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Alzheimer's Support Ministry

Pastor: Rick McLean 818-909-5500 
At our last meeting: Ryan continued our study in Job.  We explored THE SOURCE of Jobs suffering because God was CONTESTING SATAN, however, Job nor his friends knew it at the time and were attempting to explain it from their EARTHLY PERSPECTIVES.

GOD'S PERSPECTIVE was that He knew what was going on and had everything under control concerning Job's situation.
JOB'S PERSPECTIVE was that he was wondering if his suffering was because he had done something wrong.  Then in Job 9:33, a turning point, Job was beginning to understand that he needed a mediator, an advocate.  Job 16:18.
In Job 19:23,25, We learned that there is a redemptive purpose to what is happening in our suffering.  Suffering helps us understand that we have a Redeemer, a hope in the after life.  SUFFERING HAS A REDEMPTIVE PURPOSE.
 

Pulled in too many directions??? 
Try some of these..

" In general, STRESS is related to both external and internal factors. External factors include the physical environment, including your job, your relationships with others, your home, and all the situations, challenges, difficulties, and expectations you're confronted with on a daily basis. Internal factors determine your body's ability to respond to, and deal with, the external STRESS-inducing factors. Internal factors which influence your ability to handle STRESS include your nutritional status, overall health and fitness levels, emotional well-being, and the amount of sleep and rest you get."--MedicineNet.Com


 

WAYS TO RELIEVE STRESS
 

Nurture your heart first-read/study/meditate on Scripture-take a bath-listen to music-take a nap-go to a body of water-watch the clouds-light a candle-let out a sigh-fly a kite-watch the stars-learn something new-read a book-sit in nature-take deep belly breaths-call a friend-meander around town-write in a journal or blog-walk outside-buy some flowers or a plant-find a relaxing scent-eat a meal in silence-turn off ALL electronics-take a bike ride-go to the park-pet a furry creature-create your own coffee/tea break-drive somewhere new-go to the farmers market-read or watch something funny-climb a tree-color with crayons-make some music-engage in small acts of kindness-do some gentle stretches-paint-read poetry-dance-give thanks
 


Handy Resources

 

Beth Canino, is an "elder care advisor" with Best Eldercare Solutions and a regular member of our ministry.  She can help navigate the options for your loved ones' care.  Her phone # is: 818-247-1450

Wear Comfortable Shoes by Peter Rosenberger is a great book for Caregivers.  We posted this review a while back, but have new members, so sharing again: "I FLEW through these 115 pages offered from this loving husband who has faced many of the same things I have.  Mr. Rosenberger has been doing this for 19 years longer than I have, and I learned much from him.  He has written personally, sharing his own experience (which includes Gracie's 70+ operations), and with tons of practical advice (including how to ASK for help and where the Church fits in).  He gets right to the point for the reader whose time is limited." L.P. 


 

Romans 11:33
Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God!  How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!

Psalm 131
O Lord, my heart is not lifted up; my eyes are not raised too high; I do not occupy myself with things too great and too marvelous for me. But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child is my soul within me.  O Israel, hope in the Lord from this time forth and forevermore.

Ask yourself...

Are you struggling to balance your care giving, personal and marriage roles?

Feeling overwhelmed by too many responsibilities, isolation, or lack of support?

Are you worn out from taking care of everyone else at the expense of your own needs?

"I find it to be almost impossible to be STRESSED and praise God at the same time. When I'm STRESSED I just start praising and the STRESS just seems to go away." anon.

"Praise and worship will take our minds and thoughts off of self, off our problems, and refocus them on God. As we begin to praise and worship God, suddenly our problems seem small in light of the largeness of God. Music is also soothing to the soul. Next time you're feeling STRESSED, try following the above advice and see if your STRESS doesn't begin to lift."--Mary Fairchild 

" Choose Effectiveness over Efficiency:  Efficient people get things done. Effective people get the right things done."  Anon
 

Our Theme for MAY is STRESS.
 
 

Our NEXT MEETING IS:
Saturday, May 31, 2014

9:00-11:00am
130 Room

 

 
We look forward to a devotional time around God's word, worship in song, and breakfast as a group.  Then we have a time of sharing for updates, needs and prayer time. Our Loved Ones are welcome to join us for all or part of the meeting but volunteers are available to assist them on a walk, on a walk or in the next room during the sharing time if desired.
 

 
A light breakfast with healthy options will be served.  If you would like to contribute, contact Sarah Dougherty at doughertyfam8@gmail.com   Thank you!
 
Giving Attention to Prayer
 
Prayer Requests
 
Beth & Gene - daily energy, wisdom, kindness, love, patience.  Also stay focused on what is important - family
 
Marilyn - Healing from Diabetes 2, Dementia, Recovery from a most recent stroke paralyzing her whole right side of her body
 
Kathleen - Financial Situation which includes several related personal needs
 
Andrea - Mom's & Dad's health
 
Scott & Judy - Scott needs encouragement in dealing with Judy's dementia.  He needs help also.
 
Laurie - Wisdom for caring for Gary and my parents
 
Kim - Loneliness and adjusting to new home and caregivers....salvation of family and caregivers

Becky - Continued adjustment and heart stress test in June.  Adjustment to having Dad living with us.
 
"prayer changes two things:
attitude and perspective"

Some of our lives have become so difficult.   We are exhausted before our feet ever touch the floor many mornings. Each day is like the one before and today, and tomorrow, will be no different. Some of us are so tired.

Taking care of our loved ones is wearing us out. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, and doctor appointments: my life is a merry-go-round that is spinning faster and faster and I can’t get off. Then there’s the laundry. The mounds of wash pile up faster than the machines and I can get them done.

 

Oh Lord, please help us!
 

"Renew and refresh our bodies, our minds and our spirits each night so that when we awake our thoughts are of you rather than lists of tasks that remain undone from yesterday. Help us to focus on the present instead of looking at the road ahead. Whisper your love to us in the gentle touches of our families as we pat a head or hug shoulders, rub tired feet or scratch an itching back."

"Give us eyes to see the splashes of color – perhaps a vibrant red rose or the shining yellow of a sunflower – you have planted along our path as we run errands. As a caregiver, let us be  a conduit allowing your love to pour through to those who need our assistance to make it through each day."

"Lord, I'm just having some trouble managing this STRESSFUL time in my life. The STRESS is just getting to be too much for me, and I need your strength to get me through. I know you are a pillar for me to lean on in tough times, and I pray that you will continue to provide me with ways to make my life a little less burdensome.

"Lord, I pray that you provide me your hand and walk me through the dark times. I ask that you reduce the burdens in my life or show me the path to get things done or rid myself of the things weighing me down. Thank you, Lord, for all you do in my life and how you will provide for me, even in these STRESSFUL times."


A Prayer for others...

O Lord our God, creator of all things:
I pray that you will be with (name). They feel they are under a tremendous amount of STRESS at this time. 

Help them to distinguish between good and bad STRESS: the STRESS that urges them to a higher plane; and the STRESS that pushes us over the edge.
God, you must know what STRESS and pressure is all about.

Free (name) from the STRESS and PRESSURE so they can be free to do your will for them in their lives.  In the name of Your son and our Savior.
 

 

Joy in the Journey

A word from our Pastor...

"Christians who worry believe God can redeem them, break the shackles of Satan, take them from hell to heaven, put them into His kingdom, transform their nature, and give them eternal life, but just don’t think He can get them through the next couple of days. That is pretty ridiculous. We can believe God for the greater gift and then stumble and not believe Him for the lesser one."  John MacArthur
 

"Just Breathe"

 
 excerpted from April 8, 2014 post by Laurie Price

“Take a deep breath, Mom.”  That’s what my son-in-law, Ryan said to me the other day.  It was exactly what I needed to hear at the time.  The afternoon had been chaotic.  On my way back from my chiropractor, where I’ve been getting a series of treatments for a very painful neck, I got a call from my sweet mother, who was being taken to the hospital from her own doctor’s appointment, by ambulance.  Her doctor was rightly concerned about her escalating symptoms, and she needed a higher level of care, and better diagnosis of what was going on with her heart.

When I received the call, I knew several things needed to be done.  My dad, would need someone to stay with him for the rest of the day and overnight.  Gary can’t stay alone either.  It’s a blur to me now, but I DO remember spending time with my dad, comforting and praying with him, being on the phone for a couple of hours trying to line up care for my dad, and Gary, and locating mom’s purse which did not make it to the hospital from the doctor’s office.  Just like the recent earthquake, the accompanying adrenaline rush

Stressful things happen to everyone.  We try to manage the situation but it is hard to stay calm in the midst…  Ryan was here, helping out with my dad, and Gary that night, when he wisely reminded me to be calm and relax.  In recent weeks, my blood pressure has been acting up and I’ve been dealing with chronic headaches.  I’ve written about this before, but caregivers must be careful to do what they can to stay healthy.  The most common reasons I’ve heard for high blood pressure is STRESS and age.  Sadly, there’s nothing I can do about my age, and not much I can do about the STRESSES of life either.  It’s a fact of life that we are going to be assaulted from time to time with “troubles.”

I used to think Doctors were coping out when they blamed symptoms on "STRESS."  Not anymore.  When discussing my high blood pressure, my doctor brought up the burden of caring for Gary, and I said, "But I've been doing this for 8 years and never had any physical problems."  She answered, "Yes, but you're 8 years older now." 



(Let me quickly interject that Mom is out of the hospital, and happily back home after a few days of testing and resting.  She is so precious to me.  I am grateful that God is keeping her great big loving heart going)
 

I don’t know for sure if my health issues ARE due to stress, but they certainly draw attention to my “full plate.”  Doctors are telling me to manage stress, friends are really concerned and people I barely know are asking me if I’m feeling ok.  (I must look tired or something.)  So, I’ve been looking at how full my plate has been lately.  What's on the plate? The daily tasks of life and the STRESSES that come and go.  All while not feeling well.  I am not trying to be a superhero.  I’m just doing the “next thing” that needs to be done.  Whether brushing Gary’s teeth, going for a MRI, shipping a greeting card order, or picking up a prescription for a loved one, we do what we need to.  It’s our joy and privilege to help those we love, and keep things running smoothly.  You know what this is like.

So we make changes if we can, and if we can’t we live with acceptance and flexibility   For those of us who are Christians, we trust that God is with us in the midst and has a perfect plan with our lives which we don’t always understand.  I want to live close to His side, abiding with him and drawing on His strength.    

The apostle Paul had way more troubles than I do but this is encouraging.

“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the surpassing greatness of the power will be of God and not from ourselves; WE ARE AFFLICTED IN EVERY WAY, BUT NOT CRUSHED; perplexed, but not despairing; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying about in the body the dying of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body. For we who live are constantly being delivered over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh.” 2 Corinthians 4:7-11
 

Practical stuff I'm doing:

SAY NO - Accept that I can’t do everything I want to especially when I don’t feel good. 

SAY YES -  to a change of pace.  Diversions are refreshing.

SLEEP -  I’ve been trying to go to bed earlier.  “I lay down and slept; I awoke, for the LORD sustains me.” Psalm 3:5

EAT HEALTHY -  Juicing anti-inflammatory vegies.  (Recently learned that stress causes inflammation.) I’ve been enjoying a spinach, carrot, apple, ginger combo. 

RELAX AND BREATHE - Trying something new…diffusing essential oils.  Hoping they will help with the pain in my sinuses.  Our room smells SO good now.  (Eucalyptus, Peppermint and Lavender)

EXERCISE - Even a 20 minute walk is invigorating.

GO TO THE DOCTOR -  Getting some medical issues of my own looked at.

GET ALONE WITH GOD -  I’m talking to Him more than usual, (especially in the night) and enjoying my time alone with His word in the mornings.  Here's why...

“We were made for Him, we are meant for Him, we have a correspondence with Him, and we will never come to rest until, like that needle on the compass, we strike that northern point, and there we come to rest - nowhere else.” D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones
 



 
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