Greetings and Warm Autumn Wishes,
Well everyone, it's that time of year again; The Great American Smoke-out is tomorrow, and 2016 is right around the corner. What a wonderful time to kick the habit for good, before the stress of the holidays gives you another excuse to keep smoking. And while you're at it why not pre-pave an awesome new year before it even gets here? Are you or someone you love ready to supercharge your life? If so, here is my take on quitting smoking the easy way, and learning to use the incredible power of the Law of Attraction to make next year your best ever.
Quit Smoking the “Easy” Way
I’ve been getting a lot of inquiries regarding the use of hypnosis for creating behavioral and habitual change, and a LOT of those have been in regard to smoking cessation, perhaps because the news about smoking and what it does to us just keeps getting worse. Check out this link:
“Close to half of Americans will be diagnosed with cancer in their lifetimes… …Tobacco use accounts for a major chunk of those cases— it contributes to 10 types of cancer, along with cardiovascular disease, lung disease, low bone density, and other problems… Smoking is the No. 1 cause of preventable deaths in this country.”
Ouch! I don’t know about you, but if I hadn’t quit 15 years ago, reading that would certainly get my attention.
Why it’s so hard to quit
We all know that it can be very hard to quit, but why? Most people would point to nicotine as the culprit. In my opinion, though, and it’s one I base on both my own experience with quitting and having helped many hundreds of clients do so too, it’s not the nicotine, but instead the emotional and behavioral
addiction that really makes it so hard to quit. When we stop smoking, the nicotine is completely out of our system within 72-96 hours, yet many, many people continue to crave cigarettes weeks, months, sometimes even years later! Why?
Well, what so often begins as a recreational activity that seems grown-up, sexy, or maybe sophisticated and chicly rebellious soon turns into an enslaving habit that literally and insidiously weaves its way into the very fabric of our day to day life and behavior. I don’t know a single person who has smoked for any length of time that is glad they started, but after a while we come to believe we need
cigarettes to simply exist and get through the day; and this all arises in our subconscious mind.
Almost all of our beliefs, behaviors, habits and emotional patterns are learned and literally programmed into the subconscious, which functions much like a computer; it will dutifully and automatically run it’s programs—good or bad doesn’t matter—until or unless we change the program. Conscious desire is rarely enough because the subconscious is so much more massive than the conscious (90% to 10% or so) and therefore more powerful. That’s why willpower—a conscious facility— is so ineffective for most people. Thus, we need a way to gain access to the subconscious “hard drive,” and hypnosis, when applied by a skilled practitioner, is one of the most powerful and versatile tools there is to accomplish that.
Does it really work?
In a word, yes! I cannot speak for all practitioners, but I still personally work with between 50 and 150 smokers every year, and to the best of my knowledge the success rate for those folks over the last 10 years or so is about 95%. (I actually guarantee my program.) There are also scores of people who purchase the “do it yourself, (DIY)” downloadable/CD version of the program, and I have yet to receive a single request for a refund. So, yes, hypnosis really works. It’s not magic, it does take commitment and some effort, but it can and does work, quickly and profoundly, and very often with little or no pain and with little or no withdrawal.
Is it worth it?
Here, I can only speak for myself, but as I love to tell my prospective clients, next to marrying my wife, quitting smoking is the best decision I ever made for myself. (Starting was the stupidest.) For those of you who are still hooked, I hope you decide to take action. It’s a decision you will never regret. You can use my program in either of two ways: Call to work in person or order my online, DYI version right here:
Are you thinking about next year yet? Would you like to make some changes and actually have them stick? Then you need to learn to harness the power of energy flow through the Law of Attraction. I have included a case study below so you can see what it's all about; it's the essence of my Synthesis process.
Personal Growth & the Law of Attraction
Seeing to Believe or Believing to See? A Quick Case History
Those of you familiar with my work and my Synthesis process know that I base a lot of my models and techniques for creating personal growth and transformation around the integration of spirituality and science. Within the realm of ancient spiritual wisdom, there is a generally accepted principle that we create our own reality through the energies (thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs and behaviors) that we first project and then subsequently attract back through what is called, the law of attraction, which states, That which is like unto itself, is attracted.
Another way to think of it is that all energy flows along lines of attraction. This includes the energy of our thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviors. So, in essence, what we put out energetically will determine what we attract back energetically, thus framing our reality, both in a given moment and in the more general flow of our lives.
This principle in effect tells us to “believe in order to see.” Put it out there and it will come, so to speak, sort of like Field of Dreams
, a film I still love and highly recommend because it’s just so much fun.
The notion of believing to see, of course, flies directly in the face of contemporary Western science and philosophy, which teaches us to “see in order to believe.” i.e., wait for a result before we believe in its reality. Hmm, ladies and gentlemen we seem to have a conundrum here, yet interestingly, there is an enormous and growing body of solid, empirical scientific evidence that actually supports the more spiritually based, “believing in order to see” model of creating reality.
In my book, The Synthesis Effect, Your Direct Path to Personal Power & Transformation,
I devote a fair amount of space to presenting and discussing that science in order to provide the empirical “seeing to believe” evidence that most Westerners require so they can then begin to engage in exactly the opposite kind of thinking (and actually get results) and do it with both commitment and confidence. Oh well, I think a little irony—I call it chicken and egg-ness— is a good thing, although it was
a bit tricky to write.
Anyway, a big part of the Synthesis process for creating change and personal growth of any kind revolves around two key models called the Formula for Change and the Quantum Reality Equation, both designed to help Western thinkers in manipulating their energies purposefully—to help them believe in order to see from a very logical and practical standpoint—and thus create whatever change (new reality) in their life they wish to create.
And yet, even with the science and these very cool, logical left-brained models in front of them, most of my clients and readers—died-in-the-wool Western thinkers, entrained to only believe in something after
they see it—will still resist. How do we get around that one? Well, for my money there is nothing like presenting more proof—a good, old-fashioned first-hand success story to help seal the deal, and I’d like to share one with you. I hope you enjoy it.
A little while back a client with whom I had worked several years ago called to request some new sessions. I dearly love all my clients and it’s always great to hear from the folks I’ve worked with, but when I do and they ask to come in to see me it almost always means that something in their life either has gone or is going sideways. Heck, no one ever wants to come in because they’re feeling too good and have a need or desire to cheer down!
Anyway, at our first session this individual, (a very bright, attractive, intelligent and talented lady by the way) sat down and immediately reported that she felt like a complete failure, having struggled in a career largely marked by a series of jobs that she both hated and did poorly at. She felt that she was on the brink of being let go from yet another of these positions, and was feeling completely exasperated.
She said, “John, I am so NOT living your rule # 1. (Life is supposed to be fun) I am so NOT having fun!”
“Okay, I said, let’s change that.”
“I’m not sure it’s possible,” she lamented.
“Of course it’s possible,” I replied. “Anything is possible.”
We clearly had some work to do
It only took about 15 minutes of that first session to identify the foundation of her problem, which was essentially that every one of the jobs she had “failed” at had been a position that was in one way or another in direct antithesis to her core values, aptitudes and desires. In other words, she had been working at wrong
jobs for wrong
reasons and for a long
time. “Why, would anyone do that?” you might ask.
In essence, influential people throughout our lives, often repeatedly tell us, even demand that we accept that what we really love to do, are good at, and want to pursue holds no real value or isn’t important or practical or whatever; it doesn’t suit them
. If we hear it often enough and from the right people— parents, teachers, spouses, etc., we unwittingly begin to believe it, and then try to force ourselves into roles that simply do not match our real selves. And it NEVER works, at least not without creating a lot of pain, and often a very unhappy life. This is exactly what happened to my client and many others I’ve worked with.
She had, in effect, “learned” to live her life under the aegis of the expectations and values of others rather than her own, and thus had inadvertently created a reality of low self-esteem, zero self-confidence, limiting beliefs of unworthiness and hopelessness, a sense of being doomed to unhappiness and chronic failure, and a crushed spirit.
Once we uncovered what was really going on we began a simple three-fold process: 1) destroying her limiting beliefs and helping her re-discover the complete and total self-love and self-esteem we are all born with— and we are, all of us
, born with those incredibly self empowering attributes; 2) helping her first understand and accept that her
core values, natural talents and desires are indeed worthy and worthwhile regardless of what anyone else thinks and then, 3) helping her realign her professional pursuits to fit those values, talents and desires.
One of the key requirements for success with Synthesis is total commitment to the process, which means total commitment to oneself. To her credit, this client committed fully. Ironically, between our first and second session she wrote that she had been fired from the crummy job. I simply replied,” “Congratulations, the universe has sent you a message and a gift. It’s time for you to do what you
By the end of our second session she reported feeling a genuine energetic shift: she was beginning to feel comfortable with herself,
whom she really
is, and also ready to focus fully on pursuing a professional endeavor that matches what she wants to be and do rather than what she was always told she should be and do.
There was still a degree of uncertainty and doubt, but when she left the office I felt comfortable that she was
beginning to project an authentic energy of self-worth, enthusiasm, intention and expectation; I felt that she was definitely on the right path and I expected that she would report some positive results before too long.
So just imagine my delight when just a few hours later
I got a message from her saying, “John I think what we’re doing is working, I just got a call from a company asking me to bid on a project.” (This was a project in her new chosen
field of pursuit— one that very nicely matches her core values, talents and desires.) All I could say was, “You go girl!” Yippee!
Was it just a wonderful coincidence? In a word, no, I’ve seen this sort of thing happen time and time again over the last 13 years. Are we done? No, there is more to do. As powerful as Synthesis is, it’s not magic, but I also know
that she is on her way and will very likely thrive; and therein lays the moral of the story, the proof in the pudding.
When we live authentically, when we project the energy of our
true selves and trust our
core values and our
desires—believing in order to see—and stop trying to live according to someone else’s vision of what our reality should be, we will thrive; it’s impossible not to. After all, that which is like unto itself is attracted. It may take a little assistance to get there, but it is so, so worth it. Remember rule # 1— Life is supposed to be fun! I do so hope yours is, and if it is not, that you choose, like this dear person, to make it so. Anything is possible, anything.
Well, that's all for now. As always, I welcome your comments and deeply appreciate your interest in empowered living. I also hope you will share this information with any loved ones, friends or family members who are ready to take the leap and live rule #1: Life is Supposed to be Fun!
You and they deserve to have it so.
Peace & Blessings,