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Shew. I just had one of those conversations I didn’t know how much I needed. 

I just hopped off a Zoom conversation with Sister Josephine Garrett, a nun based in a convent in Tyler, Texas, who was a guest on our show back in 2018. We reached out to hear how her community is doing after a week of compounding crises from weather, power failures, and water shortages. She told me that her boil water advisory was just lifted Tuesday morning in the home she shares with five other nuns. That was after days of trying to conserve water because supplies were getting dangerously low, after their community was told to drip water from their faucets to keep the pipes from freezing. When I asked her if it felt like things were finally getting back to normal, she said no, that there was still a lot of physical damage now that need to be fixed, including on the playground at the elementary school where she’s a counselor. Outdoor space has been even more important recently as the kids attend during COVID. 

We talked about what Sister Jo has been reflecting on over this last year, as she’s tried to serve while sometimes feeling helpless. And how this time of challenge and isolation, for her, has turned up the volume on both her “defects” and the gifts she has to share. She talks about how she’s coped. Like, for instance, when she noticed herself recently getting frustrated in a conversation with someone. “I had an image of myself just, like, body-slamming her,” she laughed. “I was like, 'Ohhh...time to go to confession!'”

You can watch our whole catch-up over Zoom right here.

—Anna and the Death, Sex & Money team

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Tony didn’t know what to say when the woman he'd slept with told him she was pregnant. He was in his 20s, they weren't a couple, and he didn't want to say the wrong thing. "I told her that it was her choice and if she chose to keep it, then I would be a good dad," he remembers. "I was freaking out." And once the baby was born, Tony was an active father. But as his daughter got older, she started looking less like him or her mother. Tony decided to get a paternity test. "I couldn't play it dumb forever," Tony says—but he also feared the results. "That's not something that you want to know, especially when you love something so much." Hear my conversation with Tony about fatherhood, and leaving it behind. Hear his story in your feeds now.
Your Stories: An Update from Tony
We reached out to Tony, whose story we're sharing again in today's episode. He shared this update with us: 
"I'm doing great these days. Busier than ever with work and about to embark on a new business venture. Also in a new relationship as of the last year or so where for the first time, I'm really hopeful in being a father again some day. 

I can't believe it's been so long since we first did this episode. Although I feel I can say this chapter is definitely over, it still bubbles to the surface and probably always will for the rest of my life in subtle moments. Last year I drove by Victor's work which is off a busy street here in Boise, and out of habit looked for his pickup and wondered how everyone was getting along.  When I did, I noticed the little girl walking out of the front door. It was the first time I had seen her in probably six years. A surreal feeling... parallel worlds.

She was tall and smiling. I thought about how I don't even know what her voice sounds like. I thought about how big that moment was in seeing her for the first time and how I would just keep driving to the next mundane appointment of my day. I wondered if she'll ever know our little story and how it will be told to her if so.

Thanks for checking in."

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