Do you know who Lady Gaga is?
Yeah, she’s from the video we watched. About voting.
And ‘This Land Is Our Land."
Oh! The inauguration!
This was a Saturday late afternoon conversation with my 4-year-old, when we turned up the speakers and had a family dance party to get us from afternoon playground time to pizza time. My conversation with Jessica in last week’s episode reminded me about how good it feels to dance—even if it’s just rolling around to a beat—and how long it had been since I’d done it.
Before Lady Gaga, we’d danced to Janet Jackson, Janelle Monae, Aretha Franklin, Madonna, Deee-Lite. Songs that took me back to dancing in my different bedrooms at 10, 13, 17, 21, 29. Then, after pizza, we watched more dancing. "Good Morning" from Singing in the Rain. Alvin Ailey's Wade in the Water from a (virtual, distanced) September benefit.
We haven’t had regular family parties much in the last twelve months, save for the first few weeks of shelter in place, when “Jump Around” was in heavy rotation to help us burn through that first shock of pent-up energy and anxiety. And getting a taste made me ache to dance with people who aren’t related to me again. What I wouldn’t give for a thumping, dark club or packed wedding reception dance floor!
We’re not there yet. We still have to keep our distance, though we can fantasize about our coming return to proximity, as Saeed Jones does beautifully in this essay.
In the meantime, we can start being more intentional about building back our relationships with people we’ve been far from. You’ll hear in the episode today about one woman in Brooklyn, Donna Perry, and how this year has reinforced for her that she needs to just pick up the phone and reach out to people in her life. And we have plans for all of us to do that together on March 26, a day we have declared “Pick Up the Phone and Call Day.” You’ll hear more about it in this week’s episode, but to get in on it, text "call day" to 70101 and we’ll send you text reminders and tips leading up to our newly declared holiday.
—Anna and the Death, Sex & Money team