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June 2016



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Welcome to the June issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!  

Hello!  We are glad you have found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal! 

We have some very exciting news!  Irene Vouvalides, our Hilton Head affiliate leader, has offered to help organize a Helping Parents Heal National Conference.  She has already contacted many wonderful speakers who have agreed to participate!  She is also researching conference centers in and around Phoenix and Scottsdale.  The conference would take place over a two-day weekend in April 2018.  We need to have an idea of how many parents would like to attend so that we can move forward with the planning.  Please email Irene to let her know if you might be interested in attending: 
ivouvalides@aol.com We are certain that this conference will be wonderful!

Speaking of conferences, Ann Castaldo has kindly given Helping Parents Heal a table in Healing Haven during The Compassionate Friends annual conference here in Scottsdale, AZ from July 9-10 at the Fairmont Princess, 
Hope Rises on the Wings of Love. We need volunteers to man the table, give out flyers and tell people about our group.  If you are free during that time, please let me know: boissonelizabeth@gmail.comSara Ruble is organizing Healing Haven and I will be volunteering with Christine SalterCamber Wilson and Jana Evraets.  We hope to see you there! 

Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth.  We have many affiliate groups that are starting up throughout the country.  There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter. Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website: www.helpingparentsheal.info.  

Sending love and light to each one of you and to your beautiful children.  You are not alone.

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and AffiliateLeader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.


'Knowing' that Our Children Will Have an Early Transition
Suzanne GiesemannSusanne Wilson at the Bench Dedication, Susanne Wilson

Prior to the death of a child, some parents have experienced a phenomenon known as claircognizance (clear knowing). This means that one or both parents had a strong feeling that the child would die, even though there was no logical reason present to fear the child's death. 

To be clear, the experience of claircognizance about a child's impending death goes far beyond the typical worrying of a parent for the child. Some parents describe the "knowing" as a realization that comes to them "like being struck by lightning" or "punched in the stomach." These are seemingly normal parents, most of whom report that they never experienced anything of a psychic nature previously.

Claircognizance about the death of a child may happen to the parent only once, shortly before the child's unexpected death (and often within 24 hours prior). In other cases, claircognizance of the death of a child occurs several times, over the course of months or years. 

Recently, I did a medium reading for a mom whose eight-year-old son had died from a head injury he sustained while at school. The young boy said in the reading, "Mommy, remember I told you that I wouldn't always be with you." 

The boy's mother responded, "That's right! He was about 4 years old when he said that to me...Also, I had a sick feeling that morning that I could lose my son." 

This parent, like many, asked me whether she was supposed to prevent her son's death. Was that the reason she felt that her son was going to die? Was she supposed to save him? She needed answers from me.

I explained claircognizance and why it happens. The experience of “knowing” is NOT intended to make the parent responsible to prevent the child's death. The experience of "knowing" is an acknowledgement (on a soul level) that the child’s death is going to occur, and it's part of a plan. Claircognizance doesn’t come with an exact time, date, or means of the impending death, because there is no prevention possible. The parent who experienced the "knowing" of the impending death was being prepared (again, on a soul level) for the inevitable death of the child. 

The death of one's child is the toughest and most raw life experience a human being can have. Yet we are told, in over 200 years of afterlife research, that there are reasons why this suffering is needed (although we won't fully understand those reasons until after we return to heavenly home). The bottom line seems to be that each soul born on Earth arrives with a plan outlining the broad strokes of his or her life. Grief is a part of the plan, and in its wake, great spiritual growth is possible. Earth is where we come to have experiences that allow us to grow spiritually. Meanwhile, please know that your child continues to be part of your family's life. And I believe it because I know it!

Thank You!
-Written by Susanne Wilson, The Carefree Medium, www.carefreemedium.com

Susanne Wilson, The Carefree Medium is a medium and intuition development expert. Her work has been documented by renowned researchers including Dr. Gary Schwartz and Roberta Grimes. Although the wait for a private appointment is over a year, Susanne has public events coming up in California and Arizona, as well as a book being published later this year. Here is the link to receive her newsletter.


The 5 Steps to Healing After the Passing of a Loved One
Karen Noé and her latest book, Your Life after Their Death

After losing someone you love, you may feel that a part of you has died as well and not even wish to be here on Earth anymore. On the other hand, your deceased loved ones are probably right there by your side, trying to comfort you, whispering a powerful message in your ear:
            
“Please don’t grieve for me. It is so hard for me to watch you suffer. I’m in such a peaceful and happy place, and I want you to be in the same wonderful energy.
           
As you now fully understand, life is too short, so make sure to embrace each and every day, and be grateful for all the blessings in your life. Love and appreciate those who are still here with you. Be strong, show compassion to everyone you meet, and make a difference in this world. Please go out and enjoy life again. I love you so much, and I will see you again when you join me, many years from now. But for now, be brave and make me proud of all that you are able to accomplish in this time that we are apart.”
 
But how can you heal after all that has happened? Here are five steps you can take to help you with your grief.
 
1. Most of all, it’s important to understand what happens after we die. Even though the body has died, the energy of who we are continues to exist. For those who are scientifically oriented, just remember that energy doesn’t begin or end! 
I like to use the analogy of water to explain this concept further. If we put a bowl of water in the middle of the room, it will eventually evaporate. The water is no longer limited to the bowl and is now free to go where it wants. It’s the same with us! 
 
When we leave our physical bodies, the energy of who we are continues, but it is finally free of its vessel and is totally unconfined.
 
You may want to do some research on your own of “near death experiences.” (This is a phenomenon that occurs when people are clinically dead and then return to life.) The International Association for Near-Death Studies at www.iands.org is a wonderful web site that has a lot of information on this.
 
2. Practice Different Healing Techniques. There are many healing techniques that can help you immensely as you are going through the grieving process, such as the Emotional Freedom Technique, Ho’oponopono, energy healing, prayer, meditation, and positive thinking.  I talk about each one of these in more detail in my book, Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss.  Some techniques may resonate with you more than others; so make sure to practice the ones that you feel most guided to use.
 
3. Maintain Your Connection With Your Loved Ones. Talk to your deceased loved ones; write letters to them; learn how to receive messages from them; go to a reputable medium who can receive messages for you. Your loved ones want to communicate with you as much as you want to communicate with them!
 
4. Ask for “Without a Doubt Signs” from Them. Then after you ask, just be patient and wait, and you will receive these magnificent signs. Some of these types of signs are: 
 
* They come through as animals. They are able use their energy to go inside of an animal, such as a bird, ladybug, or butterfly, for a brief period of time. The animal will commonly behave in a way that it normally wouldn’t, such as land on you, peck at your window, shriek in an odd way, and so on.
 
* They place objects, such as coins and feathers, in your path. If you have been finding these types of objects in your path, make sure to keep them and put them in a safe place so you will be able to see how many of these objects your loved one is sending you!
 
* They love to come through with songs. For example, their favorite songs may come on at the perfect time with the exact words you need to hear. Often the same song is played in many different places.
 
* They come through in dreams. All you need to do is to ask them to come, and they will. However, you should ask them to wake you up after they come, or else you will not remember the dream. A dream that is a true visitation will be very peaceful and you will know it truly is your loved one. You will remember this type of dream in detail many years later.
 
* They love to show you numbers that are relevant to you, such as birthdates, anniversaries – or repeating numbers, such as 1111, 2222, 3333, etc. These numbers may appear on clocks, billboards, or any other familiar place.
 
* When your loved ones are in the room, they usually make you feel so loved and at peace. It usually happens at the most unsuspecting time, so there is no logical explanation for your sudden bliss.
 
* Because they are in spirit form, your loved ones don’t have an audible voice. Therefore, they give you messages telepathically. You will be able to tell the difference between your thoughts and theirs by back- tracking your thoughts. If you can find the thought that triggered the thought, it is probably your thought. If a thought just pops into your head for no apparent reason, it is probably your deceased loved one speaking directly to you!
 
* They turn electricity on and off. They like to flicker lights, turn the television and radio on and off, and make appliances beep for no apparent reason.
 
* Because those in the celestial realm speak to you on a different, higher frequency, you may hear ringing in your ears when they are trying to get your attention. This is a sign telling you to listen to what they are saying.
 
* They use license plates to let you know they are there. If a car cuts you off, instead of getting angry, check out the license plate. It may be your loved one’s name, birth date, or something else that was significant to him or her.
 
The list can go on and on, but these are the most common ways they let you know they are around. If you haven’t received any of these signs, simply ask your deceased loved ones to let you know they are there.
 
The more you are aware of the messages they are giving you, the more they will continue to allow you to know they are present. Be patient and persistent, and I promise that they will give you the signs you have always wanted.
 
5. Move Forward. Your loved ones want you to move on and be happy again. They would like for you to set new goals for your future and live your life to the fullest!
A common message that comes through in my appointments is, “I’m okay. I just want you to be, too!”

Many blessings to you now and always!

-Karen Noé.  Please read more about Karen Noé on her website.  


Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
May 2016

by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A.  The death of a child is very difficult, painful, and sad.  At the same time, it can be a spiritually transformative experience.  You can—moment by moment—choose to heal by awakening to your and their true nature (much more than the physical body), honoring their lives, serving others, and enjoying life again.  That’s the balance Helping Parents Heal seeks to maintain.
 
I recommend reading the Foundational Articles for Healing and Transformation that form a basis for my answers.  Links at lower left of
www.soulproof.com home page.
 
I’ve also created several products with information and strategies for surviving and even thriving amidst your suffering.
http://www.soulproof.com/shop/  If you truly can’t afford them, let us know and we’ll send them to you at no charge.  Then, when you are doing better, you can “pay it forward” and help others. 

Q: My only child Craig died 4 years ago at the age of 38. It was totally unexpected. He was alone when he died so an autopsy was performed. I had to wait 6 months to get the results.  Not even his doctor knew how bad his heart was. After 4 years I've learned to live with it, but there are times I'm "ambushed" by a memory or trigger that makes it feel it just happened. I'm convinced the loss of a child is the worst pain ever. - Kathy

A: Many people would agree with you, Kathy, about that being the worst pain.  And it’s perfectly normal to feel ambushed by memories.  But you’ve gone through the worst of it ; my question to you is, where will you go from here?  Here’s my top 4 wish list for you and other bereaved parents:

  1. Join Helping Parents Heal and take an active role in helping more recently bereaved parents.  If there’s not a group in your town, start one.  We will walk you through the steps.
  2. Consider how you can honor Craig’s life.  Some parents work with homeless people, others donate time to charities, some start a scholarship.   
  3. Grieve more deeply with the Transformational Breathwork technique.  To learn more about this amazingly healing approach, visit http://www.soulproof.com/product/transformational-breath-work/  I will send a free downloadable file to anyone who wants it.  Just email me. 
  4. Take optimal care of yourself.  Add positive changes as described in article #12 : 7 Keys to Fine-Tune Your Body/Mind


Over time, these steps will help transmute and upgrade your predominate energy FROM sadness and pain TO gratitude for 38 years together and joy that you two will see each other again. 
 
Q: I find myself wondering: where would we be with a 10 ½ year-old daughter? How would she look, talk and behave? Any awards from school? Athletic? Her voice? Raspy like mine? I'll never know. I'll wonder forever, baby girl. - Michelle

A: Of course you have those thoughts, Michelle.  You wouldn’t be fully human if you didn’t.  Wondering at times is fine; obsessing and letting your self be destroyed by what might have been is not.  It sounds like you are handling this in a balanced way.  It is difficult to stay in the present moment instead of thinking about what would have or could have been – isn’t it?  One way to do that is to increase your relationship with her now
 
I asked one bereaved father who is a medical doctor if he felt very much sadness and pain about his son who transitioned three years ago.  He said, “No. Whenever I find myself dwelling on that, I shift to more positive thoughts because that’s how I can best feel my son’s presence right now.”  To learn more about you can do this, read article #9: 12 Keys to Visiting with Your Departed Loved Ones.  I also recommend a session I created using hypnosis/deep relaxatio:
http://www.soulproof.com/product/facilitated-after-death-contact-2/.  I will send a free link for the digital audio version to anyone who requests it. 
 
Q: I usually am the one trying to lift people up when they are down, but today I need the help. My son was killed in a car accident a year and a half ago. So here I sit, trying to figure out why this experience had to happen to me. I know it was 'in the plan' or at least that’s what I have been reading in all the books.  I have been doing yoga, meditating, reading, talking to him, etc. but today I just want him to be back or at least have his spirit come to me and tell me he loves me. – Deanna

A: Thank you for your letter, Deanna.  I know that you are putting into words what many parents feel.  They try to be positive and do all the right things, but sometimes they just want to see their child again NOW.  This is very common and can feel like the “ambush” that Kathy described.  It’s part of the process of grieving.  It’s OK to let yourself have some moments like that as you continue your mourning. 
As for your questions, it didn’t have to happen to you.  As you are learning, much evidence indicates that you, as a soul, volunteered to be part of this scenario.  You knew that it would break your heart AND that it would create powerful opportunities for growth and service.  Your real self also knew that this time on earth is but a blink of any eye in the span of eternity.  Further, it understands—without a doubt—that death is not an end, but a change in form along life’s journey through forever. 
It sounds like you are learning all this intellectually and through experience.  One and a half years isn’t that long so pat yourself on the back –- you are doing great.  Honor your grieving, maintain your healing practices, and keep shining your light as much as you can.  And when you feel like you can’t, reach out and ask for help.  Visible or unseen assistance, guidance, and love is always available.  And keep your sense alert.  Your son IS telling you that he loves you and that he is right there.  You are closer to directly experiencing him than you might think. 

Q: Tomorrow is my Nathan's fourth angelversary and what should've been my first grandbaby will be coming any day. I am having bittersweet feelings about the situation. I'm so happy that his true love has found love again, is moving forward, and still includes me in her life.  But I am sad and selfish and want this to be my grandbaby! I want to watch my son be a father. But, as I've told her, this baby will have his own personal guardian angel to look after him. Sorry for the rant. - Lisa
 
A: That wasn’t a rant, Lisa. Your feelings are very understandable and, if people are honest, VERY common.  Did you notice the huge shift in your last two sentences?  You went from talking about being sad (natural) and selfish (you’re not) but then upgraded the focus to how your son will watch over this little one.  Read those sentences aloud and notice how you feel better when you get to the guardian angel part.  And that is part of the solution for every challenge in life, isn’t it ?  Admit your feelings, express them, and then look for the blessings.  Thank you for demonstrating this in your question and your life!
 
Q: It's been four years and I have not experienced joy the way I did before. I wonder if I ever will? - Daryl
 
A: Great question, Daryl.  Every bereaved parent is different and there’s not “one size fits all.”  On one hand, some answer, “No, you will never feel joy again” and make a strong case for why that is their truth.  Others say that you will feel joy, but it will be different than before.  The second option is especially possible when you actively work to honor your child’s life, serve others, and realize that life and love are eternal.  So my answer to you is, “Whether you ever feel joy again or not is up to you.”
 
The wisest and strongest bereaved parents I’ve met report that it’s a moment-to-moment choice to focus on creating more joy, peace, and meaning to their child’s passing.  Choosing the path toward more joy isn’t an easy path.  You probably will fall down and have to get back up a hundred times a day.  You will need to focus on one happy thought even though ninety-nine sad and bad ones are staring you in the face.   Choosing the more positive fork in the road is one reason your essence chose this tough challenge.  To learn more about how to do this, read article #10 When You’re Facing Big Challenges, 8 Keys to Surviving and Thriving and others on my website. 
 
Q: My son Mark died 7 1/2 weeks ago of a heroin overdose and the past week I feel like my world or my mind is crumbling. I cry and scream whenever I am alone. I have a wonderful counselor and a good support system.  But how do I tell others that I just want him home and it feels like I am completely lost without him? - Tricia

A: You just did, Tricia.  Tell your support team just how you feel; they will understand.  It’s been less than two months so of course you feel this way.  It’s like a horrible nightmare that you wish you could wake up from. And, in a very real sense, this earth-experience is a dream.
 
You are early in the grieving process.  Go through the anger and depression with all of your being.  Don’t shut down or numb out.  It’s good to cry and scream at this point.  Mark my word . . . someday, and much to your surprise, you will notice a sliver of acceptance and peace shining through the darkness.  Read and reread article #2 : 12 Keys to Surviving and Thriving When a Child Passes On.  Apply steps #1, 3, and 4 in my first answer and #2 when you feel that you are ready.  Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.   
 
Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice.  

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—this earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever. Visit www.soulproof.com for free radio shows with top consciousness experts, newsletters, and articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges.  Email Mark at
mark@soulproof.com to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions

-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and of Eternea

Mark will soon be hosting Eternea Chat webinars.  Please click here to learn more and to participate!  

The topic for the first webinar on June 21st will be: When a Loved One Dies: 7 Things to Remember.


Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson

Kristine and Ernie

Sunbeam Fingers and Sprinkles
The man sat in his loft, meditating and praying.  He spoke to his son, telling him how much he missed him, how much he would like to see him, speak with him and asking for a sign.  He wasn’t there long, but he spoke earnestly before getting up to ready himself for the day.

The Arizona morning was pleasant, not quite cold, but certainly not warm yet; summer was still a couple of months away, maybe if they were lucky, longer than that.  As the man drove toward the freeway, the sun, already risen, was blocked by trees.  As the man approached the freeway the sun became visible but is was partially blocked by a cloud.  Turning to go east, the man took a closer look.

The sunbeams were pushing through the cloud and the man thought of a hand.  He reached up, placing his fingers into the sunbeam fingers and began to cry.  He drove like that for a minute, his fingers interwoven with his son’s, then lowered his hand, moving it to his heart in a silent prayer of gratitude for the sign.  And then, from nowhere, it began to sprinkle rain – in Phoenix, where rain had not fallen in months.

The man contemplated the sprinkles.  He wondered from where they fell for the cloud near the sun was too far to make sprinkles on him.  He looked up and around, but there were only wisps of clouds nearby.  Simultaneously while trying to make sense of it, he remembered a long-ago ceremony in his hometown, nestled in the foothills of the Rocky Mountains.  The ceremony was so commemorate a bench that the community had built to remember their son; a bench that his dear friends had insisted that he participate in building.  On the second year of this celebration of their son, concrete was poured in front of the bench.  Nearing the completion of the smoothing and finishing of the concrete, it had begun to sprinkle.  One of the neighbors looked skyward with a knowing expression on his face.  That neighbor was a native of Hawaii.  And then he explained, in his culture – when it sprinkles during ceremonies and sacred events like the one we were having, it means the spirits are near. 

The man, missing his son, had earnestly asked for a sign, some communication with his son on the other side and in response, got a double barreled blast.  The man recognized it for what it was and was filled with emotion; he was filled with love and appreciation for his son on the other side who had sent him yet again another sign.

And the lesson – don’t dismiss these signs.  There are no coincidences.  If it is weird, unusual, never happened before or odd – stop, sit a moment in silence and let it in.  These are the significant moments. Even in doubt, even if you might not believe, think about your loved one on the other side. Celebrate them.

Blessings! -Ernie and Kristine Jackson

-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton.  His two books,'Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at www.quintonsmessages.com. Please also view Ernie and Kristine's video of their June presentation at the Phoenix/Scottsdale Chapter of Helping Parents Heal here.


Affiliate Updates - 

Helping Parents Heal-United Kingdom, First Meeting June 26th!

Marta Arce-Dubois, Affiliate Leader and Barnett Hill, Surrey

Our first HPH UK Meeting will take place on June 25th at the Dunant Conference room at Barnett Hill outside Guildford, Surrey. Weather permitting, we will be able to spill out into the beautiful grounds in the afternoon. There will be coffee and tea on arrival from 12 pm, introductions, greeting from Helping Parents Heal co-founder Elizabeth Boisson, buffet lunch (the bar will be open for those who wish to have a glass of wine). After lunch activities ('NLP Grief Process' tester - 'Bringing our children into our present and with us into our future', 'Reconnection Meditation', etc, talk and message session by a spiritualist medium, afternoon/evening coffee.

This will be a great day of sharing, understanding, healing, spiritual development, making new friendships and strengthening existing ones. Please, let me know that you can attend as we will need to confirm attendee numbers before the meeting, 
arcemarta@aol.com.  Please RSVP and learn more here
.

-Much love, Marta Arce-Dubois, United Kingdom Affiliate Leader


Helping Parents Heal-Dallas with Lisa Chalmers, June 14th!

Join Tracy Houston-Venters on June 14, 7-9 pm at Unity of Dallas for a night of friendship and healing.  She is excited to welcome Lisa Chalmers. Lisa has many gifts, and is trained in past life regression. Lisa will talk to us about how pain experienced from our own childhoods or past lives can hinder us in the healing process and block us from resolving other issues we may be struggling with in general. Through Past Life Regression therapy can help you go back in time and release limiting thoughts, fears, behaviors and long-term patterns.

At this meeting she is going to guide us through a meditation where you can meet a loved one or one of your angels or guides. This is going to be a great meeting - Please mark your calendars and don’t miss this important event! You can RSVP and learn more
 here.  


Helping Parents Heal-Hilton Head, Irene Vouvalides & her Sister, Judi Hancox

Judi and Irene, Parents at the Hilton Head Mother's Day Meeting, May 8th.  

A Special Mother's Day Potluck in South Carolina
Our May meeting was amazing! We were 18, my sister Judi did a talk about grief and PTSD. She then led us in a guided meditation.  Everyone brought food for brunch, and my husband Tony bought all the moms white roses.

Please read a helpful article by Judith Hancox entitled 'Therapies to Help Parents Heal After the Loss of a Child' by clicking here.  Please RSVP for the June 5th meeting here.


- Irene Vouvalides, Hilton Head Affiliate Leader 


Helping Parents Heal - Tampa-Next meeting June 22nd!
Marla Grant-Tampa Affiliate Group Leader

Little did I imagine four months ago when I reached out to Dr. Mark Pitstick and Elizabeth Boisson to see how I could be of assistance to grieving parents, that I would be launching a local chapter of Helping Parents Heal. With their thoughtful guidance and encouragement and advice from several established affiliate leaders, I did just that on Wednesday, May 25 at the beautiful Franciscan Center in Tampa, Florida.

Facilitating the meeting gave me a fresh reminder of the stages of healing and recovery I’ve had to navigate over the years after losing three of my five children, and I could easily identify with each member of our group. Two couples attended as well as two moms and a sibling whose brother had very recently passed. The manner in which these loved ones were lost varied widely but each person was bravely working through their own personal circumstances. It was wonderful to see the empathy and kindness flowing through the room. Those who have found a way to accept and live with their loss were able to model healing to those in early or more profound stages of grief, giving hope for better days ahead.

We look forward to more parents joining the group as the months go by. We have several excellent guest presenters scheduled in the coming months who will use their gifts to help parents make the emotional connection between this life and the next, confirming that our loved ones are well and always so close.
-Marla Grant, Tampa Affiliate Leader


Marla’s next meeting will be June 22nd.  Please RSVP and learn more here.
 
Helping Parents Heal-Cincinnati, A new affiliate group!
Tywana and Brian Smith

Brian and Tywana Smith are starting the Cincinnati Chapter of Helping Parents Heal. Brian and Tywana’s daughter Shayna Elayne, whose name means 'Beautiful Light' transitioned June 24, 2015 at the age of 15 years old. Shayna was a force while on Earth and continues to be a force after her transition. They have had many visits from Shayna including her coming through in medium readings loud and clear.

After her passing they began experiencing a series of synchronistic events that led them to Mark Ireland, Elizabeth Boisson and Mark Pitstick. The events were undeniable that it was in their destiny to start a chapter of Helping Parents Heal locally.

After Shayna’s passing, Brian and Tywana started attending the Unity church in Cincinnati, OH. They have met with the pastor there and agreed that the Helping Parents Heal chapter will be affiliated with the Unity Church where they will meet. The meetings will August 8th from 7 to 9 pm.

The Facebook page is: 
https://www.facebook.com/helpingparentshealcincinnati/ Details on the chapter can be found there. Please visit Brian's blog, 'Beautiful Light', here, and RSVP for the August 8th meeting here


Please contact Elizabeth Boisson at boissonelizabeth@gmail.com if you are interested in starting an affiliate in your area.
Elizabeth Boisson, Ernie & Kristine Jackson and Brian & Tywana Smith during a recent visit to Phoenix

Helping Parents Heal-Phoenix with David Router & Lilla Swanson, June 19th

David Router, Lilla and Alex Swanson

Please join Elizabeth Boisson as she welcomes David Router and Lilla Swanson.  Lilla will be telling her personal story of healing through energy work with David Router, a Master Energy Healer from Queensland, Australia, after the passing of her daughter Alex. David will also be coming to answer questions. Please read our May newsletter to find out more about Lilla and David. Also, you can visit David's website at: 
www.davidrouter.com.  

The second part of our meeting will be devoted to a small get together and sharing time for Father's Day, June 19th. Please bring a favorite appetizer to share and RSVP here.


Helping Parents Heal Phoenix/Scottsdale May 15th with Camber Wilson

Camber Wilson (center, blue jeans) at Unity of Phoenix

Camber Wilson, a bereaved sibling, intuitive life coach and developing psychic medium, came to speak to our group on May 15th.  Her talk was uplifting and helpful to all siblings who have experienced the passing of a brother or sister.  Kristine and Ernie Jackson kindly recorded the meeting and it is available on Youtube 
here. You can learn more about Camber on her Facebook site, Path to Purpose, Intuitive Life Coaching.  Please take a moment to view her talk.  

Sheri’s Corner-
Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast“Know then that the body is merely a garment. Go seek the wearer, not the cloak.”

-Rumi

This is what I see: so many grieving, so many deeply wounded and suffering from the pain of their losses, so many going about living life as best they can, with this gnawing pain that lingers throughout their days. This I understand.

What I don’t understand, and I know that everyone is busy with the business of living, is why more people don’t make it a regular practice to integrate spiritual exploration into their lives. It doesn’t matter whether you take a class, read a book, listen to an interview, watch a documentary, have a reading with a medium, meditate, etc., it is my belief, that in order to heal, you need to make the search for spiritual knowledge and understanding a part of your life’s curriculum.

To me it’s a no brainer. Our children-in-spirit are not here, but they are somewhere and that somewhere remains a mystery to be explored. It’s fascinating, really and I know because I’ve been exploring spirit since I was 20 and after 45 years I can tell you, it never gets boring! There is always something new to learn or expose yourself to, and each thing you learn adds a piece to the puzzle, and your confidence grows with each piece. But more than that, you begin to shed a little of that pain as your perspective on birth and death expands and you open to the presence of spirit.

You might think of it this way: The time that you would spend with the child or children you are missing is time that you now have to “seek the wearer” and you do this by designating time to expand your knowledge and awareness of spirit. I have no problem understanding pain. We all have it. But for those who speak of how great their agony is, I want to say, “stop lamenting about the garment and go seek the wearer,” for therein rests your healing.

-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol

Please visit Sheri's Prayer Registry here. We regret that Sheri's June 5th NYC Affiliate Meeting is now full.  

Mission Statement of Helping Parents Heal: Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices. -Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal






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Stories of Validation -

Meet us in Saint Louis, Mom!
Beth D'Angelo and Irene Vouvalides listen to Thomas John 

WOW! I had the privilege of attending The Sixth Annual Afterlife Conference with my best friend, Beth D'Angelo who is the chapter leader for HPH Kona, Hawaii. I encourage everyone to consider next year’s conference June 1-4 in Portland Oregon.
 
The above photo is of me and my dear friend Beth d’Angelo who lost her precious son Sean in a car accident 12 years ago. We connected shortly after Carly left this earth and I now consider her my most cherished friend.
 
At an audience display of mediumship (150 people), Thomas John came to me immediately and first stated " Woman in pink please stand, your daughter has passed" and then " Do you know the woman next to you?" Yes I said, Please stand " your son has passed" Even though your children didn't know each other on earth they are together now, your cheerleaders. There was validation after validation that left us speechless, shaking and so very grateful.
 
I also took wonderful informative workshops on grief, death and the journey we will all take, the one our precious children have taken.
 
I had the privilege of working with Dr Linda Backman who was able to guide me through a Life Between Lives soul regression; I am still processing the experience. Please feel free to contact me about this session, I couldn't possible summarize what occurred but of course my precious child was present letting me know we have been together before and will be together again.
 
Beth and I took workshops about grief; Terri Daniel gave one of the most fascinating discussions about growing and transforming through the grief process. I highly recommend Terri's books, I feel as if I came away with an entirely new language. 
 
We also were given many new names and websites; The Robert Monroe Institute, Richard Rohr, Judith Viorst- Necessary Losses, William Worden, Evelyn Undersell, 
www.whatsyourgrief.com and www.spacecollective.org to name a few.
 
As I explained, there were mediums present at the conference; Beth and I were so pleased to have our precious Sean and Carly make their presence known as well as other friends and family showing us that our departed loved ones are with us always and are no more than a thought away.
 
I especially enjoyed when medium Suzanne Northrop asked me "who are the two family members of yours riding around the room on motorcycles?"

My grandfather Nicholas Bello was killed in a motorcycle accident on July 4, 1933; 80 years to the day my cousin’s son (who was named after my grandfather) Nicholas Bello also lost his life in a motorcycle accident.  WOW!
 
Sending love from Hilton Head, South Carolina 
-Irene Vouvalides, Hilton Head Affiliate Leader

Stories of Validation by Siblings-
Seeing KC

KC Johnson, Camber Wilson & her family

My oldest brother passed in a drowning accident when I was very young. Because of that, there has never been a time that I couldn’t feel and hear him, but I was never able to actually see him with my physical eyes even though his spiritual presence would be so strong. As a child I spent almost every night praying that God would let me see him. While I continued to feel him so strongly, hear his messages as spontaneous thoughts, and to see color and light orbs, I was never able to see him.

I went though the hardest loss of my life in my late twenties and spend a year and a half running away from my life and myself. I became very despondent and fell deep into an eating disorder. I remember one night crying in my closet and feeling a set of large warm arms wrap around me and hold me there.

When I started listening to spirit again, finding myself and finding healing, I had the most beautiful experience. One night when I had finally fallen asleep in a mindset of trusting what was, and being grateful for my life, I had a dream that my whole family was looking for something precious. All of us continued to search for something, but I didn’t understand what for. Finally my brother-in-law said, “Camber, I saw him.” “Who?” I asked. “KC. He was over that way.” I was filled with desperate emotion and started running in the direction he had pointed. I ran for what seemed like over a mile and then turned my head to see him standing there, just the way I had remembered him. I froze, and his smile and love penetrated my whole being.

The presence was so so so strong it snapped me awake, and when I looked to the side of my bed, I saw the white form of a young man standing beside my bed. I knew immediately it was my brother. My physical eyes weren’t able to see the spiritual form of him for very long, but as I laid there and closed my eyes I could still see so clearly in my minds eye that he was still standing there with me. We didn’t speak any words to each other. Both of us just stayed together in that moments communicating more with emotions then words. I understood things in that moment that couldn’t be explained with words. I knew that life from then on would be different. I knew he had always been with me and watched over me. And we just sat in this feeling of pure, overwhelming love and gratitude. After sitting with him for a long time, I started to drift back off to sleep, and the last moments of that sacred experience were of him emanating his love for me and me sending him my love and gratitude for giving me that gift of seeing him.

-Written by KC's sister, Camber Wilson
 

Garrett's Double Rainbow
The Savoie Family-Tom, Laurie, Kailee, Chantal and Garrett

As Father’s Day is approaching, and Mother’s Day only recently behind us, I wanted to share my experience with you all, as I know (from being a sibling) but can hardly begin to understand how holiday’s like these bring up a mixed bag of extreme emotions that mostly leave us feeling sad, angry and resentful after losing a child. While I hope you find peace, feel loved, and can be happy with and appreciate the time you did have with your child, I totally get how certain days such as these will stir up the questions, thoughts, and emotions that seem to render us stuck in that moment of ‘losing’ your loved one and prevent us from ‘living’ and appreciating life the way we are told they would want us to after they are gone.  So although these words are a mere substitute for being able to celebrate with your son and daughter in person, I know that my brother Garrett gave my family a gift this Mother’s Day that is also a gift from your son/daughter/brother/sister to you.
      
I was driving to pick up my boyfriend a little after 5 pm on Mother’s Day at the private golf community that he works at when I noticed a beautiful rainbow in front of me. Rainbows are always stunning and this one didn’t seem to be particularly remarkable, however, a thought came into my mind: What if this is a gift from Garrett to Mom?
     
Now, I have to give you a bit of history to understand why this would even occur to me. 5 ½ years ago, during the service we held for my brother, it had been raining. Much of this time is a blur to my family and me, and we had actually been inside thanking everyone for coming as this had happened so we didn’t see it. But as our friends and family were leaving the church, the most vibrant, beautiful, full rainbow was shining over the church. Many people snapped photographs and told us it was G Man letting us know that he was here. A cousin of ours even put the photos in a book and gave it to us a few months later (I’m pretty sure that this was actually the first time that we had even heard about that rainbow or seen any photos of it). And although I didn’t know it at the time, I believe that he was showing us that he was there.
       
Since then, I have seen many, many rainbows but never once had the thought came to me that this was my brother appearing to us in this form. So quickly as the thought entered my mind, I dismissed it. I approached the security gate and stopped to give them my information to let them know that I was picking up Matt from one of the restaurants when I noticed the gentleman’s nametag said Garrett! I was pleasantly surprised, and despite that sad tug on my heart that he wasn’t actually here, I knew that I would head home and tell my Mom that he only son was wishing her a Happy Mother’s Day.

I picked up Matt with a smile on my face and as we turned back to head home I could not believe my eyes. That one beautiful, but unremarkable, rainbow had turned into the biggest, brightest, most colourful double rainbow that I had ever seen. Through tears and a smile, I told Matt what had just happened and we held hands and drove in awe on our way home.
     
Once outside the gate, we couldn’t help it. We pulled over and took photographs on our phones because this rainbow was just too exquisite not to. A few other drivers had the same idea and also had to take a moment from their busy lives to stop and appreciate the extraordinary sight and try to capture the moment.

I immediately texted the photo to both of my parents and said “Garrett is here wishing you a Happy Mother’s Day”! When we got home and sat down to dinner, I shared the rest of this story with my family. We were all missing him terribly, but I know that all of us definitely understood that he was right there with us, in the brilliantly bright physical form that he could be.
       
It cannot compare to actually holding your child in a sweet embrace, but if we can open our hearts and our eyes, we can see, know, and feel that they are not gone, but they are with us in every moment. The songs, sights, smells, memories, dreams, feelings – these are where we find them and can continue to share our love and life with them.

From my heart, and my family’s, we love you and we hope you can
smile and feel your loved ones as you read these words!

-Garrett's sister, Kailee Savoie
Garrett's Double Rainbow


Chills, Tingling or Itching?  
Signs your Loved One is Communicating with you

Steven Joseph, The Tall Medium

Do you get chills, tingling, itching, heat, cold or a sensation like when your arm falls asleep? Let’s start by assuming these sensations are isolated to specific parts of your body.

When our loved ones pass, they return to pure loving energy. That energetic existence is advanced beyond what we can comprehend. Their existence is not limited by time and distance as we know it. An energetic spirit can be anywhere, everywhere at the same time. Their primary limitation is imposed by the creator and the universe. As in the Movie Bruce Almighty, they “can’t mess with free will.” However, they CAN give us signs that nudge us along our path without affecting our free will. One of those “nudges” is letting us know they are with us and confirming we are on the right path. With their pure energy, spirits of our loved ones can manipulate our skin cells. That manipulation can be felt as chills, tingling, itching, heat, cold, etc.

When this happens to you, stop and recall what you were thinking about at the exact moment it happened. Your “sign” is confirmation that what you were thinking or doing is right with the universe and will keep you on your path. In many instances, these signs are accompanied by a sense of calm, peace and comfort. That sense is also from spirit and meant to relieve our anxiety about the situation we were thinking about.

You can also begin learning which loved one is sending you the message. In many cases, each loved one who has passed will use a different part of your body as their unique identifier. For example, your child may be the top of your head, your grandmother your left arm, etc. Talk out loud to each of your loved ones and ask them to help you help you identify their particular spot.

So the next time this happens to you, relax, welcome it, take comfort, smile and acknowledge it to your loved ones as a gift of love from them.

-Written by Steven Joseph, The Tall Medium, our Omaha, Nebraska Affiliate Leader.  

Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at boissonelizabeth@gmail.com (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.) 


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Upcoming Meetings of Helping Parents Heal
Helping Parents Heal - Pensacola, FL hosted by Kristen Brown-Sanders, July 6th. Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Hawaii hosted by Beth D'Angelo, June 25th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Ottawa, Canada.  Please contact Patti Maypattimay@rogers.com for the next meeting time and place.
Helping Parents Heal - Fortuna CA, hosted by Nancy Courtmanche, Please contact Nancy for more information: nancycougar@gmail.com
Helping Parents Heal - Hilton Head hosted by Irene Vouvalides, June 5th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Tampa, FL hosted by Marla Grant, June 22nd.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Tucson, AZ with Janice Crowder Torrez, NEW LOCATION!  June 23rd.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Sarasota with Dr. Mark Pitstick - June 8th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas, TX, hosted by Tracy Venters, with Lisa Chambers, June 14th. Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, AZ with special guest David Router, June 19th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Fort Lauderdale, FL hosted by Ana Fernandez, June 4th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - NYC, hosted by  Sheri Perl Migdol, June 5th.  Sorry, the meeting is now full.
Helping Parents Heal - Surrey, UK, hosted by Marta Arce-Dubois June 26th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Dr. Mark Pitstick, September 18th.  Please RSVP here.  
Helping Parents Heal - Cincinnati with Tywana and Brian Smith, August 7th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, with special guest Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson January 15th.  Please RSVP here

Affiliate Groups and their leaders (by alphabetical order)

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL
email: 
helpingparentsheal@yahoo.com  


NEW GROUP - Marta Arce-Dubois-Surrey, UK
email:
arcemarta@aol.com


Elizabeth Boisson-Phoenix, AZ
email: 
evboisson@yahoo.com


Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL
email: 
kristensanders@mcshi.com  

Lancy Carr - Washington DC
email:
lncycrr@yahoo.com


NEW GROUP - Donna Costley - Sacramento, CA
email:
bordend@sbcglobal.net 


Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA
email: 
nancycougar@gmail.com 


Sandi and Sandy Crea – Sarasota, FL
email: 
munrkr@aol.com


Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ
email: 
jcrowdertorrez@gmail.com 

NEW GROUP
- Beth D'Angelo-Kona Side of Big Island, HI
email:
beth.growhope@gmail.com


NEW GROUP - Ana Fernandez-Fort Lauderdale, FL
email:
aflexxus@gmail.com


NEW GROUP - Marla Grant-Tampa, FL
email:
HPHTampa@earthlink.net


NEW GROUP - Carla Haynie-Little Rock, AK
email:
carlahaynie@ymail.com


Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL
email: 
lafj1@hotmail.com 


NEW GROUP - Steven Joseph-Omaha, NE
email:
hphomaha@outlook.com


Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota
email: 
sheryl.hill@me.com  

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC
email: 
JALAJMD@gmail.com  


Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho
email:  
paigewlee@gmail.com


Lavaughn Margraff-Columbus, OH
email: 
lavaughnm@hotmail.com


Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario
email: 
pattimay@rogers.com  


Maria Pe - San Diego
email: 
maria.i.pe@hotmail.com 

Glenda Pearson - Mishawaka IN
email: 
glendia456@aol.com

Sheri Perl-New York, NY
email: 
sheriperl@gmail.com  


NEW GROUP - Diane Romagnoli - Bedford/Manchester, NH
email:
droma47@hotmail.com


Tiffany Rose - Sedona, AZ
email:
tiffanyrose1827@gmail.com 


NEW GROUP - Tywana and Brian Smith - Cincinnati, OH
email: onlyhuman141@gmail.com 


NEW GROUP - Michelle Stein - Lafayette, CA
email:
michellestein@mac.com


Tracy Venters - Dallas, TX
email: 
tracy.venters@gmail.com, website: www.hphdallas.com 


Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ
email: 
cvolpe68@gmail.com  


Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC
email: ivouvalides@aol.com 


Marcia Wasielewski – Columbus OH
email:
mwasiele@columbus.rr.com


You can read the bios and see photos of each of the affiliate leaders at our website:  www.helpingparentsheal.info.  

Please contact Elizabeth Boisson (boissonelizabeth@gmail.com) if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.

Board Members: 
Elizabeth Boisson Co-F0under/ boissonelizabeth@gmail.com
Mark Ireland Co-Founder/ irelandmarks@yahoo.com
Doryce Norwood / dnorwood@circlek.com
Ernie Jackson / stonejak4@hotmail.com
Dr. Mark Pitstick / mark@soulproof.com


Treasurer: Celia Cheves-Edwards / cdedwards@cox.net
Secretary: Laurie Savoie / laurie6385@gmail.com


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