September 2014

Hello, wonderful Parents!

We are glad that you have all found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you  for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal!  

I have some bittersweet news - Mark and Susie Ireland will be leaving Arizona this month.  As you all know, after creating the Facebook and Arizona Affiliate group 'Parents United in Loss' in November of 2009, I joined forces with Mark to co-found 'Helping Parents Heal' in March of 2012. 

Among other helpful and healing works about the Afterlife, Mark is the author of Soul Shift - Finding Where the Dead Go, one of my personal favorites.  In reference to our children on the Other Side, Susie once told me "Our children are home.  We are still in school."  It is so true! I quote Susie often.   

Mark has accepted a job offer in Portland, Oregon, where his son and daughter-in-law live.  It is a wonderful opportunity for Mark and we wish the best for him and Susie!  He plans to create a Portland affiliate chapter of Helping Parents Heal and we will give you more information about it as soon as possible.  Good luck, we will miss you, Mark and Susie!

Mark and Susie Ireland

We will have a special guest speaker for our September meeting at Unity of Phoenix who has been a staunch advocate of Helping Parents Heal for over 4 years-Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson. Please visit her website to learn more about Susanne.  Over 100 parents have already signed up for the event.  Please click here to join.
Psychic Mediums Susanne Wilson and Jamie Clark at the Academy for Spiritual & Consciousness Conference in Scottsdale-July 2014 

Susanne is one of the most talented psychic mediums that I know. She helped me enormously after the death of my son, Morgan.  Please join us on September 25th from 6:30 - 8:30 pm. 

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Scottsdale/Phoenix.

Parents who Make a Difference 
featuring Irene Vouvalides - Mother of Carly

Carly and Irene
Carly's Kids - A Foundation for Education

My life changed forever on February 17th, 2013 when my only child, my beautiful 24-year-old daughter left this earth and received her angel wings. Carly was brilliant, full of life and exhausted anyone fortunate enough to spend time with her. A 2011 Boston College graduate with a degree in Education and a secondary degree in Math she was just starting life on her own in Boston when she was stricken with esophageal-gastric cancer, unheard of for someone her age. She had the best possible care at NY Presbyterian Hospital; she endured numerous operations, daily radiation for a month along with weekly chemotherapy and then ultimately major surgery where her stomach was removed and we received the news of a stage IV diagnosis.
Carly never complained, never said why me just lived her life to the fullest for those 4 short months from her diagnosis to her departure from this earth.

So here I am, a member of this unthinkable group of parents who are living their worst nightmare, surviving their children, upsetting the natural progression of what we believe and hope life will be for us.
While at Boston College Carly participated and then led service trips to the oldest African- American Catholic School in the Mississippi Valley possibly the oldest in the country located in Natchez, Mississippi. The Holy Family School was founded in 1890 and in it’s beginnings three members of the Sisters of the Holy Spirit and Mary Immaculate arrived and transformed it into a K-12 school. Its mission was to educated African American children many of whom were descendants of slaves.

The Boston College Lynch School of Education where Carly received her degree has had an annual commitment of $10,000 to the school. Since September of 1998 under the leadership of former associate dean John Cawthorne, the faculty, staff and students in the Lynch school have dedicated themselves to assisting Holy Family. John retired in 2011 and sadly passed away in August 2012 when Carly’s illness was unfolding. Even though she herself was ill she traveled to Boston to say her goodbyes to John. 

The school has been forced to downsize, today it is an Early Learning Center and kindergarten. The school receives no support from the archdiocese and is funded by tuition, donations and grants written by Sr Bernadette McNamara. Carly wanted to assist the school in whatever way she could, her visits there changed her. When she returned from Natchez she told me “ When I am there Mom it feels like home”.

Sadly it is now up to me, her friends and family to carry on Carly’s wishes. We have founded a foundation in her honor- Carly’s Kids a Foundation for Education. To date we have donated approximately $30,000 to the school for tuition assistance, computer purchases, learning materials and money to provide maintenance for this historic school. We have also built a playground for the children, prior to our playground installation the children played on blacktop only.
Carly and a friend
We are also donating money for groundbreaking esophageal-gastric cancer research being done at NY Presbyterian-Columbia University Medical Center by Dr Julian Abrams.

We have had numerous fundraisers in the almost 18 months since Carly’s passing, friends have organized participation in Marathons, 5K races in her hometown in NJ, kickboxing classes, spin classes, (quite funny since Carly’s only form of exercise was ripping open a bag of Doritos, she was blessed with a metabolism that let her eat whatever she wanted without ever having to worry about counting calories).

So many people coming together to honor her, she touched many lives and had more friends then I could count. I will do whatever I can to save this wonderful school that I had the privilege of visiting with my husband on what would have been her 25th birthday, October 10th 2013. It is a magical place filled with history and love. It was a privilege to present them the first donation from the foundation, to walk through the church hand in hand with Sr Bernadette, finding peace in a holy place feeling my daughter’s presence with me, proud of me.
Carly Elizabeth Hughes
I am so happy to have found this group Helping Parents Heal, it has helped provide the resources to guide me on my spiritual quest.  I have been fortunate enough to have had sessions with both George Anderson and Laurie Campbell completely validating the connection we can all still have with our children. To all of you on this journey with me I wish you peace.

I hope you will find the time to read more about the foundation and the articles about Carly provided in the links below.

-Irene Vouvalides
Hilton Head, SC


YouTube Channel (with videos from Natchez)
Also, here is a blog post written by a co-worker, inspired by Carly and the friendship they had. 
Irene has just created an affiliate group in Hilton Head, South Carolina.  Please read more about her in the 'affiliate group' section below.  She can be contacted at:

Affiliate Corner - Maria Pe of San Diego

Maria's Boys - Sean Robert and Kyle Joseph

The San Diego chapter of Helping Parents Heal was established in April 2014.  The group was started by Maria Pe, a mother whose two sons, Sean and Kyle, transitioned to the other side on June 21, 2011.  After experiencing her own profound spiritual journey with Sean and Kyle, Maria was guided to write a book that could help other parents who are experiencing the loss of a child.  The book, Journey To The Upper Realm:  How I Survived the Deaths of My Sons and Learned To Communicate With Them on The Other Side, is available for free (in pdf or kindle format) at, and in paperback format on Amazon.  Maria has also shared and talked about her experience in interviews and presentations which are available on the website.


After learning about Helping Parents Heal, Maria was drawn to the mission and purpose of the organization.  The group meetings of Helping Parents Heal offer a safe and caring environment for parents to share and express their grief, and also to explore other areas that can assist in healing, such as the continuation of life after death and the continuity of consciousness.


The San Diego chapter currently meets in a private home in the Point Loma area of San Diego.  In the next several months, the group is planning to explore different methods of afterlife communication, including journey meditations, automatic writing and pendulum communication.  The group also plans to organize a small spirit circle with an established medium.


The group normally meets once per month, however, there will be no meeting in September.  The next meeting will be Thursday October 9th from 6:30 to 8:00 at the home of Sandy Carter, 3432 Fenelon Street, San Diego, CA 92106.  If you are interested in attending, please contact Maria at (619) 804-9275 or at You can RSVP on the events page.

Affiliate Groups and their Facilitators (by alphabetical order):

Jennifer Amato Tom’s Creek, NJ
After the passing of Jennifer's 2 year old son Joey, Jennifer found support from other bereaved parents. She is now finding healing in helping other bereaved parents learn to cope with their loss. Jennifer and Christine are co-hosts for Tom’s River.

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL
Tina Babloski-Anderson is a grieving mother that has learned to laugh again since the loss of her son Paul G. Babloski on October 1st, 2009. Her efforts to find comfort have led her on a journey that has not only helped to heal herself, but to bring smiles on the faces of other grieving parents. Tina said, "There is no one here in Citrus County, Florida that could understand the loss of a child, except for another parent that has experienced the same pain. So, we formed a group that supports and celebrates each other’s children. We find that by supporting each other, we can learn to laugh again.

Elizabeth Boisson-Scottsdale, AZ

Since the passing of her son Morgan at the Base Camp of Mount Everest due to acute altitude sickness on a student trip to Tibet in October 2009, Elizabeth has held monthly parent meetings in Arizona. She founded both the Facebook site, ‘Parents United in Loss’ in February, 2010 and then partnered with Mark Ireland to co-found ‘Helping Parents Heal’ in February 2012.  She cherishes the opportunity to meet both parents and their children in spirit.

Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL
Kristen Brown-Sanders started The Next Step group in FL in January 2010 after her beloved daughter Sarah transitioned due to a distracted driver.  The Next Step linked in with Helping Parents Heal in 2012.

NEW GROUP - Lancy Carr-Washington DC

I have lived in Arizona since 1983. I met Karla Kay at Bikram yoga Tempe which I started doing shortly after Nathan passed away.  She told me about an event and I met Linda West, the first psychic exposure for me! It healed my heart a little and made me want to learn more. I also met Justine Schrimer at that meeting and she told me about HPH. The first meeting I knew this is what would work for me.  I have enjoyed all the support, love and hope that is shared at every meeting. I got a new job in DC in Dec 2013 and I now want to not only support this wonderful non-profit, as it has given me so much help in my grief, but to help others heal as well.

Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA
The loss of my son Robb, 29, has made me painfully aware of the need for parents to have a group setting that is safe and confidential. Healing occurs. Out of my loss I dedicated myself to service for others in volunteer Hospice patient care and grief support, as a Hospital Chaplain, and healing work.  This has prepared me to lead an HPH group now.

Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ

Wanting to honor her son’s spirit, courage, and the many gifts he left behind, Janice discovered Helping Parents Heal in Scottsdale, AZ.  Opening the door for other parents to grieve their loss, while offering support to small groups, Janice decided to start a chapter in Tucson where she resides and her son Anthony, aged 31, took his life. Janice is a MSN and certified in Meditation.

Lori Fina Jennings-Columbus, OH
My son died at age 30 of a drug overdose. My surviving daughter has Down Syndrome. Life has blessed me with so many unique gifts & learning opportunities. I'd like to "be there" for people as my son was. My book, Liam's Lessons, was written with the help of my son shortly after he died. Practicing Isha Yoga has been my saving grace.

Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota
Tyler, my beautiful sixteen year old son, died a preventable death on a People to People Student Ambassador Trip to Japan in 2007. My most important achievements are being a mother, a wife, nonprofit endeavors with the Clear Cause Foundation (to keep American children and students safe on foreign soil) and perhaps my work as an author. I did not lose the ones I love who have passed. I know where they are.

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC
I joined Helping Parents Heal in April of 2012 when I met Mark Ireland, Anne Puryear and Elizabeth Boisson at a conference in Phoenix, AZ on After Death Communication. There were many parents like myself who had lost a child and had discovered the healing that comes from ADC and other forms of spiritual growth. I am eager to join hands and hearts with other parents in the Baltimore - Washington area to grow our network and support each other in healing and spiritual growth.

Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario
I am a mother of 3 wonderful children, married 30 years to their father.I lost my son Adam in 2006 in a tragic auto accident. Since losing my son I have had afterlife signs that have helped me.  I began to search for like-minded parents to share our experiences. I came across the wonderful group Helping Parents Heal and asked if I could start a group here in Canada.

Jessalyn Nash- Sonoma County, CA

Jessalyn Nash, M.A. has facilitated groups for over 25 years and is involved in the restorative justice movement. After her beloved 21-year-old son, Trystan passed away, Jessalyn has dedicated herself to helping other grieving parents.

NEW GROUP - Glenda Pearson-Granger, IN
Glenda is a Reiki Master, Munay Ki practitioner, intuitive guide, Stephen's Minister, author and Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist.  Reflected in her book, "But Should The Angels Call For Him", she speaks of her personal loss through the death of her only child, Chad, and believes there is healing for everyone.

Maria Pe - San Diego

Maria Pe, J.D., is the mother of Sean Robert and Kyle Joseph, her two sons who transitioned to the other side on June 21, 2011.  That day was the beginning of Maria’s profound spiritual journey to find out where her sons went and how she could continue to have a relationship with them.  Having been educated in Western culture and trained as an attorney, Maria was skeptical and had no idea where to turn for the information and answers she was seeking.  She was guided to a shamanic practitioner who taught her how to raise her consciousness and energy levels through meditation so that she could connect with her sons.  She began keeping a written journal of her experiences which culminated in her book, Journey To The Upper Realm:  How I Survived the Deaths of My Sons and Learned to Communicate With Them on the Other Side (free at and in hard copy on Amazon).   By sharing and talking about her own experience, she hopes to help other bereaved parents.

Sheri Perl-New York, NY

Sheri Perl Migdol is a spiritual healer, an interfaith minister, an author, lecturer and mother of 3 children, one deceased. Sheri is the founder of The Prayer Registry, a free service for all bereaved parents.

Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ
After the passing of her 17 year old son, James, due to a vehicle accident Christine has spent countless hours helping other bereaved parents.  She is devoted to help other parents find tools to help them in their grief. Christine and Jennifer are co-hosts for Tom’s River.

NEW GROUP - Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC
I lost my 24 year old daughter to esophageal - gastric cancer on February 17, 2013. She was my best friend, my only child. I have been on a spiritual quest since, reading constantly, writing about my life. I have had two sessions with George Anderson and had a phone session with Laurie Campbell. Having recently moved to South Carolina, I am very interested in connecting with other parents here. So happy to find and read Mark Ireland's books and have also taken great comfort in reading Dr Brian Weiss's books.

Laura Wilmot-Fall’s Church, VA
A retired federal HR Director, Laura taught Mexican Folk dance to children and adults and performed Mariachi music with her family for several years.  She “connects up” to her son through meditation and prayer.
Please contact Elizabeth Boisson ( if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.

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Upcoming Group Meetings
Facilitator: Nancy Courtemanche
Fortuna, California -August 18th and 25th, September 1st, 8th, 15th, 22nd and 29th.

Nancy will be holding weekly meetings every Monday evening from 6:30-8:00 at Christ Lutheran Church. Please contact her for more information:

Facilitator: Glenda Pearson
Granger, Indiana - August 17th 
Please RSVP on the events page.
Facilitators: Jennifer Shulman Amato and Christine Volpe
Tom's River, New Jersey - August 21st Please RSVP on the events tab.

Facilitator: Elizabeth Boisson
Scottsdale, Arizona - August 28th. 
Please RSVP on the events page.
Facilitator: Kristen Brown-Sanders with her daughter
Pensacola, Florida - September 3rd. 
Please RSVP on the events page.
Facilitator: Patti May
Ottawa, Canada - September 7th.  Please RSVP on the events page. 
Facilitators: Jennifer Shulman Amato and Christine Volpe
Tom's River, New Jersey - August 21st Please RSVP on the events tab.
Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson
Scottsdale, Arizona - September 25th  
Facilitator: Elizabeth Boisson.  Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson will be our guest. Please visit her website at:, and RSVP on the events page. Also, you can follow her Guided Meditation, Dream Visits from the Afterlife, here
Facilitator: Maria Pe
San Diego, CA - October 9th
.  Please RSVP on the events page.
Psychic Medium Glenn Dove
New York City - November 9th 
Facilitator: Sheri Perl.  Psychic Medium Glenn Dove will be Sheri's guest.  Please RSVP on the events page.

Facilitator: Lancy Carr-Washington DC
Please email Lancy for the next meeting time and place:
Facilitators: Teresa Simonds Snyder & Lori Fina-Jennings Columbus, Ohio 
Please email Teresa and Lori for next meeting:
New Group Facilitator: Irene Vouvalides - Hilton Head, SC
Please email Irene for next meeting: ivouvalides@aol.comAnne Puryear, a Founding Member of Helping Parents Heal, Co-founder of the Logos Center and mother of Stephen and Beethoven has started a wonderful new Facebook group for grieving pet owners.  Please join her site, Helping Pet Lovers Heal, you have lost a cherished pet.

Debra Martin and Sheri Getten are excited to announce that they will be speakers at the 2014 IANDS Conference: 'Hope, Healing & Life Transformations", in Newport Beach, California, August 28-31. You can visit the IANDS website here:, and click here for the conference youtube.  

Debra and Sheri spoke to our parents at our Scottsdale affiliate meeting in January and their presentation and Guided Meditation were both helpful and healing. Debra and Sheri also healed my father of his Non Hodgkins Lymphoma and he is doing wonderfully at present.   They will soon be publishing a book about their healings. 
To learn more about Debra and Sheri, please go to their websites at or

Books by Parents Like Us-
'The Ripple Effect' by Laurie Savoie
Garrett and 'The Ripple Effect'
The Ripple Effect Invisible Impact of Suicide

My family was a normal, happy, loving family, now changed and forced to deal with the consequences brought upon us by my beautiful son, Garrett Martin Savoie.

This book is a compilation of stories from a family and community who were affected by Garrett's choice on November 17, 2010 to take his life at the young age of 19. The Ripple Effect: Invisible Impact of Suicide shows how those left behind were affected, and are motivated to help others by letting others know they are visible, worthy, loved and lovable and that new, conscious choices can be made. To me, this book is about Hope, Love and Communication.

I wanted to show this tragedy from the other side, people who are feeling low can see what they would leave behind. It deals with drugs, bullying, depression, self-esteem, character, all kinds of behavior we all live with. We want to help people feel good about themselves, to show others who are now affected by this tragic choice, that you truly can survive, and to get people talking about suicide. My hope is to help boys communicate better, openly.
It is my family’s desire that The Ripple Effect will be made available through therapists and doctors’ offices, schools, colleges, libraries, non-profit organizations, military, counselors or other entities that will benefit from this book. 
The creation of this book has been a mission of hope, love and spirit. We pray it will now create a positive ripple effect by providing an inspiring, healing and transformative perspective on the importance of life and unity. I wanted it in a book format so it can be passed around, along, left where someone who needs it, may just glance at it…
Anyone who is in a state of hopelessness, where choosing death over life is the only thought, needs a loving witness…or the information provided in The Ripple Effect. This book is for anyone who wants to learn more about suicide’s serious impact.
To get more information, or to see the Ripple of Love Donation Map July 2014, please go to: or
CreateSpace eStore:
I will donate as many books as possible, with your help. Proceeds from purchase of the book will make donations possible. If you donate to anyone, or places, please let us know through the website, or email  We are updating a map to see how far reaching these words can go, and hopefully impact the World!

-Laurie Savoie, Garrett's Mom

Stories of Validation -
Kim Camecho and her son, Austin

Austin Alegre

I know you are guiding me through this journey
Austin Jordan Alegre 5/7/94 - 7/20/09

I still think back on that day in May of 2009 when I told my kids, Austin and Allison, that I was going to step down as the Branch Manager of a Title Company and work solely an Escrow Officer.  I would therefore have less responsibility, more time with my kiddos, and yeah a little less money but oh well!!!!  I was a single mom for most of Austin and Allison's lives and I was a workaholic.  I wanted to be successful for my kids and to make sure I could provide the best for them in life.  I felt it was time to spend more time with Austin, who was 15, and Allison, who was 11.  The next day I walked into my Branch to tell the owner of the company that I wanted to step down as the Manager.  Our conversation did not go as planned and I resigned right there on the spot!  I packed my office up and cried all the way home.  I wasn’t rich and I certainly did not save money.  What was I going to do????  Suddenly I knew!  I was going to spend a stress free vacation with my kids that summer in July 2009!  Unbeknownst to me that would be the last vacation the three of us would ever spend together again.  Austin died on that vacation in Rocky Point, Mexico on July 20, 2009.

I am not by any means writing to tell you my journey is easy and that I do not mourn for my son every single day.  But, I will say this:  Austin sends me signs, he has visited me in my dreams, I hear Austin’s voice in my head that helps me decide things in life, I have taken chances on careers with the guidance of Austin, and finally I let a man into my life and ended up marrying him…. I am certain that Austin has everything to do with all of this!  Every single thing I have done from that day forward. I truly believe that my son Austin has guided me!  Those who know me know that getting married again was not happening in my world!  LOL

I have had four dreams with Austin that I can remember.  In these dreams I knew that Austin was in the afterlife.  One of my favorite dreams was that Austin and I were on a school bus and he was sitting in front of me.  I could only see the back of his head.  I said in my head to Austin, “Okay Austin if this is really you then I want you to turn around right this second and smile at your mommy!”  Before my thoughts could even finish, Austin had turned around and he smiled at me.  I immediately woke up crying hysterically.  My second most favorite dream was of my son at a very small age, perhaps about 18 months.  I still do not know why he came to me at this age.  But in this dream Austin could talk to me.  And I could also touch him.  I held him.  I asked him why he was here.  He said it was because he missed me and he loves me and he also tried to tell me something that seemed to be a warning but I kept waking up.  I would go back to sleep to try and see him again and each time I fell asleep I was able to continue being with Austin.  He tried telling me something again but darn it I woke up.  I never did get the complete message he was trying to tell me.  Later on, while driving, I realized I just do not pay attention to the road as much as I need to.  I think that was the message he was trying to tell me!  Feeling his skin again and talking to him was so very powerful!  I do not question any of it!  

I get a lot of other affirmations from Austin.  It could be a song that comes on at just the right moment, a hummingbird that is flying around just at the precise time that I decide to look outside, a license plate that I interpret into a meaning between Austin and me, seeing the time at 11:11 every day, deciding to start my own business, turning my son’s Angel Date into a “Pay it forward day in Honor of Austin”, and of course allowing myself to finally fall in love.  I swore up and down that I would never date a guy that had boys!  Well, I married him and he has two boys!  What the heck!!! ;-)

I do not look for these messages, instead they fall into place and they make sense.  I feel an overwhelming abundance of love when I do get these signs.  I allow myself to embrace these signs as a positive outlook on what I have to look forward to when it is my time to go to the afterlife. I know Austin has guided me and has kept me levelheaded, strong, happy, & positive.  I know I need to be that person mainly for my daughter Allison, for myself of course, and for the rest of my family.  My persona has definitely changed. I am a little less outgoing but still enough to be great.  My outlook on life has changed. I take one day at a time.  I do what I can when I can.  I do what makes me happy. A lot has changed in my life but I do know Austin is by my side every step of the way!  I will be with Austin again when it is my turn but until that day I will hold onto my daily gifts that Austin sends.

Just think about this:  Why did I decide to quit my job that day and to be with my kids that summer?  Did I know that would be my last time with my son?  I do not know but I am sure that I will find out some day.  

Love, Kim (Austin and Allison's Mom)

-Written by Austin's Mom, Kim Camecho

Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? 

We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at  (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1/2 page.) 

Also, if you have not yet done so, please send me your child's full name, Birthday and Angel Date so that I can add him or her to our list of children on our Facebook Site. We pay tribute to our children on their special dates with a favorite photo and a description of their lives.  Please send all information to Elizabeth at

Mission statement of Helping Parents Heal:

Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the afterlife, but in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog.

-Mark Ireland,
Co-Founder, Helping Parents Heal

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