Welcome to the June issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!
We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth. We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones. Once again, we are fortunate to welcome Dr. Mark Pitstick and his new column, 'Evolved Souls Don't Need Long Earthly Lives', to the newsletter. Twice a month he will be answering some of the most difficult questions that Parents ask on our Facebook page, Parents United in Loss, aka Helping Parents Heal. Please also take a moment to read the inspirational quote that our NYC affiliate leader, Sheri Perl Migdol, will be including in her column, 'Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast'. And finally, my daughter Alix has written the first of what I hope to be many articles entitled Through the Eyes of a Sibling-Surviving the Passing of a Loved One. Please email me if you would like to include an article written by a sibling at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Scottsdale/Phoenix.
Spur Cross Recreation Area, Cave Creek, Arizona
I feel fortunate to live in a beautiful, spiritual place. Hiking in the hills behind my home is similar to a religious experience for me. I feel very close to our children while I am there. Kim Seligman, a fellow parent whom I have known for several years, has just informed me that she and her husband will be moving to Cave Creek in the near future to open a retreat for those who are grieving. I can think of no better place. They had considered doing so elsewhere but they loved the positive energy in this wonderful town. I am proud to call it home. Someday in the future Helping Parents Heal hopes to organize a conference for our parent members. I know that such an event would bring healing and light. Sending all of you love and looking forward to meeting you in person someday soon.
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A. I recommend that you read the foundational articles that form a basis for my answers. Those are located at the bottom of my website www.soulproof.com under Soul Proof Articles. You can also view Healing Articles by Dr. Pitstick at www.helpingparentsheal.info - Resources. First, a few basics:
- I have not had a child die, but I have worked with children as they died and many bereaved family members over the last forty years. I also have personally suffered the pain and sadness of loved ones dying, divorce, major financial loss, broken dreams, etc. I’m not equating that with the death of a child, but I’m no stranger to suffering—professionally or personally.
- I know that the passing of a child —at any age or by any means—is one of, if not the most, horrible events that can happen to you. No matter how rosy a picture I paint of life from a cosmic view, I never minimize or forget that.
- However, even the death of a child creates an opening, a transformational moment that—in the long run—can be a blessing to you and to many. That may sound like crazy talk, but it’s true.
- My answers are always offered with respect and love. Please do not feel that I am being critical of you in any way. Send your toughest questions to email@example.com and I’ll answer them in twice per month newsletters.
- The homepage of my website www.soulproof.com has free articles that share comforting, sensible answers to your most commonly asked questions.
- I don’t claim to have all the answers or the only answers, but I do have some good answers that have helped many people lighten their grief and make more sense of what seems to be a totally senseless occurrence.
- Reading my answers isn’t an instant cure, but hopefully is a step toward a broader view of life and acceptance of what is—even when your child dies.
- The simplest answer to why a child dies is that evolved souls don’t need long earthly lives. Special souls don’t have to go through a long earth-school like the rest of us slow learners. They came here just for a while to brighten our lives, serve, and teach. Then they went back Home, to the really real place. You will see them again when you change worlds. And—if you stay alert, peaceful, and remember life and love are forever—you may detect them now.
Q: I had my first dream about my son who passed away last year. I am feeling lost and confused. Cannot concentrate and have tried all the distractions I know. Cried a lot. Angry. Tired. Resentful. Sad. Mad. You name it. I am like a rubber ball in a microwave. Do you have any suggestions? – Dwayne
A: I am sorry that you are going through this, Dwayne. I hope you can glimpse the brighter side of all this very soon. Anytime a tragedy occurs, the potential for immense blessings also exists. The question is whether we look for those and act upon them. Some parents begin serving others literally within days of their child’s passing on. Others remain stuck in pain and despair until they die. Ultimately, it’s a choice. I know which path your son wants you to take.
Your feelings are very common and very understandable. I recommend that you read the following articles (see links in introduction above). They will give you understandings and strategies for turning your life around and creating more meaning about your son’s transition.
- Clinical and Scientific Evidence That Life Is Never-Ending
- Holistic Information for Bereaved Families
- Great News to Remember Throughout Your Earth-Experience...Especially During the Tough Times
- When a Child Dies: 9 Messages for Their Loved Ones
- 7 Keys to Fine Tune Your Body/Mind
Before you go to sleep at night, tell your son—for he can hear you—that you would like more visits during your dreams. When you are sleeping, your mind is more peaceful and not blocked by those painful emotions. That allows you to better experience his living presence. Put all this to work for 90 days and let me know how it’s going. God bless, Mark
Q: What is it like in the afterlife? How can we interact with one another over there if we are energy beings without bodies? How can we do things together like touch and hug each other? What you are doing through Soul Proof is a large blessing to grieving people like me. - Deborah
A: Great questions, Deborah. Asking what it’s like in the afterlife is like asking what it’s like on Earth. The possibilities are endless. You don’t lose anything when you change worlds. You do have an opportunity to access the vast amount of reality that is usually hidden because of your limited senses.
Here’s an article that explains more about this:
- 99% Perspective
When you initially pass on, your departed loved ones will take on a form that you recognize. That’s when the hugging and touching party begins. You’ve heard the saying dance ‘til you drop? Well, on the Other Side, you can hug ‘til your face falls off.
After a millennia, or however long you want of that, you can begin to enjoy the myriad other aspects of life. You can create whatever scenery you want, travel to someone by just thinking of them, and appear however you desire. It’s a beautiful setup. There’s truly nothing to fear and everything to celebrate. Blessings, Mark
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that, no matter what is going on around you, your earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. You’ll receive a series of free articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges—including a child dying—when you sign up for his free newsletter at www.soulproof.com. Email him at firstname.lastname@example.org to ask your toughest and most challenging questions.
Through the Eyes of a Sibling-Surviving the Passing of a Loved One
Alix Boisson and her brother Morgan
Everything has changed since my brother’s passing. Looking back, it seems that a divide or wall separates my life now from my life back then. While I was growing up, I always felt as if there was something 'off' or that someone was missing. It wasn’t a bad feeling, just a strange feeling. My brother was an angel who had come down to Earth. His contract was short; he was only visiting. But that was decided long before this lifetime.
As I said everything has changed, especially me, but I am incredibly grateful for this. In a way, for the siblings who are left behind, it is a blessing shrouded in sorrow. We have our whole lives ahead of us, we are now able to move forward - stronger, more aware, incredibly empathetic, and with an angel who always looks out for us.
When I speak of Morgan, it is always with love and happiness. He is still a part of my day-to-day life, just in a different form. When he was in his physical body, something was off, I always knew that he would be my protector and guardian but that for the majority of my life, he would do so unseen.
Since Morgan’s passing, I have attuned to the spiritual realm. As time goes by, my awareness and abilities to tap into the unseen world are strengthening. I know that Morgan passed immediately over to the other side and that he had no regrets. In the beginning, it was always hard for me to communicate with him. About two years after his passing, I was still confused as to why he didn’t make more of an effort to show himself to us. I had recently moved back from Paris and was going through an embarrassingly tough break up. All of my friends from home had internships or exchange programs outside of Arizona so I was quite alone except for my family.
It was the Fourth of July and I had dropped my sister, Christine, off at a party. I was driving home alone and the local fireworks began to go off. I pulled over to watch them, feeling quite sorry for myself. At that moment I heard Morgan say, “Well, aren’t you pathetic watching these alone?” followed by his warm distinctive chuckle. He then said, “Don’t worry, I’ll watch them with you.” I looked over in my passenger seat and he was sitting there beside me. Through my sadness that evening, I believe I opened up a vacuum through which he could communicate with me.
Ever since, when I need Morgan or when I am desperately seeking his advice, he is there or he sends me very clear messages. I see him when my family is gathered together. He whispers jokes to me in response to what someone has said. My brother is always there for me and for my family. This article is much too short to explain everything that I have gone through since Morgan’s passing and all that he has done for me. I feel fortunate to have come through this heart wrenching experience and to realize the blessing that I have gained.
-Morgan's Sister, Alix
May 28th Scottsdale Meeting- Unity of Phoenix
LeAnn Hull and her son Andy
We are happy to announce that LeAnn Hull will be speaking at our May meeting. LeAnn's son Andy died by suicide in December, 2012. She then created a non-profit called Andy Hull's Sunshine Foundation dedicated to awareness, prevention and encouragement for those contemplating or impacted by suicide. If you would like to join us, please RSVP for this meeting here. Please visit Andy's Foundation website to learn more about LeAnn's mission and her beautiful son here. We kindly request a $5 'love donation' for this meeting that is split equally between Andy's Sunshine Foundation and Unity of Phoenix. Our meeting is May 28th from 6:30 - 8:30 pm.
June 25th Meeting of Helping Parents Heal - New Jersey with Karen Noé
Karen Noé and her latest book
Please join Christine Corallo Volpe as she welcomes renowned Psychic Medium, Spiritual Counselor and Energy Healer Karen Noé, to the June 25th Meeting of Helping Parents Heal - New Jersey. Karen is the author of Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss and Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium’s Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now. She is the founder of The Angel Quest Center in Ramsey NJ, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. You can listen to Karen on The Angel Quest Radio Show by tuning to www.wrcr.com on the first Saturday of every month at 1:05pm Eastern time. Visit her on her web site at www.karennoe.com. You can RSVP for the meeting here.
Upcoming Presenters for Helping Parents Heal - Scottsdale:
Kristine and Ernie Jackson, Jamie Clark, Susanne Wilson
June 25th - Authors Kristine and Ernie Jackson - Click here to RSVP
August 27th-Psychic Medium Jamie Clark - Click here to RSVP
January 28th - Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson - Click here to RSVP
Please note-we will not be holding a July meeting in Scottsdale.
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast
“Heaven makes us human. We forget it at our peril.
Without knowledge of the larger geography of where we came from and where we are going again when our physical bodies die, we are lost. That golden thread is the connection to above that makes life here below not just tolerable but joyful. We are lost without it.”
Eben Alexander MD
I’ve always wondered why so many people go through life without really questioning where we came from and where we are going. Many say that until they lost a child, they had little or no interest in the non-physical realms. I believe that, in general, we have been more frightened by the unknown than curious about it and therefore tried to ignore it, rather than delve into an investigation of it. I believe this has been a grave mistake.
-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
The more that I learn about life in spirit, the less afraid I am. I believe that Dr. Alexander is indeed correct when he says that life becomes more joyful when we understand that we are all part spirit, and connected to the realms of spirit above.
Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here.
Jennifer Amato and her adorable son Joey
After three years of working as an affiliate leader of Helping Parents Heal in Tom's River, New Jersey, Jennifer Amato will be stepping down from her position that she shared with Christine Volpe. Thank you, Jennifer, for all of your kind work and we wish you the best!
Affiliate Groups and their Facilitators (by alphabetical order):
Jennifer Amato Tom’s Creek, NJ
After the passing of Jennifer's 2 year old son Joey, Jennifer found support from other bereaved parents. She is now finding healing in helping other bereaved parents learn to cope with their loss. Jennifer and Christine are co-hosts for Tom’s River.
Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL
Tina Babloski-Anderson is a grieving mother who has learned to laugh again since the loss of her son Paul G. Babloski on October 1st, 2009. Her efforts to find comfort have led her on a journey that has not only helped to heal herself, but to bring smiles on the faces of other grieving parents. Tina said, "There is no one here in Citrus County, Florida that could understand the loss of a child, except for another parent that has experienced the same pain. So, we formed a group that supports and celebrates each other’s children. We find that by supporting each other, we can learn to laugh again.
Elizabeth Boisson-Scottsdale, AZ
Since the passing of her son Morgan at the Base Camp of Mount Everest due to acute altitude sickness on a student trip to Tibet in October 2009, Elizabeth has held monthly parent meetings in Arizona. She founded both the Facebook site, ‘Parents United in Loss’ in February, 2010 and then partnered with Mark Ireland to co-found ‘Helping Parents Heal’ in February 2012. She cherishes the opportunity to meet both parents and their children in spirit.
Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL
Kristen Brown-Sanders started The Next Step group in FL in January 2010 after her beloved daughter Sarah transitioned due to a distracted driver. The Next Step linked in with Helping Parents Heal in 2012.
NEW GROUP - Lancy Carr-Washington DC
I have lived in Arizona since 1983. I met Karla Kay at Bikram yoga Tempe which I started doing shortly after Nathan passed away. She told me about an event and I met Linda West, the first psychic exposure for me! It healed my heart a little and made me want to learn more. I also met Justine Schrimsher at that meeting and she told me about HPH. The first meeting I knew this is what would work for me. I have enjoyed all the support, love and hope that is shared at every meeting. I got a new job in DC in Dec 2013 and I now want to not only support this wonderful non-profit, as it has given me so much help in my grief, but to help others heal as well.
Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA
The loss of my son Robb, 29, has made me painfully aware of the need for parents to have a group setting that is safe and confidential. Healing occurs. Out of my loss I dedicated myself to service for others in volunteer Hospice patient care and grief support, as a Hospital Chaplain, and healing work. This has prepared me to lead an HPH group now.
Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ
Wanting to honor her son’s spirit, courage, and the many gifts he left behind, Janice discovered Helping Parents Heal in Scottsdale, AZ. Opening the door for other parents to grieve their loss, while offering support to small groups, Janice decided to start a chapter in Tucson where she resides and her son Anthony, aged 31, took his life. Janice is a MSN and certified in Meditation.
NEW GROUP-Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL
My son died at age 30 of a drug overdose. My surviving daughter has Down Syndrome. Life has blessed me with so many unique gifts & learning opportunities. I'd like to "be there" for people as my son was. My book, Liam's Lessons, was written with the help of my son shortly after he died. Practicing Isha Yoga has been my saving grace.
Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota
Tyler, my beautiful sixteen year old son, died a preventable death on a People to People Student Ambassador Trip to Japan in 2007. My most important achievements are being a mother, a wife, nonprofit endeavors with the Clear Cause Foundation (to keep American children and students safe on foreign soil) and perhaps my work as an author. I did not lose the ones I love who have passed. I know where they are.
Julia LaJoie-Washington DC
I joined Helping Parents Heal in April of 2012 when I met Mark Ireland, Anne Puryear and Elizabeth Boisson at a conference in Phoenix, AZ on After Death Communication. There were many parents like myself who had lost a child and had discovered the healing that comes from ADC and other forms of spiritual growth. I am eager to join hands and hearts with other parents in the Baltimore - Washington area to grow our network and support each other in healing and spiritual growth.
NEW GROUP - Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho
Paige is a Speaker, Coach, and Reiki practitioner and owns Crystal Soul Healing Center in Boise Idaho. Paige is dedicated to helping people who have experienced a profound loss, especially the loss of a child, face and release their emotions and find a way to joyfully connect with their loved one in Spirit. Her spiritual awakening came abruptly and forcefully after her only child, Bryan, was murdered in September 2008. Just as the only world she’d ever known was shattered, a new world opened. A world filled with Hope, Spirit, and Love; a world that allowed her not only to continue having a relationship with her son, but a world that opened her own true self into being.
Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario
I am a mother of 3 wonderful children, married 30 years to their father.I lost my son Adam in 2006 in a tragic auto accident. Since losing my son I have had afterlife signs that have helped me. I began to search for like-minded parents to share our experiences. I came across the wonderful group Helping Parents Heal and asked if I could start a group here in Canada.
Jessalyn Nash- Sonoma County, CA
Jessalyn Nash, M.A. has facilitated groups for over 25 years and is involved in the restorative justice movement. After her beloved 21-year-old son, Trystan passed away, Jessalyn has dedicated herself to helping other grieving parents.
NEW GROUP - Glenda Pearson-Granger, IN
Glenda is a Reiki Master, Munay Ki practitioner, intuitive guide, Stephen's Minister, author and Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist. Reflected in her book, But Should The Angels Call For Him, she speaks of her personal loss through the death of her only child, Chad, and believes there is healing for everyone.
Maria Pe - San Diego
Maria Pe, J.D., is the mother of Sean Robert and Kyle Joseph, her two sons who transitioned to the other side on June 21, 2011. That day was the beginning of Maria’s profound spiritual journey to find out where her sons went and how she could continue to have a relationship with them. Having been educated in Western culture and trained as an attorney, Maria was skeptical and had no idea where to turn for the information and answers she was seeking. She was guided to a shamanic practitioner who taught her how to raise her consciousness and energy levels through meditation so that she could connect with her sons. She began keeping a written journal of her experiences which culminated in her book, Journey To The Upper Realm: How I Survived the Deaths of My Sons and Learned to Communicate With Them on the Other Side (free at www.seanandkyleimaginefund.com and in hard copy on Amazon). By sharing and talking about her own experience, she hopes to help other bereaved parents.
Sheri Perl-New York, NY
Sheri Perl Migdol is a spiritual healer, an interfaith minister, an author, lecturer and mother of 3 children, one deceased. Sheri is the founder of The Prayer Registry, a free service for all bereaved parents. www.sheriperl.com.
Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ
After the passing of her 17 year old son, James, due to a vehicle accident Christine has spent countless hours helping other bereaved parents. She is devoted to help other parents find tools to help them in their grief. Christine and Jennifer are co-hosts for Tom’s River.
NEW GROUP - Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC
I lost my 24 year old daughter to esophageal - gastric cancer on February 17, 2013. She was my best friend, my only child. I have been on a spiritual quest since, reading constantly, writing about my life. I have had two sessions with George Anderson and had a phone session with Laurie Campbell. Having recently moved to South Carolina, I am very interested in connecting with other parents here. So happy to find and read Mark Ireland's books and have also taken great comfort in reading Dr Brian Weiss's books.
Laura Wilmot-Fall’s Church, VA
A retired federal HR Director, Laura taught Mexican Folk dance to children and adults and performed Mariachi music with her family for several years. She “connects up” to her son through meditation and prayer.
Please contact Elizabeth Boisson (email@example.com) if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.
Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents?
We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others. Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children. We love to hear about them! If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter. Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at firstname.lastname@example.org (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.)
Also, if you have not yet done so, please send me your child's full name, Birthday and Angel Date so that I can add him or her to our list of children on our Facebook Site. We pay tribute to our children on their special dates with a favorite photo and a description of their lives. Please send all information to Elizabeth at email@example.com.
Mission statement of Helping Parents Heal:
Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog.
-Mark Ireland, Co-Founder, Helping Parents Heal
Sending peace, love and white light to you and your beautiful children
Note: Information in the Helping Parents Heal newsletter is provided for the sole purpose of assisting you in finding resources (information, meetings, books, etc.) to aid in the bereavement process. This newsletter is not intended to endorse, sponsor or encourage your use of any of the information or services listed, whether from members or other individuals. Rather, our intent is simply to inform you of vast amount of resources available for your consideration. We urge you to independently research and consider the value any particular resource for yourself. Further, while we take steps to ensure accuracy of the information posted, especially relative to linked media, we accept no liability for content. Helping Parents Heal is a non-profit Corporation.