#realtalk about sex in your 50s. Plus, meet up with me and other Death, Sex & Money listeners this weekend in Portland!
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I have some nice updates about previous guests on Death, Sex & Money that I want to share. 

Comedian Chris Gethard has a new show. The first episode live-streamed last night (it airs Thursday on Fusion TV), and his guests were the geniuses behind Broad City, Ilana Glazer and Abbi Jacobson. I talked to Chris and his now-wife, Hallie, last summer about their long, twisted TV trip, including making a pilot, shopping it to a dozen networks, and having all of them pass. We're so glad the show has found a home.

Domonique Foxworth, one of my all-time favorite guestsgave the commencement address at his alma mater, the University of Maryland, earlier this month. Right now he's finishing up at Harvard Business School while working as the chief operating officer of the NBA Players Association. He took the stage in full academic dress, but that didn't last. "It's the first time seeing myself in this ridiculous hat," he said when he noticed his face on a Jumbotron, and took it off immediately.

He talked about the protesters and police officers in Baltimore, transitioning from his NFL career to a year as a stay-at-home dad, and how an elementary school self-portrait foretold his eclectic, ambitious career path. "My portrait said I would be in the NFL and a part-time pediatrician," he said. His parents still have it. 

Finally, have you watched Jane Fonda in Grace and Frankie on Netflix? She's superb. 

Anna and the Death, Sex & Money team

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It's been a whirlwind of travel around here lately. Last weekend, I was back in my hometown of Charleston, West Virginia. While there, I sat down to talk with the hosts of West Virginia Public Radio's The Front Porch—and my mom revealed my childhood fear of the pizza man to the local paper. Plus, I got to see my dad's new "squirrel-proof" birdfeeder in action. (Results above.) 

This weekend I'm flying out to Portland, Oregon, to be a guest on the May 30 taping of Live Wire, Luke Burbank's radio variety show. Earlier that day, I'm planning a Portland meetup with some of our listeners—want to join us? Email me at

From Our Inbox: Sex in Your 50s

When Robert Earl Keen talked about feeling his sex drive fade in his 50s on our latest episode, that really hit home for some of you. Have you felt your sex drive change as you've aged? Is it causing tension in your relationships? Email us your story. 
"[Robert Earl Keen] and I are contemporaries and when he spoke about how his sex drive is a part of him that seems to have gone away and how devastating it is, it hit me so hard and rang so true that I felt tears welling up. Because you do feel like less of yourself. Like you've lost something. 'A half tone instead of a full tone,' just like Robert said. That's not supposed to happen and we're not supposed to feel that way and if you do you're not supposed to talk about it. And I think a lot of guys at this point in their lives are feeling that and kind of suffering in silence."

-Marc, 56, New Rochelle, NY
"I am a 58-year-old woman who has no desire to have sex. I have been married for the last ten years to an incredible man, who has put up with my lack of a sex drive for the last seven years or so. Long story short, I’ve never equated love and sex. I don’t grasp the concept. I have seen many medical doctors and put in hours of therapy for this and other problems and am at a good place now in life, except for the sex thing. I do what I can to make my husband happy but I could be so content to never have to do it again. I just don’t see what all the fuss is about anymore. My question to you is, am I alone in this?"

-Karen, 58, Nashville, TN

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"I dropped out of [college] and hitchhiked across the country with him before we were married....It was totally against character. And the fact is that I think my boyfriend wanted to do it probably more than I did, because I'm really not the adventurous type. I think I'm intellectually adventurous....I'm not a physically adventurous person. I'm not a risk-taker when it comes to the outside world." - Fresh Air's Terry Gross, during her unusually personal interview with comedian and WTF host Marc Maron. It is incredibly revealing about the forces that pushed Gross out of Brooklyn, away from the life she saw for the wives and mothers around her and toward an unparalleled career in broadcasting.  
"I could feel myself reaching my own threshold of complaining, and I wanted to change it." In this fourth episode of the great new podcast Millennial, host and creator Megan Tan tells the story behind her first episode. She captures the anxiety, questioning, and paralysis that comes with the creative process. Specifically, the process of creating a new podcast. Girl, we get you. Also, extra points to boyfriend Ben who, when asked, refused to be the enforcer of deadlines for Megan. It was recorded during an awkward, rainy car ride, and it's a beautiful moment of one partner telling the other to take care of their business. 

Next on Death, Sex & Money

Three weeks later, we're still coming down from the high of our first-ever live show. If you missed it—don't worry! We're putting it out next week in our podcast feed. Hear what happened when I talked with comedian W. Kamau Bell and his wife, Melissa Hudson Bell, about how they talk with their daughter about race; author Simon Doonan and designer Jonathan Adler about sex and intimacy during and after the AIDS crisis; and Pulitzer Prize-winning poet Tracy K. Smith about her secret relationship with one of her high school teachers. 
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