A Father Writes a Letter to Himself Without Knowing It
By: Jeff Groh
This post originally appeared in the Cincinnati Montessori Society – Online Newsletter, Issue 23, Winter 2016. Reprinted here with permission from the author.
In 2013, I became a father. I had been a Montessori teacher for 13 years and started imagining the type of education I wanted for my newborn son. As an exercise, I wrote a letter to the fictitious principal that would one day be in charge of my son’s elementary school years. I rediscovered the letter recently while rearranging my office at home. It was perfect timing, because my son will start at The New School Montessori in the fall of 2016, and it just so happens that I was recently selected as the principal.
I am sending my son to your school because I believe it will be the best place for him to grow up loving to learn. A love that I hope develops strongly enough to stay with him for a lifetime.
I hope he is taught in an environment where lessons are presented in ways such that discoveries are made through experimentation and dialogue, rather than passed down as information to memorize. I hope his learning isn’t measured on a scale that intimidates or implies that the purpose of school is to see how smart he is instead of as an opportunity to deepen his love and commitment to understanding himself and the world around him.
So, on his 6th grade American History test, if he forgets the date of Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address, I hope your teachers will understand him well enough to not allow his low score to overshadow how he loved the way the speech sounded when he first heard it or how it prompted him to read a book on Lincoln’s life, even though he wouldn’t be tested on it.
I would hate to think that he memorized every “right” answer provided to him rather than search for both questions and answers on his own. I would like him to be impacted by books he loves, and the ideas that might inspire him to pursue a career in public policy, law, or social work. I want my son to realize that the joys of “being smart” in the world pale in comparison to the joys of feeling connected to the world.
Without nurturing the joy and love that comes from acquiring new knowledge, whether its on “the test” or not, turns schools into imitations of what we actually want for our children. They imitate growth and accomplishment while quietly extinguishing the motivation for real growth and accomplishment -joy!