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Tonight, we are opening up the phone lines across the country to cap off our series about life after 60 right now. Jo Ann Allen, who you got to know here and hear at work here, will be co-hosting with me. I am very excited to see what happens! It’s also the first time we’ve opened the Death, Sex & Money phone lines since March 13 last year, when the shifting realities of Covid were just beginning to dawn on us.

Remember that? It’s pretty amazing to listen back to. We had some guesses of all the change that was coming for us, but no idea how the slow unfolding of it all would alter how our lives worked and what we cared most about. 

That’s a bit how aging works. All of us can see it coming, but as it’s happening, we still can’t believe it. My aunt Nell, an elder law attorney, sent me an email after she heard about our series. She said she’s come to sum up the three stages of aging this way: “1. Go go. 2. Go slow. 3. No go.” 

I love this, and again, it applies to both getting older and living through this pandemic. We keep doing things as we always have until we can’t and have to adjust. And then we take a little more care and give a little more notice to how we’re spending our time. Then, we let go of what’s no longer possible, not necessarily because we’re ready to, but because we have to. 

If you’re near a radio at 8-10p EST tonight, check to see if we’re airing on your public radio station. And if not, we’ll be streaming the whole thing live right here on our Facebook page.

—Anna and the Death, Sex & Money team

This Week on Death, Sex & Money
When Dr. Norma Elia Cantú was growing up in Laredo, Texas, on the U.S./Mexico border, she was the oldest of what would eventually be eleven siblings—so she stepped into the role of co-parent early. "When one of my younger siblings got in trouble at school, they called me," she says. "They [didn't] call the parents because my father was working, and my mother, who didn't speak English, was not able to go." Today, I talk with her about the other ways she supported her family and her own ambitions at the same time, like when she finished her degree in night school while working at the local utility company—and the ways she's thought about grief and loss as she's said goodbye to people she loves. 
Your Stories: Becoming A Widow At 75
We've been hearing from many of you over 60 over the last few months, and this week, we're sharing an email we got from a listener named Kris. Her husband Ken died last August, and after over 50 years of marriage, she isn't sure how to move forward with the rest of her life:
"My husband Ken and I were married 53 years and were two halves of a whole. We loved and supported each other, and after all that time I still found his ideas fresh and funny.  He was strong, smart, talented, and kind of a nerd. 

Very early in 2019 he was diagnosed with inoperable stomach cancer. The next 20 months we worked together to keep him comfortable, to get the good out of our time, and to prepare for the end. 

Ken’s final weeks took him to a place I could not go. By August 2020 he had very little left, but he was shining with light. 

Now I am alone. I have not been single since I graduated from college in 1967. Now I need to make meaning of my life, but Ken is not here to help. Now I don’t have to compromise about dinner or what TV show to watch. You’d think that would be a liberation, but not so much. 

There is a 65% chance I will live to age 90. How can I figure out what that is all for?"

—Kris, 75, Port Townsend, WA 

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A few weeks ago, Tanzina Vega, host of The Takeawaytweeted about hitting a “pandemic wall”—and found she wasn’t alone. The tweet went viral, with thousands of people replying about all the different ways they’ve felt at the end of their ropes in recent weeks. So on a recent episode of The Takeaway, Tanzina dug into why we’re all hitting our collective limit with the help of psychologists Dr. Jessica Stern and Dr. Suzan Song. They talk about why you’re not going crazy if everything feels really bad right now, why demoralization isn’t the same thing as clinical depression, and how cultivating a practice of hope can help get us to the other side of all this.

If you also spent last week confused by all the GameStop news, the Planet Money team has you covered. Using a clever squirrel analogy, hosts Stacey Vanek Smith and Paddy Hirsch explain how a “short squeeze” works on The Indicator. And in the latest Planet Money episode, reporter Alexi Horowitz-Ghazi talks with “imposter22,” one of the Reddit users who profited from the squeeze, and explores the world of wallstreetbets, the slice of Reddit where this all started.
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