July 2016

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Welcome to the July issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!  

Hello!  We are glad you have found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal! 

Our nation has experienced a heartbreaking week, and it has been even harder for us as bereaved parents.  
 Sara Ruble and Dr. Mark Pitstick have written healing articles about the Orlando tragedies.  Please take a minute to read them, as well as our stories of validation and spiritual growth. Please also visit our website:  

For those of you who live in the Phoenix area, we have a wonderful upcoming meeting schedule! We have many talented speakers who have graciously agreed to give their time and energy to our group: Lilla Swanson and Energy Healer David Router, June 19thPsychic Medium Fara Gibson on July 24th, Psychic Medium Jamie Clark on August 21st, Dr. Mark Pitstick, a board member of Helping Parents Heal, author and afterlife expert on September 18th, Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson on December 18th and Roberta Grimes, attorney, author and afterlife expert, on January 15th. Also, Irene Vouvalides will be welcoming Evidential Medium and author Suzanne Giesemann at her Hilton Head affiliate meeting on January 8th.  Please be sure to sign up for these events as seating is limited! Hope to see you there.

Also, a reminder that Irene Vouvalides, our Hilton Head affiliate leader, has offered to help organize a Helping Parents Heal National Conference.  She has already contacted many wonderful speakers who have agreed to participate!  She is also researching conference centers in and around Phoenix and Scottsdale.  The conference would take place over a two-day weekend in April 2018.  We need to have an idea of how many parents would like to attend so that we can move forward with the planning.  Please email Irene to let her know if you might be interested in attending: We are certain that this conference will be wonderful!

Sending love and light to each one of you and to your beautiful children.  You are not alone.

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and AffiliateLeader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.

Death Teaches - Sara Ruble
Candlelight Vigil for the Victims of Pulse Nightclub in Orlando - Photo: Associated Press

The Meaning of Life and Death - From a Mom's Perspective
Soul planning may not seem logical to you. You may question…how can we plan our entire lives before we are born and then come to earth and live out that plan?  And meet everyone we were needing to, to become…moms, dads, brothers, sisters, teachers, doctors, plumbers, grandparents, writers, volunteers, murderers…

Nothing is random.

We know that is hard to take this in if your child or loved ones were killed by another, murdered, raped by such reprehensible actions. Or…just the fact that those kind of actions take place…one human to another.

We need to help you understand this…

Spiritual soul planning will bring the most unlikely experiences to the human experiencers….because Spirit teaches with contrast. Good vs. bad, humane vs. inhumane, love vs. hate, and more.

If we use the the tragic Orlando shootings that took place a few days ago…and we must…to explain more about soul planning…there is meaning to it all.

Logical? No… Horrendous. Yes.  Meaningful…yes.

But why? So many innocent people killed. They were just having fun dancing and listening to the bands. That is NOT logical.

To help you understand soul planning you need to understand this… Spirit creates.

Yes… Your child, children, loved ones have died… Their deaths were the outcome of the soul planning done a hundred years ago or so to…create.

Your grief, your pain, your heartbreak, the need to understand or help others creates beauty and shares love. Reaching out to help another in their grief is a gift to not only them, but to you.

And you could not, cannot ever change the soul plans made with Spirit/God/Your Higher Power.

The spiritual aspect of each human born is the strongest part of each of you. It is the words, actions, experiences of each spiritual being in a human body…having human experiences.

The reason you came to earth…were born…was to follow your soul plan to completion.

This plan maybe filled with love and kindness, gratitude, generosity, or filled with anger, hate, manipulation, the inability to cope with daily life, suspicion…

Because what one human can create, there will be the contrast…that is acted on.

As Mom/Sara watched the TV coverage of the Orlando shootings…she was sending love to those who created the contrast in that human experience… Strangers saving lives, carrying others to waiting vehicles to get to the hospital, putting pressure to a man’s body to prevent bleeding out, reassuring voices that provided love and support. “You’re going to be OK…” Ordinary humans going way out of their comfort zones to help others…rising above anyone’s expectations to help a fellow human being in pain, near death, at death. All of it so hard to watch… but that beautiful contrast…helps us trust in the goodness of others.

Every aspect of what happened in Orlando…was soul planned.

Let us explain… We know this may be hard take in…

The man who became the shooter had a soul plan that created a violent reaction to the life he saw around him. He created an incredibly tragic set of circumstances that sent shock waves throughout the world.

Contrast to his actions began to show love and kindness, caring, reaching out, embracing the gay community, worldwide tributes in support of America, hundreds standing in lines to give blood. So beautiful… Those actions were soul planned…opening the hearts of many to do what they could to balance the hate they had just witnessed.

Since the beginning of time…there has been contrast… It creates.

Wars, holocaust, genocide, rape, racial prejudice, drugs, cancer…more…

Are created for the regret, compassion, greater learning, retaliation, empathy, love, support…and deep need to create change in this world. To evolve…

If you haven’t experienced pain, can you know how desperate another may be in their pain?

If you haven’t experienced the death of your loved one, can you really know another’s missing, confusion, agony?

Looking at life and death…and the whole life experience with a new perspective…can you begin to see the bigger picture of WHY what happens, happens?

Take in the knowing that you came to earth with your soul planned family and others to experience everything needed for your lifetime…to evolve, grow, create, fall down, get back up, fight against, break down, embrace, be challenged, overcome… Death is a part of the plan…

Darkness becomes Light…through the work done on earth… Growing in your awareness is part of the plan… 

Everyone on earth is a spiritual being in a human body having human AND spiritual experiences…

There is more to come…Trust love, Scott/Spirit and Sara 
Please visit Sara Ruble's website at

Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives

July 2016

by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A.  The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad.  At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience.  You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again.  That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers.  Links at lower left of home page.
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering.  If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge.  Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others. 

Many of us are deeply feeling the ripples of pain and sadness from the three tragic events in Orlando last week.  Many people became bereaved parents and family members.  All of us at Helping Parents Heal send our highest thoughts and prayers.  My article “
The 3 Orlando Tragedies . . . Another Perspective” was written for those who are afraid, grieving, and searching for the silver linings in those huge clouds.   

Q: My son was killed 2 years ago.  The man who did this and destroyed my family was shot and killed over the weekend. I don't know how to feel.  Should I feel bad for his family? I don't. Do I think he got what he deserved? Yes. Did I wish this on him?  No. - Nedra

A: How you should feel is how you are feeling, Nedra.  I’m glad you didn’t wish it on him and understand your other feelings.  We are trained that there is a “right way” to feel, think, and be.  But, your thoughts are not hurting anyone and that’s the bottom line.  Over time, you may find yourself feeling more compassion for his family and even your son’s murderer.  Lots of people are imbalanced these days.  That doesn’t make them evil although their actions may be very wrong.  So go with what you are feeling now and be open to upgrading those feelings as the years go by. 
Q: Has anybody done family pictures at their child's grave? I'd like to have photos done with my husband and two-year-old at our other daughter’s grave.  Would like ideas of a special way you "decorate" the area or do something special. I don't want the typical "cheese" poses of everyone looking at the camera.  Something more natural. I know this might be weird to some, but I can't stand not including her in a family picture. - Kristen
A: Kudos to you, Kristen, for taking an energetic “high road” and including your graduated child in family photos.  She will always be an integral part of your family.  Physical death only changes a very small fraction of who and what she is and does NOT change the love you all experience. 

Whatever makes you and your husband feel better makes sense.  Some families prefer to hold a large photo of their transitioned loved one in the family portrait.  They feel that photos at the gravesite focus a bit much on the death part instead of the 99.999% of her that is alive and well.  There’s no “best way” so be creative and remember that you will see her again and can now.  See Foundational Article #10: “12 Keys to Visiting with Your Departed Loved Ones” to learn how. 
Q: Had my first experience with something missing from my baby boy’s resting place. I can't begin to explain the anxiety that has caused. What's missing did not cost much, really . . . but it meant so much TO ME.  Baby blue daisies are NOT easy to find and the little lamb was a gift for him.  Every time I think of it gone, I struggle to breath. I know he is gone and never coming back. When his stuff goes missing, it's like him being snatched away again.  It feels like being punched in the gut. - Patty

A: Yes, it can feel like you can’t breathe and are gut punched, doesn’t it?  It’s difficult enough to have a child transition without gravesite theft making it worse. 
Fortunately, each moment in life presents us with opportunities to look for the blessings that always exist—even when a child dies.  In this case, the theft can help you grieve at a deeper level so you can heal more quickly and thoroughly. 
The robbery can also assist a spiritually transformative experience, a deeper knowing that your boy is much, much more than the physical vehicle that died.  Human bodies, flowers, and stuffed animals can go away, but the love, spirit, and connection cannot. 
And – even though it seems like he was – your little one wasn’t snatched away from you.  For reasons we on Earth can only partially understand, it was his soul’s time to move on.  Good evidence indicates that the souls of you and other family members agreed beforehand to participate in all of this.  From a human perspective, your son’s passing seems to be a horrible tragedy and the theft to be a grim reminder.  But a greater perspective reveals that you all, out of love, agreed to create this scenario for the growth and service opportunities.  You knew your human hearts would break, but that much good could come from it.
Here’s another way to look at it: the cemetery is not your baby boy’s resting place.  It only contains the discarded shell that his soul no longer needed.  I know that body was all you could see of him after he died.  But he was AND IS so much more than that.  Maybe the theft of these items can be a wake-up call to help you remember the big picture that provides so much hope and peace. 
Q: Zahir would be graduating this year. It makes me sad as hell to know he won't be walking with his classmates, especially after all his hard work and determination to remain an A student.  He was literally in the hospital dying and all he could worry about was his summer school work. The school is giving a posthumous diploma, yearbook remembrance page, and space with momentos in his honor at graduation. A part of me feels like I should be there, but it gives me a panic attack just thinking about it. I honestly don't know what to do . . . SMH. – Chaya

A: We all can understand why you are shaking your head and shaking inside, Chaya. But how great it must make you feel to see all the honor and love given to your son.  You were a big part of that and you can be sure that Zahir is positively beaming from above.  He earned an AAA+++ for all he did on Earth and is doing now.  Our time on Earth is very much like taking one class.  He graduated from earth-school and is now ready for the next class and experience in eternity.  You two are so connected; you can be sure you will see each other again and have other adventures. 
The more you can focus on all that, the more you can handle the sad and painful parts of grieving.  However, if you continue having panic attacks, consider a natural health check up as describe in Foundational Article #13, especially the Nutrition Response Testing part. 
And to you and anyone in a similar situation, don’t let such precious moments pass by because you’re concerned you may “have a breakdown.”  Your presence will mean so much to more people than you can know.  Yes, you may cry your eyes out, but that will help you and others heal.  Your tears will show them a model for healthy grieving instead of keeping it in, becoming a recluse, or taking “happy pills” to stuff it down.  So, by all means, go so you don’t regret not going later. 

Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.  

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges.  Email Mark at to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions

-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and of Eternea

Mark will soon be hosting Eternea Chat webinars.  Please click here to learn more and to participate!  

Psychic Medium Fara Gibson
Psychic Medium Fara Gibson and her book, 'Looking Into the Windows of Heaven'

Allow Me to Teach You About Heaven
How do I teach you that your loved ones are with you and watching over you from Heaven?  How do I help you to know that they are not missing out on all of your accomplishments and milestones that you have reached in life.  What can I say so that you know without a doubt that your loved ones in Heaven can Hear your words and thoughts to them?

Since I was born, I have had the Beautiful knowledge of Spirit and Heaven.  I have made it my life’s Path to share my knowledge of spirit so that others may find healing and the ability to carry on in their life with the knowledge that their loved ones in Heaven are at their side. 

From the Moment that someone enters our life, there is never a guarantee in the physical world of tomorrow.  If it were up to us, each of those in our life that we love would simply live forever.  There isn’t a day that we wake up hoping a loved one will make their journey to Heaven.  This is the reason that God does not place this choice within our hands.

When we are in Heaven, there is no negativity. There is no pain, no suffering, no anger, no jealousy, no ______ (I will let you fill that spot in).  We plan our life prior to coming here from Heaven with God at our side.  We choose our Family, our Friends, our Challenges, our Successes…. And then, we are giving FREE WILL to make any journey out of our life that we choose.   We will make mistakes (Some call them Sins, and I like to call them Lessons) that we will grow from.  We will support others in their growth in life.  We will experience obstacles that we feel we will never overcome, but, in reality, those obstacles are the ones that make us our strongest.  You see, If life were easy, what would we learn from it?  Without an Addiction, one may never know what it is to feel Sober….. Without Loss, One may never know how very precious every moment of life truly is….   Without Divorce, we may never know what it is to truly be loved and know our worth in a relationship……. Without School that we work day and night to get through, we may never know the taste of success……..You see…. Every obstacle is for our growth… How we approach our obstacles is our Free Will…..  

Let’s say for example that LOSS was an obstacle placed in your life. When you experience this loss, how do you exercise your Free Will?  Do you lay in bed each day and give up on life.  Do you push away everyone who loves you because you have chosen to surround yourself with sadness and pain? Family traditions stop with you because you have chosen to let the thought of a tradition hurt you instead of passing it to the coming generations that depend on you?  Does that exercise of your Free Will better your life?  When you look back on the way that you exercised your Free Will, will you be proud?  What if after your loss, you exercised your Free Will to Love each and everyone around you so intensely that you were sure that everyone around you has felt your love?  You made it your focus to share time and traditions with your family so that they would never be lost?  You made your rounds lending support and love to others who have suffered loss as well, because you know what it feels like to be in there shoes?  When you review this choice in your Free Will, will you be Proud?  Of course you will!  You took a hard lesson that life dealt you and you used it to propel you in life. 

Each of these obstacles that we live through mold us into the person that we are today.  How do we gain strength without having struggles in life?  We don’t…   And then we pass someday….. When we pass, we leave behind the physical world in the form of our Body.. The very essence of us, our very being, our SOUL is never touched by our passing. Our Soul does not suffer with illness, or hunger, or pain, or _______. (I will let you fill in the blank again).  We return to live in Heaven.  It was the place we lived for an Eternity before this life and we will spend an eternity in Spirit in our future as well with God at our side.

Most Religions agree that there is more to life than this Physical life.  I will not debate Religion.  I believe that Spirituality brings us together and Religion Divides Us… I believe that each person is entitled to their very own beliefs.  Who am I to change your beliefs and who are you to change mine?  You see, I did not start this path to debate religion or the Bible.  I began this journey to Restore Faith… If I can restore your Faith that there is something more to life than this Physical world, then perhaps you will find God yourself?  Perhaps you will know Jesus?  Perhaps you won’t find anything at all but the Faith that your loved one still sees and Hears you?  But, whatever you find, I hope it is what makes you Happy in life.  I hope it makes you successful in your challenges and obstacles.  Some Religions will tell you that it is Impossible to speak with the Dead… Well, I agree… You see, I could talk to a “Dead Body” all day and night and never get a response.. I don’t speak to “The Dead”.. I Speak to Living Spirits… I Speak to Eternally Bright Heavenly Sprits.  I never understood how some people think it is so impossible to speak to Spirit.  The Bible was interpreted by Man who was able to Hear Heaven speak… What makes my Abilities any different?  I was given the ability from birth to communicate with the spirits that have crossed over to Heaven.  I was also given the ability to communicate with God, Jesus, my Spirit Guides, Angels…. I could go on and on… But, there is nothing Negative that comes from Heaven… If you have ever spoken to someone who claims to be a Medium that tells you anything negative about your loved one or makes you feel uneasy, please carry on.. There is a BIG difference in someone who is INTO THE SPIRITUAL WORLD, and someone who has BUILT IN ABILITIES FROM GOD….. I can assure you this..

Your Loved Ones In Heaven see you.  They hear you. They are all around you…… Heaven is only 3 feet off of our floor.  Yes, I said 3 feet!!! It is how they can still enjoy Heaven without having to Stay here and wait around for you… They live amongst you. They cheer you on in your defeats, and they take pride in your successes.  They live in a place of pure and unconditional love.  They are not angry, they don’t hold grudges, they are not jealous, they aren’t _________.  (Again, you can fill that blank… They love you for all that you are.  They just lived a life themselves and they know how difficult it was to do so.  Those things that you are carrying guilt for are not serving you and they certainly aren’t holding a grudge from Heaven.  So, let it go…. Heaven is made of Pure Love… If you take the most love you have felt in your entire life and multiply it by infinity, you may then know the feeling of Heaven.  Your loved ones in Heaven don’t even miss you… Missing someone would be a negative emotion and what kind of heaven would heaven be if we spent an eternity in Heaven missing everyone that we love?  They are 3 feet off of the floor and have no need to miss you as they are still with you.  They are living life through your eyes and actions now… Are you making them proud with what they see?  Did you take on an addiction after their passing and blame it on their “Death”?  Did you stop going to school because you simply couldn’t carry on without them? Did you close yourself off in your home and stop loving all of the beautiful people that you still have an opportunity to share life with?  Or, did you make a list of things you will do in their honor and start at number 1 on that list?  Did you take the love that they shared with you and keep it alive in stories of them with your family and friends?  Did you get your degree in college as you had always dreamed because you wanted to honor them as you received your diploma?  Which path would make them more proud as they cheer you on?  If you choose the hard path, just know that it is a lesson that you and only you can overcome.. How you choose to overcome it is up to you and no one else… Are You Proud Of You?

I receive messages for people here in the Physical world from their loved ones in Heaven every Day.  I pass these messages on in readings that bring Healing to those who receive the messages.  I realize that when someone has not yet had a reading, that there is room for doubt.  How can you know that your loved ones are with you without evidence that they are still living in spirit?  SIGNS!!! Your loved ones leave you signs each and every day.  Feathers, Coins, Butterflies, Rainbows, Birds, Smells, Senses of touch, DREAM VISITS, and oh man, I could go on forever…. Perhaps you don’t need a reading from a Medium at all… Perhaps you see the signs around you already.  Those signs that you receive that take your mind to your loved one in that instant are truly from your loved ones in Heaven.  They are working diligently to help you to find healing and know they are with you so that you may continue to live a successful path.  

I have a lot of clients that say, Please tell my loved one in Heaven that I love them!! My answer is always, I don’t need to… You just Did… They can hear you.  They can hear your thoughts to them as well as your words out loud.  How do I know this?  Because I speak to them in my thought process back and forth.  You see, in Heaven, they do not have bodies with lungs, vocal chords, and voices… They speak telepathically without words out loud in Heaven.  My ability includes hearing those thoughts back to me from them.  So, think to them if you would like and they will hear you. You never ever need to pay a medium to tell your loved ones ANYTHING for you at all.  The only time that your loved ones cannot hear your thoughts are when you are speaking to God.  Our words and thoughts to God are a private communication between us and God and no one intercepts that but God.  So, speak to them often, tell them your hopes and dreams.  Tell them your challenges and ask them for their love and support and I assure you that they are there. 

I want you to know without a doubt that your loved ones watch over you.  Please carry on in life as though they are still living because they are.  No, it will never be the same as having their physical presence with us again.  But, if you learn to carry them with you in all that you do from a place of spirit, you will never live a day without them in your life.  The choice is yours.  They are with you weather you acknowledge them or not.  My advice, is Make Them Proud for they live through you now in all that you do in life.

When you review your life through the eyes of everyone that your life touched when you pass to Heaven, Will you be Proud?  Every Day is a New Day to make Amazing Changes in Your Life………. The Choice is yours…

-Written by Fara Gibson Psychic Medium

Fara will be speaking at our July 24th Meeting of Helping Parents Heal at Unity of Phoenix, 1500 E Greenway Parkway, from 1-3 pm.  Please learn more about Fara and RSVP here.  

The Afterlife Research and Education Institute, Inc.
Roberta Grimes, Craig Hogan, Susanne Wilson, Wendy and Victor Zammit of the AREI

The AREI is Happy to Partner With Helping Parents Heal!
After more than a century of careful progress, afterlife researchers have at last begun to produce increasingly stunning results, especially in the area of afterlife communication. It is no longer possible for an unbiased person who examines all the evidence to deny that we certainly survive our deaths, so it is time to redouble our efforts to spread the good news! At last we can foresee the longed-for day when people on earth will easily converse with their loved ones in spirit. In an effort to bring together what is known about death and the afterlife, and to make afterlife communication easier, five prominent afterlife researchers have established The Afterlife Research and Education Institute, Inc. AREI is an international service organization founded by afterlife researchers and experts Craig Hogan, Roberta Grimes, Susanne Wilson, and Victor and Wendy Zammit.

We are excited about the possibilities as AREI continues to grow! Efforts already underway include:

  • Helping people learn the truth about death and the afterlife. AREI will be holding regular conferences and workshops to share what afterlife specialists now know about the world of the afterlife and how to communicate with loved ones living there. Board members are already spreading the word through their own efforts. Roberta has a general discussion forum at, and a live radio program called Seek Reality (go to for more information). Victor and Wendy Zammit publish a free Friday Afterlife Report with exciting, up-to-date news about the afterlife and afterlife communication (you can subscribe at
  • Networking with and supporting other afterlife-related organizations. Until now, more than a dozen organizations focusing on various aspects of afterlife studies have been working alone, and important opportunities to help each other to spread the word have been missed. AREI will be assisting all these organizations in working together to get the word out about what each is doing and how they might better assist one another.
  • Offering support to researchers and experts. AREI gives researchers speaking platforms whenever possible, and publishes quality books by experts in afterlife-related fields through its publishing platform, Greater Reality Publications. Some Greater Reality books have gone on to enjoy success with larger publishers, such as Roberta Grimes’s The Fun of Dying.
  • Supporting mediumship development circles, Lyceums, Meetups, and other local, regularly scheduled gatherings. People who are learning about the afterlife often tell us they feel isolated and want to meet with and learn from others who live close to them. AREI is developing a network of groups that will welcome new members, and is happy to help interested people to start such groups on their own.
  • Raising funds to help researchers develop better methods of afterlife communication. The single biggest reason why people don’t know the truth that we all are eternal beings is that researchers haven’t had the money to finish their important work and get the word out about what they have discovered. AREI is working hard to change that by letting foundations and philanthropists know about the researchers’ need for support and how their help can change people’s lives, and eventually change all of humankind for the better.
  • Assisting in the development of mental, physical, and trance mediums. Everyone knows about mental mediums who can do readings for people, but there are other kinds of mediums who can demonstrate that life is eternal by having people from the afterlife materialize to talk with their loved ones or use the medium’s voice to speak to loved ones. These mediums are almost unknown today because developing mediumship abilities to this extent takes time, patience, and the help of mentors and circles. AREI is supporting efforts to identify and train mental and physical mediums, and will be developing networking and mentoring opportunities and guidelines for people who want to set up their own development circles.
  • Helping counsellors, clergy, and hospice workers. Until recently there was little good information available to people who directly assist the dying and their families. AREI will be offering general information about the death transition and the afterlife, and will be training counsellors, clergy, and hospice workers to better understand the transition process, the afterlife realities, and what best to say to people and their families as they are preparing to make the transition.
  • Developing an online university. AREI is assembling training materials in all areas of afterlife studies as it creates an online university with a broad and varied curriculum where people at all stages of the learning process can learn about the afterlife and afterlife communication, for their own understanding or so they can teach others. Experts in all areas of afterlife studies who would like to assist in building the AREI university curriculum are encouraged to contact us through
  • Coaching bereaved people in new and better methods of afterlife communication. One notable success has been AREI’s free online training program that teaches people how to connect directly with loved ones living on the next plane of life. This procedure uses a form of self-relaxation to bring the person into a state in which powerful afterlife connections may occur. It then teaches how to allow free and open unfoldment so messages can come through from loved ones. Experiencers fill out and submit journals after each stage that Craig Hogan personally reads, and then he coaches experiencers to help them learn how to free their minds so unfoldment can happen. Approximately 86% of those who go through all the training stages have reported afterlife connections. The procedure is available for free at
  • Working with the North American communication station. A very exciting development has been the decision by leading dead experts to choose Craig Hogan and his team to be their assistants as they develop the North American Station. We are told by its developers on the other side of life that when it is fully functional, the North American Station will enable anyone to communicate with dead loved ones electronically, without a medium. During this development stage, anyone who is interested in helping with the North American Station’s development can find instructions and support at

The AREI board is delighted to share a close working relationship with Helping Parents Heal, which is a loving and spirit-based source of support for grieving parents. Already HPH member and NYC affiliate leader Sheri Perl has joined AREI and is achieving amazing success with the North American Station, conversing with her son and helping other grieving parents in making connections with their children. AREI Board members Susanne Wilson and Roberta Grimes are eager to speak at HRH meetings, and to share information and support whenever that can be arranged. And to inspire as many HRH members as possible to become involved in this important joint effort, during 2016 the $39 dues to join AREI have been reduced to $25. For more information go to

-AREI: Roberta Grimes, Craig Hogan, Susanne Wilson, Wendy Zammit, Victor Zammit

Fellowship and Coincidences by Ernie and Kristine Jackson

Kristine and Ernie

Golfing with Quinton
I become deeply immersed in the system of things; in complete and total mindless busyness!  I learn and grow in this busy state, which of course is part of our purpose for being here.   It is sometimes hard to let go and simply enjoy myself.

Case in point, I felt bad about leaving work to attend the annual BOMA Phoenix golf tournament.  I was fielding calls and handling busy work up until I left, and was still taking calls on the way.  However, I was curious to see what I was supposed to experience at the tournament because it is rarely simply about having fun, although it was part of my agenda.  Whenever I golf, I think of Quinton and hope he will make his presence known in some way.  My expectations increase when I golf at any BOMA tournament.  

I did have fun playing golf, and I was doing a pretty good job.  I was encouraged since because of my surgically repaired shoulder and the simple fact that I don’t practice, I will never be a long ball hitter.  Making contact with the ball is good enough.  We came up to a hole where we met some new friends who had become vendor partners.  They had set up a goal post with several footballs at the hole.  Well, Quinton and I loved throwing a football, so when I picked one up and started tossing it around with the guys.  Of course, I was thinking of Q.   This experience completely lifted my spirits and allowed me to feel that Quinton was with me.  I didn’t know what hole we were on until later in the week.

Then, while I was golfing, I hit one of the best shots off the tee.  I started jumping around, laughing and giggling, saying that it was the best ever! Or so I thought.  A couple of holes later, I hit my truly best shot ever off the tee.  I was so impressed that I measured it.  It was 210 yards; something I have never done.  It was straight and low, and I had made clean contact with it, neither hitting too far under nor topping the ball.  I knew Quinton was there.  

Since we were playing a scramble, my shot was chosen.  My next shot had us on the green, about 8 feet from the hole.  Being able to hit two amazing shots in a row has never happened before!  Never!  I ended up carding a par on the hole, but the quality of the shots was enough for me to know that Q was there with me.  But it gets better!

As we drove to the next hole, I wondered what hole I had been on, looking for any additional coincidences.  I was thinking this as we rolled up to the 16th hole.  Well, I'll be, I thought.  Quinton’s shenanigans had taken place on the 15th hole!  I was not at all surprised and knew that this was still another validation that my son was with me on those swings and at that hole.  

A couple of days later, I met with one of the friends with whom I was throwing the football.  I asked him on which hole they had chosen to install the goal.  I was shocked when he told me that it was the 12th hole.  You might think this is all a coincidence, but after many years of recognizing and acknowledging signs from Q, I realized that this was no accident.  Quinton was born on December 15!  12/15 and it was on those two holes that he was with me.  And while he was with me he lightened my load and allowed my spirit to soar.

Blessings!  May you recognize the signs of your loved ones when they visit!

-Ernie and Kristine Jackson

-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton.  His two books,'Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.

Affiliate Updates - 
Helping Parents Heal - Tampa
Marla Grant  -Tampa Affiliate Leader and the Franciscan Renewal Center

This past week has been a very difficult one, especially for the people of the beautiful city of Orlando. Marla Grant, our Tampa affiliate leader, will be hosting a meeting of Helping Parents Heal at the Franciscan Renewal Center in Tampa on June 29th.

Marla warmly invites any parents, siblings or family members from Orlando (or anywhere else in the area) who might like to attend. Please let her know if you are interested;

Helping Parents Heal-United Kingdom, First Meeting June 26th!
Marta Arce-Dubois, Affiliate Leader and Barnett Hill, Surrey

Reminder: Our first HPH UK Meeting will take place on June 25th at the Dunant Conference room at Barnett Hill outside Guildford, Surrey. Weather permitting, we will be able to spill out into the beautiful grounds in the afternoon. There will be coffee and tea on arrival from 12 pm, introductions, greeting from Helping Parents Heal co-founder Elizabeth Boisson, buffet lunch (the bar will be open for those who wish to have a glass of wine). After lunch activities ('NLP Grief Process' tester - 'Bringing our children into our present and with us into our future', 'Reconnection Meditation', etc, talk and message session by a spiritualist medium, afternoon/evening coffee.

This will be a great day of sharing, understanding, healing, spiritual development, making new friendships and strengthening existing ones. Please, let me know that you can attend as we will need to confirm attendee numbers before the meeting,  Please RSVP and learn more here

-Much love, Marta Arce-Dubois, United Kingdom Affiliate Leader

Sheri’s Corner-
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
“Prayers and good thoughts,” he told to me, for those who have left the earth life, by their fellows still in incarnation are a great aid to our work here. The prayer forms, and the potency of good thoughts, cause a quickened vibration to reach the one prayed for. As he is generally closely connected with his former life by interests and affections and memories, he is able to respond to such vibrations, thus he is much helped. Such petition and meditations could be likened to a draft of healing water for the newly transmitted soul.”

This quote was taken from the book “Testimony of Light” by that late medium Helen Greaves. It is channeled material from her friend-in-spirit Frances Banks, who upon her passing channeled this book through her lifelong friend Helen. In this particular passage, Francis is sharing information given to her from one of her teachers on the other side. If you desire to know more about conditions on the other side, this book is a must read for you.

What I love about this passage is that it points to the power of prayer from those on earth to those in spirit. As valuable and important as this is, it is not something that most of us were ever taught about, not in our homes, not in our schools, often not even in our religious institutions. Prayers, as I understood them, were more or less a plea for something I either wanted, or absolutely did not want. But, in truth, prayers and thoughts are energy that can be directed to others, even those in spirit and with love and good intentions, they can lift, support and carry a loved one forward.  This is why The Prayer Registry exists; so that our children-in-spirit would experience the gift of this energy. My son Danny describes receiving the prayer energy as “catching rides” which if you knew how Danny loved to take rides in the car, you’d understand the implication. To register a child for prayer send his or her full name and passing date This is a free service.  All are welcome.

-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol

Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here

Mission Statement of Helping Parents Heal: Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices. -Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal

Note: Information in the Helping Parents Heal newsletter is provided for the sole purpose of assisting you in finding resources (information, meetings, books, etc.) to aid in the bereavement process. This newsletter is not intended to endorse, sponsor or encourage your use of any of the information or services listed, whether from members or other individuals. Rather, our intent is simply to inform you of vast amount of resources available for your consideration. We urge you to independently research and consider the value any particular resource for yourself. Further, while we take steps to ensure accuracy of the information posted, especially relative to linked media, we accept no liability for content. Helping Parents Heal is a non-profit Corporation.

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Stories of Validation -
Lifting the Veil by Rachel PearsonRachel's Son - Perry Craig Pearson

Shortly after Perry passed, I remember telling Craig that, because of our  “most likely” and “probable” and “not likely” and “possibilities” (ambiguity of Perry’s death),  that “One day we should go visit one of those reputable mediums.” Say what you will, but there is a reason the FBI employs mediums and police departments employ psychics. I’m not sure  I know  any parent who wouldn’t allow a police psychic to assist them in finding their child and I’m guessing I don’t know any bereaved parents whom,  given our circumstances, would be against going  to a medium. I definitely won’t receive any judgment from them, of that I am  sure.

Fast forward to the second week in November. Somebody from home texted me a poem; something about it was different and it really touched me.  At the bottom of the graphic was “”. (I hadn’t searched up any mediums prior to this.) Curious, I went the website and read,  “Serving the Phoenix area”. Hmmm…what are the odds?!?  I scrolled and read about Fara’s  upcoming group reading that was to be held  in Mesa. The location was just  EIGHT miles from my house. Seriously, of all the places in the world!  I discussed it with my husband. He had no desire to attend but gave me his blessing. I prayed about it and kept peace about it. I asked God to redirect me if it would be harmful  to me in any way.  I thought the group reading format  would be ideal  because I had never gone  to see a medium. In a group of people, I  considered that I would be able to  leave without too much hassle and it was a much lower financial risk!

I drove to the studio, taking care to park 3 blocks away,  just so there was no chance she’d see my TN plates – ha! When I walked into the room, I could  “feel” and  it was overwhelming. I paid by cash and sat in an end seat, near the exit. It was really amazing to witness Fara interpret messages around this large room. There were funny moments and tender moments, alike. One loved one whose spirit came through was a grandma that had a mouthful to say to her entire family! She was funny and sweet. What struck me was when, following her death validations, Fara said,  “She’s showing me a Bible that is entirely highlighted with all different colors.” Her granddaughter confirmed that yes, her grandmother was a devout Christian and that she has her highlighted Bible.  Fara went on to say that her grandmother told her, “I would not have been cool with this kind of thing in life (the group reading) but I am now!” The entire room cracked up. This broke the ice for me in a big way. I believe  what we truly fear, at times, is that our beliefs will  be challenged.

Fast forward to nearly the end of the group time… Fara came to me and asked me if I had a teenaged male son in Heaven. (Amazingly, I held it together the entire time.)  I told her that yes, I did. She said she saw him going really fast on a skateboard. This is where it got tricky because although he wasn’t on a skateboard, but a bicycle, we had only pieced together these uncertain details  (which was why I was there) and she wanted only “yes” or “no”…no extra info. (I found out at the second reading that the skateboard is the sign she gets for stunts.)  She went on to ask if he hit his head. I told her yes, he did. She told me that he said he was in tall grass so they couldn’t find him right away.  Yes, this was true. (We are in AZ, where there isn’t much grass, which made this even more amazing.)  She gave me a few more validations about that morning then she asked, “Did he have a thing for skinny jeans?”  She said, “because he’s telling me he wore skinny jeans all the time even though some gave him a hard time about it, but he didn’t care.”  Those who knew  him in life will probably have big smiles right now.  This was definitely true. He wore nothing else. She said  he showed her balloons for him;  family had just attended a balloon release at the funeral home. He had told her that his passing was “recent”. She told me several things that were all true about him in life, in just a few minutes. She told me that he showed her a crystal of his which  I have that  I can see through when I hold it up to light. I don’t have a crystal (though he had several in a rock collection) but I did buy a  sea glass necklace in Puerto Rico the previous month, specifically with Perry in mind. I wore it on our cruise and frequently held it up to the sun, thinking of him…and looking through it. The experience was amazing and beautiful. She had me at the skinny jeans, and God knew she would.

So, now I’m going to share what happened last week after, again, feeling led to go to another one of Fara’s group readings and this time, to ask Perry’s sister to go. I was surprised that she wanted to go so we did head over on Saturday morning . I told Fara (after the fact) that she could share my story on her page. I was nervous to share, for fear of what people may think. But, here’s the thing… Fara brings a lot of healing to a lot of people. She truly has a God-given extraordinary ability for what she does, and she considers it as such. The least I could do is to allow her to share my messages from Perry. I can’t help but feel  Perry is smiling down as I share. 

Two things I absolutely cannot deny:

  1. Fara can’t make this stuff up!
  2. Evil can’t bring good or healing. Only God can do that.
Here is the link to her page, where she shared Perry’s messages.  Please keep in mind that I didn’t give her our names or message pictures and the additional info until AFTER both the  group reading and our phone reading that followed. (After the first group reading in Nov, I never made contact with her. I was still anonymous to her last week.)  I gave her my phone number after the group reading, I didn’t even Like her page until after she posted it all. 

-Written by Perry's Mom, Rachel

Please visit Rachel's blog, For Perry For Us.  Fara Gibson will be the guest speaker at the July 24th meeting of Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale.  Please RSVP here.

Billy's Validations
William and his Mom, Adelaide Wolf

William is and will always be my heart & life. He was not only an amazing human being with a beautiful soul, but he is my only child and best friend. Our world has been changed forever. There is a novel's worth of love that I could write about when I'm describing William. He didn't let his health condition dampen his zest for life, his sense of humor or his spirit. He always had a smile and he'd have us laughing daily. He loved life, he loved his family and his animals. He believed and never lost hope he'd get his transplant for a new heart and lungs. I had originally written an essay on William and claircognizance, but decided to share a more positive side. A side that William would want me to share with other parents who are in pain and grieving. A clear message... that there's more.  

Signs and messages bring us a spark of light that can help us breath and heal...if even for one moment at a time. My husband and I are so grateful for all the messages and signs William has brought us. It has helped us get through each day since his transition. It's his  continued signs and messages that have allowed me to get through each day. 

A death bed vision or DBV - William went into organ failure early evening on July 19th, 2015, we were told he only had a few hours to live. He was on an ECMO machine with numerous tubes running throughout his body, and heavily sedated. He was in no pain. At this point he was unresponsive, and he didn't have the strength to sit up, even if he wanted to. All we could do is sit there with him and hold his hand and tell him how much we love him... 

Around 11:15 pm on July 19th, William suddenly sat up in bed on his own. I asked him what are you doing? He said "I have to let everyone know it's almost time to go." He was trying to turn the volume up on speakers that weren't there. I helped him turn the speakers up and handed him a mic (mind you there were no speakers or mic). He tapped the mic to make sure it was loud enough and spoke with a strong, clear voice. He had not been able to speak with a loud clear precise voice for over 10 days. It was as if he had a complete turn around. Strong and alert ( mentally, verbally and physically). They could hear him all the way down at the nurses station. William announced in the mic that "Anyone who's going, needs to say their goodbyes. The BUS will be leaving soon! Start saying your goodbyes. You have less than 2 hours" After William finished the announcement, he handed me the invisible mic, laid back down and returned to the same unresponsive state he had previously been in. William transitioned at 1:01 AM July 20th, 2015.

There were a number of witnesses who couldn't believe what they were seeing or hearing...nurses, a doctor, the ECMO tech, my husband and myself. 

I've been told we were shown a gift to cherish, that we were not supposed to see.

Since William's transition he has come through with a number of SIGNS.

The first sign was at William's memorial at sea.  A friend took a picture of the sunset. A red heart eclipsing the sundown appeared. Everyone on board saw the red heart and couldn't believe their eyes. One of the first people to see it was a highly respected doctor from Harvard. He said, "WHAT A SIGN from Billy... A RED HEART!"

ON September of last year, he shut down the DVR system and when we replaced it that evening, we turned it on and a Christmas movie we loved appeared—right at the a scene that cracked us up. It wasn’t even Christmas.

On November of last year, the TV turned off at the 12:20 mark, 1:20 mark, 2:20 mark, lasting for four days. It reminded me of how my father turned the TV on, also for four days in the month of November, after he passed in June 1994.

William sends the smell of root beer—his favorite beverage—through the house. It started a week before Mother's Day. Since then, there are days the smell penetrates several rooms for hours. It reminds me of how my mother sends the smell of English Violet or Jasmin.

On Mother's Day my tablet turned on by itself to the game I play on it. The tablet had been on the lock mode.  William was a huge Transformers fan. I asked him to send me a Transformer image or name for Mother's Day. Later that night one of the Transformer names came through a show, but it had nothing to do with the plot. It was a ring tone that they were trying to figure out the sound. The tone was a Ratchet (The Medical Officer/The Healer inTransformers). Immediately after at 11:43 pm the living room filled with the smell of root beer. It was as if we had been thrown into a vat of it. The smell lasted for several minutes.

For the last week... my husband has been waking up at exactly 7:20 AM. He asked me "why do I keep waking up at 7:20 am?" I just told him... William is sending you a sign that he is around, William transitioned on 7.20.

As William would say “There’s more than meets the eye” (Optimus Prime - Transformers)

-Written by Billy's Mom, Adelaide
Billy's Memorial Gathering at Sea with a Red Heart below the Sunset

Ricky Makes Contact
Ricky Pike
Every day is a learning experience for me... and it brings gifts sometimes. I was at the birthday balloon release of a mom who lost her son when at the end of the event this lady comes to me and grabs my arms and says "who is that angel behind you above your shoulders?" I thought she wanted to know my name so I said "Maria" she looks at me and says, "its a man", he is just behind you and wants you to know he is with you in the kitchen and the car. Ugh I am shivering!". I am confused but remembered the times where the kitchen lights turned to a bright white (they are yellow which my son Ricky hated) a couple of times after he passed so I said, it's my son Ricky! and he probably says car because I grieve while I drive and converse with him in my mind. I was very touched and we hugged and I cried. Then, while we were chatting I told her about my car being totaled in December so I had a loaner, she says "oh, he says... that is what he was trying to tell you, he was there with you when the car got totaled! he protected you. 

I know everyone was surprised I was not injured when indeed it was a head on collision. Everyone thought I was dead or badly injured at the scene; a witness, police, neighbors, the other car owner. I thought the body of the car protected me, but I now know he was there and he is always around me. I feel always that he guides my path. Feeling blessed.

-Written by Ricky's Mom, Maria Pike

Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.) 

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Upcoming Meetings of Helping Parents Heal
Helping Parents Heal - Pensacola, FL hosted by Kristen Brown-Sanders, July 6th. Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Hawaii hosted by Beth D'Angelo, June 25th.  Please RSVP here.

Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix Scottsdale, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson with special guest Psychic Medium Fara Gibson July 24th.  Please RSVP here.  Helping Parents Heal - Ottawa, Canada.  Please contact Patti May: for the next meeting time and place.
Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head hosted by Irene Vouvalides, July 10th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Tampa, FL hosted by Marla Grant, June 29th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Tucson, AZ with Janice Crowder Torrez, NEW LOCATION!  July 21st.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas, TX, hosted by Tracy Venters,  July 12th. Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, AZ with special guest David Router, June 19th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, AZ with special guest Psychic Medium Jamie Clark, August 21st.  Please RSVP here.  Helping Parents Heal - Fort Lauderdale, FL hosted by Ana Fernandez, June 4th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - NYC, hosted by  Sheri Perl Migdol. Please contact Sheri for upcoming date and time:
Helping Parents Heal - Surrey, UK, hosted by Marta Arce-Dubois June 26th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Dr. Mark Pitstick, September 18th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Cincinnati with Tywana and Brian Smith, August 7th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, with special guest Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson December 18th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head, hosted by Irene Vouvalides with special guest Psychic Medium Suzanne Giesemann January 8th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale hosted by Elizabeth Boisson with special guest Roberta Grimes.  Please RSVP here.

Affiliate Groups and their leaders (by alphabetical order)

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL

NEW GROUP - Marta Arce-Dubois-Surrey, UK

Elizabeth Boisson-Phoenix, AZ

Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL

Lancy Carr - Washington DC

Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA

Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ

- Beth D'Angelo-Kona Side of Big Island, HI

NEW GROUP - Ana Fernandez-Fort Lauderdale, FL

NEW GROUP - Marla Grant-Tampa, FL

NEW GROUP - Carla Haynie-Little Rock, AK

Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL

NEW GROUP - Steven Joseph-Omaha, NE

Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC

Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho

Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario

Maria Pe - San Diego

Glenda Pearson - Mishawaka IN

Sheri Perl-New York, NY

NEW GROUP - Diane Romagnoli - Bedford/Manchester, NH

Tiffany Rose - Sedona, AZ

NEW GROUP - Tywana and Brian Smith - Cincinnati, OH

NEW GROUP - Michelle Stein - Lafayette, CA

Tracy Venters - Dallas, TX
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Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ

Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC

You can read the bios and see photos of each of the affiliate leaders at our website:  

Please contact Elizabeth Boisson ( if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.

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Elizabeth Boisson Co-F0under/
Mark Ireland Co-Founder/
Doryce Norwood /
Ernie Jackson /
Dr. Mark Pitstick /

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Secretary: Laurie Savoie /

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