Welcome to the November issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!
Hello! We are glad you have found us. This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together. We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide. Together, we will help each other heal!
Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth. We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones. We have many affiliate groups available throughout the country. There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter. Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website, www.helpingparentsheal.info.
Two wonderful conferences took place in Arizona on the weekend of September 25-27th; the Life in the Afterlife Conference in Scottsdale and Dr. Mark Pitstick's seminar at Unity of Phoenix, Soul Proof. We were very fortunate to have so many enlightened, like-minded souls visit and teach us about the Afterlife.
Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time. You are not alone.
-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.
Psychic Medium Suzanne Giesemann and her healing book, Messages of Hope
Finding Hope from Beyond
by Suzanne Giesemann
I broke down in my husband’s arms crying, “I can’t believe I’ll never see him again.” My father had passed a few days earlier and the emotions caught up with me in a rush of grief. “Yes you will,” Ty assured me with confidence. “You’re the one who showed me that we will one day see all of our loved ones who have passed.”
I blinked at him as his words sank in. He nodded to assure me of the truth in his words.
“You’re right,” I said, and took in a jagged breath. “I forgot.”
Dad made his transition in 2008, a year and a half after the tragic death of Ty’s daughter, Susan, a sergeant in the U.S. Marine Corps. She was struck and killed by lightning while crossing the flight line at the squadron where she was assigned. Susan was 27 years old and 6 months pregnant with our first grandchild. Like many parents who lose a child, this double tragedy for our family propelled me on a search for answers about life and what lies beyond it. Never did I expect that Susan’s passing would lead me from Navy Commander to my current work as an author, spiritual teacher, and evidence-based medium.
These days there’s no shortage of books about the afterlife, but it is those who inhabit the non-physical realm who have taught me the most about life after death. I have connected with thousands of souls, reuniting them with their grieving families. It is the evidence those departed souls pass on to me—things about themselves that I could not possibly know—that shows us that the spirit never dies.
I learned this fact as the result of a reading with a medium that Ty and I experienced one year after Susan’s death. The evidence Susan provided proved to us beyond a doubt that she still existed. It took me days to process the information the medium shared with us. There was no other explanation than that Susan was still with us. I knew then beyond a doubt that what I had suspected was true: that Susan’s vibrant spirit—her energy—could not be destroyed, merely transformed.
I work regularly with families, so I am familiar with groups that aim to support those who have lost a child. Often these groups focus on showing new members that others who have suffered loss are learning to get on with their lives. Certainly, this is one of the principle roles of a support group. There is great comfort in sharing with others who have experienced similar circumstances. Support groups provide hope for those in despair.
My goal is the same, which is why I have reached out to some of these groups, only to find that mediumship is still a taboo subject among the more traditional organizations. Perhaps that’s why some of my clients have stepped away from these groups. They have noticed that many of the members are still stuck in their grief years after their loss. Granted, there is no timeline for grief. We go through the process at our own pace, but I fail to find hope by watching other people recover. I find hope in the basic messages of mediumship, knowing that:
I had the opportunity to demonstrate these truths to a grieving mother from South Carolina named Irene Vouvalides. The sessions Irene and I enjoyed provided healing beyond our expectations as her daughter, Carly, made her presence known with undeniable evidence. Please click here to view Irene's video. Irene has found great comfort from a support group called Helping Parents Heal. She recently started a chapter of her own in Hilton Head.
- Consciousness extends beyond the brain and exists independent of it.
- Consciousness is eternal in nature, therefore life continues beyond the transition we call death.
- All things are interconnected in the grand web of creation.
- The organizing principle of the cosmos and the overarching purpose of evolution is
I was thrilled to read that Helping Parents Heal encourages its members to discuss the afterlife. Their mission statement declares, “We go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the afterlife, in a non-dogmatic way.”
As Irene describes her journey, she discovered that the way out of her darkest days was simply to think of Carly’s death differently. She has embraced her belief in the afterlife and the awareness that Carly is still with her. She sees death as simply walking through a door and considers the grief process as one of learning to love in separation. Please read more about Carly and Irene here.
That is how I have come to terms with the life transitions within my own family. At the time of my father’s passing, I was new to mediumship. I would discover my own abilities as a medium later that year. I understand how my grief caused me to temporarily forget what I had learned from the medium who brought Susan back to us and to mistakenly think I would never see my loved ones again. I had a lifetime of thinking that death was the end. Since then my dad has popped in to visit several times, always proving his presence with evidence that I was not aware of.
Today the only thing I forget about life after death is that not everyone knows what Irene and I know. The awareness that our deceased loved ones are as close as our thoughts brings such peace. Knowing we will see them again brings immense comfort and healing. That’s why I’m grateful to groups like Helping Parents Heal and other messengers of hope who allow for open discussions of all aspects of life, both here and in the hereafter.
Suzanne is the author of 11 books, including Messages of Hope and Wolf’s Message. For more about Suzanne’s work, visit www.SuzanneGiesemann.com. To read the daily spirit-inspired messages of love and hope given to Suzanne in meditation, visit www.SanayaSays.com.
Dr. Mark Pitstick at Unity of Phoenix!
Dr. Mark Pitstick at our September Parents Meeting and with some of the participants at Unity of Phoenix for his 3-day event, Soul Proof
We were fortunate to welcome Dr. Mark Pitistick as our special guest to our Parent meeting on September 24th as well as to a 3-day event at Unity of Phoenix from September 25-27th. Over 40 people came to hear Mark speak about The 12 Keys When a Child Passes On at the Parent meeting. It was an uplifting and filled with healing energy. He then spoke in the sanctuary about his movie, Soul Proof, and about practical ways to heal grief and to live a happier, healthier life.
Life in the Afterlife Conference in Scottsdale 24-27 September
Many wonderful participants, including Rob Schwartz, Ineke Koedem, Mark Pitstick, Alix Boisson, Mark Anthony, Elizabeth Boisson, Gary Schwartz, Rhonda Eklund-Schwartz, Paul Jeffrey Davids and Susanne Wilson. Photo credit: Laurie Savoie-thank you!
The Life in the Afterlife Conference was a great success with over 400 participants coming from all over the world. It was wonderful to be asked to be a part of such a prestigious event. Thank you to all of the organizers, and especially to Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson and Craig Hogan, for asking me to speak about Helping Parents Heal.
Elizabeth speaks about 'Helping Parents Heal 'at the Life in the Afterlife Conference Opening Ceremony September 25th
Please click here to view the video.
I recently attended the Life in the Afterlife Conference that was held in Scottsdale Arizona and I want to recommend that you consider attending a conference of this nature from time to time. There is so much you can gain from the people you will meet and the presentations you will attend. Medium Susanne Wilson was outstanding in her group readings and went on to do scheduled private readings throughout the day. For me, the highlight of my trip was attending a séance of Australian physical medium David Thompson who brought through my son and I was allowed, somehow, to feel his kiss on the top of my head. You never know what’s in store for you, but rest assured, if you participate, something good will come of it. I firmly believe that we can find in the spirit what we have lost in the flesh, but sometimes we have to help it along, and a good conference can supply you with a lot of fuel!
-Written by Sheri Perl, a guest speaker at the Life in the Afterlife Conference and our NYC Affiliate leader.
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'
Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A. The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad. At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience. You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again. That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers. Links at lower left of www.soulproof.com home page.
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering. http://www.soulproof.com/shop/ If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge. Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others.
Q: I hate this time of night . . . all I can do is think and it’s awful. My little girl was murdered 3 months ago. I know its still fresh, but she was only eleven months old. I’m eighteen and still have my whole life ahead of me. I understand that. But how do you have kids again? How do you trust again? When do you finally start to feel okay, like you can exist without your heart breaking every single second of everyday? Someone told me to say her name out loud everyday to never forget and I lose it every time. How do you keep going everyday? I feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest every breath I take. It’s SO hard. I don't feel like I can do this . . . - Kaci
A: That sounds completely normal at this stage, Kaci. You are crying, you are remembering, you’re in shock, you are asking great questions. So pat yourself on the back. You are doing great. That is how this stage goes, especially when murder is involved.
I’m sixty-two years old now and have the gift of having gone through devastating losses and knowing that time lessens the pain. I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but—if you choose to do so—you will make it through this. One day, you will look back and smile at the happy memories you felt during your short time together. Over time, the pain will shrink and your compassion and wisdom will grow.
My best short answer to your “how” questions above is this: resolve to find the blessings to your daughter’s death and share them with as many people as possible.
Life will never be the same again and you won’t be like other eighteen year olds. But you can be much better than you would have been for the experience if you set that intention. Read Foundational Articles #3 and 6 for some important information.
Much evidence shows that a little child who passes on is usually an advanced soul who didn’t need a long earth-experience. She likely came in for just a while to help others. You would be surprised to know how many people’s lives, even those you’ve never met, have been touched by her life and death.
While on Earth, we can only glimpse a tiny fraction of the big picture. I guarantee you that there is are huge meanings and blessings from this horrible event. Your job right now is to survive and get through one day at a time. Then, if you’re like many bereaved parents, you will begin to glimpse—more and more each day—a rhyme and reason for even this. You are not alone and there are others who want to help. Let them. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Love and light is all that really exists, Mark
Q: Yesterday was a horrible day for me. No anniversary or birthday—just another day that I missed my little boy and the old me. I couldn't stop crying. Then I couldn't sleep until 5 am. Now I'm exhausted and just want to sleep, but it's only 3:38 and my reasons for still being on earth are slowly trickling in the door. - Sunshine
A: I am very sorry for the pain you are going through, Sunshine. To assist sleeping better, read article #10 and pay special attention to point #6 about Nutrition Response Testing. It can reverse your insomnia with whole food supplements that don’t have potentially dangerous side-effects like pharmaceutical drugs. This approach also allows you to grieve and be present for others in your family.
By the way, your phrase “my reasons for still being on earth are slowly trickling in the door” is an excellent one. Are you a writer? If not, you may want to consider that as a way to transmute your pain and sadness into a gift for others. Please check in and give us some good news about your progress. Life and love are forever, Mark
Q: This time of year is always rough for me. Sept. 20th marked two years since my beautiful daughter transitioned. For some strange reason, her death certificate popped in my mind: “death by asphyxiation.” It's like a punch to the stomach when I think about it. I can't catch my breath. It kills me to have to live with the fact that I did that to her. Why did I let them turn off that ventilator? FML. I hate myself. - Dominique
A: Emotions can get stuck in muscles, Dominique, and cause symptoms that are very real. You’ll want to address that before it causes panic attacks, gastro-intestinal symptoms, or worse. Transformational Breathwork is the most powerful way I know to release that stuck energy and old wounds. It will allow you to breathe normally again and have peace about your decision to let her die with dignity. To learn more about this amazing, safe, and time-tested way to heal, visit: http://www.soulproof.com/product/transformational-breath-work/
After 30 years of researching Soul Proof, it became very clear that the soul disengages during severe illness and especially before the moment of death. From a medical perspective, it’s called physiological shock. From a spiritual viewpoint, it’s called common sense. I’ve been around many people in vegetative states on respirators and that’s no way to live. The soul likes to be free so it was no doubt traveling and glimpsing the next phase of forever before the plug was even pulled.
So please forgive yourself and don’t second-guess your decision. If you could hear the voice of your child right now—and you can if you become more quiet and peaceful within—you would hear her saying, “Mom, please don’t feel guilty about that decision. You did me a HUGE favor by allowing me to fly away instead of being stuck in a hopelessly ill body. I am happy and enjoying life and I want you to do the same. We will see each other again so, until then, live fully in the moment. Life is so beautiful here and it can be for you too.” Please write us a note in a few months and share some victory stories. Blessings, Mark
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges. Email Mark at email@example.com to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions
-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and an Affiliate Leader of our Columbus, Ohio HPH Group and our Sarasota, Florida HPH Group.
Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson
Ernie and Kristine
Quinton’s Legacy – The Journey Continues
Our son, Quinton, died and something amazing happened. The world was transformed as a dimension unknown came into view and knocked me off my feet. And such was the genesis of Quinton’s Messages. The awe and wonder of realizing Quinton truly hadn’t died is captured within those pages and it is wondrous for those ready to take the leap.
Now, more than six years have passed and they journey has changed. How can it not? Yes, there is still sadness – the burden remains as I am unable to be part of Quinton growing into manhood. Yes, that stings, but he sent us a grandson named Salvador Quinton; my son-in-law’s family calls him Quinton! We have a second grandson named Santino Edgar; Edgar for my father-in-law who transitioned in 2003. And because of our son’s visits, Kristine and I know in no uncertain terms, our lives are eternal too.
This is the place from which Quinton’s Legacy was born. Our second book was published on Quinton’s six year angleversary date. In knowing life is eternal and having seen firsthand we are spiritual beings having a human experience, we share more amazing personal experiences. We fill in some gaps in time, discuss our journey with forgiveness, seeing those close to us in their true spirit form and learning who my guardian angel is.
In understanding we are energy, because our son demonstrated that so forcefully, we not only celebrate these experiences, but we share them so as you progress on your journey, you may see how it applies to you – in some way. And just so you don’t think we are crazy because of what we have experienced and have the audacity to share, we share the experiences of others. This is the second and largest segment of Quinton’s Legacy. It is truly amazing just how many have experienced a crossed over loved one sending them a sign. Some are subtle, soft and unrecognizable to the busy or skeptical mind while other signs are so over the top that they immediately pierce the consciousness of the one experiencing it, filling them with awe, reverence and amazement.
The last segment of Quinton’s Legacy shares a snapshot of who we are today. Today, six years and three months after Quinton transitioned and immediately began visiting; we do have a completely different perspective of life and what a lifetime represents. As far as I am concerned, how can we not? Kristine has a chapter discussing the hard work of saving a marriage after losing a child and our daughter shares how far she fell while we celebrate how far she has come since that fateful day. I share what I have come to believe about my purpose here as I face my lifelong struggles.
After all, life is eternal; our lives are eternal which means each of us have an individual purpose. Quinton’s Legacy is an open invitation to look at your life, the transition of your child, through a different set of eyes – a set of eyes - years after our son transitioned to the other side and made his presence known. And if it is none of that, it still is a place I can go, within its pages for me to remember the divinity of the journey.
-Ernie and Kristine Jackson
-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton. His two books,"Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com.
Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.
Please join Tiffany Araura Rose for the first meeting of Helping Parents Heal - Sedona, October 13th from 7-9 pm. Tiffany's first guest speakers will be Elizabeth Boisson and her daughter Alix. If you are in the area, please join us! Please RSVP for this meeting here.
Graham and Shannon Maxey, Tracy Houston Venters
Please join Tracy Houston Venters on October 13, 7-9 pm at Unity Dallas for a night of friendship and healing. She will be welcoming Shannon and Graham Maxey as speakers for this event. Please don’t miss this important event! You can RSVP and learn more here. Also, please visit the HPH Dallas website here.
Graham Maxey offers his clinical training and nearly 30 years of experience as a therapist and minister to guide clients through a variety of mental health issues. He is trained in using EMDR for treatment of trauma, anxiety and other mental health issues. He is a frequent speaker conducting workshops on grief and IADC.
Shannon Maxey offers mediumship discernments, in the office or over the phone, to those who need to contact friends and loved ones who have passed on. She also gives instruction in connecting with your own intuition and using it more effectively. We hope to see you there!
Our Sarasota affiliate chapter will be meeting on October 14th from 7-9 pm at Unity of Sarasota. Please read this beautiful article that was just published in The Bradenton Herald about Danny Langfelder and the upcoming meeting. If you are in the area, I hope that you can attend! Please click here to read the article.
Hilton Head, South Carolina
Irene, Linus and Tony Vouvalides in the photo that appeared with the front page article
The first meeting of Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head was held on October 8th from 7-9pm. It was a great success and 14 parents attended. A beautiful article was written about Irene and her daughter Carly by Liz Farrell and published in The Island Packet before the meeting-please take a moment to read it here. If you are in the area, please contact Irene at firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like to attend a future meeting of Helping Parents Heal.
Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson returns to Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale
Please join us on October 22nd from 6:30 - 8:30 as we welcome Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson. Thaddeus, aka 'Big Love', a Prayer Chaplain at Unity of Phoenix and a Yoga instructor, has joined us for two previous meetings. Thaddeus will be showing us Yoga movements to heal grief and leading us in a Guided Meditation. Cat/Cow will probably be the most active posture. You can bring pillows and blankets if you'd like to get comfortable. The second half of the meeting will be spent sharing our children so be sure to bring a picture of your son or daughter! Hope to see you there. Please RSVP here.
Upcoming Speakers for Phoenix/Scottsdale Affiliate
Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson, Psychic Medium Jack Mario, LeAnn Hull, Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, Dr. Raymond Petras, Psychic Medium Renee Richards
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast
“Father, tell mother she has her son with her all day on Christmas Day. There will be thousands of us back in the homes on that day, but the horrid part is that so many of the fellows don’t get welcomed. Please keep a place for me. I must go now. Bless you again, father.” Raymond
This quote is from a book written by Sir Oliver Lodge, who lost his son Raymond on the battlefield during the First World War. Lodge who was a scientist, was working on developing the wireless radio when Raymond passed. He and his family immediately begain to explore connection with Raymond through various British mediums and this convinced the Lodge family of Raymond’s continued existence in spirit.
I especially love this message that Raymond imparts to his father because it expresses something that I feel is very important, and that is this: Our children want to be remembered, talked about, laughed about and toasted to. According to my son Danny, the thoughts, love and prayers that we focus on them are gifts of energy that lift and carry them forward. The last thing any of them want is to be overlooked.
This holiday season, keep in mind that although you cannot see your child with your physical eyes, that he or she is close in spirit and just as they loved being part of the holiday festivities when they here, they want to be part of them now! Whatever holiday you celebrate, let your child’s spirit be a theme that runs throughout, a theme that says: Death is a myth, eternity is real, and love is the bond that is never severed!
-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol
Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here.