answers to life’s toughest questions including why children die. The website www.drgaryschwartz.com shares scientific research indicating that the consciousness/soul does not end after physical death. www.eternea.org is an excellent source of evidence that life and love are eternal. Let me know if you need a product, but cannot afford it, and we will send you a digital copy at no charge.
I am very sorry you have experienced the pain, sadness and other very difficult emotions that arise when your child dies. At the same time, it’s very clear that:
1. Your children are alive and well in another phase of forever.
2. They are very happy and peaceful and want you to be that way too!
3. You will definitely see each other again and can enjoy a great relationship now.
4. You can choose to convert your grief into a spiritually transformative experience
that powerfully improves your life and blesses others.
5. You can create more meaning to your child’s passing by lovingly serving others.
Many parents have done this, and you can too. Read relevant Foundational Articles for Healing & Transforming on the SoulProof.com homepage and take action steps. Listen to free radio shows with experts and our answers to life’s toughest questions including why children die. Use the recommended techniques. Let me know if you need a product but cannot afford it, and I will send a digital copy at no charge.
Q: I lost my son in 2011. He was diabetic, had a low while he slept, and suffered from lack of oxygen to his brain. He was pronounced brain dead on the 3rd day. I feel him with me, but I cannot forgive myself as I was home at the time. I should have gone into his room sooner. Help me, please! - Carla
A: That is a tough one, no doubt, Carla. It’s completely normal to wrack your brain by thinking what you could have done differently, if only you would have done this or that, etc. But it serves no purpose except to punish you and, because of your diminished state, hurt those around you.
You say you can feel him with you. How does that feel? Before you push it away and go back to self-loathing, do you feel a temporary peace and lightness? Can you glimpse that there is some rhyme and reason to how things happened? Do you imagine—even for a few seconds—a way to get through this and forgive yourself? I’ll bet that is what your is urging you to do.
Good evidence indicates there is a timing to when people pass on. There is a “greater reality perspective” from which all life’s mysteries and seeming injustices make sense. This viewpoint would say it was his eternal soul’s time to move on. Parents never want their children to die before them, but sometimes that is the soul’s plan. To learn more about this, see article #25.
I’m sure that his life and physical death touched many people. It also gave you this opportunity to learn how to forgive yourself and live in the present moment. If you decide that you want to take that high road, you will need new information and allies. I recommend that you read articles #1, 2, 3, and 12. Enlist beloved family and friends to help you take action steps so you can move out of the stuck place you are in. Do this for just 90 days and let me know how you are doing, please.
Hi. I am interested in being able to connect with my son and brother. I don't think I have gotten over their deaths. How can I connect with them and feel them again? - Esmeralda
A: I’m glad that you are at the point in your grieving where you can ask this question, Esmeralda. In the vast majority of cases, “departed” loved ones are actively trying to make their presence known. Almost always, the solution to sensing them is to become a better receiver. They are good transmitters, but you need to be on a similar high-energy wavelength to sense them. Some ways to increasingly feel/see/hear/know their presence right now include:
1. Read articles #1, 9, and 12
2. Use Holistic Breathing to increase higher-energy emotions.
3. Use the Facilitated After-Death Contact session to visit now with your dear ones who have “passed on” but definitely not “passed away”
These approaches have helped many people realize that their loved ones are very much alive, well, and wanting to stay in touch. Please let me know if you have any additional questions or problems.
Q: My stepson Cody passed away in July 2016. My husband has struggled tremendously trying to cope with his loss as Cody was his only child. I feel Cody around us every day and would love to help my husband feel this as well. Can you help us? – Heather
A: Yes, that’s part of my job. I recommend the same advice as for Esmeralda, but your husband will need to focus more on steps #1 and 2 before he is ready for #3.
It’s difficult for men to handle grieving. At a very young age, many men were taught: ‘Don’t be a baby, toughen up and be a man,’ etc. When deep pain hits, most guys just aren’t emotionally prepared for dealing with it. Keep that in mind while helping him mourn and heal. There’s also this: many men are trained—consciously or unconsciously—to protect their loved ones. When a family member dies, a man takes that as a direct sign of failure. Your realizing this will help you understand your husband more.
Another suggestion is to use more accurate language when speaking about Cody. I know that it appears you lost your son. But in reality, you didn’t lose him at all. Only his outer shell died and that is much less than 1% of who and what he really is. The rest—all the love, energy, light, spirit, and other unique qualities—is very near.
Finally, I’m glad that you can feel Cody around you every day. The more you can ‘hold that space’ for peace and healing, the more your husband will feel it. Contact me if you have any questions about how to move forward.
Q : We are now part of a very special group of parents. We lost our daughter Lizzy on April 15th 2016. The shock is wearing away and the reality is so painful.
A: It’s very common, Deanna, to feel a new wave of pain as the first anniversary of a loved ones passing approaches. But you made it through the big holidays so that’s a good thing. Are you part of a local or on-line HPH group ? Do you have a supportive church or spiritual center that is open-minded and provides opportunities for service to others? This is the time to ‘call in favors’ and lean on others ; don’t try to get through this alone. There will come a time when the pain is much less frequent and intense, but not usually at ten months.
I recommend articles #1, 9, and 12 and Holistic Breathing for you and your family. This is such an important time for families to bond closer. Major stress can bring you closer together if that is your intention and focus. Many parents have found solace in serving others in their “departed” child’s honor. And, as mentioned, you didn’t really “lose” her; she is very near and rooting you all on to remember the big picture of life. Your souls have been together in the past, are now, and will no doubt be in the future. Please keep in touch and let me know how I can help.
Q: My strong and beautiful son, a United States Military Academy Cadet, was buried at West Point on July 4, 2016....what would have been his 19th birthday. He was awarded the Soldier's Medal for his selfless act of saving a non-swimmer from drowning after both were caught in a rip current. We are devastated yet pushing through the tremendous pain.
A : As you know, Janice, your son was a bonafide hero! How proud you all must be about his selfless action. Various cultures and religions have noted that giving ones life is the greatest demonstration of love. Altruistic actions like his puzzle some social scientists. My view is that, in a moment of need, humans can look past their own self-survival and choose to help another. They remember the greater reality that we are all eternal beings and interconnected. They know that no one really dies, nor can anyone truly be hurt. So they take heroic actions.
Of course you feel devastated, but he has already shown you a way forward through the pain. Look around and see who is suffering and how you can help. Do that in Thomas’ name. Do that to transmute your pain and suffering into greater peace and remembrance that life and love are forever. Let me know how I can assist since I’m greatly honored to help the family of a real-life hero.
To all readers, your difficulties aren’t going to go away overnight. But, again, study the resources listed at the top and take actions steps for just 90 days. Focus especially on remembering #1 – 5. Then let us know how you are doing and we’ll go from there. Love and blessings, Mark
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-four years of training and experience in hospitals, pastoral counseling settings, mental health centers, and private practice.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop facilitator. He can help you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you and although it certainly may not seem like it—your earth-experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free articles, newsletters, and radio shows with top consciousness experts. Email your toughest questions about life, death, and afterlife to him at email@example.com.
-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and of Eternea
Fellowship and Coincidences
Kristine and Ernie
Asking and Receiving
I do know how this works. When Quinton began to visit I was awed, shocked, gratified, amazed and awakened. And in that awakening, maybe it was the beginning of an awakening, I wondered why I didn’t know life continued; I wondered why I didn’t know our transitioned loved ones can and do make contact. From that wondering I began to read. I recommend you do the same, my brothers and sisters.
In that reading I learned much; I learned of soul contracts, old souls, lessons our loved ones are here to help us master, and more – lots more! Additionally, I learned that we, we being those still here on the material side of the veil, can take certain steps to make it easier for our loved ones to make contact or maybe better put – for us to be more aware of the signs they send.
I do know how this works; at least I think I do. It is about asking and receiving. It is about prayer and meditation, and setting an intention. And still, I don’t do it. I don’t. I guess I am afraid to fail; afraid to ask and then nothing happens, or maybe I don’t want to bother my son because I know he is helping many, along with your children. Yes, I am ashamed and disappointed in myself, but I am human and still learning my lessons.
The week of February 4th, Kristine and I were in Colorado. I am a Realtor with Berkshire Hathaway in both Arizona and Colorado. Because I am licensed in both states and quite possibly because I radiate with Quinton’s love, a husband and wife team with Berkshire referred me for a listing appointment with their parents in Colorado. We already had the trip planned (talk about synchronicity). The result of that part of our trip is for another time, but let’s just say – we knew our angels were with us that entire trip.
On the morning of February 7th I sat and silently meditated. After meditating I spoke to Quinton out loud and I told him that I would like a sign, something definitive that even I would not take for granted or brush off. You see, while I understand how it works, or so I think, I still evaluate each sign. But I know too well, the signs we get are more a matter of how they make us feel in the moment or even later when we realize that they were a sign. The smile, the aha moment, the fluttering of my heart, and the gratitude – all before a mind can begin to second guess.
So, that afternoon after working, Kristine and I found ourselves in our old stomping grounds, Conifer Colorado and in the King Soopers parking lot. When we climbed into the car we noticed the most amazing thing! We are accustomed to seeing the letter Q on license plates in Colorado and each time we think of our Q-man. As we sat parked in the parking lot, both Kristine’s and my head began to swivel as we noticed we were surrounded by license plates beginning EDQ! Vehicles with those license plates where all around us, front, back and on both sides. And then as we drove out, we continued to see plates beginning EDQ. The kicker is, neither Kristine nor I recall every seeing one license plate with an EDQ prior to this.
What is the big deal you may ask, and rightfully so. My father in law, Kristine’s dad is Ed and he transitioned six years and two days prior to Quinton transitioning. The EDQ was Ed and Quinton! And that whole week I felt Ed with me, watching me with approval because (wait for it) he had been trying to get me to embrace becoming a Realtor since way back (in the 1990’s). As we noticed all these license plates, I imagined Quinton and Ed there with us, smiling and laughing, and maybe saying stuff like (Way to go Dad/Ernie; About damned time with big smiles and more laughter).
To close, I asked even though a rarely do. And then I received in a way I had never received before; and I felt it. Does it always work like this? I know there are some who say it does. The silence helps, meaning the noise of our society and the nonsense that we are told is news gets in the way – for me anyway.
And our journey continues, but with our children in the non-physical realm, through the veil. And sometimes we connect, sometimes we not only receive signs, but recognize them too. Speaking for myself, first I have to ask, embrace the silence and then get my head out of the way.
I know this is not a journey we want to go on together, but here we are traveling together. And in this place we are supposed to and will help one another to see the light.
Blessed and Blessings!
-Ernie and Kristine
-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton. His two books,'Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.
Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June 2015 presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here. Please learn more about Quinton and his family here.
Affiliate Updates -
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/ScottsdaleRoberta Grimes and some of the parents who attended the January 15th meeting
What a wonderful meeting with Roberta Grimes today!
Not only did she generously give her time and uplifting energy to the group; she also raffled off three of her books and donated 100% of her proceeds to the upcoming first annual Helping Parents Heal Conference in Scottsdale, April 13-15, 2018!
Elizabeth Boisson, Roberta Grimes and Susanne Wilson
Thank you Roberta Grimes and thank you for your wonderful introduction, Susanne Wilson! Also, thanks to Kristine and Ernie Jackson for filming the talk. Such a healing afternoon!
Watch a video of Roberta's presentation that was skillfully filmed by Ernie Jackson here.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Affiliate Leader of Phoenix/Scottsdale
NEW CHAPTER - Helping Parents Heal - Chicago
Vida Vai and her beautiful daughter Nida
July 1st will forever be etched in my heart as it shattered and flipped my world upside down, after losing my eighteen year old daughter to suicide. As time went by, I kept thinking that maybe one day I would wake up from this horrific nightmare…And guess what? I didn’t… and I wouldn’t… But something inside of me DID wake up…In an instant I became completely present. I heard the trees, the leaves, the wind, the creeks speaking to me. I started following my intuition and surprisingly it led me to nice things. I felt as though my daughter took my hand and was walking me through my grief and through life. This is how I was led to Helping Parents Heal, where we hold a hand or give a hand. I truly wish I could tell everyone going through something as difficult as the passing of a child, to listen to your inner self. Become still and you will hear the Universe… you will hear your child reaching out to you…
-Written by our Chicago Affiliate Leader, Vida Vai. Please email Vida to find our her next meeting: firstname.lastname@example.org. Meetings will be at Unity of Oak Park.
Helping Parents Heal - Tampa
Marla Grant and Amy Diehl-Jennifer Farmer
Greetings All, Our Tampa Helping Parents Heal group had a wonderful meeting on Wednesday, January 25, featuring the nationally known Medium Jennifer Farmer. The 30 people who attended this full house meeting, were privileged to experience Jennifer’s skills live and in person. First, she spent some time introducing herself and discussing how she ended up becoming a medium. She followed with a discussion of the spirit world, followed by a 20-minute Grief Healing meditation to open us up to spirit. Lastly, Jennifer welcomed Spirit to our gathering and proceeded to give some absolutely amazing readings.
Six families in our group were graced with undeniably clear evidence that their children were alive in spirit and sending important messages of wisdom and love. I am blessed to say that my family was one of those lucky folks. Despite my silent entreaties to my son Chris to let others in the group be heard, he wrapped up the evening with a of vivid string of clear visual images, from my nephew popping wheelies in a wheelchair this past Christmas, to news of his brothers activities, to images of the unique circumstances of how he passed.
All of this, plus his messages to my husband, me and his grandmother, was relayed with the confident, funny, wise-guy personality he had in life. It was a powerful evening of grace and love that touched all our hearts and left everyone present feeling a sense of peace within that whirlwind of grief that accompanies the loss of a child. I feel so lucky to be a part of this group and the message of love and hope it offers to grieving families.
-Amy Diehl, Tampa Co-Affiliate Leader
Helping Parents Heal - HawaiiBeth D'Angelo - Helping Parents Heal - Hawaii Affiliate Leader
June 29, 2004, entry from my journal:
“I am so broken hearted. I will never be the same. My heart has been permanently broken. So this is what the depth of sorrow feels like. This is the price I pay for loving. This is just too deep and too much to ask of me. I can’t do this”.
February 2017: I often say that if it wasn’t for what I do for a living, I don’t know if I would have had the courage to get out of bed each morning. For eight hours I was given a vacation from the loss of my son. I hid behind the music I chose for that day’s fitness classes. I wrapped myself in the people in front of me, offering inspiration to reach for what they longed for, knowing all the while most of them had no idea what I was fighting to hold onto — my sanity. Where I stand today was an impossible thought before. It has taken many baby steps, breakdowns and a courage I didn’t know I had within me to move into the feeling of my son’s absence in order to find his presence. And I have found his presence because my belief in who he was and is has stood the test of all my rants, anger, wails, writings, protests, and the crushing weight of fighting the fact that he moved into another realm without my permission.
Death did not take away being his mother nor did it separate our love. We carry our children with us in our voices, our thoughts, in the work we do with our hands and in the heart consciousness of being vulnerable, real and authentic in the presence of another. I have changed my way of understanding what I now know; I have no regrets or resentments in the life I continue to share with Sean. Life happened. My heart broke. I lost my smile and found it again. I enter the rooms of loss and cry hard. I walk out of those rooms and bring love and hope to others until it is my time to return to those crying rooms. I go there because I can. I walk out — because I can. It wasn't always like this, but I have cultivated a life that makes it possible to live inside my story with grace and meaning. I share my time with another mother who has lost their beloved child because every time I am in their presence, I see myself. I see where I was and where I am today and if I can hold a torch for another to light their way, I am passing on the gift of hope that was given to me on one cold February night, when my light dimmed.
My life mantra I strive to live by is simple: “Never underestimate the power of giving. It shines like a beacon throughout humanity…It cuts through the oceans that divide us and brighten the lives of all it touches. One of Life’s greatest laws is that you cannot hold a torch to light another’s path without brightening your own as well.”
-Written by Beth D’Angelo, Affiliate Leader Kona Chapter on the Big Island of Hawaii