September 2015

Welcome to the September issue of our Helping Parents Heal Newsletter!  

Hello!  We are glad you have found us.  This newsletter is a space that allows us to share our amazing children. We are all in this together.  We understand and we walk the same path. Thank you for your compassion and for the constant support you provide.  Together, we will help each other heal! 

Once again, this month's newsletter contains stories of validation and spiritual growth.  We hope that it will bring some peace and comfort to you and your loved ones.  We have many new affiliate groups that are now available throughout the country.  There is information about upcoming meetings in this newsletter.  Photos and bios of all of our affiliate leaders are available on our website,  

Sending love, light and warm memories to each one of you as you navigate this bittersweet time.  You are not alone.

-Elizabeth Boisson, Co-Founder and President of Helping Parents Heal, Newsletter Editor and Affiliate Leader for Phoenix/Scottsdale.

Special Three-Day Event at Unity of Phoenix!
After working in hospitals with many suffering and dying adults and children, Dr. Mark Pitstick was motivated to find sensible, evidence-based answers to the questions that many people ask:

  • Who am I? Why am I here? Is there a God?
  • What happens after I die?
  • Will I see my departed loved ones again?
  • Why is there so much suffering?

These experimental workshops address all of thee questions and will help you survive and thrive through life’s biggest changes and challenges, and discover how to enjoy the greatest life you have envisioned – no matter what your current circumstances!

To learn more and to purchase advance tickets, please go to the  Unity of Phoenix website.  Mark will also be speaking to Helping Parents Heal-Phoenix/Scottsdale at our monthly meeting on September 24th. Please click here to RSVP! 

Phoenix/Scottsdale August 27th Meeting with Jamie Clark- PLEASE JOIN US!

Psychic Medium Jamie ClarkJamie Clark and Mark Ireland after a recent Parents Meeting at Unity

Jamie Clark has always been a strong supporter of Helping Parents Heal.  Having him come to speak to our Parents on August 27th is a wonderful gift.  This is a great opportunity for any parent who would like to receive a validation from their son or daughter.  The cost of the meeting is a $5 'love donation' that is split equally between Jamie and Unity of Phoenix.  Although a validation is not guaranteed, Jamie works hard to bring through as many children as possible.  Hope to see all of you there-it will be a helpful, uplifting evening.  

I am so honored to be able to present to the Whole Family of Helping Parents Heal. Our loved ones are but a thought away from us and are always open to make a connection with you. One of my goals in doing what I do, is to bring closure to the old connection and a whole New beginning to the New one. Our loved ones want to connect with us, like we want to connect with them, and making your own connection is THE BIGGEST GIFT that you can give them and ourselves. As we learn to live with them in this new connection, you will begin to live life, rather than survive it. When we are surviving life, we tend to come from the bottom of the Heart and Soul, and when we are Living, we come from the FULLNESS of the Heart and Soul. So, let your Love shine and your Souls connect, because... it's truly all about LOVE!!!

-Peace, Jamie (Please RSVP for this meeting here and learn more about Jamie here)

Dr. Mark Pitstick and his book 'SoulProof'

Evolved Souls Don’t Need Long Earthly Lives
September 2015

by Mark Pitstick, MA, DC

Welcome to the Helping Parents Heal Q & A.  I recommend that you first read the articles that form a basis for my answers.  Links to those articles are at the bottom of the home page: Foundational Articles for Healing Your Suffering. 

Q: I'm new to this page and only fourteen months into my journey.  My twenty-one year-old daughter and her boyfriend were both taken in a horrible motorcycle accident. They had a son who was only fourteen months old at the time.  He is two years old now and my husband and I have custody of him.  Should we show him pictures and remind him of his parents? I don't know if he remembers them, but he points to pictures and says mommy and daddy.  I'm worried that we may not be doing things right. – Cheryl

A: I am sorry for the pain and sadness you have gone through, Cheryl.  No one would want to be this situation, but here you are.  Kudos for being sensitive about this and reaching out.  The bottom line?  There are no ‘right’ ways.  If you asked ten experts, you would get varying opinions.  So the best answer is what feels right for you and your husband.  

From an expanded viewpoint, your grandson still has a spiritual relationship with the souls of his mom and dad.  He is young enough to remember “the Other Side” that he just left and isn’t fully indoctrinated into thinking he is just a physical being.  He can probably detect their loving energetic presence even though he may not be able to verbalize that yet.

So my vote is to include his parents in his life.  Only their physical forms died; the other 99.999% of who and what they are is alive and well.  You can learn more about this fact in Foundational Article #7 on my website.  Talking about them, looking at photos, etc. will remind him and you that no one really dies.  This greater perspective will enrich everyone’s life and assist you all during other life changes.  

By the way, conscious language is so important in shaping how we feel and the degree to which we remember life’s big picture.  Your statement “both were taken” implies some outward force such as God decided they were to die.  Much evidence, however, indicates that death by “accidents” occurs a timely manner even though it appears like a horrible tragedy from a limited human perspective.  Try on “both passed on, both transitioned, both changed worlds” and see if that feels different.  

I’m honored to answer any questions that arise about this, but I’d say you have a good sense of what to do.  I hope you can see all this for what it is: an adventure that all of your souls agreed upon before coming to earth.  Blessings, Mark  

Q: I need some advice. My fourteen year-old son left us five years ago by suicide. Due to divorce and other changes, my home was foreclosed on and I need to move out in the next two months. This is the last place my son lived and there’s a memorial tree in the yard. How do I cope with saying goodbye in yet another way?  - Stacy

A: Oh my, Stacy, that’s a lot to go through.  I can only imagine how difficult the last five years have been and totally understand your question.  

Fortunately, there are always blessings to adversity and you have powerful resources within and around you.  Let’s consider how you can deal with this in style.  

First, it’s important to remember that only your son’s body left you.  The rest—all of the love, intelligence, spirit, and so on—is very near.  He is trying to let you know that he is sorry for leaving and all the ripples that followed: divorce, losing your house, etc.  He didn’t want to hurt anyone and hopes you all know that.  He is alive and well now in a realm without judgment or pain.  See Foundational Article #5 for more about this.  

Remembering the above will help you realize that your son’s essence is much bigger than a memorial tree.  He is everywhere now and not limited to the house and yard.  I understand that it’s one more change after many.  Anchors, like a backyard and memorial tree, remind us of our departed loved ones.  Those give us some comfort but now you must move on.  The blessing is that you now have an opportunity to realize how infinite and magnificent you, your son, and all people are.  

You may feel like you’ve been to hell and back and, in a sense, you have.  Life is giving you an opportunity to awaken to the great news that love and life are eternal.  If you can get through this, you will be such a bright light in the world.  That will bless you and others in many ways.  And that, my friend, is precisely why we, as souls, volunteer to go through such difficult scenarios.  

You could do something symbolic if you like.  Planting a new tree at your next home is one possibility.  Another is to take a case of apples to your local homeless shelter.  This gift of love honors your son and brings more meaning to your suffering. 

You must be a very brave soul to go through all this.  What love you must have to have contracted to demonstrate how strong and resilient spirit is.  You may also want to read Foundational Article #14 for additional information.  Be sure to surround yourself with loving and supportive family, friends, and others in Helping Parents Heal, a heart-centered church, and service organizations.  You don’t have to go through this by yourself.  Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, Mark. 
Q:  My daughter Alyssa was in the hospital for four months straight and I was with her every day.  I was on my way to see her when I received her very last phone message and the last time she ever spoke to me.  She said "Mom, I just wanted to tell you that you don't need to come to the hospital today because I am going home! I wanted to let you know how much you mean to me and how I am so thankful to have a mom like you who spent everyday with me while I was in the hospital. I love you and I will see you soon." 

The next day, she nearly died and was flown to another hospital.  I saw her intubated and flailing all over the stretcher. It was a horrible sight.  I stood next to her and tried to calm her. The doctors told me I had to wait outside while they put in an arterial line. I did not want to leave her and had a bad feeling. But they insisted, telling me it would only take a moment and then I could come right back. 

I bent down and told Alyssa I had to go out to the waiting room, but I would be right back.  The look in her eyes still haunts me. She looked at me with such terror, like she did not want me to leave. I told them I could not leave her and they made me. I walked to the waiting area and never saw Alyssa alive again. 

I spent a very long time playing that scene over and over again and can’t forget the way she looked at me.  To this day, I can't forgive myself for not being there when she needed me the most. I was with her EVERY SINGLE operation, blood draw, exam, echo, biopsy, chest X-ray . . . but I was NOT THERE when she died. She DIED WITHOUT ME!!!  - Pamela

A: Pamela, I’m sure that everyone who reads your letter can feel the horrible pain and sadness, especially given the other details that we couldn’t fit into the newsletter.  Most people would feel severe grief in your situation and no one would blame you if you remained stuck in self-blame. 

But there is another way, a different path that you can take.  How do I know?  Because I’ve seen other parents work through this and come through stronger and wiser for the experience.  Others have found the silver linings and shared them with others.  Here are a few recommendations to move in that direction.  

First, read Foundational Article #6 to get an overview of some important facts to remember.  You are understandably very distraught and will need to see the bigger picture to come through this one.  We recently had a HPH meeting and a mother named Sandra shared that her daughter died of leukemia.  Three months later, her son ended his earth-experience because he was so distraught over his sister’s death.  

And yet, this woman shined with peace and love.  Sandra climbed into bed shortly after her daughter’s death and heard her voice from the foot of the bed.  “Mom, can you see me?”  Sandra replied, “I can hear you, but I can’t see you.”  Her daughter answered, “Then you need to get bigger eyes.”  

That phrase “get bigger eyes” will be the title of my next book because it really says it all.  Whenever we encounter tough times, are we looking through a pinhole of earthly limitation and focusing on fear, guilt, anger, and sadness?  Or are we seeing more of the big picture and focusing on gratitude, peace, and acceptance?  

The death of a young person—whether by illness, accident, suicide, or homicide—seems to be a horrible tragedy from a limited earthly perspective.  But how else can an evolved soul who has finished her earth lessons graduate from earth-school?  

Your sadness and pain will decrease as you focus more on other more positive emotions. Here’s the LET (as in the Beatle’s song Let It Be) formula for doing that:
L = look forward to being with your child again someday after you pass on and sensing her presence now with after-death contacts
E = elation and joy that she moved on from this difficult planet and is experiencing a much more wonderful realm right now
T = thankfulness for all the great times you two had together. You will always have those wonderful memories in your heart and there are many more to create.

I can understand why you have replayed that scene many times.  But maybe now you can replay happier times and peacefully anticipate seeing her again.  

Next, realize how blessed you are to have received such a wonderful “see you later” message from your daughter.  It’s as though she knew that she would be passing on soon and left you a beautiful message.  She was right: she was going Home but not to her earthly house.  She was going back to Heaven, the Other Side, the really real place where we spend much of eternity.  She also was 100% correct that she will see you soon, just a blink of an eye for her until your reunion.  It will, of course, seem longer to you since time feels different while on Earth. 

Also, the consciousness usually disengages well before the moment of death.   While she may have seemed responsive from a medical standpoint, her soul was already moving into the next phase of forever.  She was probably watching all of that from above and not feeling the pain and terror that you think she did.  She was already glimpsing the Light and seeing the welcoming committee of departed loved ones—people and pets—who were there to assist her transition. 

Finally, you two were obviously very close and that bond doesn’t end with physical death.  That means she is still affected by your emotional level.  She can’t fully enjoy her next phase of life as long as you are beating yourself up over what you could have or should have done.  By the way, if you find a way to go back in time, let me know.  I have a long list of things that, in hindsight, I would do differently.  But we can’t do that and living in the past just hurts you and your loved ones.  

Healing and transforming after a child passes is a like a journey: it starts with the first step, then one after another.  Let us know how we can help.  God bless, Mark

Q: I should be registering my son Devin for kindergarten but I won't ever be able to. My nine-year old daughter Piper is a year behind in school because I held her back due to the timing of my son’s death.  My six-year old son Dylan is starting to take not having Devin around really hard. He wanted to meet him, but I refused since Devin passed away shortly after birth. I'm sad that our family isn't complete. I've been sad for five long, painful years. I feel like I should have moved on, gotten over it, or not taken it as hard. I was robbed of a part of me and of his future. I didn't get to know him at all.  I desperately wish he was here. – Christina

A: Helping Parents Heal has two main focuses, Christina.  The first is support and understanding during a very difficult time.  We understand in ways that most people don’t and offer networking, education, and support. 

At the same time, we offer encouragement to look at the glass as half full, not half empty.  This viewpoint in offered in a spirit of love and wanting you and your family to heal.  Our feedback is not critical at all and we understand if you can’t see things in a more positive way yet.  But if you feel like you are ready to do that, here are a few suggestions: 

1. Remember that the soul of your son did not die, there was a reason why he passed on, and you will see him again.  Read Foundational Article #3 to more deeply realize that great news.  

2.  Realize that your two children need you now.  They both are still grieving too and will recover best when you do.  You didn’t mention a spouse but, if you are in a relationship, that person needs you as well.  The divorce rate is quite high after a child dies.  Perhaps you can bring more meaning to Devin’s passing by, moment to moment, focusing on your loved ones who are still on Earth.  

3. You deserve to feel happy and good again.  As you say, you feel that you should be doing better.  You aren’t because it’s very tough when a child dies, but I also suspect post-pregnancy and post-stress imbalances that are preventing you from coping better.  See Foundational Article #6, especially the part about brain and hormonal organ stress, and address any imbalances.  

I know Devin’s transition has impacted you and your family in what seem like negative ways.  But life has a way of springing back if we let it.  Ultimately, it’s a choice.  Each time you find yourself grieving or bemoaning what was, grab a higher feeling thought such as “I have two healthy children” or “I will see Devin again” or “someday I will understand why life turned out this way.”  Try it for just 30 days and see the difference in how you feel and function.  Love and Light, Mark

Note: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care.  Dr. Pitstick’s recommendations are based on his forty-three years of professional training and experience in hospitals, mental health centers, and holistic private practice. 

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, clinical psychologist, chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and workshop leader who helps you know and show that—no matter what is going on around you—your earth-experience is a totally safe and magnificent adventure amidst forever.  You’ll receive access to interviews with top consciousness experts and a series of free articles addressing life’s toughest changes and challenges—including a child dying—when you sign up for his free newsletter at
www.soulproof.comEmail Mark at to ask him your toughest and most challenging questions

-Dr. Mark Pitstick is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and an Affiliate Leader of our Columbus, Ohio HPH Group and our Sarasota, Florida HPH Group.

Words to Inspire from Ernie and Kristine Jackson

Ernie and Kristine 

Time Doesn't Matter 

There is absolutely nothing better than hearing or reading a person sharing how their deceased loved one make contact from the other side, except experiencing it first-hand.  This is real, it is our reality.  The message shared below has the additional benefit of illustrating in a big way, time doesn’t matter when it comes to these visits and signs!  

I write to you for two reasons. First, I wanted to share my "visit". Although I was there to visit my mom, to my surprise, I was "visited" by my dad!! Every time I have been out, my mom asks if I want to go with her to the cemetery. Bless her heart, she has faithfully been going to the cemetery in Boulder City every single Sunday for the past 14 years. It has been difficult for me, as my emotions are too raw. I have only been "able to" go 3 times. The first time was about 4 years after his passing. I went, but I just couldn't get out of the car. I was too distraught with emotion. I wanted to be there, but I just couldn't look at his gravestone. The 2nd time was about 10 years after his passing. I was emotional, but was able to walk out and see his grave (through the wells of tears in my eyes). I felt like I should at least know where it is located, and that I needed to be strong enough to do this! It was hard! This year, just 3 days ago, I felt strong enough to go. My husband Bruce was with me...maybe I felt like I had him to "lean" on. I am always worried that I will upset my mom, as my heart misses him so much, I cry. And cry. Mom cleaned around the gravestone and placed a beautiful bunch of coral colored roses in the vase. Reading the inscription, Bruce said he never knew my dad's middle name was Rodney (reference to Rodney later). I sat down on the ground next to the grave and asked Bruce to take my picture there. I was looking down and my mom said, "Look! Look at that hummingbird!" There, right next to Bruce, a hummingbird hovered as if it were "standing" right there beside Bruce! It stayed for several seconds. I watched it in amazement. I asked her if she had ever seen a hummingbird out there before, and she said she never had! She has been to that grave hundreds of times - every single Sunday since 2001, and never once had seen a hummingbird. And then, the day before we left, I was waiting in the car right outside the garage. I was looking into the garage at this big poster we have hanging on the wall. It is a caricature of my dad drawn to look like the Jack of Spades, a playing card. My son Christopher and I love that picture. Suddenly another hummingbird appeared! It flew into the garage in the line of view from the car to the poster. It hovered there for a few seconds, then flew away. I felt a sense of peace, and I smiled thinking "Hi Daddy!" When my mom came out to the car, I asked her if she had ever seen a hummingbird in the front yard or around the garage/front of the house, and she said no! 

On our plane ride home, entering the airplane we were greeted by a flight attendant whose name was Rodney! Bruce and I had just been talking about the name Rodney. I felt my dad was with me again...on my flight home. Then, driving home we noticed it had just rained; the sky was dark, the roads were wet and there it was...a beautiful rainbow appeared in the sky. I thought, "Yes, dad, we made it back to NC safely." And I smiled. It continues...when we got home, I started going through the mail pile. Most of it junk mail. I opened a thank-you letter from St. Jude's (I usually donate money to St. Jude's...a charity near to our hearts, especially since Bruce's youngest son was diagnosed with leukemia in 2002. He is in remission now.) Enclosed in the envelope was a notepad given as a gift. There was a picture of a hummingbird on every page of that notepad. I just smiled. Again.
I used to feel like I needed to be in Las Vegas, in their house to be "close" to him. I love looking at all his things in the study...the awards he earned, the pictures, and things from when I was little (and he was with us). I feel happy there. But these experiences I have shared in this email to you have shown me that he is always with me, no matter where I am. If I can keep my heart and mind open, my eyes will see his reminders. ☺
My mom ordered 'Quinton's Legacy' at Barnes and Noble and had just gotten it right before I got there. She hadn't even read it yet. I was excited and anxious to start reading it. Like Quinton's Messages, I wasn't able to put it down. I read it in 2 days, as time allowed. Amazing. Just amazing. Ernie, I am in awe of you and Kristine and your strength. It is powerful and it is pure. Thank you so much for sharing your story so that others can learn and heal. As an aside, I had no idea you had mentioned my dad in your book! But there he was again - right there with me as I read your story.

Much Love

Cathy Huffman

What a gift this message is.  Time doesn’t matter, not even 14 years and the signs can take on any form.  And when it happens, you feel it in your soul, from the inside out, as your spirit is lifted; you just know, when you are ready.

Helping Parents Heal celebrates the visits from our children and in large part, prepares you to recognize their visits if you haven’t done so already.  

Many Blessings!

-Ernie Jackson

-Ernie Jackson is a Board Member of Helping Parents Heal and the proud father of Quinton.  His two books,"Quinton's Messages' and 'Quinton's Legacy', are available at

Affiliate Updates

Tracy Venters and her Dallas Affiliate

Tracy's Daughter, Jessica and her Granddaughter, Noelle 

Signs of Healing in Dallas

Some people see signs of their loved ones through feathers or coins found in their paths, lamps turned on, or they may experience a familiar, pleasant smell such as a favorite cologne. In my case, my beautiful daughter Jessica is more likely to send me a strange confliction of a song on top of a video that shouldn’t be there, causing me to spend frustrating minutes trying to debug the issue before realizing it’s her. She might send me a photo of herself with a weird background, or perhaps she’ll send me a foul odor.

Let me explain. Chuck Murphy, spiritual counselor and medium, has explained to me that people take their personalities with them to the other side; which means that Jessica is still the prankster she has always been. Several months ago I started noticing an overwhelming smell of incense at times and places where there was no logical explanation for it (such as driving down the street with the car windows rolled up). Eventually I realized this was Jessica letting me know she was near. The thing is, though, Jessica couldn’t stand going into an incense store at the mall or even one of those bath and body stores – I loved the strong scents but she didn’t. However once I got down the concept of a smell representing her presence she switched it to cigarette smoke (she smoked and I never liked that fact or the smell).

Recently I took my grandbaby (Jessica’s daughter) on a trip to Disneyland. I was really stressed having not traveled with a 3 year old in 23 years. When I went to pick her up the day before the trip, the apartment smelled terrible and I found out it was because the dog Jessica and my son-in-law had adopted from me had gotten out and attacked a skunk a few days before. So, over the next few days whenever I was particularly stressed about packing, boarding the plane with the little one or keeping up with her at Disney, Jessica overpowered me with the skunk smell to say “you got this mom, I am here”. Thanks, Jess! All with her signature laugh and the twinkle in her eye.

I am really excited to announce Chuck Murphy will be our speaker at our September 8 meeting for our Helping Parents Heal group in the Dallas area. Chuck is a gifted medium and spiritual counselor. He will be talking to us about the ways in which we can look for signs from our loved ones, which, as my story shows are not always in the ways you might expect!

This will be our third meeting of the group and its really starting to come together. In the August meeting we had so many loving connections, new friendships made, stories shared. Some tears were shed but there were also some laughs, and most of all hope that comes in knowing we are all in this together. The path forward is not an easy one. Angle dates in the group ranged from just three months ago to over 10 years ago.

In October we also have a great speaker combo scheduled. Shannon Maxey is also a gifted medium and Graham Maxey is an internationally recognized expert in Induced After Death Communications. He recently returned from training a group of therapists in Turin, Italy on IADC.

I am thrilled that although we are just getting started we have been able to line up some very gifted healers to donate their time to help us heal. They all agree on how much this group is needed here.

If you are in the Dallas area I hope you can join us. We have a local website for more information where you can also sign up for event reminders We hope to see you there!

Irene Vouvalides and her Hilton Head/Bluffton Affiliate 
Carly and Irene

I lost my best friend, my only child, my beautiful 24 year old daughter Carly Elizabeth Hughes to esophageal-gastric cancer on February 17th, 2013. Like so many of us who have experienced this devastating loss my daughter's passing sent me on a spiritual quest. I have found friends and comfort through this remarkable group Helping Parents Heal. In the short time since Carly's passing I have had definite proof that consciousness survives physical death, that Carly is well,and with me always. I have been fortunate to speak with mediums who were able to provide absolute evidence in the afterlife, indisputable information relayed bringing comfort and helping to lighten the heavy weight of grief.

With family and Carly's friends we have created a foundation in her honor- Carly's Kids A Foundation For Education, I hope you will take the time to read about us and what we are doing in Carly's
I am pleased to announce the first meeting of Helping Parents Heal Hilton Head on Thursday evening October 8th at 7 PM. The meeting will be held in the Sequins Ballroom, 1300 Fording Island Road (Route 278 ) in Bluffton South Carolina. For more information please email Irene at or click here to RSVP.
Every night before I fall asleep I pray that Carly will visit me, it is my last thought before I (hopefully) fall asleep. About a month ago I was in that dream like zone where I wasn't sure if I were asleep or awake. All of a sudden I heard a whooshing sound, it felt as if the room was starting to spin. It got louder and the spinning became a clock ward motion, as best I could I tried to sit up but found myself almost "glued" to my bed. OK Irene I thought just go with it, the room became brighter the motion faster and then out of the corner of the ceiling I saw a hand reach in, I knew those slender fingers so well. The corner of the ceiling opened and there she was, Carly, beautiful as ever with a determined look on her face. I can't describe the joy I felt, I started screaming and as fast as she appeared the corner closed and she was gone… I woke completely, I felt so happy, I knew she was there with me and is with me always… Thank you Carly, I anxiously await your next visit.

-Written by our Hilton Head /Bluffton affiliate leader, Irene Vouvalides

Tiffany Rose and the New Sedona, Arizona Affiliate
Tiffany Aurora Rose

We are happy to announce that we now have an affiliate in beautiful Sedona, Arizona!  Our affiliate leader is Tiffany Rose, a member of our parent group who is also a close friend of Psychic Medium Heather Hunter.  Please read Tiffany's bio below.  She will start holding meetings at Unity of Sedona in October-we will keep you updated for the date and time! Please also read Tiffany's validation story in the right-hand column.  

Tiffany Rose is a Massage Therapist, Energy Practitioner and Mother of three. Tiffany’s daughter Savannah passed away in 2002 when she was four months old. Her passing began a road of healing, growth and spirituality for Tiffany. On this path Tiffany found: God, herself, the afterlife, reincarnation and her life’s purpose.  She is now sharing her own experiences with the grief process and wants to be able to help other parents who are suffering the loss of a child. Tiffany is enrolled to become a Spiritual Grief Counselor. Tiffany currently lives and gives healing sessions in beautiful Sedona, Arizona.

Helpful, Healing Books-
Dr. Mark Pitstick and his new book, '
The Eleven Questions-Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Life, Death, and Afterlife'

This book is a wonderful compilation of many answers concerning life's most difficult questions. Here is information about this helpful, healing work:  

Have you ever stared at the ceiling - or the stars and wished for sensible answers to life’s biggest questions? After working with many suffering and dying adults and children, Mark searched for 40 years. His and the guests’ answers can help you enjoy your earth-experience with more peace, clarity, wisdom, and empowerment right now. 

The guests: 
Raymond Moody, PhD, MD; Caroline Myss, MA; Anita Moorjani, Bernie Siegel, MD; Stan Grof, MD, PhD; Gary Schwartz, PhD; Bill Guggenheim, P.M.H. Atwater, LHD; Marilyn Schlitz, PhD; Karen Wyatt, MD; Mark Anthony, JD 

The Questions 
1. Who am I? 
2. Why am I here? 
3. What happens after I die? 
4. Is there a God/Higher Power/Source? 
5. Why is there suffering? 
6. Will I see my departed loved ones again? 
7. Are there ghosts and evil spirits? 
8. What happens to the soul/life-force of people who commit suicide? 
9. How can I best hear my inner self’s voice and know my highest purposes? 
10. How can I evolve beyond earlier religious teachings that don’t make sense to me now? 
11. How can this information help me deal with my toughest challenges and make the world a better place? 

This work offers a succinct, easy-to-read  guide to living our lives with more meaning and less heartache.  The answers that the guests share can be quite different, but as Mark explains, "A more informed world-view can only result in enhanced growth, compassion and harmony."  

The Helping Parents Heal website lists many good books about grief that have been read and recommended by other bereaved parents.  Please click this link to view the different books.  Also, please email your own favorite healing books so that we can possibly add it to the list.  The address is:   

Sheri’s Corner-

Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast

Sheri’s Corner-Wisdom and Quotes from the East Coast


Sheri’s Corner---Wisdom and Quotes from The East Coast
“Death when unmasked shows us a friendly face and is a terror only at a distance.”
Oliver Goldsmith---Irish novelist, playwright and poet
From my personal experience of exploring death, I have come to believe that the above quote is quite correct. This is because the more that I learn, the more wonderful life in spirit sounds to me.  From those who have glimpsed the spirit realm due to near death experiences, as well as those who are in-spirit now and channel messages to us, we receive wonderful information. Universally, almost everyone speaks of unconditional love, beauty and acceptance beyond our wildest dreams.
I encourage each of you to read and learn about the realm of spirit, not only because it is where your children are now, but also because it is where you will one day be. I don’t know about you, but I’d like to know what it is they saw when they were quoted as saying: “It is very beautiful over there."  Thomas Edison, on his deathbed, describing a vision he was having; and “Oh wow! Oh wow! Oh wow!” Steve Jobs, on his deathbed, last words uttered.



-Written by our NYC Affiliate Leader, Sheri Perl Migdol

Sheri will be holding a meeting of Helping Parents Heal - NYC on August 2nd. Please RSVP

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Mission statement of Helping Parents Heal:

Our mission is to help parents who have lost children, giving them support and resources to aid in the healing process. We will go a step beyond other groups by allowing the open discussion of spiritual experiences and evidence for the Afterlife in a non-dogmatic way. In other words, we will welcome everyone regardless of their religious (or non-religious) background and allow for a very open type of dialog. We receive all and do not judge people or their children on the basis of life choices. 

-Mark Ireland, Cofounder, Helping Parents Heal


Sending peace, love and white light to you and your beautiful children

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Stories of Validation -

The Healing Power of Love
Savannah and Jewelea
Tiffany Rose and her Beautiful Daughters, Savannah and Jewelea

Hello, my name is Tiffany Rose. I am excited about being a co-leader for the new group starting this October in Sedona, Arizona. I unfortunately too, understand the pain of losing a child too soon. My daughter Savannah passed away in 2002 when she was four months old. Savannah accidentally suffocated on her bedding while I was at work. And then four months later, my husband passed away from an “accidental” overdose from prescribed pain medicine. In actuality, my husband was grief-stricken and felt responsible for our daughter’s passing since he was home with her at the time. I struggled with anxiety, grief, guilt, and anger for many years. I tried all the conventional methods to help ease my pain: books, support groups, counseling; but nothing seemed to help. Prior to the passing of my daughter and my husband, I wasn’t sure if there was a God, a purpose to life, or an afterlife. I was a science major in college; always needing proof before believing in something. But this all changed after their passing.

I was at my father-in-laws house a few weeks after my husband’s passing. It was late at night and I thought everyone else in the house was sleeping. But as usual, I couldn’t sleep. All night long I kept turning around thinking I was going to see someone behind me. It was as if I could feel a presence in the house. I was guided to get up from the living room and walk towards the front hallway. And to my surprise, coming from the other direction was my 14-year-old sister-in-law Theresa. I was telling her about feeling a presence all night long; when at that moment I looked out on to the patio. Outside the glass sliding door was a patio set. And I said to Theresa, “Do you see a……”  and Theresa finished my sentence. She said, “a cigarette”. We could see the end of a cigarette burning as if someone was smoking it. It was at the head level of where someone would be if they were sitting on the patio chair. We crawled on our hands on knees over the glass door and watched in disbelief at what we were seeing. I looked over at the other side of the pool and a grey, gaseous cloud turned into the shape of a dog running along the side of the pool. In the corner I could vaguely see a shape of someone sitting on a lawn chair. At this time, I couldn’t see my husband, but Theresa could see him clear as day as if he was sitting in the chair in front of us. At that moment, I say to Theresa again, “Do you see….”  And Theresa finished my sentence again. She said, “A baby!” This time I could see my daughter Savannah being held in my husband’s arms. She turned her head and looked right at me. I gasped! And for whatever reason, I couldn’t see anything anymore. But Theresa could still see them and she described the outfit that Savannah was wearing. I decided I had to go out to them. I opened the glass door and sat at the table next to them. Just then, our 2 year old son woke up. I had Theresa go get him from the guest room. Our son Richie was looking right at his dad & sister. He could see them! We had about 5 minutes out there before Theresa said it looks like Savannah is fading. At that same moment Theresa and my son pointed up as Savannah went back up to God.”

I remarried in 2006 and had 2 more children. My daughter Jewelea was born in 2008. I suspected early on that Jewelea was the reincarnation of my daughter Savannah. And Jewelea validated this when she was 3 years old. I would show Jewelea pictures of Savannah and my oldest son’s dad who passed away. She would say that the man in the photos were “her dad too”. One day I sat Jewelea and her brother Austin down. I was guided to ask them questions. I got them very quiet and had them “go within”. I asked Austin who was 5 if he remembered God or being here on Earth before. He said, no. This is common for children over 5 to have spiritual amnesia. I then asked Jewelea the same questions. She said, “Yes, I was a baby and I was sleeping. And then I turned into a butterfly and flew back to the city.” At that moment I knew she was talking about her past life. And I said, “And that made me very sad”. I said, “Then what happened?” And Jewelea said, “I came back”. I paused and hesitantly said, “As who?” And Jewelea said, “As me”. Well at this point I was balling my eyes out and I said to her, “And that made me so happy”. I finally had the confirmation that I had been feeling for so long…I had my daughter back!

For me, this was what gave me closure. I know that this is an amazing gift that not every grieving parent will have an opportunity to have. But this closure was necessary if I was to finish my life’s purpose; my life’s work. I hope to take my experiences and help other parents who are grieving and lost. I want other parents to know that they are not alone, that there is help out there, and taking their own life is not the answer. Through the darkest time of my life, I was able to find myself, God, the afterlife, reincarnation and my life’s purpose. Although I am already in service helping people by being a Massage Therapist and Energy Practitioner, I feel it is my life’s purpose to help grieving families. I am currently enrolled to become a Spiritual Grief Counselor. I live and offer sessions in beautiful Sedona, Arizona. Please let me know if I can help you in any way. I can be contacted at 928-963-1808.  Email:
-Tiffany Rose

Tiffany will be our Affiliate Leader in Sedona, Arizona.  Her first meeting will be at Unity of Sedona in October-please check our Facebook Page for exact date and time!

Awesome Austin
Austin Jordan Alegre

My name is Catherine Camacho.  I am so proud to say that I am Kim Camacho's mother and Allison and Austin Alegre's grandma!  On July 20, 2009 my beautiful, intelligent, loving, caring grandson Austin was chose to leave us at age 15.  For those of you who have experienced the same loss you know how much pain and emptiness this caused.
It has taken me a very long time to reach where I am today and some days are more difficult than others.  I stopped going to mass but I recently started making periodic visits to the chapel at church.  
Recently, I was at Kim's house and we were having coffee by her pool with the puppies.  It was so peaceful listening to the waterfall and dangling my feet in the pool.  For some unknown reason I randomly said to Kim that she should go to the Chapel and make a petition for Allison.   For those of you who are of the Catholic faith you will know what this is.  My daughter said she didn't know how to make a petition.  I told Kim that I would show her.  I didn't even finish my sentence and all of a sudden 3 hummingbirds flew down in the backyard.  One right over my head near the feeder and the other two hovering over the pool chirping away.  Now, ever since Austin passed away hummingbirds have been a sign for Kim and I that Austin is around us.  Kim and I have matching hummingbird tattoos in honor of Austin.  Everyone that knows us knows that hummingbirds are a huge sign from Austin.
As soon as Kim and I witnessed this validation.  Kim immediately said, " Okay Austin I will go to the Chapel today and make a petition for Allison!"  And off we went.  Kim has not been to church since Austin's passing.  This was a huge step for her and we both feel so strongly about our signs that we knew this needed to be done!  
Austin Jordan Alegre we love and miss you so very much!!!!
Gma (Gram)

-Catherine Camacho
A recent birthday photo of three gorgeous ladies - Allison, Catherine and Kim-notice the bright light between Alli and Catherine! Austin was celebrating as well.

Love Lives Forever - Elizabeth Boisson
Morgan and Elizabeth Boisson                                                                     
Love Lives Forever

Although this story has been published in a previous issue, I think that it is worthwhile to reprint it.  It explains how my own journey began.  I have also included a link to a story about Morgan that was written by a local journalist a few days after he passed. -Elizabeth 

On October 20th, 2009 my son Morgan died at the Base Camp of Mount Everest in Tibet.  It was the most devastating day of my life but at the same time it was the moment that I realized that love never dies.  I was able to speak to his roommate by cell phone and asked him to put the phone to Morgan’s ear.  He had stopped breathing and was undergoing CPR.  I told him that we loved him, not to be afraid, and that we were very proud of him.  At the exact instant that Morgan stopped breathing, I felt him with me, hugging me from the inside.  It was a warm, calming feeling that washed through me.  I realized that he was comforting me and that he wanted me to know that he would always be with me.  Before Morgan died, I did not believe that it would be possible to carry on without one of my children.  However, I realized in an instant that I had to carry on, not only for my two daughters who needed me, but more importantly for Morgan, whose only wish is to see us happy.  I knew we had to live and thrive for him.
My strongest desire after his death was to somehow communicate with him.  I didn’t know how this would be possible—I had never been to a psychic medium.  Morgan took matters into his own hands.  I had been practicing yoga at a studio for years, and Morgan had sometimes gone with me.  Angie, the owner of the studio, decided in January 2010 to interview a psychic medium who had recently moved to the area looking for rental space.  Angie’s way of evaluating the psychic medium, Susanne Wilson, was to ask Susanne to ‘read’ a photo of my kids included in our annual Christmas card.  She provided no other information to Susanne.

Susanne connected with my son, communicating his personality and mannerisms.  Susanne gave Angie numerous validations—including details that were not public knowledge and not known to Angie (who diligently wrote everything down).   I will share a few highlights.  Susanne said a young man showed her a big teddy bear and bottle of Captain Morgan.  My son’s name is Morgan and we affectionately call him Big Bear.  Susanne saw him shouting through a megaphone that he was OKAY--very significant because Morgan was a cheerleader at the University of Arizona and his megaphone was at his service.  Susanne saw him on a mountain, lying on his back.  She saw a black box at his ear; that he had listened intently but had been unable to speak.  He told Susanne to say, “Mom, I heard everything you said and I love you back.”  I was comforted to know Morgan had heard me when the phone was held to his ear. 

Susanne further told Angie that my son and his two roommates were a ‘band of three’; that they were like brothers.  Although Morgan was close to all the students who helplessly watched him die that morning, his two roommates were especially important to him.  Colin and Matt accompanied Morgan’s body to Lhasa and waited with him until my husband was able to finally get a visa to enter Tibet six days later. Perhaps most stunning—Susanne told Angie that we would receive a special rock from the place that Morgan died and she sketched the rock.  We made no mention of this detail to anyone.  Several months later Colin delivered Morgan’s Rock upon his return from China, exactly as Susanne had said.

I had my own reading with Susanne in which more validations came through, including that Morgan and I would work together to help parents connect with their deceased children in the Afterlife.  I founded my parents support group one month later.  Susanne also introduced me to Mark Ireland. 

Morgan continues to work diligently in the Spirit world to help children get messages through to their parents.  I am incredibly proud of him.   

Please read more about Morgan's story at this link to a story written by EJ Montini in The Arizona Republic: A Mountain of a Young Man Dies at Mount Everest

-Elizabeth Boisson is the Co-Founder of Helping Parents Heal, the editor of the newsletter and the affiliate leader of our Scottsdale-Phoenix group.  Please feel free to contact her with your own story of validation,
The Healing Power of Animals

Welcome, Bentley and Baron!
Psychic Medium Susanne with Bentley and Baron

Susanne's beloved Miniature Schnauzers recently crossed the Rainbow Bridge. She and her husband Carl picked up these two new puppies on August 25th from a wonderful breeder in Tucson who is also a member of our group, Renee Postula of Majestic Mini Schnauzers.  These are two of the first homecoming pictures!  Just in time for Susanne's Birthday.  You can learn more about Susanne, a strong advocate of Helping Parents Heal and a gifted Psychic Medium, on her website:  Please RSVP for our January Phoenix/Scottsdale meeting with Susanne here.

Goodbye to a Beautiful Soul
Hope and Terrie

It is with great sadness that we say goodbye to our friend Terrie Levanthal Winson, who passed on August 23rd from a rare form of pneumonia.  Terrie joins her beautiful son Michael who welcomed her with open arms.  Terrie wrote about her adorable rescue Malitpoo, Hope, for our newsletter earlier this year.  Please hold her in your hearts.  Sending love and light to her family and friends.

Would you like to share a story of validation or healing with other Parents? 

We are all able to heal when we share personal stories about our children with others.  Moreover, everyone benefits from validations that we receive from our children.  We love to hear about them!  If you have a story that you would like to share about your child, please let us know and we will include it in a future newsletter.  Please send it to Elizabeth Boisson at (Due to space limitations, please be sure it is no longer than 1 page.) 

Also, if you have not yet done so, please send me your child's full name, Birthday and Angel Date so that I can add him or her to our list of children on our Facebook Site. We pay tribute to our children on their special dates with a favorite photo and a description of their lives.  Please send all information to Elizabeth at

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Helping Parents Heal - Boise, hosted by Paige Lee.  Please contact Paige for more information at  
Helping Parents Heal - Pensacola, hosted by Kristen Brown-Sanders, September 2nd. Please RSVP here.Helping Parents Heal - Ottawa.  Please contact Patti May for the next meeting time and place.
Helping Parents Heal - Fortuna CA, hosted by Nancy Courtmanche, September 8th.  Please RSVP here
Helping Parents Heal - NYC, hosted by  Sheri Perl Migdol, September 13th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Tucson with Janice Crowder Torrez - Please email Janice for time and place:
Helping Parents Heal - Columbus hosted by Dr. Mark Pitstick, Teri Simonds Snyder & Lavaughn Margraff, September 2nd.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, August 27th with Psychic Medium Jamie Clark, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas, TX hosted by Tracy Venters September 8th with special guest Chuck Murphy.  Please click here to RSVP.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Dr. Mark Pitstick, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson on September 24th.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Dallas October 13th with Graham and Shannon Maxey, hosted by Tracy Venters on October 13th.  Please RSVP here 
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale with Yogi Thaddeus Ferguson, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson, October 22nd.  Please RSVP here.
Helping Parents Heal - Phoenix/Scottsdale, January 28th with guest speaker Psychic Medium Susanne Wilson, hosted by Elizabeth Boisson.  Please RSVP here.  

New Group!  Helping Parents Heal - Cape Coral, hosted by Lori Fina-Jennings.  Please email Lori for more information at or call: 614-563-8539  
New Group!  Hilton Head/Bluffton, SC-Irene Vouvalides, October 8th.  Please RSVP here

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Affliate Groups and their leaders (by alphabetical order)

Tina Babloski-Anderson Citrus County FL

Elizabeth Boisson-Phoenix, AZ

Kristen Brown-Sanders Pensacola, FL

NEW GROUP - Lancy Carr - Washington DC

Nancy Courtmanche-Eureka, CA

NEW GROUP -Janice Crowder-Torrez-Tucson, AZ

NEW GROUP - Lori Fina Jennings-Cape Coral, FL

Sheryl Hill-Minneapolis, Minnesota

Julia LaJoie-Washington DC

NEW GROUP - Bob Langfelder - Sarasota, FL

NEW GROUP - Paige Lee-Boise, Idaho


NEW GROUP - Lavaughn Margraff-Columbus, OH

Patti May- Ottawa, Ontario

Maria Pe - San Diego

Glenda Pearson - Mishawaka IN

Sheri Perl-New York, NY

NEW GROUP - Dr. Mark Pitstick - Columbus, OH and Sarasota, FL

NEW GROUP - Tiffany Rose - Sedona, AZ

Teri Simonds Snyder - Columbus OH

NEW GROUP  - Tracy Venters - Dallas, TX
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Christine Volpe-Tom’s Creek NJ

NEW GROUP - Irene Vouvalides-Hilton Head, SC

You can read the bios and see photos of each of the affiliate leaders at our website:  

Please contact Elizabeth Boisson ( if you would like to start an affiliate chapter in your area.

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Elizabeth Boisson Co-F0under/
Mark Ireland Co-Founder/
Doryce Norwood /
Ernie Jackson /
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