Leave Your Door
Wide Open

Nancy LaRonda, I’m thankful for all I've learned, endured, and achieved in 2012, but I’m glad it’s over and a new year has begun.

I’m ready for some fresh new experiences and glorious opportunities. Aren’t you?

So here’s the thing, we can’t stay stuck behind closed doors if that’s the case. Opportunity won't have to knock if our door is already open. Let's keep our door wide open for infinite possibility.

Wanting and Not Getting
We want stuff, but can’t always seem to get what we want when we want it. We want more joy, better careers, better relationships, more money, perfect health, etc. Yet the truth of the matter is; where ever you are in life, and whatever your circumstances are at this time, it's exactly as it should be.

You are where you are, getting or not getting what you want, in the exact manner in which you’re receiving it for a reason—to teach you, strengthen you, grow you, and propel you to new heights.

Once you accept this simple truth you’ll start to see your circumstances as your teacher, not your enemy. Your circumstances are filled with the appropriate amount of lessons you’ll need to learn in this moment, in order to elevate you to your next moment.

Sometimes when I’m in the midst of the lesson (circumstances), it’s hard for me NOT to view it as the enemy. I have to continually remind myself everything in life—good and bad—is preparing me for something else. It's softening me and strengthening me at the same time.

Our circumstances build us—especially in times when we want and don't get.

Recognizing Your True Self from Your Everyday Self
  1. The true self is certain and clear about things.  The everyday self gets influenced by countless outside influences, leading to confusion.
  2. The true self is stable.  The everyday self shifts constantly.
  3. The true self is driven by a deep sense of truth and authenticity.  The everyday self is driven by the ego, and the unending demands of "I, me, mine."
  4. The true self is at peace.  The everyday self is easily agitated and disturbed.
  5. The true self is love.  The everyday self—which lacks love—seeks it from outside sources.
Most people don't realize how much wisdom and power we have residing in us. We spend most of our time operating from our everyday self, totally oblivious to our power within.

If we remove the focus from our everyday self, the true self comes forth to control the reigns for a more fulfilling and sustainable life.

[Excerpt from online article “How to Tell the Difference Between Your True Self and Your Everyday Self” by Deepak Chopra, published April 13, 2012; Oprah.com]

Grow Wings to Fly
If you don't take a step forward you'll always be in the same spot.

Growth requires you to move out of your comfort zone. Growth requires you to grow wings and fly


One Thing About Demetria
I get stuck in darkness—for days, sometimes weekswhere I don’t want to be bothered, seen, or talked to by anyone. Where I fold into myself and snap at anyone who attempts to unfold me.

In this space I’m forming negative opinions of myself, my circumstances, and other people. This dark space is usually triggered by mental exhaustion, or some form of disappointment that’s caught me off guard. It’s not a good place, but it's my place.

And even though this darkness is occurring as it should (everything occurs as it should), I don't realize that at the time. Not until it's run its course.

Then I come up for air. I breathe and re-engage the positive. And always what I learn from these bouts of darkness is this:

sometimes you have to get turned off (and experience your dark space), in order to get turned on again by life.

Thank You!
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